HappyAuntie
LTTTC#1 after 5 mcs
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Honey even i am doing the back and forth thing, as much as i am excited about doing the IVF, i keep thinking, hmmmmm maybe we should do the IUI again, its way cheaper and i can get more of them in, but for me, i am not going to do it, i am going with IVF, and weather i use my own eggs or donor eggs, one way or another i will have a baby!!! Its so hard to decided, IVF is a LOT of money, and there are no guarantees, but did you think about looking into places that have a refund policy, i know we have a few here in IL, if you buy a package, which i think is 3 IVF's and you dont have a baby they refund your money. It could be something to think about, this way, you win either way, you either have a baby, or you get your money back. Its funny because i keep thinking about you and i am like yeah she should do the IVF, then i am like well she is young enough and has the time why not a couple more IUI's then i think no why not go for "The Big boy" and Dwrgi said lol. Such a tough decision, but i know you will make the right one for you and your DH. Sending you massive hugs, and i am so excited for you to try again, i admire your strength!!
I've been looking into them but I doubt we can combine them with our insurance coverage, and I think using insurance comes out cheaper per cycle than the refund program. It's on my list to ask the business office at that mtg. My clinic participates in the Attain IVF refund program, where you pay up front for 6 cycles (3 fresh and 3 FET) and get 75% back if you don't take home a baby. But the absolute p*isser of it is that now that I'm 38 yrs 3 days old, I don't qualify! On the Attain refund program, you qualify right up until age 38. Just one more thing that just really p*sses me off about the timing of our tx decisions - if we'd reached this point just a few months ago we'd qualify, but now, nope. If we hadn't taken 3 cycles off over the summer we would have reached this point 3 months ago. (If, if, if... I know it's not good for me, but it's impossible not to go thru the "if onlys".) According to them, your fertility dives off the edge of a cliff on your 38th bday. There is another Attain program for anyone at any age using their own eggs - no refund, but you pay upfront for 4 cycles (2 fresh, 2 frozen) and it's cheaper than the per-cycle cost of 4 cycles. But I know our insurance comes out cheaper than that program. So I'll definitely ask about it, but I think we'll still end up using our insurance coverage. On insurance, the drugs and every office visit and ultrasound are covered at 85% (so I only pay 15%), the bloodwork is covered at 100% (so I pay nothing), and the actual procedures (ie the actual insemination in and IUI, the actual egg retrieval and embryo culturing and embryo transfer in IVF) are covered at 50%. For our IUIs, we've been paying roughly $350-$400 out-of-pocket per cycle, including all drugs and all monitoring and the actual procedure. I estimate we'll pay about $3500-$4000 per IVF cycle, but I'll know better after we meet with the business office.
As for me being "young" and still having time, I guess perspective is a funny thing. I sure as hell don't feel young. I never ever felt old until we ran into infertility, and now I've felt old since 35. And having a mc just days before my 38th really did a number on my confidence - HUGE double whammy of aging in one week.
Dwrgi - I am glad I give the impression of being strong an4d together - I have done my fair share of crying (more than my fair share probably) I think I was sort of prepared for it to be honest, as bad as that might seem (I think Im a pessamist) I felt terrified and convinced myself that something would go wrong and really couldn't believe that I would be so 'lucky' to have everything go right, iykwim??! we are sort of thinking that if it took 5 months before to happen, it's likely to take at least that to happen again (see Im definitely a pessamist) so maybe all that helps.
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afm - Im doing ok, had a small wobble on friday afternoon when my GP called, he was telling me that the heamatolgist at the hospital had made an appointment for me for next week, because of some weird blood test result and chest pain I had several years ago. I had to explain that I'd had a MC..... after I managed to regain my composurer we discussed it and decided that I should still go to the appointment as it may have a bearing on future pregnancies. it's really bad on my part but I am struggling to remember the details of what I was told way back when all this happened, so at least the new Doc may be able to help me out with that. I hoping it will be a very quick "everything's fine" type appointment, anyway that's my wednesday morning planned. Luckily I am doing home visits all day on wednesday so I can sneak off to the hospital without it affecting work etc.
ladies, enjoy the rest of the weekend, especially you US ladies who have a holiday I think! xxx
Honey, after a loss there is no such thing as more than your fair share of tears. I've cried an ocean of them in the last 3 years, and I'm sure even the ladies on here without a loss have cried more than a bit as well.
I tend to do the same thing, always trying to protect myself by expecting the worst, and yet it still feels horrible when the worst happens - doesn't really help me at all.
And definitely get the clotting checked out as, if it's there, it could present a problem in future pregnancies, but fortunately it's a problem that is easily overcome with medications.
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