Beach Bump Graduates!

[caz_hills]

Oh and Mel - I've managed to not let Ajay watch TV yet - so pleased and actually the busier I've been the more I've forgotten about feeling unwell. Ajay is the same though, unless he is tired he won't watch TV but is slowly getting more and more into it. x

 

[freckles09]

Hey everyone, what a miserable rainy day it is here!

Wow Georgie - 39 weeks! Hope the on and off contractions turn into something more soon! I hope you haven't still been getting lots of messages asking if there's any news. Do people really think you're gonna have a baby and not tell anyone?! Oh and sounds like the speech therapist went well! Glad you had a nice birthday and yay for the pink lining bag - I had a quick look on their website as I didn't know what one was - they're lovely! Are they spacious?

Simmy sorry to hear about your row - last thing you need when pregnant and emotional and before bed too! Hope you've both cleared the air now.

Hann you never know if you'll go into labour early! I had no signs whatsoever and then two weeks early my waters broke and Elliot was here 6 hours later! That's frustrating re Greg's brother's stag weekend - pushes your holiday back quite a lot by the sounds of it

Caz - hope you're feeling better now and yay for your refund from the tax man!

Mel - LOL at H being obsessed with the opening credits of Emmerdale!!! Elliot likes This Morning's opening music and also the Cillit Bang advert?!

Took Elliot out to a new class this arvo called Kidzfit but i'm sure it should've been called Adultfit - was knackering! They had bubbles, beanbag races and running and dancing so was v fun!

I also booked Elliot's place at preschool and he'll be starting the Monday after he's two in June. He'll only be there for four weeks before summer holidays but I didn't want to start him in September as baby is due then and I didn't want him to feel pushed out.

 

[melissasbump]

Hann, thanks for the wrap tip, i quite like the look of that one actually but didnt really want to pay that much, will probably stick to the wrap and practice lots!
Boo to your BILs stag weekend, so annoying when things like that happen, would you be able to fit something in beforehand do you think?
Nick Clegg is a very impressive dinner guest, even though i dont like polititions(sorry spelt that wrong)

Caz, glad you have had a nice day with Ajay and you are feeling better!

Bec, great you have booked Elliot into pre school, although its come around so quick hasnt it! I was thinking about your earlier actually as i remember you had Elliot early but couldnt remember how early! Wow! It just goes to show really!

Georgie, love the fact you baked biscuits and ate them all, thats something i would do! Ive been baking a lot of cakes lately but then obviously have to eat them!!

AFM had a bit of a nightmare afternoon. H point blank refused to nap and screamed blue screamed blue murder, i tried everything but as soon as i left him alone he went into one again, i ended up giving in and put him in pushchair and took him out thinking he might fall asleep.. he didnt, we met Alan walking home from the station and i felt so stressed i just burst into tears. Its all hormones i know but im really concerned how im gonna cope over the next few weeks and i feel pathetic. Im trying my hardest and feel like im being a crap mummy half the time because i need to rest.
I also feel ive lost control of the whole sleep routine, mum had him last night and apparently he slept till 745am so maybe its me? I dont know but i feel a bit of a failure at the mo..

 

[Blue_bear]

Definitely don't feel a failure Mel, J refused to nap today too. So frustrating! Then he started nodding off at 5...I soon got him moving, that's no time for a nap! It's definitely just a phase they are going through. I did a bit of reading on the 18 month sleep regression and it made me understand things a bit better. There's a lot of contradiction on how it should be dealt with but as always I think that's personal parenting choices.

Contractions haven't lead to anything as yet. Not sure I'm going to cope well if I go overdue....having said that, I'm enjoying my sleep (when I can get comfy, often wake in agony) I can't seem to sleep enough though!

 

[Hann12]

Mel I know how you feel, its hard work some days and I'm sure our hormones aren't helping. I was literally at my wits end last Thursday and it felt horrible. It seems to happen to me every few weeks. I almost lost it today because Annabelle is being frustrating when I take her to classes, she just wants to hide behind the curtains and say boo. I know its cute but its getting to a ridiculous point because she does it in every class. I was even asked to try and get her out as she was distracting the other children. Not to mention that its killing me getting up and down running after her at every session. Its not like I've just put her in a room to have fun, the classes are really good so its even more annoying that shes not paying attention. So with that, the holiday saga and the fact that I'm just fed up about the sheer amount of cleaning and tidying I have to do, I was close to losing it! Seriously why does she have to bring all of her toys into the kitchen?!!
Anyway I digress, I just wanted you to know that I'm with you and some days it really hard and we just have to be kind to ourselves because I think we sometimes try and do too much and want things nice all the time yet its not possible and won't be in the coming months either. I'm sure there are many melt downs ahead for me anyway!

Bec - great news about the pre school, scary how we are talking preschools now!!

Caz - glad you are feeling a bit better and have been able to enjoy your day with Ajay. And well doen for the no tv - I have ours on for various programs during the day, I'm too weak to fight it lol!

Oh and Gregs dinner with Nick Clegg isn't really that impressive - its not just the two of them, think there are 10 of them in total there. Funnily enough Gregs boss invited Nick to the dinner and then she came back to the office telling people that 'Nick Craig' was joining them lol! She hasn't got a clue - shes French so she probably barely registered who he was!

 

[Hann12]

Georgie - hopefully IF you go over due it will only be a couple of days. It doesn't sound like thats going to happen though

 

[caz_hills]

Mel don't worry it is soooo tough with a toddler and I aren't pregnant and I find it tough. And nap time is sacred for us mums as its the only down time so don't beat yourself up about it. You're doing a great job honey. Big hugs xxx

Han - look forward to hearing the gossip tomorrow about greg's dinner! Hope you and A are ok tonight.

Chilled night tonight which is good ready for work tomorrow x

Bec - hope preschool goes ok for Elliott! They are growing up so quickly!

Georgie - I am so excited for you! Enjoy your sleep. xxx

 

[fifi-folle]

sling talk!!! had to read back...
slingguide.co.uk is a good place to start! A mei tie might be good- easier than wrapping. I love my wraps though!

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Hi all

Simmy, glad you managed to get out for food yesterday and that you had a nice day for your mums birthday, hope you have sorted the remote access for work too!
Re the dummy, the other thing you have to consider is their teeth, it can affect the way the teeth grow etc so just be mindful of that.

Hann, dont think the dummy has much to do with sleeping as we got rid of it a good two months before these sleep issues, plus he rarely had it in his cot and if he did we always took it out when he was asleep, he woke at 130am last night went back to sleep at 2 then till around 6am, im the same as you though, i really struggle to get back to sleep thats the main problem for me! My hips have really been hurting too, was walking round town earlier and its done me in

Caz, hope you are feeling better today.

Fi nice to hear from you are things getting any easier for you?

Re wraps, im also considering getting just the one, for like hands free around the house, just somthing simple and comfy, any ideas as i have no clue!

H has swimming this moring, am so proud of him hes doing so well, hes now jumping in from a standing up position and is just so full of smiles and splashing the whole time. Hes really good at kicking his legs too which a lot of them dont seem to do much of.
Sorry boasting mummy! lol

Mums took him now for the night so just got back from town and we are gonna head out for a cheeky indian tonight!

 

[mummySS]

Aah Mel i agree with the others, dont feel like a failure - their sleeping at this age is so hit and miss, your mum probably got lucky, i'm sure it's nothing you're doing or not doing. Hope Alan was good to you after the teariness, sounds like it's just hormones and tiredness - their naptimes are so important as we need our rest, so i can understand you feeling frazzled.

I understand exactly the frustrations at this age, most of you are further ahead than me in your pregnancies and yet i'm already starting to feel the strain of looking after leo - especially bending down to pick up his toys! And yes hann, they do end up all over the house dont they! They're too young yet to learn how to tidy up unfortunately...

Caz - sounds like you're feeling better if you're off to work tomorrow - yay! Hope you had a good day with ajay, well done for not succumbing to the tv too much. Oh and I get a refund from the tax man too this year, think it's cos we were on maternity leave last year - whatever the reason, yay!

Hann - lol at nick craig! hope greg's on his best behaviour tonight, even if there's a few of them it's still quite exciting i think, i'd love to talk to him - i'm not exactly a fan of his but i think it would be very interesting. Oh and annoying re the holiday dates, I guess at least by that time the baby will be a bit older and will have hopefully fallen into a routine so it may be easier?

Bec, well done on getting elliot into preschool, it sounds like the right thing to do to put him in before the summer holidays. Oh and the class sounds exhausting! lol

AFM thanks for your comments about my argument, it has been a bit better today but still not quite right. Paul says he wrote me a letter about how we're not communicating properly (!) so i'm going to read it tomorrow and maybe reply in writing too - it sounds weird but sometimes if you're arguing a lot it is better to write things down. Oh and I think you asked Caz but we dont really get a break from each other because paul works from home, and obviously i'm at home all the time at the moment.

Had a nice day with Leo, the nanny called in sick today so we managed to arrange for one of my NCT friends to come over this morning which was nice as i hadn't caught up with her and her little boy in ages. Obviously i didn't get any work done though but i can try and catch up tomorrow...

 

[Hann12]

Fi - love the rainbow wrap! It looks thin - what is it? My Fisches caribe is thick so I need practice with that one! On the babywearing dip site trying to get a bargain lol but doubt I'll win!

Simmy - hope the letter has helped and you are feeling better! We have the opposite problem of never seeing each other lol, it's hard to find the right balance!

I'll post a bump pic later because I'm 27 weeks today! I'm confused if that's 3rd tri or 28 weeks? Seems to vary who you ask!

Been to football this morning and successfully batted Annabelle away from the curtains! Think I'm going to do a sainsburys shop actually in person this afternoon as we don't need much and it's an outing! Can't wait for the weekend even though I have loads of cleaning and tidying to do - dreaded mil is visiting next week arghhh!
Our new mattress arrives though so hoping I'll finally get a comfortable nights sleep!

 

[melissasbump]

Thanks girls, today is my all time low day though. H was up at 5 and refused to go back to sleep, he had such a tantrum literelly throwing himself around the cot, never seem him do that before ever.
Alan is at work and before he left i was really upset as id hardly slept last night and just so tired and frustrated. H has been ok since, weve played and walked up the local park, ive just managed to get him to sleep after 15 minutes of crying, it shouldnt be like this though should it. He started screaming as soon as i went to put him in the cot. Im at a loss as to why hes doing this.

 

[Hann12]

Ah Mel big - it sounds very similar to Annabelle about a month ago, I was at my wits end, it went on for about 10 days and I have no clue why but everytime I went near the cot with her she screamed so I just didn't have her nap. It turned out for us that she was over tired. If H hasn't been sleeping well chances are he is as well. It happened when we tried to drop from 2 naps to 1, I put her back on 2 naps and she was fine again. Then suddenly last week she naturally dropped a nap and is fine on one. Its very strange though, of course it may not be that for you. Its like they suddenly have an adversion to their cot! She would go to sleep fine at night but would keep waking early too. I hope you are okay x

 

[melissasbump]

Well i considered the fact that recently ive been trying to put him down for a nap too late and he HAS been overtired, hence doing it earlier today, he did go off a lot quicker, i just hate the distress it brings to him and me!

 

[Hann12]

I know its awful isn't it? When Annabelle was doing it she literally screamed as I approached the cot, I'd put her in and walk out and she would scream blue murder for a few minutes and I'd give up and get her out. So she was even more grumpy and over tired but I couldn't bear the crying. Nothing seemed to help that week. In the end even though I was exhausted I drove her around and she fell asleep. I was still very very tired though but at least I knew she had slept. Thankfully it only went on just over a week and then stopped. I really hate hearing her cry though, it upsets me so much so I just can't do it.
I went out to my pilates class when it was all happening and left Greg to look after her and he let her cry for 15 minutes which I would never do. I literally felt sick when he told me he did it. We have opposing parenting beliefs on that front. He thinks I'm a wimp and I think he's being mean! Its hard though to decide what to do for the best

 

[melissasbump]

Thanks Hann, oh and congrats on 27 weeks, i believe you are 3rd tri now! I think the American ladies say 28 but we go by 27 here.

 

[Hann12]

I think this will post sideways but here is my 27 week bump!

By the way Mel - I wasn't being mean about you leaving H to cry, I just really struggle to do it myself, her cries literally shatter through me. I know that its desperate measures when it is done and I really feel for you

 

[Blue_bear]

J is being exactly the same Mel, he just screams as soon as I take him upstairs. Yet falls straight to sleep if we go out in th car, which I hate doing as its like giving in. He also woke at 4am today after having two decent nights, however because he's now in the double, I just went and got in with him and he went back to sleep til 7am. That just shows me that he is still tired. Not an ideal solution obviously but I'm still living in hope that it's a phase!

 

[caz_hills]

Oh mel don't worry about it hun. They all go through these phases Ajay was up last night for an hour at 11.30 and screaming and we had no idea why. I hope it's a phase and it passes. It doesn't help that you are so tired and heavily pregnant now - poor you. Keep smiling my lovely.

Han - grrrrr for mil coming over next week

Georgie - I always see the car as last resort too - but I remember New Year's Eve when he was howling (which we now know was the pox) and in about two minutes to slept. I've been known to take a laptop in the car and e sleeps and I go online!

Well work was ok today - I'm blocked up in my sinunses and my head feels like its full of cotton wool. Got home and now lying on the sofa feel a big yucky again. I'm missing college for the first time which I'm sad about as I love it but just feel horrid. Missing it already! x

 

[caz_hills]

Oh and Han your bump is lovely - so nice and neat!x

 

[melissasbump]

Thanks again girls sorry to be a moany old moobag, im sure its the pregnancy horemones, luckily tomorrow we have stuff planned so should be easier no matter what anyway.
Alan got home a little earlier today too so i was able to get a bit of a rest.

Hann, lovely bump pic! So neat! Didnt take offence to your post at all, it breaks my heart too to hear him cry but as i said im at a loss as to what else to do, i have been known to sit there bawling the other side of the door. The leaving to cry goes against every instinct i have.

Georgie, glad we arent the only one going through the bedtime traumas, ive read that it could be they suddenly become scared of the dark so H has got a dim nightlight in his room tonight, will see how that goes!

Caz, sorry your sinus's are playing up and you have to miss college, sinus pain is awful i get it now and again myself.

So i order the Jo Frost toddler book today, so will see if there are any tips in there for dealing with H, i like her methods so will be an interesting read.
Currently chilling on the sofa but planning a nice early night of hopeful sleep!