WTT for #1 thread

[thexfadingpat]

*waves*

I've been creeping on bnb for a while now but am newer to posting.

I'm Britney, 22, and my FI Mark is 24.
We've been together for 7 years, living together for 3 years, and will be getting married this September. Less then 8 months to go!
I have always wanted to have kids at a younger age and I think my FI is starting to get "baby fever" now as well. We'd both love to TTC right away, but have decided that we will be waiting until after our wedding so that we can have an awesome day without me having to worry about possible morning sickness/tiredness/a baby bump, etc.
So we are WTT until our honeymoon, which will be in October.

 

[xstitcher87]

Hi everyone!

I am new so here goes!

I am 27 years old, and have been with my husband for nearly 10 years (married for nearly a year) and we have decided that we will TTC in August 2016! This year would have been our year but my hubby has just changed careers and I have had some medical issues...see below *warning tmi*



So, late 2014 I had a period that didn't seem to end (despite me taking my BC pills). I went to my dr and she did blood tests and a pelvic ultrasound and more blood tests. After a month of testing etc, it was discovered I have uterine polyps (they think) and I have been referred to a specialist gynecologist/obstetrician for a hysteroscopy and a possible d&c....still waiting for an appointment in the meantime I'm scared that the specialist will find something horrible and I won't be able to conceive at all! Although, these fears are enhanced by the progesterone I'm taking to make the bleeding stop

Any tips on how you ladies handle the wait? I would LOVE to start trying now, but logic dictates that we wait just a little bit longer.

 

[IchigoMewMew]

Hi xstitcher87, hope everything works out OK for you. Not sure I have any tips as such for handling the wait, the previous 3 years was knowing that I'd have to drop out of my degree/job if I fell pregnant. Now its not wanting to be heaving my way through my half hour 30 question final exam or driving round Australia in may to visit family with sickness (unfortunately hubby cant drive!)

 

[xstitcher87]

Thanks, IchigoMewMew I have created a 40 before 30 list which has a lot of goals on it and I want to complete as many of them before we TTC as possible. That is helping somewhat, but I guess I'm not as patient as I thought!! My husband would be happy to start trying late this year, but as we're looking to travel and buy a house, next year is more appropriate.

Have any of you started a little collection of baby things? I'm in two minds about it, I would love to start getting stuff on sale etc but if we took awhile to conceive, the stuff might be painful to have around (plus we don't have a great deal of storage space in our current place). I was thinking of starting a little bank account instead, I could send $10 a pay or something to the account as 'baby savings'....

can you tell I'm an obsessive planner? lol

 

[IchigoMewMew]

I have a cou ple of bits that have been bought as presents but I've not seen anything that I feel I absolutely have to buy now in case it doesn't exist when the time comes! Now we are closer to our ttc date I may start looking a bit more. We also have issues with storage, definitely need to find somewhere bigger only have one bedroom!

 

[Sakura15]

Hi all, I'm new to the forum - and to forums in general - so please forgive me while I learn the lingo and protocol.

I am 28 & SO is 36. We have been together for 4 years, living together for 3 - the last year and a half of it in China. We moved here for my job - teaching in an International school. I've been going through cycles of aching to be a mom for ages, and got pregnant unexpectedly last year but we lost our little bean early on. It was really tough for me, but we grew a lot through that experience and started preparing things so we'd be ready to TTC this year, so we are planning for August.

I'm really excited already, just knowing that we have a time frame. It's hard to contain myself and not talk to friends about it but having been through a loss I really don't want to set myself up for discussing any difficulties with friends and family if it takes us a while or if we have another loss. I am hoping this forum can be my outlet in the meantime .

 

[chocolatechip]

I'm pretty new to this site and just wanted to introduce myself.

DH and I are both 29 this year - we've been together 6 years and married 6 months. We're planning on waiting quite a while to TTC (2017) for various reasons, with the biggest one being that I'd like to finish my masters program first. We are both established in our careers and own our own home, but we'd also like to do a bit more traveling before having a child. It's nice to see so many people in similar situations.

 

[Emmymommy]

Hello everyone!

I've been reading forums for months now and I've been on here for almost a month, so I figured it's time to introduce myself.

I live in Canada, I'm 24 and my OH is 28. We've been married for 3.5 years and together for 7. I'm an Early Childhood Educator and have been working my dream job (next best thing to being a SAHM) as a nanny to two beautiful girls - 4.5 and 2.5 years old, for the last 4 years. I've always wanted to be a young mom, and already I feel like I've waited longer than I wanted to! However I wanted to time our TTC with my job tapering down (I selfishly couldn't imagine leaving the girls to start over with a new nanny!), travel, and save up $$. Thankfully we've accomplished these goals, with the bonus of my OH landing a great new job that should afford is the privilege of me being a SAHM without too much strain on our finances. Next cycle we start trying!!

I originally came onto these forums for help figuring out when I ovulate, and finally joined for a place to share my experiences with women who understand. My OH has always had things come very easily to him, so he doesn't understand my efforts in making sure everything is working and being vigilant about preparing our bodies to bring a LO into the world! Friends either aren't in the same position and mindset or aren't sharing. When I first started getting into tracking everything, I brought my OH into the discussion for things that would affect him (the beeping of my BBT thermometer, and requesting he stop drinking) and it turned into a fight of me being OTT and worrying too much. Since then he has turned around a bit after seeing how that hurt me and how I'm just trying to prepare now so when it's time to TTC I'll be more relaxed knowing everything is working. I know I have the potential to be controlling and that I could potentially make TTC a chore, so hopefully being on here will give me a better outlet for my constant baby dreaming!

Anyways, my job will go down to only a few hours a day in September, so I hope we conceive quickly so I won't have to search for a new job! I'd love to chat with anyone who is in a similar situation or who needs a listening ear!

 

[prettydashika]

Hi everyone. My name is Raynese. I am 25 and my bf is 29. My bf and I have been together for 5 years in june. I live in Washington DC. We are WTT until 2016. I would like to be closer to finishing college, some debts paid off, money saved, travel some more and to lose some weight. My bf just bought a lovely house in MD this past July and I will be moving in around the end of this year/early next yr. I thought that I would've have had kids by now but I'm so glad we waited and are still waiting another year because so much has been accomplished during our relationship that makes us better prepared for a baby. I have always wanted kids and we plan to have 3 total. I am SO ecstatic about TTC next year and I want to learn as much as possible by then. I would like to starts Ovulation kits in a few months just to have that extra advantage of knowing when I will ovulate. I'm so excited to have a little one and my own little family one day!

 

[prettydashika]

Hi everyone. My name is Raynese. I am 25 and my bf is 29. My bf and I have been together for 5 years in june. I live in Washington DC. We are WTT until 2016. I would like to be closer to finishing college, some debts paid off, money saved, travel some more and to lose some weight. My bf just bought a lovely house in MD this past July and I will be moving in around the end of this year/early next yr. I thought that I would've have had kids by now but I'm so glad we waited and are still waiting another year because so much has been accomplished during our relationship that makes us better prepared for a baby. I have always wanted kids and we plan to have 3 total. I am SO ecstatic about TTC next year and I want to learn as much as possible by then. I would like to starts Ovulation kits in a few months just to have that extra advantage of knowing when I will ovulate. I'm so excited to have a little one and my own little family one day!

Forgot to mention, I work at a law firm and have been working there for 3 months and I love my job and it's in the field that I am studying. My bf works in IT with the federal government and has been doing that for about 4 years now!

 

[Nikie]

Hello all - I last wrote on this forum back in July 2014, stating that we were waiting to try until January 2015. I'm now 32 and my partner just turned 36.

Well, things took an interesting turn with my job prospects....basically I've trained in law and need a training contract in order to become a solicitor. I have spent the last 7/8 years trying to get one but not being successful. Last summer I had a conversation with my partner and we agreed that I'm not getting any younger and would regret if I gave up a chance to have a family for a career that may not happen! Hence the decision to try in Jan 2015.

I then submitted two applications in early January- both of which I got through to the next stage. I have an interview in mid April so it seemed sensible to wait.

The thing is - we went to a funeral yesterday. The guy who died was only in his early 50's and died of a heart attack, leaving a uni age daughter. It has really made us think.

His widowed wife spoke some truly wonderful words and made me realise that I want what she was so lucky to experience and has so tragically lost. I was made to think that qualifying as a solicitor would mean I'm a success. But I am now honestly starting to think having a loving family and a wonderful quality of life is what makes someone a success.

I'm sorry this is long - I'm confused and just venting to be honest! Trying to get my thought process out!

Nik x

 

[clhozac]

Hi, I'm Clhozac. I'm new here after creeping a bit. My DH and I have been together since Feb 2009, and Married since June 2011. We were originally thinking of TTC until our one year anniversary, then he said he needed one more year, then one more year, and now we've been married almost 4 years and he says let's wait until Summer 2017. We did move forward some though, because my BCP made me sick we swapped to lady comp. We agreed that if I were to accidentally get pregnant we could manage, so I spend every month hoping that something goes wrong with my cycle and I get pregnant. Hasn't happened yet.

I am from Georgia in the US, but I live in Stockholm, Sweden with my husband.

 

[teevee]

Hi all! New here. I'm 30 years old and just about 6 months married to DH. We are WTT for #1 until late December this year after traveling a bit, and just enjoying our first year married. Excited to start this journey!

 

[Uhlease]

Hello DH and I have been married almost 3 years, together almost 9, and we are planning to start TTC in about a month. I think at first we will just try without "trying" and see what happens.

 

[Flossie_Aus]

Hi Hi I'm Flossie (or Kenzi), I'm 24 and I'm from Australia.

Married for 2 weeks to Mr Flossie who is 32. We have been together 4 years.

I have lupus (SLE) and fibromyalgia. We have been waiting to try for a while since we wanted to find out what my chances of passing those on to our baby would be. We have since been given the all clear. We are now just waiting to get in to a high risk obstetrician to discuss my medication options during pregnancy, and waiting for methotrexate to leave my system completely. I would like to be med-free for the entire duration of TTC/pregnancy/breastfeeding, however my doctor is not convinced and would like me to discuss my options with a specialist. I will do whatever is the lowest risk to my baby.

Lupus carries an increased risk of miscarriage & stillbirth, and for that I am terrified.

We have two dogs, two rabbits and a parrot, yet so much love left to give!

We own/run a brewery/distillery which has been open for a few months now, hubby is the brains & craftsman, I'm just the boss-lady who makes sure things get finished, ha.

 

[McDanny]

Hello everyone!

I joined BnB a couple months ago because I thought I might be in a TWW. Well, I wasn't ( I mean, I was, but I wasn't, know what I mean?). So we are WTT until DH is done with his Bachelor's degree and we know what is happening for his grad school. Sometime next year. We are probably moving summer 2016 for his grad school, so probably around that time we will start trying (he's been kind of ambiguous about when exactly we can start, but I know it will be next year sometime).

Any tips on keeping sanity while you wait? In the last six months I've had two new nieces and two good friends announce they're expecting. Poor Hubby has to deal with my whining about wanting a baby almost constantly I think about it ALL the time and symptom spot like crazy between periods (we use POM).

 

[PnutProtector]

Hello gals! I'm not necessarily new here, but it's been years since I've popped in to say hello. My WTT journey just got super extended from when I first signed up. BUT now I am happily married for just over a year and we are fur parents to 4 sweet babies, but we are getting ready to start trying for our tiny human baby. I remember the huge sense of support and community I found when I was active here before, and I'm really needing that again. We're not sure we want to tell our friends and families that we are about to start trying because up until recently we didn't think we wanted a child. Boy how things change.

Hope everyone is doing well and that you are having a wonderful Father's Day weekend.

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Hello ladies. My name is Ren (nickname) and I am 30 years old. My husband is 31 and we know we want kids. Most of our friends have kids now and we are the last of our group of married friends who don't have kids yet. We decided to TTC starting March 2016 as I want to be a SAHM and we want to try and finish getting out of debt this year. I will be honest.. I'm so torn. I know I want kids and we decided on March, but being a mom scares me so much because it's such a huge responsibility and I don't want to mess it up. I also have found that I a lot of times I get very uncomfortable around my friends kids and get annoyed rather easily with them... I really hope that doesn't mean I'm not meant to have children... Any advice would be appreciated.

 

[daisythistle]

Hello, I'm daisythistle.

The hubby and I have been married for a little over a year, together over 5 years. However, we're both in an area of our lives where... well, he's going to grad school for several more years, I'm looking at getting a Master's, and we want to travel.

However, we got kind of a later start on this career/school path than some of our friends who are all having babies.

I've always been very nuturing, and I've always known that I've wanted to be a mom. As I inch closer and closer to thirty, it gets harder and harder to wait.

However, in the mean time can work on stability for any future kiddos, including our savings.

Other than that I'm very bookish & art-centric.

 

[vtasorl88]

Hi ladies, I'm vtasorl88 and I'm new to the boards.

DH & I have been married for almost 3 years and together for 5. We plan to start TTC in August 2016. We have some financial plans we want to finish up first (paying off my car, saving up for my maternity leave, moving into a bigger place). I also am working on a work out/healthy eating regime and would like to lose 25 pounds (down 7 already).

The past 5-6 years we've spent A LOT of time traveling. We got married in St. Thomas Virgin Islands with all of our family and friends. We did a 3 week trip to Europe (Spain, Italy, France). We've gone to the Dominican Republic, Mexico, 3 cruises, Australia, New Zealand, New York, Canada, Puerto Rico and a bunch of awesome weekend trips. Now that we are kind of through the travel bug phase, we are starting to financially prepare for a new addition to our family.

I plan to return to work after the baby is born, so childcare will be an added expense for us. I also plan to take 4 months of maternity leave and I'm currently saving for that now.

So excited to meet other ladies in the same boat as I am!