TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[nessaw]

welcome skipper and chelli.i'm pretty new here and this is the best thread with the most supportive and knowledgeable ladies on the net.

carole-congratulations on the arrival of zara.hope ur both well.

hi to everyone hope ur having a gd weekend.

afm after having a v hormonal mini meltdown yesterday for no apparent reason, i've had a lovely day in the sun celebrating my twin nieces 2nd birthday and planned a nice treat for tues having my hair done and going out for dinner with my best friend.so feeling very much back on track

 

[dashka]

Hi ladies,
sorry I've been MIA for a couple of days.... work has been crazy and then yesterday I found out that a girl in my department (who I work pretty closely with) is 4.5 months pregnant!! Ah!! I was actually suspecting it for about a month - but to actually hear her say the words... I was happy for her (she has a 6 yr old son) but at the same time -I told her my story and how we have been trying so long and when I had to hear her announce the news to about 5 other people and hear their reaction - that's what made me sad..... I found it so hard to concentrate for the rest of the day. (also she told me that they had decided a while back that they weren't going to have any kids but recently decided to and got preggers right away) She is 4 years younger than me.

Lils - thank you for all the info... I am so sorry the the m/c has started hun.. Especially on your holiday weekend ...but I'm glad your girlfriend is there to help you through it..... You are so generous - in that you are always thinking of others -helping us when you are going through your own pain .... THIS IS WHY YOU'LL MAKE A GREAT MOM...
I'm going to PM you too...

Rottpaw - thank you for the update on Carole and Zara!!

Carole - OMG woman!! you are superwoman!!! Congratulations!!! and welcome gorgeous Zara - you are beautiful!!! and 11lbs 2 - WOW - you poor thing Carole... you are definitely a trooper! Enjoy every moment and can't wait to see more pics!!

Dwrgi - pups in the heat... oh my.... I know our Westie can't stand it - but oh my Huskies!! poor little pups... And OH doesn't eat any ethnic food????!!! I would go nuts as that is all I eat when I go out to eat - as I can make everything else at home! Btw - I know you don't want us to say but your chart is looking kind of nice right now.

Purple - hope your Dad gets to have a really good long break before starting the chemo again Must be so hard for all of you... I hope he kicks cancer in the A#@!!!

Butterfly- hope staying with you mom for 2 weeks goes ok Sounds like it may be tough for you...

Lady H - Welcome to the TWW! Happy Belated Anniversary too! Hope the Baby Dust Fairy visited and brought you a 'gift' for your Anniversary??!! My DH and I are also 12 years married (13 in Nov.) but we dated for 8 yrs prior - so we've been together 20.... yikes! GL hun!

Chicken - I just upgraded to the VIP FF and it's only my 2nd month using FF... but so far I like it and don't want to lose some of the extra features. GL to you!!

Nessaw - glad you are feeling better!

Grkprn - GL my friend!!

Froliky, Asry - big hugs and hellos.....

HA - I'm so sorry again.....

Hello and welcome to Grace & Skipper and Chellibelle!!!

Chellibelle - I'm so sorry for your m/c..... take care of yourself....

AFM - nothing much to report.... today we brought our dog to the vet for her yearly check-up, then tonight we went out for dinner with friends (they are the couple we went to the same country to adopt our daughter - they have an adopted son who is 4 days younger than our AD and from same orphanage... we see them a few times/year and they definitely have some kind of bond - it is amazing.... Tomorrow I'm going to install a deck fountain/pond thingy we ordered -and I'm going to surround it with plants and going to get a long chair with a big padded cushion - It's going to be my 'oasis' on the deck and (some of my b-day gift $)

Hope everyone else is good - Big hugs all around....
love you all!
xoxo

 

[Honeybee73]

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[nessaw]

we have 2 black labs who love a sunbathe!we're very lucky to live backing onto a heath with a lovely river which they take advantage of most days.!

 

[grkprn]

Is this thread still running?
I'm 38 (very soon to be 39) and childless but ttc. I've only just started but my body is doing all sorts of weird things and I am wondering if I will ever know my cycle or what it's doing!
Has anyone our age fallen pregnant quickly? I don't get the chance to bd often to make it a regular thing with partner so that worries me even more. This month I seem to be on my second period of the month although this is a very strange one and I don't know what is happening but my heart is not filled with much hope :0(

Hi honeybee! I'll be 39 in a couple of months and I understand how you feel. When we first started ttc, my cycles got a little off, but soon regulated again.

The second period...is it very light? Depending on where you are in your cycle, it could be implantation. What CD are you on?

This thread is my favorite -- many supportive women aged 35+ with many words of wisdom! It's nice to surround yourself with like-minded ladies!

 

[Honeybee73]

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[padbrat]

Hey ladies...

Been out sunning it up at my Sis's... having a few cheekie bevvies! LOL

Lils... so sorry huni. (hugs) xxx

Carole what an epic journey you had with Zara... she is here now and gorgeous!

Dash, Fro, Purps how are ya?

Hey Butterfly my cycle bud!! x

 

[chickenchaser]

Hi Honeybee73, I am not expert, far from it. I'm all new to this TTC stuff myself (these ladies are great and what they don't know isn't worth knowing) but I do know that it is perfectly normal for your AF to be a bit odd when coming off any form of hormonal contraception. I know it is easier said than done but give yourself time and relax, getting stress about it wont help.
I really hope you get a quick BFP but in the meantime we are a great bunch of girls to support you.
Welcome to B&B and especially welcome to TTC 1st child 35+.

 

[purplelou]

Hi honeybee and welcome! I hope your stay here is short and sweet xx

 

[nessaw]

welcome honeybee.x

 

[Butterfly67]

Welcome honeybee

Your cycles will definitely be a bit messed up after coming off BC so give yourself a couple of months at least for them to regulate. It might be worth you tracking them with fertility friend (just click on any of the graphs in one of our signatures) so that you can get an idea of any patterns. You don't have to take your temperature every day if you don't want to yet but it does help

And if you click on User CP at the top right of the page that will show you the threads that you have posted on that have new posts.

Hey, pad, cycle bud with another rollercoaster looking chart

AFM I've scheduled my BD for Tuesday now so I am hoping the timing is right!

 

[padbrat]

I know... it is isn't it?....grrr wonder what this all means?

I wish I knew what the hell is going on with FF.... however, will still jump Hubby tomorrow just in case I am 3 days before OV... then on the 31st... and will probably do CD 16 and 19 too... just in case I am back to OV on CD 19.

Heaven help me!!

 

[Honeybee73]

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[LilSluz]

Honeybee - Welcome Always take your temp when you first wake up & try to take it before doing anything at all. Its also best if it's around the same time each morning (within an hour).

Dashka - the pond sounds really awesome Pics please! for always being so kind & supportive. Not just w/me but w/everyone

Butterfly - glad you have a booty call date now, as I know that was the hard part (getting away). Keeping FX its perfect timing!

Pad - The pre & post-o peaks & valleys aren't so bad that I know of, it's the O drop & rise that really counts so I hope you get a more clear-cut pattern this time!!! Both mine & Dwrgi's have a lot of zigzags too It sounds like you have a plan, there, chickie - fx!

Nessaw - for hormonal breakdown

Chicken - if you want to attach chart into siggie go to Sharing, Get Code & copy paste bbcode into siggie. Its not the actual temp that matters but the temp relative to what it was pre-o

Purps - hope you win in that fight against BNB!

Carol - so beautiful! She looks more like 2-3 months than 2-3 days old!

Dwrgi, HTJ & Porn - charts looking awesome

Fro & Asry - hope our newest preggers are doing well

 

[LilSluz]

selfish post coming up. I'm sorry but I have to get this out. I am slumping into a depression I think. I can't even remember the last time I cried every day for so many days in a row but its more than that. I'm usually very good about getting it out & moving on, but this - IDK. It has made me question everything I know & all the ridiculous hope I had for a baby. Who am I kidding? I already had so much against me going into this w/the back issues & my history with other disorders, and now I have way more uphill battles...

My family, who is typically so supportive, doesn't even seem to care. Its as if its like "oh, its just another mc - she just did that last month". As if it was like I had a cold & it came back or something?! Then, after crying 4 days straight & finally getting a little reprieve last night w/gf, DH was almost like chastising me for it "Oh you can't go to the wedding tonight but you can party all night w/gf last night..." Party all night?! I had 2.5 glasses of wine over an 8-hour period, was in my comfy sweats, no make-up, eyes all swollen, looked like dogsh**, back & forth to bathroom all night & what - bc she actually made me laugh a few times & got my mind off things, then that was somehow a bad thing? He acted like that somehow meant I was perfectly fine & I should be attending a black tie affair w/him - get all dressed up & socialize w/people I don't even know & just forget that I am passing my dead baby - no biggie. Are you effing kidding me?!

I am sorry for me-post & rant. Maybe its just me. God if it wasn't for you ladies, I'd have no one in this whole entire world who gave a shit You don't have to reply, I just wanted to get that off my chest... I love you guys so much .

 

[dashka]

Oh Lils.... sweetie why doesn't anybody get it...?!!! The fact that it has happened several times does not make it any easier and they should understand that !! Sending you huge hugs my friend.. We care sooo mch about you so ofcourse we are going to reply!!!

Just give yourself time and screw them if they don't get it.. I wouldn't go to a wedding either! Look forward to your awesome trip coming up... When do you leave?

I so wish I could be there with you right now!
Hugs and kisses xoxo

 

[LilSluz]

Dash -. My trip is 6/7 - 6/17. Trying to just concentrate on that for the time being. Can't wait. (Your chart is lookin great )

 

[Butterfly67]

LilS just wanted to say how you are feeling is totally understandable and it may well be that you need some extra help getting over this. It must be difficult for you to believe that this will happen but please don't give up hope. I know there are a few ladies who have been in your situation some of whom are now pregnant. Heart tree is one in particular that springs to mind. I know there is a recurrent miscarriage thread that has helped a lot of them. I am on my phone so not easy to search for it. to your DH - no you cannot be expected to go. Yes, look forward to your trip and dwrgi and I will have big hugs waiting for you

Dashka, also meant to say yes your new little oasis sounds perfect

 

[purplelou]

Lils - I don't think you are being selfish with that post at all! big I think its just too difficult for anyone to understand who hasn't been there, just how bad/low/desperately sad, you feel after mc. Im glad your friend was able to help you for a few hours, but honestly, I wouldn't be up for going to a wedding either. If anyone spoke to me, I would probably burst into tears -- It happened many times when I was a work and we were talking about completely unrelated things!! huge loves xxx

Dashka - your garden oasis sounds wonderful!! I would love to see pics

Pad - your chart is most strange - is the temperature in your house fluctuating a lot??? anyway - it sounds like you have a plan that will cover all options, is dh ready??

Butterfly - good luck for Tuesday!! I hope you catch that eggy and how is your mum doing??

bumblebee - I was on cerezette too, and it took a couple of months for my cycles to settle down

 

[purplelou]

LadyH - hope this tww brings you a bfp!! fingers crossed

Nessaw - sorry you had a little meltdown but Im glad you are feeling better - a little bit of pampering will do you good

Dwrgi - are you MIA now?? hope youve had a lovely weekend and not gooten too sunburned!!

huge loves and to everyone Ive not named, I just know Im going to forget someone if I try to mention everyone