Hi guys, how are you all??? I hope that you are all okay??? Never and Purple-I'm sending huge shed fulls of love and hugs to you both. Hope you're feeling a little bit better, although I know it will take time. Be kind and good to yourselves. Your time is soon, I'm sure of it!!
OH and I had our IVF de-briefing today, and I very definitely got the sense that it was a universal 'Bless her, she's just too old, and with that amh, she can forget it.' The consultant said that it was completely random that we had two eggs; another cycle may have produced 4 or 5, or perhaps 1 or none. I had so many questions about the ovulation shot, and I asked about using a different brand, and she didn't seem to think it made any difference, but at the end she said if we did want to try again, we could try a different brand..... I smell a rat. She suggested that I take DHEA, and, as it takes about 12 weeks to work for IVF, she suggested we could try again in Dec or Jan (although she wasn't pushing treatment). She said my egg quality and OH's sperm quality was good, so it was simply bad luck that we only had two eggs to play with. She also said the other option would be egg donation, which I simply cannot get my head around. (Incidentalment, possible side effects of DHEA are hairiness and aggression-ha ha ha ha!!).
Tbh, I know that I still have a lot of hormones still in my body after the treatment, but I just don't know if I have the strength any more-I am completely exhausted by it all and just want to run away and forget about the whole nasty nightmare that is infertility. I think I have to accept that it just wasn't meant to be. I think it's a good idea to take the DHEA and see if we can conceive naturally, but as for chucking £5000 at another treatment cycle, with about 10% chance of success, I don't know. I am tempted to go back to my NHS Fertilty Specialist and see about doing another IUI-as I am allowed another two as our first was aborted, but I just don't know if I can go through with it all any more. I just need a complete break from it, but as the consultant said today, I don't have time to take any more than 3-6 months off, as, guess what, my amh is so low!!! Bloody pheking marvellous.
And I wish blinking Beyone would take her bump somewhere else.
Sorry for the doom and gloom guys, and for the looooooooooooooooooong me me me post-I am feeling incredibly emotional (drugs) but I have felt like this for a long time now, and I think this is the toll of long term trying to conceive. I need to get away from it, and just forget about it for my own sanity. Couple this with a stressful job (ambitious and high achieveing Headmaster, constant targets to meet, etc. etc), and I am at the end of my tether. This has all been such an anti-climax, after such a build up. And, on top of that, I need to shift about ten pounds of pure fat, after letting myself go, thinking it would help. My arse! Well, as it goes, that is the area of the worst offence, alas.
Anyway, please don't let me get you down. Somebody else may have a completely different experience of IVF, so please don't let me put you off. Sending you all big !
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OH and I had our IVF de-briefing today, and I very definitely got the sense that it was a universal 'Bless her, she's just too old, and with that amh, she can forget it.' The consultant said that it was completely random that we had two eggs; another cycle may have produced 4 or 5, or perhaps 1 or none. I had so many questions about the ovulation shot, and I asked about using a different brand, and she didn't seem to think it made any difference, but at the end she said if we did want to try again, we could try a different brand..... I smell a rat. She suggested that I take DHEA, and, as it takes about 12 weeks to work for IVF, she suggested we could try again in Dec or Jan (although she wasn't pushing treatment). She said my egg quality and OH's sperm quality was good, so it was simply bad luck that we only had two eggs to play with. She also said the other option would be egg donation, which I simply cannot get my head around. (Incidentalment, possible side effects of DHEA are hairiness and aggression-ha ha ha ha!!).
Tbh, I know that I still have a lot of hormones still in my body after the treatment, but I just don't know if I have the strength any more-I am completely exhausted by it all and just want to run away and forget about the whole nasty nightmare that is infertility. I think I have to accept that it just wasn't meant to be. I think it's a good idea to take the DHEA and see if we can conceive naturally, but as for chucking £5000 at another treatment cycle, with about 10% chance of success, I don't know. I am tempted to go back to my NHS Fertilty Specialist and see about doing another IUI-as I am allowed another two as our first was aborted, but I just don't know if I can go through with it all any more. I just need a complete break from it, but as the consultant said today, I don't have time to take any more than 3-6 months off, as, guess what, my amh is so low!!! Bloody pheking marvellous.
And I wish blinking Beyone would take her bump somewhere else.
Sorry for the doom and gloom guys, and for the looooooooooooooooooong me me me post-I am feeling incredibly emotional (drugs) but I have felt like this for a long time now, and I think this is the toll of long term trying to conceive. I need to get away from it, and just forget about it for my own sanity. Couple this with a stressful job (ambitious and high achieveing Headmaster, constant targets to meet, etc. etc), and I am at the end of my tether. This has all been such an anti-climax, after such a build up. And, on top of that, I need to shift about ten pounds of pure fat, after letting myself go, thinking it would help. My arse! Well, as it goes, that is the area of the worst offence, alas.
Anyway, please don't let me get you down. Somebody else may have a completely different experience of IVF, so please don't let me put you off. Sending you all big !
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