TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[purplelou]

Hi Ladies, hope you are all well

welcome Zoe - you are definetely not too old bless you. I hope you get you BFP soon

thank you again for all you lovely messages and hugs - I am feeling them from my little corner of the UK. I have had a long chat with mum by phone and they are going ahead with the move, so all being well, will be living close by in a few weeks
that is something that gives me a huge amount of relief.


in other news I a still poas for the cbfm - it seems to be working ok everyone needs some good news I think in the family now, so fingers crossed xxxxx


HA - how are you and DH doing?? Ive been thinking about you over these last few days, and hoping you are ok xxx


missy and never hugs to you both xxxx

sorry I haven't mentioned everyone, but I am thinking of you all xxxxx

 

[Dwrgi]

Purple-I was sooo sorry to hear about your father; it must be a very anxious time for you all. Let's hope that the treatment can begin at once, and that he is better soon. What a blessing to have him nearer to you, and so good to hear that they will be moving, after all. Try and stay positive hun. Also, good luck with the CBFM-yes, a BFP would be just the thing at this time! Fingers crossed!

Butterfly-how are you? So sorry that AF showed. Did you say that you'd had your amh test done, or are you not going to bother? Keep at it though and try and remain optimistic. Thinking of you and sending you big hugs!

Missy-how are you hun? I have been thinking a lot about you and hope that you are continuing with the PMA as much as you can (although we all know how hard this is!!). Fingers crossed for that Thanksgiving (ish) BFP!!

Welcome ZoeZo-test test test!!! To put you out of your misery, either way. Good luck!

Got to dash, but wanted to say hello to you all! Might write more later!

Lots of love for now,
Axxxxx

 

[Butterfly67]

Hi A, no I haven;t had my AMH tested - my doc didn't do it in the tests that I had (just FSH) and I don't really know where I would get it done. Added to that I am not sure that I want to know lol

I'm using soy this month (although there is a big chance that I won't even get a BD at the right time, if at all) and will reassess after that if i might go down the SD route if needs be at which point maybe it is worth getting the rest of the tests done (HSG etc)

 

[missyt]

Purple, I hope everything is okay with your dad. My parents live far away too and my dad was sick in September. I felt helpless as well. Its so tough when they get older. I'm praying for him.

Butterfly, so sorry the witch came. Darn witch.

HA, I understand everything you are talking about with starting IVF. Once you start the process, its actually a relief that you are finally doing it. I had to get over the money thing as well. And even though I am very hopeful for this cycle, I've had to prepare myself that it won't work the first time. I had to have a talk with DH about how we'll have to buy meds all over again as well. After my 4 unsuccessful IUI's, I took a 3 month break and I told DH that after 3 months we had to decide on IVF or adoption. I am glad we decided on IVF even though I dont' have my BFP just yet. All I can do now if remain positive and BELIEVE that I will have my baby (or babies) one day soon. When they gave me that picture of our embryos it gave me new hope that DH and I can make a baby. I'm here for you if you want to talk. You can PM me if you want.

Northstar, congrats on your new furbaby! I don't know what I'd do with out my furbabies. They mean the world to me.

Welcome, Zoe!

AFM, not much to report. I had a nice quiet weekend with DH and now he understand we have to be frugal with money just in case we have to buy meds again. He also said he wants to have money saved up for when we do have our baby. That made me feel a lot better. I had acupuncture on Friday so that really relaxed me for the entire weekend. I'm still trying to stay positive and imagining my embies growing inside of me.

 

[ZoeZo]

Thanks for the welcomes Butterfly67, Purplelou, Dwrgi, and missyt!

OK TMI, I stopped temping for a while, and haven't picked it back up - was going by my bodies signs, I actually had EWCM last cycle and usually get a little pain in one side of my groin around ovulation time, so I haven't temped this cycle or last! My LP does seem longer this cycle.

Hard to explain my reluctance to test! It's like it'll all become real, if it's negative I'll worry why I'm so late is it early menopause etc?! (I know silly thoughts, but my cycles did become longer and less ovulation symptoms at the beginning of the year, I put it down to age!)
It's really weird, I'm happy being oblivious at the mo! Then on the other hand I WANT to know!

 

[Dwrgi]

Hello guys!

Where is everybody???? Everybody has gone AWOL!!!

Zoe-the only way you will know is if you test. I have been doing this for four years, and know it's better just to get on with it! Either way you will know! Hope the result is positive. Changes in cycles can be down to any number of things; it doesn't necessarily mean menopause. Did your mother hit menopause early? Anyway, EWCM is a good sign-I can never detect mine-and a pain in your groin is definitely ovulation, so that is working fine. Just go for it! Good luck!

AFM-I POAS last night and detected the ovulation surge so did the deed. Acupuncture tonight and am looking forward to that.

Hope you are all well, thinking of you all, lots of love,
Axxxx

 

[Dwrgi]

Butterfly, I meant to ask, what does soy do for you? How do you take it and what is the benefit? I hope it does the trick for you! Fingers crossed!

I spoke to my consultant at the clinic yesterday. She said that DHEA, Royal Jelly and Omega 3 all good for improving egg quality. Luckily, got those covered, but, quite frankly, I need to get up half an hour earlier every morning to take all my vits and meds....! And I'm sure that I rattle!

Hope all is good with you?

 

[purplelou]

Hi Dwrgi I am here how are you today?? where does the acupunturist actually put the needles (if you don't mind me asking) I am fascinated by this! I have heard some amazing stories about accupuncture and people loosing weight, quitting smoking etc etc

Zoe , I can understand the reluctance to test, but one thing to remember is that testing will not alter the result (iyswim) if you are not pregnant - testing will not make you even less pregnant, and if you are..... (and I hope that's the case) poas will not make anything bad happen. we are here for you either way, whenever you want us

 

[purplelou]

Oh and Butterfly, are you thinking about SD now? I was reading a big thread somewhere on here a few days ago about that. it does give you another option, and options are always a good thing

 

[Neversaynever]

Selfish post...

Had cramping all day yesterday and have had a bleed this morning so things are not looking good...again.

Life really is taking the piddle right now. Had betas done this morning and will have them done again on Thursday. What f**king ever

Xxx

 

[purplelou]

oh never - I am really hoping this is just a tiny hitch, and that your little bean is ok. big and loves to you, I agree - life is not fair!!!!

 

[NorthStar]

Never, got my fingers crossed for you that it's the bean burrowing in

 

[Dwrgi]

I agree with North Star-let's hope that the little bean is getting nice and cosy. Try not to go ahead of worry hun until you know for sure, what's what.

Sending huge positive vibes your way, and loads of good luck!

 

[Dwrgi]

Purple-the acucpuncturist puts the needles into my belly, my ears, the top of my head, my legs just above my knees, my feet, my knees, my hands and on my shin. It doesn't hurt a bit, and is very relaxing. She is marvellous and wants to know how I am and genuinely offers advice and support. She has helped over 100 couples get pregnant and was featured in the Western Mail (national Welsh paper) on Saturday. Here's a link to the online version-try and ignore the ballerinas..

https://www.walesonline.co.uk/showb...lems-treated-with-acupuncture-91466-29761455/

She even has an overbearing MIL so has been able to offer empathy on that part of my life too! Ha ha ha!!!

Each session costs £40.

There we are-hard sell over!

How is your father doing now?
Love to you hun!
Axx

 

[lavalux]

Never,
Hopeful that the spotting isn't a bad sign & Nonie is just getting settled in. When is your next appt?

Purple,
So sorry to hear about your dad but very happy that your parents will move closer to you so you can offer more practical support too.

Dwrgi,
Hope you are doing well. Good advice to Zoe about testing. I have made a new friend through a mutual one. She has a 1 year old & was diagnosed with breast cancer. She is doing chemotherapy & has the best attitude. Anyway, we got lunch near her holistic medicine doctor & has been doing acupuncture with really good results. She gave me a brochure & I may check it out. Glad you are deriving many benefits from it.

Zoe,
Welcome. You are not getting too old to have a baby. My fertility doctor ran a bunch of tests on me at 39 after we started TTCing & diagnosed me with low ovarian reserve due to age & we got pg 3 months after that consult. Now we did do some treatment (Clomid & an IUI) but I just want you to not be scared & feel you are running out of time. You have 4 years on me. This is the best group of women & will get tons of support & good advice here.

Missyt,
When is testing day? Keep up that PMA! Glad you & DH are on the same page.

Butterfly,
How are you settling in?

OMM,
Hugs to you!

HA, FM, Twinkle,
Lots of love coming you way ...

AFM,
Yesterday, we tried to do a 3D sonogram session but the boy has moved head down so that he & his sister are facing each other cheek-to-cheek. So no pictures of their little faces because they are blocking each other. We will get one more chance next week, but if no luck, we will have paid a non-refundable $175. I don't care though b/c they seem to be healthy. I am now having weekly apps with my OB doctor & twice-monthly appt with my specialist. So far, so good. DH is out of town for the rest of the week for work so it's me & the cats aka the "nutty buddies"

 

[missyt]

dwrgi, I love going to acupuncture. I think it has really helped me a lot to relax during this whole IVF process. Each time she takes my pulse she said it sounds really good. I know that means its calming me down. I think the most important thing with TCC is to stay positive and stress free. I know that life can throw you for a loop sometimes but I notice by just making some sort of effort, I can actually get myself to a better place emotionally.

Purple, I really enjoy going to acupuncture. The one thing I noticed is that you have a go a few times to actually notice results. I just feel so much calmer after I go. I went on Friday and had a really nice, stress free weekend. I notice it relaxes me more when I combine the acupuncture with doing yoga through out the week as well.

Never, I hope and pray too that your spotting is implantation.

Lava, I'm so happy your twins are doing well. And you are so fortunate to have a boy and a girl. That is such a dream for me and you give me hope. Have you thought of names yet?

 

[purplelou]

Missy and Dwrgi - it sounds really nice (the accupuncture I mean) thank you for sharing, it's so interesting to know about the other kinds of treatments that are availbale xxx

and lava thank you - my dad is ok at the moment, we are waiting for a CT scan, which should hopefully be sometimes this week and then we will all know what he might be dealing with. it's times like this when I wonder if knowing stuff (Im a nurse) isn't such a good thing - because you already know about the "what ifs"

I hope those babies co-operate for the next 3rd scan - Id love to see some pictures!!

 

[onmymind17]

Selfish post...

Had cramping all day yesterday and have had a bleed this morning so things are not looking good...again.

Life really is taking the piddle right now. Had betas done this morning and will have them done again on Thursday. What f**king ever

Xxx

Big hugs to you honey, i know how you feel, but it does not always mean a bad thing, i have a friend here at work, she did IVF, she had cramps and a pretty good bleed, but all is well with a 148 heartbeat as of yesterday. Hang in there honey and i am sending lots of prayers up that this one hangs on tight!!

 

[lavalux]

Never,
You know that I am praying for you and Nonie!!!

 

[skye2010]

Neversaynever I am hoping that the baby is ok and it's just a one off. I will be praying for you