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[LittleSpy]

Mel -- I'm so sorry you're in so much pain. I hope you find some relief. I remember being in a lot of pain and very uncomfortable for the last 4-5 weeks with Maisie. I don't think it's as bad for me this time (yet), though. Or maybe I just knew what to expect so it hasn't caught me off guard. I've been getting a lot of groin cramps lately. And then that stretchy/stingy cervix pain. But that's definitely not as bad yet as it was with Maisie. Don't know if it gets worse with the thinning/dilation of the cervix or what. Violet has gotten rambunctious all of a sudden, though. Feels like she weighs a zillion pounds and I don't have any fluid. Just skin rubbing on skin, which isn't exceedingly pleasant, and she's just rolling around everywhere constantly. I find myself often just pulling up my shirt and watching the show.

Happy belated mother's day to all of you lovely ladies! Ours in the US is in May, so you'll hear it from me again in a couple of months.

 

[mummySS]

Bec, so sorry to hear that. I was so sure with the early scan results that all was fine, goes to show how much I know. Hope the operation and recovery not too horrific. So upsetting. Big hugs to you

Will post properly later x

 

[melissasbump]

Thanks Littledspy, i dont remember ever having this type of pain with H which is why its weird especially as its come on so suddenly.

The pain is bad again, i couldnt even get my boots on without sitting down at Grandads it was so painful. Am home again now and not planning on doing a lot. The baby is active so im not worried in that respect and i dont want to get sent to the hospital or anything as i know they wont actually do anything so im gonna try and hold out till consultant on friday, discuss with them and go from there.

Man the weather is awful today!

 

[Hann12]

Mel I think you're doing the right thing of you can wait it out, I don't think they would be able to so anything, they never could for me anyway! Hopefully the consultant will take it into consideration when you see him though.

Gregs just come home early. Think as a peace offering and because he's in France for the rest of the week. Probably a good thing as all I have done for the past 2 hours is have lunch with Annabelle then let her watch TV. Really CBA today which is terrible!

 

[freckles09]

Thanks everyone, defo been a hard time but close family and friends and of course Elliot have helped keep us going. I had a feeling something wasn't quite right but was never prepared for the news. Hann it's defo more common than i thought too, doc said it happens to 1 in 5 which is very high really.

Hann don't feel bad about having a CBA day, we all have them! Hope you're doing ok, not long to go for you now really!

Mel sorry to hear you're in pain hun, not what you need as well as looking after a toddler

Caz I hope Neel is better soon, flu really knocks it out of you and takes a while to get over.

What awful weather today! Didn't wanna go out but we've been out to look at bedroom furniture so was in and out of the car and it's so windy! We've also been having snow blizzards all day. It's my friends wedding anniversary in two weeks and it was 30 degrees on her wedding day! Our weather varies SO much it's crazy.

 

[Hann12]

1 in 5 is a lot isn't it? I know that they say the miscarriage rate is as high as 1 in 3 but they account for 'chemical' miscarriages - I.e. people testing before AF is due and then getting AF still, that's why a lot of doctors hate the early tests. It's still a mc don't get me wrong but I hadn't realised that it was such a high amount in the first tri. There's very little support and help out there it seems too.
I'm glad you've had lots of support Bec but sad for you all the same.

Greg came home with gifts - a lovely card saying how sorry he was and a big cowshed candle plus 4 small ones and a massage oil. I had wanted to book a cowshed massage but they were booked up so he is going to try and recreate one for me. We also just went to sainsburys and I got my roses so feeling much happier now. I think he's learnt his lesson (I really hope so anyway!) and it's cost him a lot more money making the mistake so hopefully he'll be better next year!!

 

[melissasbump]

Bec, 1 in 5 does sound a lot to me. Its strange that you had the "feeling" that something wasnt right isnt it? Im so glad you have got great supportc around you and of course the gorgeous Elliot to keep you busy.

Hann, so glad Greg has made efforts to make things up to you. Honestly if men just used a bit of common sense in the 1st place! lol. Glad you are feeling better though and heres hoping hes better next year. I think you best give me his number so i can kick him up the arse to make sure he gets it right then! lol
I have got vouchers which i was originally going to use for a pregnancy massage but have decided to keep them to pamper myself afterwards . I cant wait to enjoy a long leisurely spa session again although goodness knows when that will be!

Feel really tired now, not inclined to move far from the sofa as too painful, and luckily Alan is doing bathtime these days as i struggle to bend over the bath.
Harrison is being a right cheeky monkey at the mo, quite tankerous sometimes but hes literally coming out with new words every day and its soooo cute he makes me melt. How could i love anyone like i love him? it still worries me!

 

[Hann12]

Definitely relax while you can Mel!! I know what you mean about wondering how you will love another this much, I worry too!

More annoyance my end - just got a bill from the energy company for the flat we lived in for 6 months nearly a year ago - £500. I called them and basically they are saying that they never set up the direct debit properly so we never paid and didn't we notice that no money ever went out?! I called them when we left and they never said that we owed them money but now I'm being told we have to pay this bill! They are going away to listen to all the phone calls we had with them and are calling me back. Could really do without this right now, and we don't have a spare £500 to pay. If they say we owe them it then Greg is going to take it to the top because its their mistake, I asked them to set the direct debit up and I called with a closing reading so they had plenty of opportunity to say that we owed money and its taken them 10 months to come to us to ask for the money which is completely unreasonable. So frustrating! I hate incompatant people but especially energy companies!!

 

[Doodlepants]

Don't be worried Mel- I had the exact same thought when I was pregnant with Naomi- I can't explain it as before your next child comes along you cannot imagine loving another person as much- but you do, I promise!

Becs xx

That sounds more like it Hann! I hope you have a nice massage

I am soooooooo cold. That is all.

 

[Blue_bear]

It's bloody freezing!!

I'm so sorry to hear your news Bec xx

Hope your not suffering too much Mel, I was crippled with SPD with J so you have my sympathy! And I agree with Maria, you definitely can love another one the same. Your heart grows bigger to accommodate the new one, itching gets taken away from the first xx

Hann, glad you got pressies! I nearly brought myself flowers but decided il spend the money on something for the kids. My favourite type of retail therapy hope you get the bill sorted, that's really naughty f them.

Hugs to anyone I've forgotten, I'm being harassed for peppa pig! The boy is obsessed!

 

[LittleSpy]

Hann -- That's unbelievable! How hugely incompetant does a utility company have to be to let you go on for 6 months without paying?! You'd be in the cold dark in a heartbeat in the US if the company made a mistake with the auto-draft and you didn't pay your bill. Or at least that's how it works in my neck of the woods. 2 months without paying in a row and they shut your shit right off, their mistake or not.

 

[Hann12]

That's why I think we've paid - what kind of company lets you have 6 months worth if electricity then you call and close your account and they still don't check you have paid and then 10 months later come after you for the money?! So stupid!!

 

[caz_hills]

Han - good news and bad news for you today.... glad Greg has made it up to you and bought you some nice things. Maybe it will be good for him to be away and for you to have time to think? And I cannot believe your energy company.... well I cna actually as I apparently ran up a £300 gas and elec bill when I lived on my own and they were terrible and threatened me with court action and everything until I paid. I felt totally bullied and no one could explain why to me. I wrote to the CEO (!) and nothing happened, no reply - it was all quite horrific! I hope they respond to you and stop all this messing. £500 is a lot of money!

Mel - sorry you're still having pain. Not long to go now. Keep smiling.

Also, I think I'm due a CBA day soon too - it's all manic!

So Neel is still unwell - major temperature, lying on the sofa all day and feeling horrible. So I've been mad with Ajay, work, getting medicine for him etc and just finished work now and off to bed CBA day on Wednesday for me?????!!!!! I have lots of TV shows recorded, perhaps Ajay could watch them back-to-back! x

 

[mummySS]

Evening girls,

Hann, glad greg has seen the error of his ways! It's very sweet and hopefully the message has really sunk in now. Sometimes if Paul and I are disagreeing over something I send him an email too, it is much easier for a person to listen and take it in over email i think. Oh and i hope you manage to sort things with the energy company, it sounds ridiculous.

Caz, today sounds exhausting for you, i hope neel recovers soon! You def deserve a CBA/TV day on wednesday. Can't believe your experience with the energy company, that stinks!

Julie, loving use of the word 'rambunctious' Re the skin to skin issue, Leo was like that towards the end - i could properly see everything through the skin. It turned out I had no fluid left at all - when the midwife went to break my waters i didn't have any!

Mel, sorry to hear the pain's back, just a case of holding out now which it sounds like you're resigned to doing.

Georgie, i totally know what you mean about the retail therapy, i get so much joy buying things for Leo/new baby that it's totally displaced the joy i used to get at buying things for myself. (dont get me wrong, i still enjoy buying things for myself, but somehow it's less justifiable...). Oh and we have a little man obsessed with PP too! It's got to the point he wont eat his dinner unless i stick him in front of peppa

Maria/georgie thanks for your advice as our mummies of two! I have exactly the same fears - i'm not worried i wont love the newborn, i'm worried it'll somehow take away some of the love i have for Leo...

Bec, still thinking of you... Can't believe how common it is either, I agree with Hann, there is too little information out there about MMC. I wouldn't know about it at all if it weren't for this forum.

Not too much going on with me, aside from it being freezing. I looked after Leo a lot on my own today as my mum was pretty busy - it's the first day i've done so since i got pregnant/sick! It wasn't too bad actually, I really enjoyed playing with him, but it was exhausting - I did have to nap while he napped .

 

[Blue_bear]

I was at my mums today, she got Josh down for his nap. I handed her Matilda and went for a lie down myself. Was lovely if short lived!

 

[mummySS]

Nice one! thank goodness for mums. x

 

[Hann12]

How's Neel today Caz? Hope a bit better. I don't blame you wanting a chilled out day tomorrow after all your running around!!

Simmy - that's great that you had fun with Leo, it's exhausting though isn't it?

Georgie - really pleased your parents are back and can help a bit. Makes things a but easier for you, everyone needs help.

Well I was up for hours last night, Annabelle had a temperature and was crying constantly. Did the usual ibroprofen and calpol and she finally slept from 2.30om
- 7pm. Feeling rather shattered this morning but its been mayhem since 7 because she's still been crying and temperature so I've given more calpol and she's had an hours sleep. She just woke up but seems to have snuggled back down again. At the same time I had Greg calling because he got to the airport and his flight was cancelled so wanted me to try and get him another flight (screaming Annabelle in the background!). Anyway his work are handling as they should and he is still somewhere in London getting very annoyed as he's spent months planning meetings and now they will miss the ones today anyway. Nightmare!
On the up side my parents arrive at 2.30/3pm so that will be nice, and I start Nct classes tonight, although I'll be exhausted by 7.30pm for them!
The girl is awake so looks like the fun is about to start again. Fabulous!!

 

[LittleSpy]

Hann -- Oh, I hope Annabelle feels better soon! I thought Maisie was over her (our) cold, but she woke up coughing a lot overnight. I so need a decent night of sleep before this baby comes!

Georgie -- Ooooh, how nice to get a short nap! You're my hero right now, by the way. I know I'm going to be coming to you for much advice in a month or so!

Simmy -- Yikes, no fluid? I keep worrying something unexpected like that is going to happen and they're going to want to induce me. I had water for days and days when they broke mine with Maisie. So gross. It came spurting out with every contraction for like 10 hours. And I remember when I sat up for the epidural (after my water had been broken for like 4 hours), it was just like a waterfall off the bed and into the chair that my feet were on and the floor and everywhere.

Caz -- I hope Neel feels better soon!

Oof, as of last night I think I've officially become exceedingly uncomfortably pregnant. My bump and lower back are so crampy. I swear I thought Violet was digging her way out last night. I just knew she was going to break my water. And all I could do was think about how my work has piled up since I've been sick. So today's agenda is to catch up at work (fine job I'm doing, lol) so maybe I'll worry more about not having the crib set up and my house being a complete disaster if I think I'm going into labor instead of worrying about a job I'm not coming back to.

 

[Hann12]

I would def ditch the Work for your job if you aren't going back!!

You are funny about your waters! I had a tiny trickle (like virtually nothing) they didn't even need a wet pad!

The day of horror continues, she's just so upset and continual crying, her hands and lips are blue even though she's hot. Not fun! Oh and gregs still stuck at the airport and is majorly annoyed he has missed his meetings for today as they would have been really good

 

[melissasbump]

Oh Hann so sorry to hear about Annabelle, not what you need! Boo to Gregs flight getting cancelled too, bet hes not a happy bunny! On the upside at least your parents are coming so that will give you some much needed help/rest hopefully.

Littlespy, your uncomfortableness seems to have come on as quickly as mine did. Oh my god i really thought i had contractions starting last night. They were unlike any BH ive had before and although not painful and didnt amount to anything i did have a little panic!

It also just dawned on me that its likely that 2 weeks thursday will be the absolute LATEST i will have my baby! How scary is that!!!
Harrison been swimming today and now hes just gone down for a (hopefully long) nap and im resting my old bones lol
My text buddy on my April thread had her section on sun, she had a little boy called Harrison (great name) but hes unfortunatly in special care at the mo and stuggling to breath on his own and has an infection. They think he will be fine but poor mummy has not even been able to cuddle him yet, that breaks my heart..