TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[tigerlily1975]

Nessaw

Take it easy, lovely,



C xx

 

[Mirium]

Hello everyone,

Dashka -

Owl - I am so sorry about BFN!! I got a BFN too.

Nessaw - pamper and take care of yourself. Hopefully it'll be over soon!!

 

[dashka]

Mirium - so sorry for your BFN.... take care of yourself lovely

 

[owl35]

lils - I seriously cannot believe what that woman said!!! How ignorant can one be??? My blood pressure went through the roof when I read it! I'm so sorry you had to listen to that. Don't give up! I have a friend who started TTC when she was 39. She had three miscarriages and at age 43 she got her little miracle baby (conceived naturally) who is now 6 months old. There is always hope

dash - Hopping your little ones are snuggling in. How are you feeling?

ness, ladyh - thinking about you. Hang in there

mirium - sorry about it just sucks...

and to pebble, purps, kismet, small, tiger, dwrgi, green, want2 and everybody else I've missed

afm, thanks for the kind words ladies. I've spent my weekend all by myself (hubby was out of town) but it was good. Couch, wine, movies, yoga and I feel much better.

 

[nessaw]

mirium sorry about bfn.x

 

[onmymind17]

Hi ladies,

I just wanted to pop in and say HI, yeah i am still lurking lol, i just cant make myself not keep an eye on you ladies. Padbrat, honey i am so happy for you, Neesaw, my heart goes out to you, i know exactly what your feeling, take care of yourself. To all the ladies that have had bfn's big hugs to you. Dwirgi, honey how are you? I have missed chatting with you ladies, but i am still here watching and rooting for all of you.

 

[chickenchaser]

Hi Ladies, I'm really sorry for the selfish post but need to talk to someone.
I got my blood results back today and as expected the progesterone was low, partly because AF chose to turn up early but also because we expected it. This should have been the last test before we got our FS referral but my GP is now saying she really thinks we should be trying for a year before she does the referral.
I'm so angry, why tell me she would do the referral then not. I argued with her and she then tried to tell me that the local hospital doesn't do the test/treatment I would need when I know they do. She had to go on the internet to check and yes they do....... Anyway she said she would do the referral as soon as DH has had a sperm analysis. There has been no mention of this before He is not happy about this, not because of having to do the sample but because it delays everything again because the next day DH can have of work is a week on Friday and that is only for the GP appointment to get the forms to do the analysis. We were hoping to get to see the specialist before christmas as we were told it was about a 5 week wait but now there is no chance. I'm so upset, I feel really let down.

 

[nessaw]

hey chicken sorry u've had such an awful time with ur doctor.first of all u def shouldn't have to wait for a year before being referred.however when i was referred my gp said that she wd send boyf for sa and me to have variety of swabs done whilst waiting because if they weren't done that is what the fs wd send u for and u'd have to be waiting all over again.pls note that she did these tests whilst we were waiting for the referral.so i think u need to agree to the test as u'll need to have them anyway but demand that she refers u at the same time so that hopefully the results and the fs appt turn up about the same time.also keep chasing about the fs appt to make sure it is done.good luckxx

 

[Dwrgi]

Mirium-very sorry for the BFN. Big

Chicken, oh bless you lovely! That GP needs to be shot; talk about fobbing you off. I DO agree that it IS a good idea for your DH to have a SA done, as it will eliminate one potential cause for why you're not conceiving. HOWEVER, the UK guidelines have always been that if you haven't successfully conceived after 6 months, then you will be referred. The bl&&dy cheek of her. What really annoys me is that she was clearly talking through her bottom, and she is probably responding to NHS cutbacks. But, that is no good for you. I'd ask to see another doctor at the practice, and demand that you are referred. So sorry that you are so upset. Every delay seems like a lifetime away, but I can tell you, that this is par for the course (unless you go private, of course, and not many can afford to do that ). Big

OMM-hello, lovely! I was thinking of you the other day. How are you? How's your lovely DH? And recent camping out escapades?? Really lovely to read your post and HUGE to you! Axxx

Owl-

Ness- Been thinking about you loads, Axxx

 

[nessaw]

hey dwrgi am ok thanks.think that the worse was over sat eve as feel.ok today.have weaned myself off the drugs!have discovered that by spending the last few days concentrating on completing the miscarriage now its mainly over have been having a few tears today.despite wanting to get back to normal am getting upset thinking about seeing people at school.i also have my brothers 40th party this wkend and will be seeing some family for the first time.not realky looking forward to it as plan was to be driving to it in a pregnant fashion.i guess these things r going to pop up and upset me over the next few weeks/months.x

 

[Dwrgi]

hey dwrgi am ok thanks.think that the worse was over sat eve as feel.ok today.have weaned myself off the drugs!have discovered that by spending the last few days concentrating on completing the miscarriage now its mainly over have been having a few tears today.despite wanting to get back to normal am getting upset thinking about seeing people at school.i also have my brothers 40th party this wkend and will be seeing some family for the first time.not realky looking forward to it as plan was to be driving to it in a pregnant fashion.i guess these things r going to pop up and upset me over the next few weeks/months.x

Oh Ness, I sooo know how you feel. It is the pits. Actually having the miscarriage has now made it more final, I'm sure, and your emotions are going to be all over the place. You will feel like this for a little while, and then the most random things will catch you off guard. It's easy to say to be strong, but f**k it, it's far better to grieve how and when you need to. I'd defo take this week off work too, as you just need time to adjust, and get your head around what has happened.

And such typically bad timing with your brother's birthday coming up. It's always the way, isn't it? But, you never know, it might distract you, give you something else to think about? IDK, your call lovely. If you don't feel like it, perhaps you can just make your excuses.

But, remember, you have now shown that you CAN get pregnant naturally, so don't give up hope, and there's nothing to say why you can't get pregnant again.

I'm thinking of you and sending big

 

[onmymind17]

Mirium-very sorry for the BFN. Big

Chicken, oh bless you lovely! That GP needs to be shot; talk about fobbing you off. I DO agree that it IS a good idea for your DH to have a SA done, as it will eliminate one potential cause for why you're not conceiving. HOWEVER, the UK guidelines have always been that if you haven't successfully conceived after 6 months, then you will be referred. The bl&&dy cheek of her. What really annoys me is that she was clearly talking through her bottom, and she is probably responding to NHS cutbacks. But, that is no good for you. I'd ask to see another doctor at the practice, and demand that you are referred. So sorry that you are so upset. Every delay seems like a lifetime away, but I can tell you, that this is par for the course (unless you go private, of course, and not many can afford to do that ). Big

OMM-hello, lovely! I was thinking of you the other day. How are you? How's your lovely DH? And recent camping out escapades?? Really lovely to read your post and HUGE to you! Axxx

Owl-

Ness- Been thinking about you loads, Axxx

Awww how sweet of you to think of me, i am well, i had a very weird cycle, in that its the first time since i started AF so 32 years that she did not show, bfn on the tests, so the only thing i can think of is either its the start of menopause, or i was sick and the antibiotics i took right when i was ovulating maybe stopped it, very weird to not have af lol. Nope no camping escapades lol, its cold here, well it was 70 degrees yesterday and now today 28 degrees with a 17 degree wind chill. No now i have to wait until spring. How are you honey? I keep thinking about you, and have been watching your posts.

 

[tigerlily1975]

OMM! How are you, lovely lady?

Chicken Sorry to hear your GP is being uncooperative. As Dwrgi and Nessaw have both said the guidelines definitely state once you're over 35 you only have to have been trying 6 months. I also think it's normal for the GP to run tests before referring, we certainly had to - that's how they picked up on DH's Azoospermia. Once we were referred, we had an appointment within weeks and it also meant that a lot my blood work didn't need to be requested by the hospital (phew!). Believe me, I completely understand the frustration of waiting, it's all we seem to do with due in our situation! Good luck!

Big to all,

C xx

 

[onmymind17]

OMM! How are you, lovely lady?

Chicken Sorry to hear your GP is being uncooperative. As Dwrgi and Nessaw have both said the guidelines definitely state once you're over 35 you only have to have been trying 6 months. I also think it's normal for the GP to run tests before referring, we certainly had to - that's how they picked up on DH's Azoospermia. Once we were referred, we had an appointment within weeks and it also meant that a lot my blood work didn't need to be requested by the hospital (phew!). Believe me, I completely understand the frustration of waiting, it's all we seem to do with due in our situation! Good luck!

Big to all,

C xx

Hey honey!!! I am good, i am actually enjoying my life, and am looking forward to traveling, DH and I have a three year plan to pay off some bills, and buy a travel trailer, whoo hoo, no more tenting for us after we get it. Looking forward to having a potty right there lol. I just told Dwrgi that this was the first cycle in 32 years that af never showed, so it was either the antibiotics and being sick, or menopause is starting, either way i am good. How have you been? I do miss talking to you ladies, it took me quite a while to be comfortable with not getting caught up in the TTC stuff again, but now i am good, at 45 i am ready for life to begin again lol.

 

[tigerlily1975]

Hey honey!!! I am good, i am actually enjoying my life, and am looking forward to traveling, DH and I have a three year plan to pay off some bills, and buy a travel trailer, whoo hoo, no more tenting for us after we get it. Looking forward to having a potty right there lol. I just told Dwrgi that this was the first cycle in 32 years that af never showed, so it was either the antibiotics and being sick, or menopause is starting, either way i am good. How have you been? I do miss talking to you ladies, it took me quite a while to be comfortable with not getting caught up in the TTC stuff again, but now i am good, at 45 i am ready for life to begin again lol.

It's really good to hear from you!
Ooh, travelling sounds great! Ah, I can't believe you're saying goodbye to the tents Aside from losing my dad unexpectedly this year, we're ticking along, just hoping we'll be able to try IVF again next year. I'm sure af was affected by the illness, I've most certainly had that before. Stepping away from all this is probably the hardest thing to do, even just making the decision to do so requires a lot of courage, you're an amazing woman, I hope you know that!

Please stay in touch and let us know about your travels.. make us all very jealous!

Big

C xx

 

[dashka]

Owl – sorry you were all alone this weekend –but it sounds like you took good care of yourself – Bravo hun!

OnMyMind – hello!! Thanks for checking on us …. Sounds like you are enjoying life…. Good for you!

Chicken – so sorry hun about the crazy waiting and stupidity of the system!! … Yes demand that you get referred !! It will all work out – seems so overwhelming at first but just take it one step at a time

Ness – am thinking about you and wish we could give you a real hug….. So hard to face everyone the first time for sure – but hopefully there will be more support? Had you told all your family and friends yet? Must be so friggin' hard....

Lils – sorry hun – I noticed AF got you….. hope you are ok and the cramping is not too bad… Be good to yourself hun...

AFM – went to acupuncture today on my lunch and it was great – just what I needed as the hormones were really wreaking havoc on me and my emotional state. I feel a bit more balanced now…but still holding out to Saturday to test (I know I’m weird to wait that long –but heaven help me I need DH there when I do it and it has to be FMU) Sunday is blood test. Progesterone is a wicked thing

 

[nessaw]

I got my boyf to tell mum and dad and work and my mum told my bros.am still emotional about talking about it to amyone other than mum and boyf.x

 

[dashka]

I got my boyf to tell mum and dad and work and my mum told my bros.am still emotional about talking about it to amyone other than mum and boyf.x

for sure I'd be a mess too...... Big hugs to you hun

 

[onmymind17]

I got my boyf to tell mum and dad and work and my mum told my bros.am still emotional about talking about it to amyone other than mum and boyf.x

Having been through 6 m/c i know exactly what your feeling. It will get easier with time, make sure you take time for yourself, and dont be afraid to grieve, i tried to just ignore one of them, it did not work, and weeks later i had a total melt down. I wish i could help all you ladies, so that nobody would have to go through this.

 

[onmymind17]

Hey honey!!! I am good, i am actually enjoying my life, and am looking forward to traveling, DH and I have a three year plan to pay off some bills, and buy a travel trailer, whoo hoo, no more tenting for us after we get it. Looking forward to having a potty right there lol. I just told Dwrgi that this was the first cycle in 32 years that af never showed, so it was either the antibiotics and being sick, or menopause is starting, either way i am good. How have you been? I do miss talking to you ladies, it took me quite a while to be comfortable with not getting caught up in the TTC stuff again, but now i am good, at 45 i am ready for life to begin again lol.

It's really good to hear from you!
Ooh, travelling sounds great! Ah, I can't believe you're saying goodbye to the tents Aside from losing my dad unexpectedly this year, we're ticking along, just hoping we'll be able to try IVF again next year. I'm sure af was affected by the illness, I've most certainly had that before. Stepping away from all this is probably the hardest thing to do, even just making the decision to do so requires a lot of courage, you're an amazing woman, I hope you know that!

Please stay in touch and let us know about your travels.. make us all very jealous!

Big

C xx

LOL, well we keep running into either really cold or really hot weather, with a camper we will have heat and a/c lol. We will still have tent adventures for the next 3 years though lol. I am so sorry about your dad, i saw the post, its so hard to deal with that, i am sending you big hugs . I will of course be keeping an eye on your IVF journey, and crossing everything i can for you. You know its funny, stepping away from all this was very hard, but i have realized that there is joy in life and i am sad that i wasted 4 years not living for anything besides trying to have a child. There are still times that i get sad that i will never have a child of my own, but i am ok, at 45 its just gotten to the point that i needed to let it go, i am so much more relaxed and happy now, and yes traveling will be so much fun, now if i can just make it through the winter lol.