HappyAuntie
LTTTC#1 after 5 mcs
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big hugs to Deb - always glad to see you pop in, and know we'll be here whenever you're ready.
Have just emailed 3 clinics..... scary........
Kisses and hugs to you all xxxxxxx
Macwooly, well you have obviously tried more than 6 cycles so break or no break doesn't matter. I hope you would get a appt very soon. What is your age if you don't mind me asking?
Just wanted to take a moment to quickly introduce myself to all you wonderful ladies~
I'm 39 and DH is 46, we have no living children, but we have angel twin boys in Heaven. Please see my signature.
It's been a long winding road, but we are still walking it.
After 4 years of of working through my grief, accepting the loss, we have decided that we wanted to try again.
We can't conceive the normal way, so we rely on fertility treatments. We got pregnant with the twins on our 2nd IUI attempt. The 1st round was on Clomid and that didn't work out. For the 2nd IUI, we did all injectibles and got a BFP.
I have an appointment with my RE on July 13th~ I am so excited at the possibility of getting pregnant once again. I, too, was worried about my age, but after reading all the positive stories on here, I have no doubt I can get pregnant again.
I know my RE will order a bunch of tests before we move forward with an IUI cycle, so I'm praying all comes back A-OK.
Babydust to all of us~
I just had to chime in on the kids discussion... I was the same... I always said I didn't want kids. It was because since the age of 11 I was told my Docs that I could never have kids because of my translocated chromosome... so why want something you can never have?
My Husband married me knowing he would never be a Father.
And then the Germans gave me thyroxine and fixed my dead thyroid and I fell pregnant for the first time. Suddenly it was a possibility.... and the feeling of life inside you is something so amazing... and then it is all dashed away.
We may be giving this thing one more chance.... am looking at PGD or ED abroad. If this does go ahead I will need you all more than I ever have before.
Please ladies... know I am still here. I am still reading all your posts... i just can't bring myself to do anything much but lurk at the moment. It is all too painful.
Deb,
So good to hear from you. I am so glad you are still around. Please never forget, that whatever you decide is the next step, we will be routing for you. You have such an amazing husband too.
To chime in on the never wanting kids, I never gave it much thought but believed it didn't make a huge difference either way. I wasted a lot of time with guys who didn't want kids & since I always broke up with those guys, somewhere in my heart I knew I wanted to be a mom some day. I think part of it was that I could not imagine raising a kid with those exes. When I met my DH, mu feelings immediately changed.
Butterfly,
Your guy sounds awesome! Do y'all not live in the same city?? Have yall talked about getting back together some day or have you moved past any romantic feeling? Sounds like you still have a good foundation of friendship.
AFM,
I have my 1st scan today. Since I have not completed 6 weeks yet, I am trying to manage my expectations and realize it is too soon to see a heartbeat. I think they are just looking for the yolk sac & gestational sac, rule out ectopic pregnancy, check for multiples and maybe check my bloods. I am on pins & needles & feel tired & emotionally raw right now. I had crazy scary dreams last night & couldn't get back to sleep.
Lots of love & babydust. Dwgri, thanks for thinking of me. I will post later with an update.
Just wanted to take a moment to quickly introduce myself to all you wonderful ladies~
I'm 39 and DH is 46, we have no living children, but we have angel twin boys in Heaven. Please see my signature.
It's been a long winding road, but we are still walking it.
After 4 years of of working through my grief, accepting the loss, we have decided that we wanted to try again.
We can't conceive the normal way, so we rely on fertility treatments. We got pregnant with the twins on our 2nd IUI attempt. The 1st round was on Clomid and that didn't work out. For the 2nd IUI, we did all injectibles and got a BFP.
I have an appointment with my RE on July 13th~ I am so excited at the possibility of getting pregnant once again. I, too, was worried about my age, but after reading all the positive stories on here, I have no doubt I can get pregnant again.
I know my RE will order a bunch of tests before we move forward with an IUI cycle, so I'm praying all comes back A-OK.
Babydust to all of us~
Purplelou, I understand how you feel about not wanting kids until later in life. I think there is nothing wrong with that. There are so many young adults out there that have children when the aren't emotionally mature or finanically stable. How does that give a child a good life? I wish biology is different and we were more fertile in our 30's and so on. Also, I think there are more women today who have younger men. My DH is younger than me too.
Butterfly, I think it great you want to be a single mom. If I hadn't met DH I would be doing the same thing. I have a friend who is almost 39 but single and she told me recenlty she did want children but is waiting to meet a guy first. I told her that she could always do it on her own, she said no way. I don't understand why she feels she needs a man around. I hate to see her lose out on being a mother because she has an expectation in her head. Also, I have another friend who has a friend who divorced her husband and then realized she wanted children in her late 30's. She did IVF with a donor twice and both were failed. She gave up. Then she had a fling with an old flame and fell pregnant. She was so happy to be pregnant but she didn't want a man to be involved. LOL. Its funny how things work.
Chris, I feel the same way. I struggle with this guilt that I think I'm being punished by God for some reason and that is why I can't get pregnant now. I know God doesn't work that way but I'm left every month asking "why"? The reassurance of all you girls on this site makes me deal with it better and I feel like I'm not alone.
Northstar, I was in an abusive relationship too and that is why I put off having children. A year after we got married we got a puppy and he beat him so I made the decision that he wouldn't be a patient dad and never got off BCP with him even though he wanted children. We got the 2nd puppy and that one was scared to death all the time from seeing the first one get beat all the time. A year later I finally left and took the dogs with me. My current DH is very patient and good to the dogs but the emotional scars are still there. My 1st dog doesn't trust men and the 2nd one is still very skiddish. I am glad I didn't have kids with my ex but sometimes I wonder if I missed my window of opportunity. I know its hard when you waste your good years on the wrong guy. DH and and I have been trying for a little over a year so we are in the same boat.
Debs, I'm glad to see you poke your head out. I'm rooting for you.
Lava, I'm sorry you had bad dreams. I know they can seem so real and really scare you. I'm sure everything will be fine.