2013 losses- rainbow baby making thread...

[GalvanBaby]

I am so sorry Misscalais.

 

[Peacenik]

Ok I don't know what's happening but I'm having cramping. It feels like period cramps. I'm on day 14 of my cycle, guess they might be ovulation pains? Only I have never cramped for ovulation before.

I cramped and had issues with my last two ovulation cycles. I also had some minor spotting, but haven't seen it yet this month and I'm on Day 11. That is good news though if you are indeed on day 14 and o'ing, sounds like a VERY normal cycle to me and an increased chance of getting pregnant

I've had pretty major cramping during ovulation and odd spotting. I don't usually do OPKs but both cycles since my surgery I had cramping and tested got positive OPKs those two days. This cycle I started AF on Sunday, finished Tues. and have had the tiniest of spotting yesterday and today. Very odd for me so even though I'm on track timing wise - something still seems off. My first cycle was great - no spotting no PMS at all which was great. This one though -spotting and man was I crabby!

 

[Kasey84]

AF has got me again and now I know I won't get a BFP before my would have been due date. I'm just crushed

Kasey84 I'm sorry AF got you. How are you feeling today? x

Thanks I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that I won't have a bfp before my due date. Also trying to stay positive that it'll happen for me sooner rather then later. It's tough though, which I know everyone on here understands! How are you doing?

It's extremely tough. I'd totally expected the first AF to be hard to deal but I'm starting to feel its going to be tougher with each cycle that passes. I've tried so hard not to set a target to be pregnant by. It's impossible not to though.

I'm on cycle day 14. I'd normally be ovulating but I've not had any positive tests this week. I'm not sure if I've tested at the wrong time or my cycle is going to be erratic.

I'm glad I have you all to talk too. At least people here don't expect you to have gotten over a loss in a matter of weeks.

Kasey84 and Raggydoll, I'm so sorry that the greeted you this month. You are on my mind so much this month because I literally hate this game. I got pregnant with my son and my miscarried sweet baby without ever temping or taking an opk. But, if something is wrong, I feel like I need to know what day I'm truly o'ing. I hope you both get your rainbows soon. This situation is beyond frustrating. I feel really negative because it just seems like all the stories about conceiving even before a first AF are not the norm after all. It just seems like so many of us are waiting.

I had a temperature surge of 0.50 this morning on day 11...but am still at 96.80 degrees and not over 97. I tested on the OPK, but got only a very faint positive. We'll see what happens. I'm VERY nervous that I'll either not o this month at all or miss the boat because we made love on Day 8 April 30 and Day 10 May 2 around midnight...but last night my husband had an all-nighter with our business with prom upcoming and wasn't home. I'm hoping that somehow it works out and I'll definitely be DTD'ing like crazy tonight!! SO beyond afraid of missing the short LH surge and subsequent egg release.

Thanks Lucylake and I hope you get your rainbow soon as we'll I agree with you that it's very frustrating! With each month that passes, I get more and more afraid that it'll never happen for me My OH is away for work alot too, so its not always possible to be together when the time is right and i hate missing out on an opportunity to ttc!! It doesn't help either that a ton of my friends are currently pregnant and I have to try to avoid them as much as possible.

I guess we just have to persevere and try to stay positive! I hope this is your month Lucylake!!

 

[george83]

AF has got me again and now I know I won't get a BFP before my would have been due date. I'm just crushed

Kasey84 I'm sorry AF got you. How are you feeling today? x

Thanks I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that I won't have a bfp before my due date. Also trying to stay positive that it'll happen for me sooner rather then later. It's tough though, which I know everyone on here understands! How are you doing?

It's extremely tough. I'd totally expected the first AF to be hard to deal but I'm starting to feel its going to be tougher with each cycle that passes. I've tried so hard not to set a target to be pregnant by. It's impossible not to though.

I'm on cycle day 14. I'd normally be ovulating but I've not had any positive tests this week. I'm not sure if I've tested at the wrong time or my cycle is going to be erratic.

I'm glad I have you all to talk too. At least people here don't expect you to have gotten over a loss in a matter of weeks.

I don't know what I'd do either without all you ladies to talk to. It definitely feels like others expect me to be "over it". As if you can ever get over the loss of a baby.

I'm currently on my 4th AF some the MC and to be honest it's hard every time. I thought I would be pregnant again by now. I try to tell myself that there's no rush and I shouldn't put pressure on OH and I to be pregnant by a certain time, but like you said its alomst impossible.

I've never used OPK's before, but I have some to use this cycle. My cycles have been a bit irregular since the MC.

I'm praying we get our rainbows soon

I'm so sorry kasey I genuinely thought it would be so much easier to fall pregnant all that talk of being more fertile seems like its a load of rubbish. I've used opk's with post my son and my angel and they've been pretty good for me I fell pregnant first cycle with my son and fourth with my angel, I hope they start working for you soon

 

[george83]

So girls I'm back ended up having a chemical, testes never got darker and started bleeding today.

I'm so sorry that's such an unfair thing to have happened, I hope your doing ok, we're all here for you

 

[george83]

AF has got me again and now I know I won't get a BFP before my would have been due date. I'm just crushed

Kasey84 I'm sorry AF got you. How are you feeling today? x

Thanks I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that I won't have a bfp before my due date. Also trying to stay positive that it'll happen for me sooner rather then later. It's tough though, which I know everyone on here understands! How are you doing?

It's extremely tough. I'd totally expected the first AF to be hard to deal but I'm starting to feel its going to be tougher with each cycle that passes. I've tried so hard not to set a target to be pregnant by. It's impossible not to though.

I'm on cycle day 14. I'd normally be ovulating but I've not had any positive tests this week. I'm not sure if I've tested at the wrong time or my cycle is going to be erratic.

I'm glad I have you all to talk too. At least people here don't expect you to have gotten over a loss in a matter of weeks.

Kasey84 and Raggydoll, I'm so sorry that the greeted you this month. You are on my mind so much this month because I literally hate this game. I got pregnant with my son and my miscarried sweet baby without ever temping or taking an opk. But, if something is wrong, I feel like I need to know what day I'm truly o'ing. I hope you both get your rainbows soon. This situation is beyond frustrating. I feel really negative because it just seems like all the stories about conceiving even before a first AF are not the norm after all. It just seems like so many of us are waiting.

I had a temperature surge of 0.50 this morning on day 11...but am still at 96.80 degrees and not over 97. I tested on the OPK, but got only a very faint positive. We'll see what happens. I'm VERY nervous that I'll either not o this month at all or miss the boat because we made love on Day 8 April 30 and Day 10 May 2 around midnight...but last night my husband had an all-nighter with our business with prom upcoming and wasn't home. I'm hoping that somehow it works out and I'll definitely be DTD'ing like crazy tonight!! SO beyond afraid of missing the short LH surge and subsequent egg release.

Lucy I totally relate to everything you've said, in fairness I have used opk's before but only because I'm a total control freak and need to know what my own body is doing but I too am finding it all negative. I manage to pick myself up when I'm busy but as soon as I'm free my mind switches back to babies and what I can do to help myself. I wish we could just go to sleep and wake up pregnant

 

[george83]

Ugh... I had random light period-like bleeding yesterday... on cd 7 after my period stopped several days ago... I'm feeling like this is going to be a weird cycle.

I haven't started using OPKs yet. I will in a few days.

I've been really stressed... my school is coming to a close and I feel like I need to make some career decisions, but my career decisions are affected by whether or not I think I am likely to have a baby in the next year. I'm trying to stick with flexible options for now, but flexible options don't pay well.

I can fully understand your stress levels, I'm a teacher and if I want to look for a new job I need to do it before the end of may and just like you it all depends on any baby, I fear this stress will just lower my chances and make a vicious circle, I hope things work out soon for you

 

[AwesomeSauce]

It turns out that no matter what stage you miscarry, the first period after is going to be absolute HELL. I am into much pain right now. Not just physical pain, though that is intense, but also reliving the loss emotionally as well.
I am trying to focus on the thought that this just means we are one step closer to trying again.

 

[george83]

It turns out that no matter what stage you miscarry, the first period after is going to be absolute HELL. I am into much pain right now. Not just physical pain, though that is intense, but also reliving the loss emotionally as well.
I am trying to focus on the thought that this just means we are one step closer to trying again.

I'm so sorry, I was a mess when I got my first af, I genuinely felt like I was reliving my mc it was horrible, I hope your feel better soon x x

 

[ladyluck84]

Hugs galvanbaby. I get it. I have felt it.

For me it isn't that I begrudge others their happiness. I don't. Two days ago my sister in law announced another pregnancy. I am happy for her, but her happiness reminds me of my sadness. I don't mean to be sad about other people having happy news. That kind of news is just intimately tied to my own sadness.

I know the feeling but when I hear those words it's gut reaching and brings my own sadness to the surface with the big "why not me? When is it my turn?"

 

[Kasey84]

AF has got me again and now I know I won't get a BFP before my would have been due date. I'm just crushed

Kasey84 I'm sorry AF got you. How are you feeling today? x

Thanks I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that I won't have a bfp before my due date. Also trying to stay positive that it'll happen for me sooner rather then later. It's tough though, which I know everyone on here understands! How are you doing?

It's extremely tough. I'd totally expected the first AF to be hard to deal but I'm starting to feel its going to be tougher with each cycle that passes. I've tried so hard not to set a target to be pregnant by. It's impossible not to though.

I'm on cycle day 14. I'd normally be ovulating but I've not had any positive tests this week. I'm not sure if I've tested at the wrong time or my cycle is going to be erratic.

I'm glad I have you all to talk too. At least people here don't expect you to have gotten over a loss in a matter of weeks.

Kasey84 and Raggydoll, I'm so sorry that the greeted you this month. You are on my mind so much this month because I literally hate this game. I got pregnant with my son and my miscarried sweet baby without ever temping or taking an opk. But, if something is wrong, I feel like I need to know what day I'm truly o'ing. I hope you both get your rainbows soon. This situation is beyond frustrating. I feel really negative because it just seems like all the stories about conceiving even before a first AF are not the norm after all. It just seems like so many of us are waiting.

I had a temperature surge of 0.50 this morning on day 11...but am still at 96.80 degrees and not over 97. I tested on the OPK, but got only a very faint positive. We'll see what happens. I'm VERY nervous that I'll either not o this month at all or miss the boat because we made love on Day 8 April 30 and Day 10 May 2 around midnight...but last night my husband had an all-nighter with our business with prom upcoming and wasn't home. I'm hoping that somehow it works out and I'll definitely be DTD'ing like crazy tonight!! SO beyond afraid of missing the short LH surge and subsequent egg release.

Lucy I totally relate to everything you've said, in fairness I have used opk's before but only because I'm a total control freak and need to know what my own body is doing but I too am finding it all negative. I manage to pick myself up when I'm busy but as soon as I'm free my mind switches back to babies and what I can do to help myself. I wish we could just go to sleep and wake up pregnant

I've totally thought the same thing george83! I want to wake up pregnant, or with a baby! Fingers crossed that it happens for us all soon

 

[Kasey84]

It turns out that no matter what stage you miscarry, the first period after is going to be absolute HELL. I am into much pain right now. Not just physical pain, though that is intense, but also reliving the loss emotionally as well.
I am trying to focus on the thought that this just means we are one step closer to trying again.

Ahh Hun, I'm sorry it's so tough. I was a total mess when I got my first AF after MC. I'm on my 4th now and to be honest it's hard and disappointing every month. Hugs

 

[GalvanBaby]

I have 3 more days of BCP to go and then I will be waiting for my first AF since my MC. I am so worried and excited about trying again. I am scared of losing another baby, but I am so excited for the thought of actually having another baby. The excitement and desire for another baby is stronger than my fright. I am not sure, btu think AF will be here within a few days of stopping BCP. I have already started cramping.

 

[AwesomeSauce]

Today got a lot better. Honestly I made some big breakthroughs emotionally. I am blessed no matter what happens with TTC. I have three beautiful children and much to be grateful for. I will probably still TTC, and i am sure it will still be difficult at times, but I am finally accepting that even a healthy pregnancy and baby won't fix a broken heart. I am ok with whatever happens in the TTC department.

 

[Kasey84]

My best friend just found out her baby's gender yesterday. I just hate that exciting news like this breaks my heart How does everyone deal with this kind of situation?

 

[george83]

My best friend just found out her baby's gender yesterday. I just hate that exciting news like this breaks my heart How does everyone deal with this kind of situation?

I'm so sorry sweetie fortunately I've not had to deal with anything like this yet, it's just another way that mc manages to ruin everything for us x x x

 

[Miniegg27]

My best friend just found out her baby's gender yesterday. I just hate that exciting news like this breaks my heart How does everyone deal with this kind of situation?

U know how you feel. When I had my MC I had to live with the fact that my friend was to go through something that I was supposed to be going through. She payed for a private gender scan today. She hasn't told me what it is tho.

 

[Kasey84]

My best friend just found out her baby's gender yesterday. I just hate that exciting news like this breaks my heart How does everyone deal with this kind of situation?

U know how you feel. When I had my MC I had to live with the fact that my friend was to go through something that I was supposed to be going through. She payed for a private gender scan today. She hasn't told me what it is tho.

I'm sorry. It sucks doesn't it. Big hugs.

 

[robyn1990]

My best friend just found out her baby's gender yesterday. I just hate that exciting news like this breaks my heart How does everyone deal with this kind of situation?

So hard isn't it.
My sister is 29 weeks pregnant and I'm so so jealous. X

 

[Nimyra]

It's so hard... Today I want to my father's house and found that he had also invited a young couple over with a 15 month old and the woman is pregnant with their second. I sure would have appreciated a warning. I wouldn't have come had I known. Now I'm hiding out upstairs trying not to cry.