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[caz_hills]

Grrrr Neel is saying I'm working too much in the evenings.... GRRRRRRRR I'm doing that because he is sick and isn't doing anything so I'm trying to do everything - washing up, washing, looking after Ajay, cooking, tidying etc etc plus work on top of that. Is he being ungrateful or am I over-reacting? I can't win! x

 

[mummySS]

Oh Caz that's not fair of him!! Think he needs to appreciate that you don't exactly want to work in the evenings but you have no choice especially if you've had no help from him...

Just as a friend though, I do think it sounds like your work are taking the mickey with your workload I really hope you can have a chat with them and they will actually do something about it. And for the record I still don't think neel should say stuff like that, if you're working hard he should support you through it rather than criticising you.

Hann re the section, we didn't really talk dates (and in hindsight I should have asked) but I'm going to push for it to be after 40 wks. I have another appt mid-May so I guess we'll find out then.

Sorry annabelle's still under the weather - really hope she gets better soon or at the very least she sleeps through tonight! X

 

[caz_hills]

Thanks Simmy. You are totally right. I'm doing a full time job in four days and its tough. This is also my busiest time of year with pay review. I guess I'm just annoyed at Neel as I've been doing so much and e still complains. Also he refused to see Ajay for three days - I know he didn't want to give him te flu but three days of literally locking himself away. It's been tough and I know it's silly as its only been a few days but I just feel disappointed that he has found something to moan about when in exhausted looking after him and Ajay.

But good point about work- I need to draw a line I just hate being seen as the part time woman but its getting a bit out of control x you know I always appreciate your honesty xxx

 

[mummySS]

Yes possibly a bit OTT to not even see Ajay for 3 days - that puts a lot of pressure on you. I completely get the thing about not being seen as the part time woman, I really do. It's just unfair that we feel we have to work harder and on days we're not paid to get around that part time stigma. In my old job (albeit pre-baby), I put in so many hours and worked most weekends, and I only realised after I left that they were completely overworking me and with no thanks (financial or other!) whatsoever. It just made me realise that Big companies don't give a crap about you and that you should prioritise your life over your work. Anyway, I completely understand it's easier said than done and you also have to think about your career/the future. Hope you can work something out, and I'm sure things will ease up a little anyway once you're out of the busy period. Xxx

 

[Hann12]

Up at 5.45am which is marginally better but temperatures 102.3F. Think I'd better take her to the doctors today. Poor baby! I'm sure they'll do nothing as its more than likely just teething but as its now day 3 of a high temperature it's probably a good idea. Pretty knackered

 

[Hann12]

And glad I went as she has tonsillitis and we have antibiotics. Feel terrible that I didn't go yesterday!

 

[mummySS]

Oh Hann don't feel bad same thing happened when Leo was ill, I only took him on day 5. At least she'll start to feel better soon with the antibiotics. Poor love, she's been through it hasn't she, with all the ear infections and now this Draining for you too Hope you can get a nap today - are your parents still there?

 

[Doodlepants]

That's cool about your work trip to India Caz! It does sound like you're quite busy, hopefully Neel appreciates it- is he feeling better?

How fantastic Simmy!! I'm so pleased your appointment goes well- what a difference it makes having a nice consultant!

How is Annabelle now Hann? Don't beat yourself up about not going to the docs yesterday- you weren't to know and quite often we take them only to be told "it's a viral infection" so I would have left it a day too. I hope she feels better soon.

Sorry for the rushed post, we've been out all morning which was lovely but now I have loads to do! My dishwasher awaits...

 

[Hann12]

Thanks girls, she actually seems a bit happier today though not eaten still. I also have a horrible suspicion I might get it as my throats starting to feel a bit sore. I really hope not!!
Of course I had a text from MIL (spoke to her last night and she said it could be her throat so I text her and said she had tonsillitis) saying 'she knew that it was her throat and that maybe I should have gone earlier' grrrr.

Trying to work up to sewing the patchwork quilt together for the baby. My parents are still here thankfully so I should just do it as it will only take an hour or so but everything seems like such a effort. I know I should though!

Oh and Annabelle can count to 10 now too! It just happened yesterday, she seems to understand that she is actually counting too rather than just reciting the numbers - she counts her fingers and blocks etc so I'm really quite proud

Hope you are all doing okay today.
Simmy - I don't blame you for seeing if they can do the section at 40 weeks - like me your date was put forward by a week so you know you have a bit more time too.

 

[melissasbump]

Hi ladies.

Simmy so glad your appointment went well for you, your consultant sounds really nice and realistic so thats a good thing.

Caz, the India trip sounds great, in 3 days though? that doesnt seem long enough to me lol. Would love to go though, have you been before, what will you be doing? Boo ti Neel for moaning at you for working in the evening though, its not exactly your choice is it! i agree with Simmy, i do think your workload is a lot for 4 days a week!

Hann, poor Annabelle! but dont feel bad for not taking her to the GP sooner, you werent to know and as others said we usually just get fobbed off with the "viral" thing.
Yay for Annabelle counting to 10 too! very impressive!

AFM, been feeling pretty crap today hence not been on, im not sleeping well despite being exausted. Alan has been great though and given me plenty of oppotunity today to be lazy. Had friends over for a cuppa this morning, then after lunch Alan went and did the food shopping with Harrison whilst i stayed at home, he also took him and Rocky for a walk whilst i scraped together some dinner too.
Must get an early night tonight as got to be up early as we have to be up hospital early in the morning as i have MY SCAN AND CONSULTANT APP! yay! Im gonna find out my babies birthday! we are so excited!
Also my mum will be home tomorrow evening so that worry is also out the window!

 

[caz_hills]

Hi girls,

Got to be quick as exhausted too!

Mel yay for finding out the date tomorrow I will check on and see!

Han please don't beat yourself up about not taking her to the dr earlier. You never know as often it's just teething!

Simmy - any nice weekend plans?

Maria- hope the dish washing was fun?!?!

Long way with work and college but Neel is getting a little better which is good. He wants to go back to worktomorrow I think but tonight he said ive been great which was nice to hear. X

 

[mummySS]

Well done on annabelle counting to 10 - how cute! Leo has regressed. He knows he gets a cheer on '10' so he now skips most of the numbers ("1,2,3,9,10!") How's A been today, does she seem any better?

Maria how was your night out?

Mel hope all goes well in the morning - how exciting!

Just been tidying up the house as the PILs are coming for the weekend tomorrow - we only ever have a proper tidy up before they come

Night night all x

 

[mummySS]

Oops Caz just saw your post - you must be knackered - Tfi Friday eh?? X

 

[Hann12]

Simmy - Annabelle has a particular liking to the numbers two and six, we sometimes start there lol! Shes starting to get it though!

Caz - its home time yay!! Have a big rest over the weekend!

Simmy - hope you have a nice weekend (?!) with the inlaws. Funnily enough mine are coming on Monday - Weds. Needless to say I'm not looking forward to it!

Okay some honest opinions, I'm feeling pretty paranoid about my size at the moment, in general feeling very very huge and unattractive. Hopefully these links will work, the first link is me at 32 weeks with Annabelle, the second I just got Greg to take so is at 32 weeks. Am I a similar size? Should I stop panicking? I'm seriously getting a complex about having a massive baby which I know I can't do anything about anyway but I'm just worried because I had such trouble pushing out Annabelle and she was tiny so if this one is huge I'm worried!! Thanks for taking a look

https://www.totsites.com/tot/minimalone/photosd/5656845.html

https://www.totsites.com/tot/minimalone/photosd/6257981.html

 

[LittleSpy]

Hann, I actually had to read your description of which picture was from which time again because you actually look bigger with Annabelle to me.

I was massive earlier on but I think I've evened out about now. The thing that's different between Maisie and this one is how incredibly low Vi is at this point. She dropped really far down a few days ago.

 

[Hann12]

Thanks Julie - feel slightly relieved by that! I know it means nothing really but it makes me feel better!! I loved your latest bump pic on fb - she's def dropped down! It's funny because I read that second timers/subsequent babies often don't engage until just before labour whereas first timers tend to engage 36+ weeks. You must be early to be engaged at 36 weeks! What's your due date?

 

[LittleSpy]

^ That's what I thought, too! But if I learned anything with Maisie, it's that my body is the master of deception when it comes to the "signs" of impending labor.

Due date is April 11. My OB said my cervix is also already all the way forward which I also thought didn't happen until just before labor for most. BS, body, BS!

All I know is I was MUCH more comfortable before she decided to drop. She's on my sciatic nerve now with pain shooting down my right leg and she's also causing the shooting cervix pain fun that I was so hoping wouldn't happen at the end of this pregnancy. I was fine until she dropped and now I'm pretty much a hot mess.

 

[melissasbump]

Hann. i think you look bigger with Annabelle too in those pics!

Hi ladies.
Well today didnt go quite as i expected...
Started off at the hospital with my scan, the reason for it was to check the positioning as baby was breech last week.
Well baby is no longer breech, i think this happened over last weekend when i had all that pain? So thats good, also measuring bang on for my dates and fluid is good but not excesssive.
So that all went well
next i had my consultant appointment..
Never met this woman before. She proceeded to ask me about my birth choice (she had just been reading my previous notes)
Oh my god this lady was SOO negetive about c section, she obviously had to tell me the risks which i understand and apreciate, but she went so overboard on the negetives and not one positive thing came out of her mouth. She seemed to take great pleasure in telling me how my last C section wasnt straight forward( never heard this before) and that all this terrible things could happen including the likelyhood of me needing a hysterectomy in the next few years. Alan was sitting there with his mouth open! She also asked the question that if i go into labour and its all normal did i want to carry on with the natural or still have a section. The way she worded it though made it seem as if i didnt say what she wanted to hear it would be wrong. I actually got quite upset at that point and Alan stepped in and said how scared i was of labour etc due to previous and that i had to be honest. Anyhow thats gone down as "undecided" but we have talked about it some more and i still want the section unless execptional circumstances.
Then we came on to dates and the EARLIEST they can get me in as so busy is 4th April meaning i will be 39+4. That to me is very late and im really disappointed with it
My BP is still high and still got protein but that wasnt even mentioned today and i only got told i had protein today when i asked.
So obviously im happy that all appears well with the baby, im a little disappointed with how today went, we both feel a bit like that but i also feel quite selfish as im just so tired of being pregnant and how shite i feel all the time.
Also feel like im coming down with a cold etc, really runny nose and sore throat and head.
The other thing is im really scared now of going into labour and ive lost a bit of trust in, if it happens what they will do when i get to hospital.
Also why is this the 1st time ive heard about the "complications" with my last section? Surely this should have been discussed with me before now? I have always expressed my desire to go for the section so they had every oppotunity. Its all thrown my head a bit to be honest.
Im not (and never was going to) post my date on fb so ladies if you could keep it on here id be grateful xx

 

[Hann12]

Mel I find the whole thing very strange because surely if there were complications last time they would have told you afterwards and to say that about the hysterectomy is strange too. On that 16 kids and counting this week the mum was on her 5th section so clearly you can have more than 2. I know for a fact that hospitals don't like c sections because they get rewarded based on their numbers of 'normal' deliveries, plus they cost a lot more as you have all the doctors, anaesthetists etc. if I'm honest I think she was trying to scare you in the hope that you might change your mind which is easier for them provided everything goes well. If they have previously given you the go ahead to have the section then stuck to your guns but Alan must be very pushy and verbal on the day if you happen to go into labour before as you won't be of the right mind to make that decision.
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I think you'll be okay with the date of the 4th though, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!
With H being fairly late hopefully this one will follow his pattern.

Sorry you are feeling sick and fed up though, hopefully now your parents are back they can help out a fair bit, and Alan too. Have a nice relaxing bath with candles and an early night tonight and try to forget the horrible woman today. Focus on the date and that everything will go to plan. The 4/4/13 is a lovely date at least and won't mention it
Xx

Julie - you never know you could have an early escapee! However I'd be thinking the same as you that it's not going to happen until 40 weeks - avoids disappointment!! I'm actually aiming for 41 weeks - what's one extra week after all lol - remind me of that!!

 

[Hann12]

Oh and I sent the photos to my mum and she came back saying that I might have more sideways this time and that she doesn't remember being bigger with my brother but he was over 2 pounds heavier, wow mum thanks for the reassurance!! Clearly she thinks I'm a similar size so why can't she just say that and leave it at that?!