TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[onmymind17]

Good morning ladies!!! How is everybody doing? I will be driving by on the "Whatevers" wagon soon, hop on in and we will all have us some fun!! Ladies i love the tent stuff, you guys are too funny, we picked up our new and improved tent yesterday, now i cant wait to set it up lol. I am showering all of you ladies with and i hope all of you have a wonderful day!!

 

[lynnb]

Good morning ladies!!! How is everybody doing? I will be driving by on the "Whatevers" wagon soon, hop on in and we will all have us some fun!! Ladies i love the tent stuff, you guys are too funny, we picked up our new and improved tent yesterday, now i cant wait to set it up lol. I am showering all of you ladies with and i hope all of you have a wonderful day!!

Are you going to try this one out too????

 

[onmymind17]

Good morning ladies!!! How is everybody doing? I will be driving by on the "Whatevers" wagon soon, hop on in and we will all have us some fun!! Ladies i love the tent stuff, you guys are too funny, we picked up our new and improved tent yesterday, now i cant wait to set it up lol. I am showering all of you ladies with and i hope all of you have a wonderful day!!

Are you going to try this one out too????

LOL, yeaaaaaa, he he he

 

[missyt]

Luvvie, what your manicurist said about camping is funny. I've only camped overnight before and it was on a beach so I think that makes it a little better. Oh, and I was drunk. LOL.

Dwrgi, I think thats great news that you are going to talk to the clinic's counselor. I think this TTC takes a huge toll on our mental health. I feel like I've been a basket case since we started trying. I'm excited for you to start this cycle.

HA, back on the crazy train, huh? LOL. I'm wishing you the best this cycle. And thank so much for all the research you do and advice you give. You are our Wise One. Its so much easier talking to someone who is going through it. I had lunch with a friend yesterday that knows about my TTC turmoil. She has 2 children that are 10 years apart. Can you guess what her advice was? When you don't think about it, it'll happen. I love her dearly but I just wanted to reach across the table and slap her. Of course that's easy to say when you have 2 kids!

Chris, I'm so ready to get on the whatevs wagon. Stop on by and I'm ready to climb aboard!

FM, its good to see you back. I think a break is a good thing. I'm glad you had a good time in SF. DH and I are going to a cabin in the mountains this weekend. I can really use the down time with him. Especially since my parents were just in town and mom is unexpectedly going to spend the night with us tonight. Then after we get back from our weekend at the cabin, SS will be spending 2 weeks straight with us.

 

[onmymind17]

Luvvie, what your manicurist said about camping is funny. I've only camped overnight before and it was on a beach so I think that makes it a little better. Oh, and I was drunk. LOL.

Dwrgi, I think thats great news that you are going to talk to the clinic's counselor. I think this TTC takes a huge toll on our mental health. I feel like I've been a basket case since we started trying. I'm excited for you to start this cycle.

HA, back on the crazy train, huh? LOL. I'm wishing you the best this cycle. And thank so much for all the research you do and advice you give. You are our Wise One. Its so much easier talking to someone who is going through it. I had lunch with a friend yesterday that knows about my TTC turmoil. She has 2 children that are 10 years apart. Can you guess what her advice was? When you don't think about it, it'll happen. I love her dearly but I just wanted to reach across the table and slap her. Of course that's easy to say when you have 2 kids!

Chris, I'm so ready to get on the whatevs wagon. Stop on by and I'm ready to climb aboard!

FM, its good to see you back. I think a break is a good thing. I'm glad you had a good time in SF. DH and I are going to a cabin in the mountains this weekend. I can really use the down time with him. Especially since my parents were just in town and mom is unexpectedly going to spend the night with us tonight. Then after we get back from our weekend at the cabin, SS will be spending 2 weeks straight with us.

Im on my way!!!! Hop on honey, we are going to have a fun time!!

 

[skye2010]

Hey girls ))

Macwooly, well you have obviously tried more than 6 cycles so break or no break doesn't matter. I hope you would get a appt very soon. What is your age if you don't mind me asking?

FM So glad you had a nice holiday. At least that must have cleared your mind and energised you a bit. Research break seems a very good idea. Best get all the info and do the right choice.

By the way I totally agree with HA. We are all here for each other with similar stories so if anyone wants to just rant or say sthg personal, just go ahead girls. No one's gonna be offended.

HA we don't have a tent but we have an air matress. Maybe I should try to tempt DH with that I'm really excited that you are on tx now. I guess it's good that you have all the loved ones around to distract you. Are you on injectables? Good luck hon, I hope this would be your time.

Dwrgi I so understand all the fear you have. If you sew my posts before my first IVF you would see how freaked out I was too. I'm really glad to hear that you have found a good clinic. This trust should give you a lot of confidence once the dr starts giving you the instructions and tests-scans. I bet you will feel that sone's taking charge too which is a very nice feeling for once after trying on your own for so long. Fertilityfriends is a lot less personal I agree. I only used it once I started cycling and abandoned when it's over. Although I have met 2 lovely girls who were cycling at the same time as me. I'll see them this Thursday again actually. (both preggy, one produced 8 eggs had a much lower AMH, although dunno what, only 3 usable embies which was all put back (over 40) And also while cycling it's really really helpful cause there are many girls there with multiple tx trials already and a lot of knowledge about it. So you can compare results etc. The moderators are very knowledgable. If you have an emergency question they always step in straight away. Also there are pharmacists and nurses threads where you can ask specific questions. It's not necessarily a genuinely friendly web site but great for info.
That is downregging actually. I think you'll be doing a short protocol. Which starts dr after AF with injectables. Than you stimm att the same time. On long protocol you start dr 10-15 days before the AF with usually spray or can be injectable. than the stimms start 5 days after AF.

Chris you are still cracking me up with the single brilliant tent thing good luck hon.

Missy just what you needed! A nice break in the middle of nature with DH. So romantic. Have fun girl ))

 

[purplelou]

Dwrgi - aww thank you! I hope we all get that sticky bean soon!! We have only been trying for 2 months, this is my first "proper" cycle since stopping the pill.

We have been married for 5 years (together for 8) I never really had a desire for children before that, but then of course I wasn't with my DH then, and that makes all the difference. My husband didn't want to be a dad at first and to be honest at first I was quite happy with that, but for the last couple of years I have a change of mind, it was only recently that my husband actually broached the subject and we are both together on wanting to have a baby. for years now when people asked me "do you have kids" Ive always said no, Im not very maternal (or something similar) Im sure a lot of people will be shocked if we are lucky enough to have it happen. I am trying to be realistic though, since we have only started this journey now - we may stay a family of 2. DH is a bit more optimistic (but he is younger) he is so great though that I would be happy (iyswim) with that. just keeping everything crossed now xx

wow - sorry - that was so long. I bet you don't ask me any more questions now lol!


and for you all xx

 

[Butterfly67]

Dwrgi - aww thank you! I hope we all get that sticky bean soon!! We have only been trying for 2 months, this is my first "proper" cycle since stopping the pill.

We have been married for 5 years (together for 8) I never really had a desire for children before that, but then of course I wasn't with my DH then, and that makes all the difference. My husband didn't want to be a dad at first and to be honest at first I was quite happy with that, but for the last couple of years I have a change of mind, it was only recently that my husband actually broached the subject and we are both together on wanting to have a baby. for years now when people asked me "do you have kids" Ive always said no, Im not very maternal (or something similar) Im sure a lot of people will be shocked if we are lucky enough to have it happen. I am trying to be realistic though, since we have only started this journey now - we may stay a family of 2. DH is a bit more optimistic (but he is younger) he is so great though that I would be happy (iyswim) with that. just keeping everything crossed now xx

wow - sorry - that was so long. I bet you don't ask me any more questions now lol!


and for you all xx

Wow, Purple that sounds just like me - I have always said I hated kids! (defence mechanism?) There will be some seriously shocked and surprised people if I ever get my BFP (especially as not many people know I am going to see my ex for this and think I have been single for over a year!).

to you and hope you get a BFP soon

 

[onmymind17]

Dwrgi - aww thank you! I hope we all get that sticky bean soon!! We have only been trying for 2 months, this is my first "proper" cycle since stopping the pill.

We have been married for 5 years (together for 8) I never really had a desire for children before that, but then of course I wasn't with my DH then, and that makes all the difference. My husband didn't want to be a dad at first and to be honest at first I was quite happy with that, but for the last couple of years I have a change of mind, it was only recently that my husband actually broached the subject and we are both together on wanting to have a baby. for years now when people asked me "do you have kids" Ive always said no, Im not very maternal (or something similar) Im sure a lot of people will be shocked if we are lucky enough to have it happen. I am trying to be realistic though, since we have only started this journey now - we may stay a family of 2. DH is a bit more optimistic (but he is younger) he is so great though that I would be happy (iyswim) with that. just keeping everything crossed now xx

wow - sorry - that was so long. I bet you don't ask me any more questions now lol!


and for you all xx

You know i was exactly the same way, i remember at the ceremony for our wedding, the priest said to bless us with children, and i remember thinking to myself, yea right, i will never have children. Then my dh said he wanted to try so i was like ok, whatever, and then i got pg the first time, and everything changed, after we lost that one i wanted on so very badly, sometimes i think i am being punished for thinking all those years that i did not want a baby, when now i realize that i want one very much.. We all just have to keep the faith, we all will be moms, i just know it!!

 

[purplelou]

Butterfly and onmymind - to us all!!

 

[padbrat]

I just had to chime in on the kids discussion... I was the same... I always said I didn't want kids. It was because since the age of 11 I was told my Docs that I could never have kids because of my translocated chromosome... so why want something you can never have?

My Husband married me knowing he would never be a Father.

And then the Germans gave me thyroxine and fixed my dead thyroid and I fell pregnant for the first time. Suddenly it was a possibility.... and the feeling of life inside you is something so amazing... and then it is all dashed away.

We may be giving this thing one more chance.... am looking at PGD or ED abroad. If this does go ahead I will need you all more than I ever have before.

Please ladies... know I am still here. I am still reading all your posts... i just can't bring myself to do anything much but lurk at the moment. It is all too painful.

 

[skye2010]

Chris there is no punishment. You were just unlucky to have a rough time in fertility. It's all biological. If God wanted to punish he would start with those who pop them up and not look after them, treat them badly or even abandon them in street.

Butterfly are you trying to be a single mum? Wooow, there was another girl here who was trying that too. But she didn't have an ex so she was going for sperm donor. )) Good luck baby. I hope you wouldn't need to try for long and hit the nail in first go

Purplelou if you just started your chances of conceiving naturally is much higher ))

 

[skye2010]

OMG Debs I'm so glad to see you. Hon loads of hugs. And loads of good luck with whatever you decide. We will always be here for you.

 

[padbrat]

Thank you Skye xx

 

[purplelou]

Dear Padbrat, I cannot even imagine what you have gone through or how you must be feeling. so I will just send you hundreds of and join your cheering squad/ broad shoulder gang, if/when you decide on a next step

 

[purplelou]

Butterfly, If it's not too personal a question - is your willing partner going to be hands on dad when you concieve? he must be a great guy to do this with you!

 

[Dwrgi]

Lovely to have your post Pad, I think of you every day! We will always be here to help you, with whatever you decide! Big to you!

Thanks Skye for the help-I know that you are rooting for me. I just need a kick up the butt every now and again. I'm sure I shall be picking your brains on a regular basis! Hope you're feeling okay, hun??

Thanks for the info Purple-glad that you decided to go for it. Let's hope that your journey will be short! Fingers crossed for you!

Anybody heard from Lava? Bit worried as she didn't post yesterday, and normally does... Probably all okay, I look for things to worry about clearly!

Have a good day, everybody!

Lots of love,
A

 

[NorthStar]

My ex husband was (benefit of hindsight) emotionally absuive and though he SAID he wanted kids he was always putting it out of reach, there was ALWAYS a reason not to have them eg we both needed to lose weight, get a bigger house, get promotions first etc etc...

It got to the point where I was in my mid thirties and having nothing in common with any of my friends anymore, every time I heard of a friends pregnancy I felt like crying and I started telling people we couldn't have kids becuase I got so upset about being asked all the time.

After a while I started to believe this myself almost.

So he married me based on a lie as it turns out.

Fast forward to now, I finally got the courage to leave and 2 years into a relationship with a lovely man (old flame even) and he's opened the door I'd thought was closed, ie has been keen to try for a baby for 12 months now.

So this has been pretty full on for me so far, but I've read so many inspiring stories on this forum that I feel brave enough to at least try.

So thank you ladies.

 

[lynnb]

Dwrgi - Lava posted on the graduates thread ealier, she has her scan today so hopefully will post later & let you all know how it went.

Deb - We're all here if/when you need us, take all the time you need to lurk. So glad you've decided to look into PGD/ED. I really hope that some day soon you'll be a wonderful mummy to a gorgeous LO.

Welcome to all the newbies , this is such a great thread with such wonderful supportive ladies. Hope you all get BFPs soon.

& to all

 

[Butterfly67]

Butterfly, If it's not too personal a question - is your willing partner going to be hands on dad when you concieve? he must be a great guy to do this with you!

Nothing too personal here purple

Yes, he is going to be a hands on Dad and I really wanted to do it with him as I know he will be great. So I really want to do it for him as well as me, I don't think I could actually do it on my own tbh.

Debs, good to see you lurking, always thinking about you and also hope that things work out for you in time whichever way xx