wrightywales
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January Jelly Beans 2014!
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wrightywales
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Lola_0106
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I'm really sorry but I need to have a bit of a rant...
Last night DH and I decided to tell our best friends (who are a couple) about the baby, i figured if anything goes wrong it will be good to have them there for support. I know they have been sort of trying for a baby themselves for a while, they have had all the tests and they have all come back fine. I think the reason they havent been successful is firstly due to her not knowing or trying to find out when she ovulates and the amount they both drink - they drink every night, whiskey, beer and wine - they dont get drunk all the time, but they drink a lot. They have also been offered IVF but have turned it down and openly said they can't afford a baby at the moment.
So I knew it would be a touchy subject and I really do understand how difficult it must be, but they always have said they will be happy for us. Anyway, when we told them, she was very happy and hugged us both, but her OH, who I have known a lot longer, just sat there and didn't acknowledge what we'd said. During the rest of the night, he decided to smoke - which he doesn't usually do unless we are outside having a bbq or something, but rather than going outside he sat on the window-sill. So obviously the room filled with smoke and they both now knew i had quit less than 2 weeks ago because of the baby. during the rest of the night, he was lighting up inside but then going outside to actually smoke.
I found it quite rude and don't understand why he didn't say congratulations or acknowledge what we'd said at all, if it was the other way round and they'd announced they were pregnant and we were struggling, I would still be really happy for them! I know regret telling them when I should be happy my best friends can share this with us.
Would any of you be upset or am I over reacting and being awful?
Last night DH and I decided to tell our best friends (who are a couple) about the baby, i figured if anything goes wrong it will be good to have them there for support. I know they have been sort of trying for a baby themselves for a while, they have had all the tests and they have all come back fine. I think the reason they havent been successful is firstly due to her not knowing or trying to find out when she ovulates and the amount they both drink - they drink every night, whiskey, beer and wine - they dont get drunk all the time, but they drink a lot. They have also been offered IVF but have turned it down and openly said they can't afford a baby at the moment.
So I knew it would be a touchy subject and I really do understand how difficult it must be, but they always have said they will be happy for us. Anyway, when we told them, she was very happy and hugged us both, but her OH, who I have known a lot longer, just sat there and didn't acknowledge what we'd said. During the rest of the night, he decided to smoke - which he doesn't usually do unless we are outside having a bbq or something, but rather than going outside he sat on the window-sill. So obviously the room filled with smoke and they both now knew i had quit less than 2 weeks ago because of the baby. during the rest of the night, he was lighting up inside but then going outside to actually smoke.
I found it quite rude and don't understand why he didn't say congratulations or acknowledge what we'd said at all, if it was the other way round and they'd announced they were pregnant and we were struggling, I would still be really happy for them! I know regret telling them when I should be happy my best friends can share this with us.
Would any of you be upset or am I over reacting and being awful?
new_to_ttc
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Sounds like a tricky subject, if you have known him longer and therefore probably that bit closer?? it might be hard for him to digest, and maybe he feels a little to blame that they dont have the same great news. Im sure once the news sinks in he will apologise and be there fore you, I'd like to think that anyway!! Maybe if they are good friends ask him directly why he was so rude to you both, and that you would really like his support. As for the smoking, that was just rude and tactless, Im sorry.I hope its just shock and he comes round.
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Hi everyone. I'm out of town until Tuesday and won't be online much. There will be delays with FB adds and such. Thanks for your patience! 
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I sleep and miss pages of info lol I read back but forgot hat I read lol
Congrats to all the new ladies and to the great scans keep them coming
Lola like new said maybe it was the shock hope he comes around soon the smoking was just rude next time you should just tell him if he could go outside even to light up
Afm sleep like a baby
my hubs was so happy when I showed him the video it didn't have great sound but next week we will hear it better all this talk about food made me hungry lol
Congrats to all the new ladies and to the great scans keep them coming
Lola like new said maybe it was the shock hope he comes around soon the smoking was just rude next time you should just tell him if he could go outside even to light up
Afm sleep like a baby
my hubs was so happy when I showed him the video it didn't have great sound but next week we will hear it better all this talk about food made me hungry lol
might head out to McDs for some breakfast 
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Yum, Lucy I was thinking the same thing. Is that allowed? Lol. Have a great day ladies. Xo
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Hi, please add me, due 25th jan. Have pmd facebook details too 
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Don't know if its allowed but am enjoying it lol
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After waking up early, dreaming of food and then waiting for my OH to sleep in a bit, I get up and take a shower and he cooks breakfast for himself and not me. I so should have gone by myself! The regret! There is always the weekend.........
Lola, rant away. Honestly, I can understand that your friend might be having a hard time, but I hope he will come around! xo That's hard for you - I know you want them to celebrate you
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Lola, rant away. Honestly, I can understand that your friend might be having a hard time, but I hope he will come around! xo That's hard for you - I know you want them to celebrate you
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Lucy, you are so right! Everyone in here is due in January right? How can someone be 10 weeks along? Not fair?! I'm only 4+3 today and due January 28th. Doesn't make sense. Sorry if I sound rude. I'm having a hard time keeping myself in check these days! Hormones are kind of raging.
Hope I havent caused confusion if that last post of mine was read wrong. I meant that I will be 10 weeks pregnant on 24th June when I go for my first scan! Just got my letter today. So glad as I thought I may have had to wait longer.
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Worried, oooh, so you're about seven weeks... congrats!
That's the day I go for my first scan too! I'll be around 12 weeks. So excited but time is going SO slowly!
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Hi Lola. Hope you are feeling better now. Once your friend is over the shock he will probably get better. The smoking thing is pretty rude though.
I was totally one of those people after the second year of trying. I could only muster up the smallest of congratulations. The whole thing made me want to scream and cry. I would usually excuse myself to the toilet for a cry honestly. I'm sure he feels bad for not being supportive but maybe he feels like he is stopping himself saying something nasty by not saying anything at all?
I was totally one of those people after the second year of trying. I could only muster up the smallest of congratulations. The whole thing made me want to scream and cry. I would usually excuse myself to the toilet for a cry honestly. I'm sure he feels bad for not being supportive but maybe he feels like he is stopping himself saying something nasty by not saying anything at all?
