WOW!! so much has happened on here.. and time has flown.. Kat congrats on your beautiful baby boy Alexander I love his name.. ah that damn bloody music festival. I remember.. How many days is it? surely your husband would feel guilty about leaving you? and Miss Cassie I love the name Maddison. Almost.. you're so close to delivery. I'm sorry you're in pain hopefully not long to go now! And major stressful times with your sister too. Why does it all seem to happen at once. Froggyfrog so happy you are pregnant.. I'm sure the placenta will move. What's your due date?
We had a boy.. Max! his middle name is Harry after my grandpa who's 102! on the 14th October. a day before the due date.. but I laboured at home for 50 hours... thought I was ready to go to hospital as they were every few minutes after 24 hours.. we were exhausted.. but they backed off (and was told to rest between each one every 15/20mins).. midwife came to the house the next afternoon and she said i was 3cm.. then that night it was all on.. the tens machine saved me.. came into hospital at 9cm and into the bath for a water birth.. and he was out 1.5 hours later so short 2nd stage.. he had trouble breathing (must have had some amniotic fluid in his lungs) so had two nights in the intensive care unit for observation.. Anyway, my milk supply was late coming in, we had to supplement but was able to use my sister's expressed great milk for a few days.. that ran out so we had to supplement with formula he's on breast milk and formula.. we do about half and half.. now he's 3 weeks and 4 days he's put on good weight.. My supply still isn't great - I'm trying to get him at the breast as much as possible.. the community nurse said some boobs aren't great milk makers..there;s been lots of tears (part family dramas - see below).. partly I never wanted to give him formula and it breaks my heart. I know lots of people do.. my husband was exclusively formula fed and he's fine.. We're going to keep trying. All the midwives and lactation consultant say we are doing everything right.
My Mum's been awful.. and we usually get along so well. She was pissed off I didn't let her know I was in labour!! and that we rang that night after the baby was born (we were busy seeing him in the unit).. and then my brother who's a Dr had to go and put ideas in her head that water births are so dangerous.. and she hates that we aren't using a dummy.. came around and had the worst attitude like you're doing it all wrong.. he's too sleepy something is wrong with him.. AHHHHH.. I think now she's slowly being nice again.. She doesn't seem to want to visit because she thinks I'm doing it wrong and babies shouldn't cry at all.. In actual fact he's a good little baby, settles well, only cries when u wrap and burp him.
Great to see you here miranda! Wow, congrats, seems to be a lot of IVF boys in this group!
The festival is 3 full days and it'd most likely involve him camping out on the festival grounds as it's a 45 minute drive away. Nope, no guilt, he's been very unsupportive of me at times. The most recent was last night I was crying both because Alexander has a tendency to latch on hard on my left nipple because it's huge and very sore (so was in really bad pain for 5-10 seconds and nope, his latching technique is apparently fine according to several professionals) and also because I was super, super exhausted. He blew off my crying and had this attitude of "Oh boy, here we go again..." cue
Plus he pushed for me to brush my teeth after I'd fed Alexander before going to bed and I told him to leave me alone because I wasn't in the mood but he kept on pushing so very quickly did it and was so pissed, I'd thrown my toothbrush across the bathroom and was crying hard while I went to bed. DH probably just saw this as me being silly, he thinks he's just as sleep deprived as me to which I can only laugh at because he has no idea
Also had a crisis with breastfeeding as Alexander wasn't creating much of a vacuum so I was afraid he wasn't getting much milk in him and DH was like "What do you want me to do about it? I don't know the solution" which pissed me off. Oh yeah, and when he was holding Alexander while I ate my cold dinner (because he served it right before Alexander's breast time), he was reaching for the TV remote and dropped Alexander's head so it was completely unsupported
You can see more in my parenting journal of his at times bad attitude although those 2 most recent episodes I haven't written in yet.
Sorry about your milk supply, I can sympathise as a less than stellar start meant I wasn't making enough either
We're also on the formula train although Alexander is currently down to 25-30 ml twice a day and we're hoping the health care provider will set it down to once a day when she sees him today. I felt as bad as you do but in the end, it's what's best for our babies and that's the most important thing
I hope you soon can wean off formula soon but if not, you're doing what's best for your son! Btw, have you tried pumping in between feeds to up your supply? Although Max is probably your best pump
Oy I feel you on the family drama! I'm so sorry your mother has been a pain. I think it's normal for the grandmothers to mix in and be smarty pants' although it's super annoying
My MIL and eldest BIL are also against us not using a pacifier yet as they don't get how it can mess up breastfeeding since my MIL and ex-SIL didn't have issues using a pacifier from the get go. So to them, they feel the chances are minimal. Wow amazing that your brother being a doctor would say that, water births aren't dangerous, especially if you have medical professionals assisting
If your mother is going to behave like that though it may be best you don't see her very much, especially while you're dealing with your breastfeeding issues. I'm personally glad I haven't seen my toxic mother since just a few days after Alexander's birth as she was so nasty and was really delighting in me having problems with breastfeeding and making me out to be an absolute idiot, including in front of one of the midwives
Envy you on the crying part, Alexander does have his daily crying fits with some days being worse than others
He seems to get hysterical sometimes which makes it harder to calm him down. I'm currently experimenting with using white noise (using an app I found) to help him sleep better.
Anyway any pics of Max
My DH's aunt is a doctor and she said it was very possible that his eye color could change now.
but hopefully its not for much longer. 
Although I found his email a bit off putting as he wrote that he can guess we now have to take Alexander's needs into consideration but "It's good that Kat doesn't have a job or anything to think about because she can devote all her time taking care of him" and that DH must be happy after 3 weeks paternity leave to be going back to work 
