TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[lavalux]

FM,
I love your Psalms quote. If being positive during a challenging time was easy, it wouldn't be such a remarkable feat, but your general faith-filled attitude is so inspiring to me.

I am having lunch today with a girlfriend I've known for years from church who is about to start her second IVF next month after over 3 years of TTC on her own & a couple IUIs. She got pg on her 1st IVF the same time I did with twins, but lost them at 8 weeks. Of course, she has her down days but she is certain that her time is coming ... just in God's time ... and she is positive and grateful for all of her blessings as she waits to be a mom. She says that if she can be a source of strength to anyone going through a similar trial, she is content.

I admire you two so much. It reminds me to do my attitude adjustments when I need them. The other day I was feeling overwhelmed with work stress, family drama over the impending holidays, pregnancy discomforts, and financial worries. I laid in bed and counted down every thing I'm grateful for, everything God has brought into my life, and I felt so much better and realized that things were manageable and I should not be anxious. I prayed for everyone I knew TTCing right now on this Board & here at home.

When you have a day that feels like a setback or like you are treading water, remember how your compassion and positivity radiates to those lucky enough to cross your path. I count myself as one of those lucky ones!!!

 

[FutureMommie]

Lava- you are making it hard to sit at my desk and keep the tears from falling, thank you so much for your post, today I was having a blah day and you have reminded me to count my many blessing as I wait. I too hope that I can inspire someone, I hope I am not overbearing with my post and my positive attitude I truly do not want anyone to think that I'm bubbly and never have down days because I do I just know that if I dwell in that place that I will not make it thru this process. Your little ones are so lucky to have you, and so is your friend, she sounds truly awesome.

 

[FutureMommie]

Well it is the morning of the flight.... just had to pop by one more time and send mucho luvs to all of you .... thank you thank you thank you!!!! Mwah Mwah!!!!!

Wishing all the luck, love and baby dust I can muster pad! xoxoxo

Tititi- so glad you popped in I figured you were probably lurking! I hope all is well.

 

[twinkle1975]

Lava- you are making it hard to sit at my desk and keep the tears from falling, thank you so much for your post, today I was having a blah day and you have reminded me to count my many blessing as I wait. I too hope that I can inspire someone, I hope I am not overbearing with my post and my positive attitude I truly do not want anyone to think that I'm bubbly and never have down days because I do I just know that if I dwell in that place that I will not make it thru this process. Your little ones are so lucky to have you, and so is your friend, she sounds truly awesome.

You're not at all overbearing!! We SO need your PMA - thank you for keeping us all afloat!

 

[FutureMommie]

Thanks Twinkle!

 

[onmymind17]

Hi ladies,

Padbrat i am thinking of you and praying for you!!!

FM honey everybody on here needs your PMA, you are never overbearing with it, and i know i sure appreciate it right now. Normally i am very positive, right now the only thing i am positive about, is that i am being tortured with babies everywhere, i just went into the lunchroom to heat something up here at work and there is a husband and wife with their little son and their newborn baby, ugh!!!!!!

I have a friend here at work that went through her first IVF, she finds out tomorrow if it worked or not, i applaude her for not testing before lol. I am so very excited for her, and so very sad at the same time.

I cannot wait until tomorrow, the sun is supposed to be out, i am so tired of the cold, rain and wind here in Chicago, our high today is only about 45 and the winds are just whipping here, i am already tired of this weather, i want summer back!!

My love to all you ladies, i am lurking, i promis i wont leave, but for now, i am keeping my distance, this is truly so very hard to deal with, my prayers are that none of you ladies have to deal with this, i am praying that each and every one of you has a little one to hold in your arms very soon!!!

 

[FutureMommie]

OMM- I have those days too, especially on the weekends when I'm out and about, I feel like they are stalking me!

 

[missyt]

Dwrgi, I'm feeling okay about doing the injections. I have a happy hour at work I have to leave for soon (no drinking for me). DH is meeting me there and I told him we are only staying an hour so I can go home and wind down for my injections. The nurse told me to take them between 6 - 11 pm. So if I take them at 8 pm tonight, does that mean I have to take them exactly at 8 pm every night until I finish or can I take them tomorrow at 9 pm? I hope you are doing well. Big hugs.

FM, as you know, you have always been a source of inspiration for me to have PMA. You are one of the best supporters I know.

OMM, you are so sweet. I completely understand needing your distance.

 

[HappyAuntie]

The nurse told me to take them between 6 - 11 pm. So if I take them at 8 pm tonight, does that mean I have to take them exactly at 8 pm every night until I finish or can I take them tomorrow at 9 pm?

My nurse said to take them within about 45 minutes of the same time each night. So I aim for 9p, and as long as I get them between 8:30-9:30 I don't think twice about it. If you're doing them at 8, one night at 9 should be fine.

Sorry to post and run, but dinner is on the stove... more later tonight.

 

[missyt]

HA, thanks! Now that this is getting close I'm starting to get a little nervous and make sure I get it right!

 

[skye2010]

Woolie, ouch ouch!! Do you use any pain releiving cremes? Did your dr prescribe any muscle relaxant cremes at all? They actually work wonders. The stuff you can get over the counter isn't bad, I never had any prescribed stuff in the UK but in Turkey I used to use a prescription one that's really good. Hot and cold patches also not bad. xx

Smooch, smooch Debs xxx

Missy you are good to go. yeeeeaaaah!!! You are starting at a high dose so hopefully you should respond pretty quickly. My clinic told me not to mix 2 different meds in one injection. They said it was probably ok but they didn't recommend it as a precaution in case they react with each other. Does your clinic tell you you can mix them? You have almost 2 weeks of stims than TWW than hopefully BFPPPP ))

Lois is Lupus anticoagulant an autoimmune issue as well? I googled it and read that Lupus anticoagulant lupus isn't always accompanied by rheumotoid lupus. But I wonder if you can talk to a fertility specialist who is knowledgable about your condition as well since they might be very closely related. I wonder if using blood thinners very early on in the pregnancy (during TWW even) might save you from another mc? Alternatively I wonder if your Haemotologist is knowledgable about the fertility issues? Pls update after the appt. xxx

FM I love your posts and positive attitude. No one can be happy and positive 24/7. That would be either fake or senseless because it is our duty to doubt and question as human beings. But to win a difficult battle we all need hope and belief in ourselves. That's what gives us the energy to keep going. Swetie hope your battle will be soon over and you will enjoy your little baby. xxx

Laura I am not Christian but your post touched me too. ) I guess the essence of all faiths are similar and they provide hope and courage to us (among other things) and help us in our daily struggles. Does baby A and B have possible names yet?

Amanda how are you sweetie? How are you feeling today xxx

Titi how are you? Have you seen the dr lately has your health improved?

Twinks, c'man than "Chop Chop" )) Or are you waiting to shake off the christmass? Dieting and weight watching isn't ideal when the mince pies are out. HMMM just felt like having one actually. Can't wait!!!

Awwww Chris

I'm off to another driving class girls. i'm a bit crap but determined to nail it in the test which is in almost a month. HAve a great TGIFriday !!

 

[purplelou]

FM - you are definitely not overbearing, you just have a lovely calm kind air to your posts

skye the lupus anticoag thing can mean I might have antiphospholipid syndrom, which basically means "sticky blood" - more likely to get tiny blood clots, the heamatologist seemed very knowlegeable, and said if the test is positive I would be started on heparin for any future pregnancy. I did test positve for it about 9 years ago when I had a small heart attack at the age of 30, Ive been well since, no heart problems and not needing any meds, and I have read it can come and go, so just got to wait till wednesday and see what they say

 

[Dwrgi]

Hi guys, how are you all today?

Have a look at this! From a member on Over 40 forum-thanks to them for the tip!

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-15305064

Interesting reading??

TTFN!

 

[skye2010]

Lois I'm glad at least now they can assist you better for your future pregnancy. I hope they would offer you a good plan of action. Looking fwd to your post on Wed. xxx

Amanda that's really interesting info. It's encouraging to see that scientist are still developing new solutions for infertility. This research might be a solution for many unexplained infertility couples. Thanks for sharing xx

 

[missyt]

Skye, they told me it was okay to mis meds. I took my first dose last night so we'll see on Sunday on my scan how its working.

 

[purplelou]

Dwrgi - thats very interesting! as Skye said, it's good that there is still research being done into infertility and it's causes, because being "unexplained" is just helpful I would imagine! - thanks for that

 

[FutureMommie]

Missyt- hoping those follies grow grow grow! we need lots of eggies to choose from.

 

[HappyAuntie]

Hi ladies! Sorry I haven't been around much these last few days.

Pad/Deb, I don't know if you can read this where you are but I'm praying for you!! I hope everything goes well. No, I hope everything goes EXCEPTIONALLY TERRIFICALLY OUTSTANDINGLY FANTASMAGORICALLY well!! Send us an update if you can. We love you and I feel like we're all right there in Cyprus anxiously going through this with you! I think being unbearable in your tww is perfectly acceptable! We'll do our best to smack you around when you need it, hug you when you need it, and pull you onto the whatever wagon when you need it! FX'd!!! (Wow, I used a lot of exclamation points in that....)

Men and their video games. DH and I have that "conversation" regularly. Hmph! (Of course, he probably thinks the same thing about my time spent on here and FB! )

Butterfly, I hope the move is going smoothly.

Missy, how are the injections going? When is your first scan?

Wooly, I hope you find some relief soon. I vote for a massage. In fact, I think you need daily massages for the next several weeks.

FM, you are many things - encouraging, loving, strong, kind, thoughtful, beautiful, warm, caring, tenacious, courageous.... One thing you most definitely are NOT is overbearing. I love you!! How's your little baby nephew doing?

OMM,

Dwrgi, thanks for the article. I've always said that "unexplained" does not mean the same as "for no reason" - it just means that modern medicine and current technology haven't figured it out yet....

AFM, I had a second follie check this morning, and my once again my ovaries are being little overachievers - I have FIVE follicles! FIVE! I'm trying not to panic, as with my age and my history of losses I know the odds of winding up like Kate Gosselin are slim to none, but my brain knows that the possibility is there, no matter how tiny.... They're keeping a really close watch on me now - daily ultrasounds until trigger. Right now all five are still too small to trigger, but they are all really close in size which is what's so unusual. I normally spit out a dominant pretty early on, have two or three that are all fairly close in size and then three or four more that are too small to worry about. No explanation why things are different this time - I'm on the exact same protocol, exact same dosages as I have been for the last 3 IUIs and I've never had a response like this. It does make me wonder what their limit is on IUIs - how many follies does there have to be for them to cancel, or convert it to an IVF? I need to ask my nurse. I go back for another check in the morning and may possibly trigger tomorrow. We'll see.

I hope you all have a lovely weekend!

 

[HappyAuntie]

Ooh, and look at this article, ladies! Just found it on another thread and thought you all would like to have a read....


Is everything you thought about older mothers wrong?

 

[purplelou]

HA - that's a really positive article, thanks for that

woohoo for five follies!! I am very excited for you!


big loves to everyone - hope you all have a fab weekend xxxx


special "across the ocean" and to Pad. Hoping everything is going amazingly well!