TTC#2 for the 4th month

[athena87]

Oh and he's going golfing with them in the morning too.

 

[Misscalais]

Thanks cjgirl.
Athena I'd be kicking his butt if that was my hubby lol I'd be upset too.

 

[athena87]

Oh I gave him a piece of my mind and told him he owed me a date night

 

[nlb]

Dragonfly I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I will keep u and you family I'm my prayer

 

[CJGirl]

athena, you mean to tell me that him saying don't be mad, magically didn't make you not mad at all? lol He definitely owes you a date night!

 

[Misscalais]

Bfn again for me on a 10miu test I'm more upset than I thought I'd be because i thought we did pretty good this month. So no more trying for us for the next few mths and I'm thinking of getting some tests done in the mean time. I know I've been saying it for ages but I'm so nervous, what happens if there is something wrong? I've always said I won't do fertility treatment so it scares me to death to think that ill possibly never have my rainbow baby

 

[CJGirl]

Bfn again for me on a 10miu test I'm more upset than I thought I'd be because i thought we did pretty good this month. So no more trying for us for the next few mths and I'm thinking of getting some tests done in the mean time. I know I've been saying it for ages but I'm so nervous, what happens if there is something wrong? I've always said I won't do fertility treatment so it scares me to death to think that ill possibly never have my rainbow baby

I'm so sorry Misscalais I am always afraid of tests too, because what if the outcome is bad...but what if it isn't? Or what if it is something that is an easy fix? I will be praying for you and of course really hope that nothing is wrong and you get a BFP! And if it makes you feel any better...I got a BFN on a 10miu test the day before my BFP on a FRER. I don't know if that is helpful considered what happened after the BFP, but I have found all these HPTs to be inconsistent and not always very reliable.

 

[Misscalais]

Thanks Hun
It's a scary thought but its been 12 mths now and it's just insane so surely there has to be something going on. I'm wondering if its just my weight maybe. When I fell pregnant with Seth I was 55-60kg ( underweight for my height ) and with Eli I was around 70kg I'm now pushing 85kg so very over weight, not obese but quite overweight for my height. I've quit drinking, haven't had one in almost 3 weeks hoping that helps with the weight loss as I was drinking quite a lot at one point. Just need to push myself to get on the treadmill
Either way I guess I really do need to know what's going on with me it's driving me nuts every month.

 

[CJGirl]

I don't like to use my BFP as an example at all, but I think losing weight helped me. Not only maybe get a BFP, but it was a great distraction. I was so busy losing weight I didn't think as much about TTC. I have put some back on not being allowed to go to boot camp and therefore eating whatever I want lol It's funny how since I can't workout I figure it doesn't matter what I eat ! It should be the other way around lol I will be glad when I can go back in a couple of weeks. Maybe I can lose even more.

This may sound awful, but I am kind of stressing about the adoption. On Tuesday we have an appt with the lawyer to find out if we are even able to adopt Travis. We are afraid that the current paperwork may only let DH's mother be the one to adopt him or we may not qualify in some manner. But then I am thinking about the sudden cost. We were planning on a baby before of course, but things have changed and I started working knowing I would have time to prepare and DH would have graduated already when the baby came and now we would need so many things and childcare and it is all so overwhelming. I feel horrible worrying so, when this is what I have wanted so badly, but it is kind of scary. Guess I had better make it through the appt with the attorney before I worry too much. I think the medical bills that keep pouring in are making me worry about finances way too much. Sorry, I just needed to get all that out.

 

[dragonfly26]

Athena, hope your dh treats you to a nice date night after that behavior!
Misscalais, maybe it was just to early for a bfp. I think you should look into having some tests done, don't be scared, they will be able to get you some answers hopefully. And since you did have two prior bfps, you know you gan get preggers. Have you had your progesterone tested?
Cjgirl, I think is only natural to have those fears. Like you said usually your have 9 months to build up to the reality of having a child, but it will all work out. And as far as medical bills go, payment plan. Hospitals and doctors are usually really good about that.

 

[dragonfly26]

Dh and I went up north to Wisconsin to a sporting food store and ended up right where they do the ultrasounds so I habe them a call and they had an appointment available so we went and had a 3d one done. Here's Jaynie 34 weeks:

 

[CJGirl]

Dh and I went up north to Wisconsin to a sporting food store and ended up right where they do the ultrasounds so I habe them a call and they had an appointment available so we went and had a 3d one done. Here's Jaynie 34 weeks:

That's awesome dragonfly! It's almost time. I bet you are so excited!

 

[Misscalais]

Thanks cjgirl.
Awww, it's a natural reaction to have worries about something so huge, and I guess the thought of maybe not even being able to get him at all might dampen the thought of being happy or
excited because it might end in heart break if you didn't end up with him after all.
It's a huge, huge thing to deal with.

 

[Misscalais]

Athena, hope your dh treats you to a nice date night after that behavior!
Misscalais, maybe it was just to early for a bfp. I think you should look into having some tests done, don't be scared, they will be able to get you some answers hopefully. And since you did have two prior bfps, you know you gan get preggers. Have you had your progesterone tested?
Cjgirl, I think is only natural to have those fears. Like you said usually your have 9 months to build up to the reality of having a child, but it will all work out. And as far as medical bills go, payment plan. Hospitals and doctors are usually really good about that.

Yeah it could be too early I guess I just hate the waiting game lol
No I haven't had my progesterone or anything checked. I'm still needing to get a pap done so ill go from there I guess see if my Dr will either run some basic tests for me or refer me to a specialist.

 

[Misscalais]

Dh and I went up north to Wisconsin to a sporting food store and ended up right where they do the ultrasounds so I habe them a call and they had an appointment available so we went and had a 3d one done. Here's Jaynie 34 weeks:

Aww sooo cute! Not long to go now so exciting.

 

[CJGirl]

We go to the appointment with the lawyer this afternoon! I will let y'all know what we find out!

 

[dragonfly26]

Good luck! Hope it's all good news! I'll be waiting for an update

 

[nlb]

Good luck will be preying for ya

 

[CJGirl]

So the meeting went well. We did find out that there was actually no legal agreements made thus far. CPS put out a protective order most likely, called a safety plan, which means that only Travis' mother can not have custody of him at this point. This means that we can have him now. In 6 months we can either go forward to gain legal custody or adopt him. The lawyer said it is best for him to be with us now because the judge will be more likely to grant custody to someone who has already been caring for him for the 6 month waiting period. Jesse's (DH) mother was not adopting him at this point, she was only applying for legal custody. I had a feeling that this was what was happening and she didn't fully understand. Travis' mother can contest the custody or adoption, but we have to find her first. If we try and can't find her, we have to pay for a lawyer to represent her in her absence. We are happy, but overwhelmed. Jesse feels like he is taking Travis away from his mom and it is hard for him. Travis always wants to be with her. We are going to ease into it and take him tomorrow for a while and just go back and forth for a bit. DD is surprisingly super excited about all of it and is ready and willing to share her space. I am so proud of her. Guess I had better get to baby proofing! I have such a crazy mix of emotions right now!

 

[dragonfly26]

I am so happy to hear everything went well. I can only imagine how overwhelming it must all be. Is is so wonderful you guys are able to welcome him into you home and provide him with a stable environment (although I know you said your mil has been) I'm sure he will be one happy little man being with you guys!