Welcome to the 'Two Week Wait'

[sarah_anne]

Im on CD8 at the min, when does everyone think it would be best to start babymaking? I thought about every other day from cd5 but i don't want to over do it and use all the spermies up TMI hee hee

One thing I learned - DON'T mention anything about ovulating. Puts my hubby right off, lol.

I usually ovulate around day 16, so I don't start really trying to get DH into bed until about CD10.

 

[sarah_anne]

Just got back from having blood work done. I had a resident doctor and she was not at all educated on anything to do with pregnancy. It was almost comical.

They only had to take 4 viles of blood instead of 6, so that made me happy. I got a positive on the urine test, but it still wasn't as dark as the ones I got at home. My doctor has the CRAPPIEST tests ever. Their urine tests never even detected my last pregnancy.

I had to pull teeth to get an early scan. The resident told me that in Canada they only offer ONE ultrasound at 18 WEEKS! What???? How did my sister have 3 or 4 then? They ended up giving me a scan in two weeks for dating as my last cycle ended in a miscarriage. I also have to go for my first prenatal visit next week and get a pap. I hate paps. Blah!

Sarah, you should double check that they want to be doing a PAP while you're pregnant...? I had the understanding that they should leave the cervix alone, especially if you have miscarried. I could be wrong, so don't take my word for it... it's just with paps, they scrape/bother the cervix, and I didn't think it was the right thing to do during pregnancy... ?

I'm happy you're getting a dating scan in two weeks! You must feel more at ease.

I was always told that you had to have a pap at your first prenatal visit. She said that they'll need to do a few swabs for tests.

I found this on the bump - https://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/is-it-safe/qa/is-a-pap-smear-safe-when-pregnant.aspx

I feel a bit more at ease, but I get worried every time I have a cramp. It's crazy. I know cramping is normal at this point in my pregnancy, but it worries me.

Okay nevermind! Sorry, it just seemed off to me, but I suppose it's all in line I think it makes a lot of sense that you'll feel more at ease once you get passed the time you miscarried, you'll feel that this one is really sticky and will be healthy until the end

I thought so at first and then read that it was routine to check for things like cervical cancer, HPV, etc. Makes sense that they need to know. I haven't had a pap since I went off birth control in September 2010 though, so I'm WAY overdue for one anyway.

I already feel different this time around. The last time I had really bad cramping at 4 weeks, 5 days and I've only been having very mild cramping this time around. I'm still getting twinges, but it's nothing like what it was before.

I'm trying to decide when to tell my family. I'm definitely waiting until after the scan, but should I then tell them? I'm not telling my work until I'm showing. I don't care if that means I'm 20 weeks or not. I wish I could wait to tell my work until I'm 24 weeks (viability).

 

[gemmy]

Laura - I'm in Milton Keynes - Bucks.

I have the same question for Sarah - what is a pap? Thought it was just me lol. Must be something they don't do here. Can't remember anything internal until labour but that may just be my memory. Yes I only had one scan at 12 weeks and one at 20. That was it.

 

[gemmy]

oh like a smear test over here?? i was due one (every 3 years) but because I was pregnant they didn't do it until 6 months after giving birth! Must be different here!

 

[gemmy]

Just got back from having blood work done. I had a resident doctor and she was not at all educated on anything to do with pregnancy. It was almost comical.

They only had to take 4 viles of blood instead of 6, so that made me happy. I got a positive on the urine test, but it still wasn't as dark as the ones I got at home. My doctor has the CRAPPIEST tests ever. Their urine tests never even detected my last pregnancy.

I had to pull teeth to get an early scan. The resident told me that in Canada they only offer ONE ultrasound at 18 WEEKS! What???? How did my sister have 3 or 4 then? They ended up giving me a scan in two weeks for dating as my last cycle ended in a miscarriage. I also have to go for my first prenatal visit next week and get a pap. I hate paps. Blah!

Sarah, you should double check that they want to be doing a PAP while you're pregnant...? I had the understanding that they should leave the cervix alone, especially if you have miscarried. I could be wrong, so don't take my word for it... it's just with paps, they scrape/bother the cervix, and I didn't think it was the right thing to do during pregnancy... ?

I'm happy you're getting a dating scan in two weeks! You must feel more at ease.

I was always told that you had to have a pap at your first prenatal visit. She said that they'll need to do a few swabs for tests.

I found this on the bump - https://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/is-it-safe/qa/is-a-pap-smear-safe-when-pregnant.aspx

I feel a bit more at ease, but I get worried every time I have a cramp. It's crazy. I know cramping is normal at this point in my pregnancy, but it worries me.

Okay nevermind! Sorry, it just seemed off to me, but I suppose it's all in line I think it makes a lot of sense that you'll feel more at ease once you get passed the time you miscarried, you'll feel that this one is really sticky and will be healthy until the end

I thought so at first and then read that it was routine to check for things like cervical cancer, HPV, etc. Makes sense that they need to know. I haven't had a pap since I went off birth control in September 2010 though, so I'm WAY overdue for one anyway.

I already feel different this time around. The last time I had really bad cramping at 4 weeks, 5 days and I've only been having very mild cramping this time around. I'm still getting twinges, but it's nothing like what it was before.

I'm trying to decide when to tell my family. I'm definitely waiting until after the scan, but should I then tell them? I'm not telling my work until I'm showing. I don't care if that means I'm 20 weeks or not. I wish I could wait to tell my work until I'm 24 weeks (viability).

Did you ever tell them about the m/c? I know you were going to wait until your mum got back from her holiday, but not sure if you told her?

 

[sarah_anne]

oh like a smear test over here?? i was due one (every 3 years) but because I was pregnant they didn't do it under 6 months after giving birth!

Really? Yes, it's called a pap smear here. We have to get them here every year, but I haven't had one since September 2010 as I went off birth control and the doctor said I was fine as I had no history of any cancers and I'm so young.

I'll make sure that it's a necessary thing before I let them do anything, but I've read that it's pretty much the norm here for your first prenatal visit.

 

[eoinandconor]

oh like a smear test over here?? i was due one (every 3 years) but because I was pregnant they didn't do it under 6 months after giving birth!

Really? Yes, it's called a pap smear here. We have to get them here every year, but I haven't had one since September 2010 as I went off birth control and the doctor said I was fine as I had no history of any cancers and I'm so young.

I'll make sure that it's a necessary thing before I let them do anything, but I've read that it's pretty much the norm here for your first prenatal visit.

Ohh a smear test i get it now too , same as you Gemmy i didn't have one until 6 months after my first Son was born and every 3 years after. and i never had an internal examination until just before Labour ,(hate that word Labour) ouch

I know milton keynes , well i've heard of it I used to live in Berkshire south east England you know it?

have you just got the one little man Gemmy?

so Sarah names which ones are you thinking on?

I could not sleep last night because of the wind and i was lying there thinking about baby names, Martha, Iris, Maggie, Erin, Edith , Lucy , Molly is my favourite, Boys are sooo hard to pick!! my hubby picked our second sns name i just couldnt think of one

 

[eoinandconor]

anyone else on cd8 ?

 

[sarah_anne]

Gemmy - I did tell my parents about my miscarriage shortly after they got back from their trip. I told both of my sisters later on when they were discussing bridesmaid dresses. They kept going on and on about how I was making them wait to order the dresses because we were TTC and that they weren't even sure I could get pregnant. So I just kind of blurted it out that I knew I could get pregnant because I had just lost the baby. That sure shut them up.

Laura - I've come up with a few names. For a girl, we're looking at Olivia, Claire, Anna, Hannah, Ellie, and Sophia. For a boy, we're looking at Robert, Jacob, Peter, and Henry. I feel like it's a girl, but my husband feels like it's a boy. I guess we'll know in about 13 weeks!

 

[dashka]

Well ladies - I am out this month.... got AF 2 days ago... Took it a little harder this month as I really thought it might be the one.... oh well...
Seems I have missed so much in these last few days!

Since we are all sharing - My name is Maria and I live in Toronto, Ontario... We have been trying for almost 10 years for a biological child... In 2007 we decided that we couldn't wait anymore and went through the international adoption process - and 2.5 yrs later we adopted our daughter in Jan.2010. She is almost 3 now and although I love her more than anything, I am still longing to have a biological child and of course give her a sibling.

Recently I found out that my sister (who has also had many problems conceiving, had something where her body's immune system was rejecting the embryo (killer T cells or something) and she also has the clotting factor problem (where implantation doesn't happen because of a clotting factor in your blood)- you know the reason some people take baby aspirin ....
So you can get pregnant but your body can reject before you even now you are pregnant. Well - although it hasn't been confirmed for me - I am starting to think these may be my issues too (can be genetic)... I have gone through so much in the last 10 years and they haven't been able to tell me why I can't get pregnant... so if I really want to find out I will have to pay $3000 to get special tests done at the Dr.Beer's centre in the US.... (can do via courier and with the help of a fertility specialist here).
I don't know if I want to go ahead with this - since it's not really worth doing if you aren't willing to go ahead with IVF and take tons and tons of meds... I am very into holistic medicine so that's the reason. My sister has two children now from IVM (a form of IVF - but she had to try many many many times and take tons of meds)
So that's my story!

Good luck ladies to you this month - Keri and Wendy!

 

[eoinandconor]

Gemmy - I did tell my parents about my miscarriage shortly after they got back from their trip. I told both of my sisters later on when they were discussing bridesmaid dresses. They kept going on and on about how I was making them wait to order the dresses because we were TTC and that they weren't even sure I could get pregnant. So I just kind of blurted it out that I knew I could get pregnant because I had just lost the baby. That sure shut them up.

Laura - I've come up with a few names. For a girl, we're looking at Olivia, Claire, Anna, Hannah, Ellie, and Sophia. For a boy, we're looking at Robert, Jacob, Peter, and Henry. I feel like it's a girl, but my husband feels like it's a boy. I guess we'll know in about 13 weeks!

Oh i love your names so cute , i like Jacob for a boy but hubby doesnt.. Peter is so cute !! i like Tom or Darragh for a boy too

 

[Posey]

I love all the names you ladies are throwing around, some more than others, but I love that they're simple, classic, not spelled you-neek-ly (get it? hehe).

Feeling discouraged today, my bbs feel totally normal, damnit. Lol. I like it when they ache, because it's not 'normal' for me every month and it makes me feel like something may be brewing... I'm about 12dpo now, and feel totally normal. Darn it darn it darn it. I know I'm not out until AF shows, but I wish I felt nauseous or... something!

 

[sarah_anne]

Oh Dashka! Your story broke my heart! I can't imagine trying for ten years with no success. You poor thing!

It's possible that you have the same problems as your sister. I met someone on another forum who has high NK cells and that's why she was losing chromosomally normal babies. She just had her 4th miscarriage in a year. Her problem isn't with the baby attaching, but with keeping it.

Keep your chin up. God works in mysterious ways and I think that he'll eventually give you your own little one.

We live less than 3 hours apart! I've never even seen anyone from here from Ontario, let alone close to me! That's awesome!

Congrats on your little girl. She sounds like a sweetie pie!

 

[sarah_anne]

Laura - I love Peter too, but my sister scoffed at it last time I told her! My hubby likes it too, so we'll see. I wanted Robert after my grandfather, but my DH doesn't like it because he'll be called Robbie, Rob, or Bob, and probably not Robert.

Posey - Keep your chin up sweets! I thought I was out this month too.

 

[sarah_anne]

Anyone know how to post your babynames account so others can view and vote?

 

[sarah_anne]

Here we go! Cast your votes ladies!

https://www.babynames.com/namelist/9809116

 

[gemmy]

oh like a smear test over here?? i was due one (every 3 years) but because I was pregnant they didn't do it under 6 months after giving birth!

Really? Yes, it's called a pap smear here. We have to get them here every year, but I haven't had one since September 2010 as I went off birth control and the doctor said I was fine as I had no history of any cancers and I'm so young.

I'll make sure that it's a necessary thing before I let them do anything, but I've read that it's pretty much the norm here for your first prenatal visit.

Yes I am sure it's a regular thing they do over there and they know what they are doing. I bet over here they just don't like getting their hands dirty plus we don't pay for health care.

 

[sarah_anne]

oh like a smear test over here?? i was due one (every 3 years) but because I was pregnant they didn't do it under 6 months after giving birth!

Really? Yes, it's called a pap smear here. We have to get them here every year, but I haven't had one since September 2010 as I went off birth control and the doctor said I was fine as I had no history of any cancers and I'm so young.

I'll make sure that it's a necessary thing before I let them do anything, but I've read that it's pretty much the norm here for your first prenatal visit.

Yes I am sure it's a regular thing they do over there and they know what they are doing. I bet over here they just don't like getting their hands dirty plus we don't pay for health care.

We don't pay for health care here either. Ours is just a routine check every year. You HAVE to have one done in order to get a renewal on birth control pills.

 

[DBZ34]

I'm back!

I missed you ladies and so much has gone on since I was gone. One day and there's so many pages to catch up on! (I love one born every minute, btw. I thought Kurt was kind of hilarious with his flipping out and wanting to go to the pub. I got where he was coming from, but I wouldn't want him in the delivery room with me either, he was waaay too excitable. Can't wait for next week. I'm very interested in water birth.)

This AF has been bizarre. I decided to take a break from temping because I was so annoyed about my last cycle, but then realized that I was warm again and figured I should keep track. My temps are much higher than usual for AF...my coverline is going to be so high this month. I suppose it doesn't matter until next month though, since DH is missing the fertile bits of the month anyway. This month I really will figure out what symptoms usually happen every month, since there is no way I'm going to get pg this cycle. That way if they happen next month, I can ignore them. But AF is already on her way out. I didn't want her sticking around, so I'm glad she's going.

Cmon January....fly by please! Also, I second whoever said that they want to see u/s pics. I wanna see too! Show us the beanie!

 

[dashka]

Oh Dashka! Your story broke my heart! I can't imagine trying for ten years with no success. You poor thing!

It's possible that you have the same problems as your sister. I met someone on another forum who has high NK cells and that's why she was losing chromosomally normal babies. She just had her 4th miscarriage in a year. Her problem isn't with the baby attaching, but with keeping it.

Keep your chin up. God works in mysterious ways and I think that he'll eventually give you your own little one.

We live less than 3 hours apart! I've never even seen anyone from here from Ontario, let alone close to me! That's awesome!

Congrats on your little girl. She sounds like a sweetie pie!

Thanks Sarah.... I appreciate it...I really hope it happens one day too but I'm turning 40 this year.... Think I'm finally going to start focusing on what I really want to do (career wise) as I've put that off too long in the hopes that I would get pregnant. I do feel very blessed though to have had the opportunity to adopt our daughter... I love her just as much as I would a birth child.
My sister and I have both never had any miscarriages...just getting pregnant long enough to find out you are.. My mom was much younger when she had us (22 and 27) but then she had 2 miscarriages afterwards... I started trying when I was almost 30.

Yes we do live very close!!! all the best for a h&h 9 months!