TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[Lady H]

My iPad thinks its smarter than me and corrects words that were ok to begin with!
Sunshine hugs to you all, Dwrgi chart does look a little early to dip below cover, praying its for the right reason.
AFM have avoided CBFM for five days and it's going to stay that way this month. Might do some OPK nearer the time but nothing else. I need a break as we are pretty much eighteen months into ttc with not one BFP to show for it

 

[purplelou]

It's very odd how it doesthat Ladyh eh?? I read stuff back sometimes after I posted...and it wasn't what I typed at all!!


Never news now...

Spoiler

Never was taken to delivery this morning and was going to have her waters broken....last news was she was having contractions close together...and nothing since. So oopsie may be either here or imminent

And that concludes the news for the day

Hope everyone is having a nice day??

 

[JennyBLove]

Hey all i have a question...i am 25, my guy is 36 and we are ttc for our #1st child. weve been trying for few months but have been unproteected for about 7 all together. I'm wondering if there are any differences in ttc cuz of his age??? he does not have any other kids and i know we will be getting checked after a year of trying but is there any advice anyone could give? Thanks

 

[dashka]

Hi ladies - gotta run so will post properly later - but just wanted to say hi!!!

and Dwrgi - that is weird - I ALSO had diarrhea this morning??? (but only once in morning - TMI) What is going on -we are on the same cycle day too??? HMMMMM........
Is yours really bad - there is a homeopathic remedy that some pregger women use (but I need to do more research) - I've used before it's called Arsenicum Album..... they are homeopathic pellets you put under the tongue. You can google if you like. But if it's food poisoning then it should be gone by tomorrow... Hope you feel better!

Don't give up yet hun!!! perhaps that is a big implantation dip??????? you never know! Let's see your temps tomorrow....

Gotta run as I'm on half day today and should have left by now - got loads of errands to run....

Chat soon!!! have a great day ladies....

 

[HitTheJackpot]

Hi ladies...

Know that I think of you all and send positive vibes and energy your way as I am able. I just can't bring myself to read all the stories right now - good or bad - I'm just too emotional, but I desperately miss talking with you all and keeping up with each of you. Losing my mother so suddenly has proven to be far more than I know how to handle, so my time is precious and I am spending most of it surrounding myself with my family and loved ones. I would really rather isolate myself and cry, but what good would that to do me?

I had a bit of a second blow when I called my doctor's office to see about how this changes things re: ttc. I was hoping to keep on my schedule to start trying again in September so I could throw all of my energies into that rather than thinking so much about all I have lost. The doc said that if I wanted to start again on schedule that they would do so, but that they strongly suggest I wait longer... maybe until after the first of the year to start again. Even then, they said it depends how my stress levels are... the nurse explained that during times of extreme stress that the cortisol levels in the body drastically increase and can have an affect on ttc and on a developing baby. While I can see their point, and I believe that they probably have a valid point... it just sucks that I have to wait.

My family doc also cautioned that the makers of Clomid say that 6 cycles is a lifetime max for the average woman... after that alternate methods should be considered. The fertility specialist said that yes, that is generally what the manufacturer tells gynos, but that under a specialist's care, it is different. I have had 4 cycles on clomid 50mg. I have had absolutely no time to research about any of this, just going off what docs have said... I suppose I'll have to wait.

I have decided to start seeing a counselor for a bit that I had seen a number of years ago. She knows my story with its ins and outs, and knows about the complicated relationship I had with my mother, so I'm going to see if she can't help me with this grieving process. I have also decided to get a tattoo in honor of my mother... that isn't exactly the way SHE would have wanted me to memorialize her, but it works for me ... so now, I just have to start figuring out what I want and design it.

I have started to work on shifting my thinking from "My mother will never get to see my baby" to "My mother is holding my baby right now... and will send the little one to me when the time is absolutely perfect." That has helped some...

Also had a reiki massage yesterday to try to help with the tension and release some of the grief and negative energies that I am most certainly holding on to. Silly me... I cried through the whole session and probably worked against what the poor massage therapist was trying to do... ha!

On a different note...I had mentioned before that DP and I were going to start eating healthy/organic/natural etc ... and were going to do an herbal cleanse. That started about 20 days ago and I'm down a little over 18 pounds. I'm going to have to buy new jeans this weekend... either that, or a good belt!

Well, just know that I will continue thinking about you all. Much love to each and every one!! *hugs*

 

[BDownmommie]

Sorry to hear about your loss - that must be difficult.

Blood work and US came back - all is well - start the horomones in a few hours. Then back for blood and us next wed, followed by the HSG on friday - then 'timed intercourse' - now if only that meant that doc orders it to go on for so long


Gotta love this process...

 

[Lady H]

Jenny...not much to worry on, my man is 54 and just got perfectly fine results on his SA. It depends more on things like drinking and how healthy overall they are. It can take a year for any healthy couple to conceive so keep going!

HTJ - thank you for sharing sweets. I can't imagine how hard it has been for you since you lost your mother. I like your new thinking of Mom holding baby til you are ready. We all care about you Hun and are here whenever you need it. Sending you all my love n positive vibes xxxx

 

[purplelou]

Jenny I have heard the same, older chaps don't have the same problems as older girls xx


HTJ oh Hun....huge hugs for you!! Take your time and do whatever you need to do to fell sane and better. We are here for you when you want us xxxxx

 

[JennyBLove]

hehe okay thanks ladies yeah i know hue hephner had a child at 70 and i read that with guys it dont really matter how old they are as long as thier sperm still good or high count or surviving . i'm already having trouble at 25 :/ . good luck to you ladies and thanks for the info

 

[drhouse]

Hiya lovelies

Greetings from morocco! Limited Internet here. Have been trying o read all your stories..... There's been so much news and welcome to the t newbies.

We are now d3 so no alcohol moving forward and back into it. Trying not to get freaked out. Hugs all!

Back to bnb and work aug 14!!!!

 

[purplelou]

Good morning lovely ladies..

Never news ...birth mentioned

Spoiler

Andrea gave birth to a beautiful baby boy last night, she has called him louis and he weighs 6lbs7. Xxxxx

 

[Dwrgi]

Lovely news on Never! Thanks Purps, for keeping us up to date. So chuffed for her!

I tested this morning again, 11dpo, 12dpiui, and a big fat NOTHING was had. Also, my temps remain lower than coverline, so that's what tells me it's not worked, really. Expected it, but still doesn't make it any easier. This game does not give very much back, does it?

Hope everybody else is doing okay, and lots of love to all,
Axxxx

 

[purplelou]

I tested this morning again, 11dpo, 12dpiui, and a big fat NOTHING was had. Also, my temps remain lower than coverline, so that's what tells me it's not worked, really. Expected it, but still doesn't make it any easier. This game does not give very much back, does it?

Hope everybody else is doing okay, and lots of love to all,
Axxxx

Hun I am so sorry! I could say...you never know, wait and see, but I know that doesn't help!
So instead I'll send you huge loves and smooches xxxxxx

 

[Dwrgi]

You know Purple, the more the morning goes on, the more I want to shout and scream and cry and cry and cry. There are babies, and pregnant women (no offence meant, you're allowed!) and families with adorable young kids everywhere. Fellow classmates from school flood FB with images of their 'adorable' holiday photos, with their kids growing up and being all so normal. Even a friend of mine through BnB has put photos of her pregnant belly on FB, without any warning. It is everywhere. And completely eludes some of us. Where is the justice? It's just not fair. But life was never fair, and that's the bottom line of it. Never, ever thought I'd be the 'infertile' one out of my friends; no kids. And that's really hard to accept.

Oh well, Debbie Downer is now going on a bike ride through some forests with a husky pulling her on her bike. My summer holiday starts right now. Bas^ards and bollo* to bl**dy bl**dy bl**dy F**CKING infertility.

(Love you loads though, Purps! )

 

[purplelou]

A I could cry for you chick!!
It isn't bloody fair!
Why you? You are lovely and hard working and caring and deserve a baby!!
You should shout and scream and have a cry if you want to. I am holding your hand virtually
Love you too xxxxxxx

 

[Lady H]

Dwrgi big hugs lovely lady xxxxxxxxx I'm virtually holding your other hand.

 

[Asryellah]

Just checking in quickly in my phone, still on vacation but back to
work next week
I only saw 2 last pages, and so sorry to see bfn news
I had a feeling about you Dwirgi, i still hope that'll come
I know those feelings you are having, and theres nothing i
can say to make you feel better. I hope your Doggies will give
You a good walk and you'll feel better hun, hugs!

Hugs to you all lovelies!!!! I've missed you and will check on
you when i get to a computer. I hope you are all good

 

[ksluice]

It is horrible this game, and I'm so sorry Dwrgi. I am glad that you have a husky to pull you on a bike and I hope that diverts and comforts you some. Wish we could be there in person to do the same... and and

 

[Mirium]

Dwrgi - I am so sorry. I am hoping for a silver lining for you - be it a bfp in the future or anything that's joyful to you!!

 

[tigerlily1975]

It's NOT FECKING FAIR, Dwrgi!!

I know exactly where you're coming from. I remember sitting in my office at work one-day, after a few months of trying and thinking "according to the statistics, someone in this office will be infertile". I then sat there counting down who had children, all the men (I worked for a Brokers in the city) were dads and thinking "oh.. it might be us.. but life wouldn't really be that cruel to me, would it?" - I'd lost my mum, my best friend to Cancer 20 months before and had got married a year later without her.. but no, life IS cruel AND sh*tty like that!!

I will NEVER understand that those with so much love to give to a child are the ones who will struggle the most, how some of the biggest scum on this planet can pop out child after child when really they shouldn't be within 2 miles of an infant.

So yes, you have EVERY right to be mad, to scream, to cry, because IT ISN'T FAIR!

We just have to hang on to the hope that this will happen, because you (we all!) deserve this so very much. When I see how awful this World can be, I joke to my husband, "do we really want to bring a child into this World?", he always replies "we are good people and our children will be the ones to make this World a better place". That's how I feel about everyone here and that's why I hope that this does happen for all of us.

All I can do for now is send you a truckload of and lots of love,

C xx