TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[4everyoung]

It's official. I'm out this month. I am talking with my RE Thursday to start the ball rolling again!

 

[Butterfly67]

And then my friend rang while I was posting my reply so I cross posted with about 5 people and now see we have great news from Chris - so very exciting

and lava - brilliant that you have one of each

 

[Butterfly67]

It's official. I'm out this month. I am talking with my RE Thursday to start the ball rolling again!

4ever

 

[Desperado167]

Lava,how adorable a boy and a girl Purple ,sending u all my love and prayers huni,

 

[Desperado167]

It's official. I'm out this month. I am talking with my RE Thursday to start the ball rolling again!

 

[bblve]

Lava, how wonderful!!! Congratulations!


4ever -

 

[purplelou]

lava - wonderful, you have the best of both worlds!! congratulations, may the rest of your pregnancy go smoothly and your babies arrive safe and sound xxx

 

[purplelou]

Forever - extra big for you xx

 

[lavalux]

Forever,
So sorry that you are out ... so frustrating! Are you going to take a break before the next treatment and regroup? I know you want to have a Plan B, but try to take the time to be kind to yourself. You've just put yourself a lot emotionally and physically. Hugs!

 

[onmymind17]

Hello Ladies!

I am new here - this is my very first post - and relatively new to TTC as well.

A little background on me: my husband and I have been married for 12 years. We decided back in 2005 to have a baby so I went off the pill. And nothing happened. We both went and got checked out and my systems were clear while his showed lower than average mobility/motility but nothing major. We never really pursued TTC aggressively - I guess you'd say we were not trying but not doing anything to stop it - until earlier this summer. We have both lost a significant amount of weight in the past couple of years (100+ pounds each) and have adopted healthier lifestyles. We decided that if we didn't try, that potentially we would look back in five or ten years and have regrets - but that if we tried, even if we don't have a baby, then at least we'll know we tried.

So, I went back to my doctor.

Last month was my first round of Clomid - and my first time tracking my cycle and temping. Unfortunately while tests indicated that I ovulated, AF showed up on CD33. I actually found B&B while doing a search for Softcups for AF - but then a thread from here was one of the first results. So now I am planning to use those Softcups this month! I've also started taking Royal Jelly and Pollen, and have ordered some preseed for BDing.

I have a couple of questions for you:

- is a CB Fertility Monitor worth the cost, do you think, if I am tracking my temp and CM?

- do any of you have your SOs on fertility supplements and if so, which brand? I want my DH to start taking some but unsure as to which is the better option.

Thanks very much and I look forward to getting to know you all better and hopefully doing a lot of celebrating, too!

Welcome to our little family!!!!!

I just purchased the CB fertility monitor, and it does work well, it told me i ovulated a couple of days earlier than i thought i would. I think if you have irregular cycles then it could really help, but for me most of the time i am like clockwork, so i am not sure if i will keep it, i bought mine through Amazon and they had a 365 day return policy on it, so that was very nice, you could try that, and this way if you dont like it you can return it.

For a while i had my DH on Fertilaid for men, i have to say that it made a huge improvement with him, he was not bad to begin with but after two months of taking it, he had a lot more of the little guys lol.

Good luck i sure hope you get your bfp very soon!!

 

[onmymind17]

Twinkle,
Just saw the post about your hamster. I am so sorry. Pets aren't just animals ... they are part of the family so I know how distraught you must feel. Hugs.

Just got back from the doctor. All is well. We are officially on Team Blue and Team Pink.

Any news on Purple's scan today?

FM,
You are getting close to treatment time. So excited for you! I know that your time is right around the corner.

OMM,
That is amazing news that you got the All Clear! Congrats. You are one step closer to baby. I'm looking forward to going on this IVF journey with you!

HA,
I saw The Help and cried through the whole thing. That scene is very sad as is the one where she is planting her trees. I'm sorry that you had to go into that unprepared. Even if you had braced yourself and watched it in the privacy of your own home, that would have been so painful. One thing that I liked about her character was her determined and hopeful spirit. I know some days you feel more hopeful than others, but I am hopeful for you and know that you will have your sticky bean and precious baby to hold.

Padbrat,
Where are you with your treatment? So excited for you, too. I feel the same way that you do about DE. We were seriously considering that as an option and it is true that while it may take some awhile to wrap their head around, it will be your baby that you nourish in the womb and out.

Bearlake,
Big hugs! Have faith, honey!

Butterfly,
Sounds like you have a big move on the horizon. Will you be closer to your bf/friend in London?

Drwgi, Northstar, LLBean, NMG, Skye, Bblve, Desperado, KeeKee, Never, Missyt, Ginger and all the other ladies who may be lurking or that I may have missed.

Yeah for team blue and team pink, awwwwww how perfect one of each!!! Congrats momma, i am glad to hear all is well, and thanks for being with me on this journey, i am so happy i have you ladies!!

 

[onmymind17]

It's official. I'm out this month. I am talking with my RE Thursday to start the ball rolling again!

Lots of hugs coming your way honey!! How totaly frustrating, make sure you be nice to yourself, and give yourself an extra special treat!!

 

[keekeesaurus]

Hello Ladies!

I am new here - this is my very first post - and relatively new to TTC as well.

A little background on me: my husband and I have been married for 12 years. We decided back in 2005 to have a baby so I went off the pill. And nothing happened. We both went and got checked out and my systems were clear while his showed lower than average mobility/motility but nothing major. We never really pursued TTC aggressively - I guess you'd say we were not trying but not doing anything to stop it - until earlier this summer. We have both lost a significant amount of weight in the past couple of years (100+ pounds each) and have adopted healthier lifestyles. We decided that if we didn't try, that potentially we would look back in five or ten years and have regrets - but that if we tried, even if we don't have a baby, then at least we'll know we tried.

So, I went back to my doctor.

Last month was my first round of Clomid - and my first time tracking my cycle and temping. Unfortunately while tests indicated that I ovulated, AF showed up on CD33. I actually found B&B while doing a search for Softcups for AF - but then a thread from here was one of the first results. So now I am planning to use those Softcups this month! I've also started taking Royal Jelly and Pollen, and have ordered some preseed for BDing.

I have a couple of questions for you:

- is a CB Fertility Monitor worth the cost, do you think, if I am tracking my temp and CM?

- do any of you have your SOs on fertility supplements and if so, which brand? I want my DH to start taking some but unsure as to which is the better option.

Thanks very much and I look forward to getting to know you all better and hopefully doing a lot of celebrating, too!

Hello bibliochick!
I'm new to the forum too and it's THE BEST! These ladies are just great and know they're stuff and are hilarious with it!

I have a CBFM and have just started using it this cycle - I love it. You can get if from Amazon cheaper than anywhere else although you have to buy the pee sticks separately, which is a bummer. Like OMM I found out I ov'd earlier than I thought and I use it along with temping and charting CM. I can't recommend it highly enough - but then I've had a good first cycle with 2 peak days so maybe ask me again next cycle when I get only highs and it starts peeing me off .
As for my OH he smokes and eats crap so I have no hope . Maybe I could slip something into his coffee??? muahahaha.
Lots of to you and hope you get your soon!


LAVA! Woah that's just the best news. Super congratulations, girl! I'm so happy happy happy for you!


Purple - I am praying for you girl and really hope that it's good news. That's not a bad coping mechanism and whatever works for you is fine if it helps you. Big hugs for you and FXed!

Padbrat - whatever Tx you're having good luck and big lady!

OMM massive that all sounds overwhelming! GL and FXed for you!

4ever, Dwrgi, Despie and everyone else (oh, my memory - it's my old baggedness that's to blame) big hugs and rooting for y'all!

xxx

 

[lavalux]

Bibliochick,
Welcome. My husband used Conception RX & it improved his motility & count. Good luck!

 

[asd963]

Hey Max!

 

[newmarriedgal]

Evening Ladies!!

Such an active thread, I plunked down with decaf tea and waded through it all!

OMM - super super happy for you! HUGE news! continued prayers to you!

Twinkle, I'm so sorry

biblio welcome!!! Congrats on the weight loss for the both of you and I hope you get your BFP soon!

4ever continuous to you

pradbat - send you tons of prayers and thoughts!

HA - I pray you find some measure of peace to know that your reaction does not reflect on your ability or readiness. If anything, I think it speaks volumes for your sensitivity in a very positive way and never doubt yourself. to you, dear.

Dwrgi -

bblve - welcome back!

keekee - you are an inspiration!

Bearlake - massive for you!

purple - you doing ok dear?

LL - how you feeling lovely?

butterfly - thanks! and good luck on your huge move coming up!

Despie - you make me smile!

lava - boy and girl! WOOHOO!!!!

Hello and to everyone else!!!!!! Thinking of you all, always.

AFM - just got back from dinner with my lovely high school friends that I've known for 20 years. such fun and much rubbing of my growing bump. tomorrow we have my 18 week scan and a talk with the genetic counselor. Had my knitting class today - 2nd time I've been, it's once a week and only $2 a class! My blanket is coming along nicely!

 

[skye2010]

Completely lost my sleep at 3 am so I came down to check up on u girls. ))
Than I read most of the posts and there are some great news which I will comment tomorrow (Laura ), Chris, ) Debs ), Ha) Anyways I completeley got hung up on Amanda's post. So here it goes:
Amanda waiting list isn't a big deal to start with at this stage cause a few months won't do you as much harm as having an IVf that leaves you in doubt. You are limited with time so going for the best clinic u can would save you more time and money in long run. Plus you are talking about that DHEA pills? So perhaps if you have questions about that you can have a consultation with another clinic and have a second opinion while you wait for the appt you want if that's what is best for you. Saying that I sat down and checked HFEA website for you and took out all the statistics for all the clinics u mentioned and some lONdon clinics to compare so you get a good picture of what u can expect.

Here is the statistics from HFEA website from 2009 (No recent updates so this is only an indication but more or less they would be similar today.

Live birth rates per treatment (including twins, triplets):

GCRM 38-39 year old 11,3%-34,4%, likely:20%....Consisten with average 19.1% in UK
40-42 year old 8,5%-35.4%, likely 20%.....Consisten with average 13,1% in UK

Spire this was a satelite link to London Fertility Center so I got LFC results
LFC 38-39 year old 9,1%-31,7%, likely:17,8%....Consisten with average 19.1% in UK
40-42 year old 3,6%-21,1%, likely 9,1%......Consisten with average 13,1% in UK

London's Women's Clinic linked to Wales
38-39 year old 9%- 31,1%, likely:17.4%....Consisten with average 19.1% in UK
40-42 year old 6,9%-24,9%, likely:13.6%...Consistent with average 13,1% in UK

IVF Wales 38-39 year old 12,5%-41,2%, likely:24,1%....Consistent w av 19.1% in UK
40-42 year old 4%-30.4%, likely 11.9%........Consistent w av13,1% in UK

CRGW did not have any statistics as the data wasn't enough to go on the list

London's top Clinics to compare

Lister 38-39 year old 16,6%- 30%, likely:22,6%....Consistent w av 19.1% in UK
40-42 year old 11.6%-21,8%, likely 16%.....Consistent w av13,1% in UK

University College Hospital
38-39 year old 18,7%- 47,8%, likely:31,5%....Consistent w av 19.1% in UK
40-42 year old 13.6%-34,9%, likely 22,5%.....Consistent w av13,1% in UK

ARGC 38-39 year old 28,2%- 48,9%, likely:38%....Above av 19.1% in UK
40-42 year old 23,4%-42,9%, likely 32,4%.....Above av13,1% in UK

So in first glance what I see is Spire looks too low. so does London's Women's Clinic in Wales.

IVF wales and GRCM are close but GRCM is looking a bit higher on 40-42 years olds sucess and IVF wales is a little better on 38-39 year olds. (Isn't a big difference but GRCM might be slightly better on low AMH. This is just a guess)

If you ever think of London UCH results are pretty bright. A whole lot of better than Wales but it was still classified as consistent with UK average. Dunno why?
The clinic that really stands out is ARGC with significantly better numbers.

I hope seeing this data would help you to make a decision. xxxx

 

[Dwrgi]

Hello everybody! How are you all today?? I have a bunch of kids cutting out pieces of paper to match up the characters in Romeo & Juliet with their description, so have two minutes to write to you! What sanity you all bring!!

Such a lot to catch up with!

Lava-OMG, one of each. How absolutely amazing!! I am so delighted for you, and I couldn't wish it on a nicer person. I bet you are so excited! Lots and lots of love hun. Our posts crossed last night when I was posting, and missed your announcement. Sorry, but brilliant news!

Padbrat-did I wish you well? Wonderful news-no time waiting if this is what you really want!! We will be right here all the way with you hun! Good luck!!

HI Butterfly, how are you? Any further thoughts on coming back to the UK?? Wales is veeeeeeeery beautiful (but very wet!!). Hope you're okay hun?

4EverYoung-sooooooo very sorry to hear your nes hun. It is truly pants, and just as I said-the power of Mother Nature is larger than any laboratory. I like your resolve in getting started straight away again-I was exactly the same, because whilst you're doing the treatment, you feel closer than ever to a positive outcome. Do they recommend a break of a month to get your body back to kilter. It will be interesting to hear what your RE has to say. Good luck and don't give up hun.

OMM-how are you today hun? Have you got your head around all the tests that you need to do? I wish you well hun-you sooooooo deserve your little bb. Incidentally, you say that the CBFM predicted that you ovulated at a different time to when you thought-is it more sensitive than the bog standard POAS tests? I'm tempted to get one too. Big to you hun, you're always there for us all!

HI Keekee-nice to see you. I'd read your story on the TTC over 40 forum. You have been through such a lot, but what a relief that your periods returned, so fingers crossed you get your little bb soon!! I think it was interesting what you wrote that finding out about being potentially infertile was worse than being told you had breast cancer. YOu are one strong woman, and I completely admire your positivity and energy! Good luck to you hun, we'll help you through this! Lots of love to you!

Thank you sooooooo much for this Skye, and I know that you are rooting for me. God, I could kiss you!!!!! So, I am going to send you HUGE hugs instead!!! Where is GRCW?? I shall go and google it. I would love to have treatment in ARGC-you recommend it and have read good reviews about it, but logistics are difficult. Would I stay in London for two weeks-I have a friend who lives in Stevenage. Also, Lister is Stevenage and they specialise in low amh. Am I allowed time off work to have treatment-I think absences like this are 'case managed.' I'd need to speak to my union. Him and Me LOVE the CRGW, the people were just so friendly and we do trust them, but I can't get over how they really didn't offer much hope apart from to come back after three months of DHEA (no beard as yet, Twinkle, but greasier hair ) or you guessed it, donor eggs. I'd like to get as much research as I can about other drugs and take this info to them and say could we try this that and the other......

Bugger, the natives are getting restless, I'd better go.....

I've booked myself in for an allergy test on Friday after work. It's not necessarily TTC related, but a case of all round health.. I'm strangely looking forward to it!!

Love to you all, and big hugs.....

 

[Butterfly67]

Hi dwrgi - have just sent in the form to terminate the lease on my apartment so I will leave here at the end of next month and go back to Ipswich

That was really interesting info Skye on the success rates. I will start thinking about ivf in the next few months and if I want to go that route and can find the money (i think the biggest thing is the chance of failure) so I have already emailed ARGC to find out about costs and will look abroad too, and if I do it it will more likely be with ED.

Anyway, will give it a few more months - am booked for a flyback anyway at the end of this month so will see what happens once I am back there for good

 

[keekeesaurus]

Hi dwrgi - have just sent in the form to terminate the lease on my apartment so I will leave here at the end of next month and go back to Ipswich

That was really interesting info Skye on the success rates. I will start thinking about ivf in the next few months and if I want to go that route and can find the money (i think the biggest thing is the chance of failure) so I have already emailed ARGC to find out about costs and will look abroad too, and if I do it it will more likely be with ED.

Anyway, will give it a few more months - am booked for a flyback anyway at the end of this month so will see what happens once I am back there for good

Yay! Woo! Nice one Butterfly!