March Testers!!!

[Trying4first1]

Tankel- It interesting that SMEP worked first time for you, maybe all the is worth it! Its nice to hear that you felt more connected too, but I know what you mean about starting too early as wouldn't want to wear yourself down. I do worry about that. Baby making was fun, but can be a bit of chore I have found out since the MC. However, it will pay off one day I am sure , Sorry to hear that you have started bleeding again. Hoping for you that the shows her face very soon! Would be great if you could test in March. I will only be a March tester if AF stays away as I don't like to test early.

Haiyouguiz- Welcome to the thread! I hope that you have lots of luck and get your quickly!

Jumpingo- I am already on the SMEP train thread also Also hoping that you get a Birthday , what an amazing present that would be!

How is everyone feeling today? My AF finished yesterday so I am now feeling more relaxed again. Do you all feel relaxed up until ovulation and then feel really anxious in the TTW? I find this is the case, then when I get my period i get really upset and feel crappy for a fews days, then spring to life again! Such a horrible cycle

 

[xLottiex]

Tankel - oh no I hope your body sorts itself out very soon! I cant even begin to imagine the heartbreak you are going through. Big hugs

Trying- As last cycle was our first cycle 'trying', I got stressed if i felt like we hadnt BD'd enough. Also, I didnt have a positive OPK until CD35 so i was thinking - did I ovulate? Did I miss my surge? Do I actually ovulate at all? Is that a half positive OPK? Did we BD enough around that time?!!! So that was a nightmare - hoping for a smoother cycle!!

The TWW was awful, I was symptom spotting loads but then realised it was kinda pointless to symptom spot until implantation time. My temps went up and down in the post-o phase and it didnt look like a pregnancy chart so i kinda knew I was out from about 7/8/9dpo. I slept very poorly as I was frightened I would sleep past the time I needed to temp. So number 1. that didnt help with anxiety, 2. broken sleep made me super tired and 3. it didnt help with my temps anyway!!

It will be interesting to see how I do this TWW. I will have to hide my pregnancy tests so I dont test too soon!!

I saw my temp drop at 12dpo so knew id be out.. as you said I found myself spring back to life as AF actually came - I had a definite answer - knew that I wasn't pregnant and that we could gear up for the next cycle.

PHEW *breathes*

 

[tankel]

Yikes sounds so stressful! I am a ss and a crazy tester, but I kinda love it. When you said that you were afraid that you missed your surge, that is why SMEP is so great. It kinda takes the fear away, because even if you don't get a pos OPK or a clear temp rise, you at least know that you covered your bases!

 

[sunshine2014]

I've made note of how it works. Thanks!

Tsnkel so sorry you may not be a March tester, but you never know!!! Stay positive )) I have no idea If I will either, but it's good positive thinking to hope. Fx for you!!

 

[sunshine2014]

I've made note of how it works. Thanks!

Tsnkel so sorry you may not be a March tester, but you never know!!! Stay positive )) I have no idea If I will either, but it's good positive thinking to hope. Fx for you!!

 

[jumpingo]

i'm a SMEP believer too. like tankel said, even if you "miss" your surge with OPKs or CM throws you off, every other day the whole month will still mean you hit 2-3 of your fertile window days.

the first cycle we did SMEP, i let my husband get frisky too early and then he was burnt out for 2 key days and...BFN. so the 2nd cycle i flatly said it wasn't personal, but i would say no if he got frisky on an "off" day. we followed the plan exactly and...BFP.

that was cycle #5 of no protection, 4th cycle of actively trying/charting/temping. thing is, even if you time everything EXACTLY perfect, the chances of conceiving are still only 20-25%. which sucks, but is comforting when the BFNs or AF show. so, you could SMEP perfect every month, and it still might take a bit. but i'll still say: SMEP4LYFE

 

[sunshine2014]

Lottie!!!!!! You sound like me haha, I was getting so stressed out about temping that I was losing sleep. It was a vicious cycle. But I did find it useful, so hopefully I will relax more next time.

Dh could dtd every single night. Not me! I get so tired haha. I miss the good old days.

 

[meg_bellamy]

I'm going to be just like you girls in TWW I can tell, symptom spotting and taking HPT every day haha.

SMEP sounds like a good idea. I was thinking we should dtd for like a few days before O, day of O then a couple days afterwards? Or is it better to not dtd so much? Hmm

I just can't wait for my AF to start so I can start my official first cycle TTC

 

[jumpingo]

I'm going to be just like you girls in TWW I can tell, symptom spotting and taking HPT every day haha.

SMEP sounds like a good idea. I was thinking we should dtd for like a few days before O, day of O then a couple days afterwards? Or is it better to not dtd so much? Hmm

I just can't wait for my AF to start so I can start my official first cycle TTC

i have heard that it's not good to go too long between sex (some people think you should "store up" the good ones) but that being consistent, without overdoing it, is actually good to get more consistently healthy fast ones. i have also read on here from women whose husband's have sperm issues have been told by their doctors not to have sex every day. not sure where the line is...but i think, assuming there are no male factors, every day is fine. as much as your husband (or you!) can muster!

 

[xLottiex]

Sunshine ~ temping is a nightmare isnt it! But I agree... I found it very helpful!

Jumpingo ~ the statistics suck! 20-25% of getting pregnant even if you time bd perfectly

Meg ~ if you can manage that, go for it! The sperm that reaches the egg has to have high endurance anyway so even if you do it every day (and if there's evidence that the sperm quality decreases) the good sperm will get there!!

 

[Trying4first1]

Hey!

How is everyone doing?? Operation SMEP started for me last night so I am feeling happy now that I know we have started our next cycle and I am not waiting around anymore. Trying not to think about the dreaded TWW yet and just enjoying the here and now
Me and DH have decided that we are going to move house so that is now keeping my mind busy, which will help!
Feeling a bit miffed though as my mum and sister have been chatting and they think I'm pregnant because I look so tired etc (I must look like crap then ). They don't believe me and think I am lying, I wish I was lying
Oh well they are obviously just hoping for the good news. They just have to be more patient because this can and may take a very longggggg time

 

[sunshine2014]

Tryingforfirst - so sorry your family are making comments. I know they mean well, and are just excited for you, but it's still stressful. Glad operation SMEP started. YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I get so excited when other people start bd haha, so hope that's not creepy. I can't wait for my turn to come again. Still hoping to be a March tester.

 

[teamdavis]

I will be testing in March! (Or end of Feb if I can't wait!) First cycle trying and I am so excited!

 

[jumpingo]

Hey!

How is everyone doing?? Operation SMEP started for me last night so I am feeling happy now that I know we have started our next cycle and I am not waiting around anymore. Trying not to think about the dreaded TWW yet and just enjoying the here and now
Me and DH have decided that we are going to move house so that is now keeping my mind busy, which will help!
Feeling a bit miffed though as my mum and sister have been chatting and they think I'm pregnant because I look so tired etc (I must look like crap then ). They don't believe me and think I am lying, I wish I was lying
Oh well they are obviously just hoping for the good news. They just have to be more patient because this can and may take a very longggggg time

we never came out and said "we are trying" but we have always said we want kids, so after we got married, anytime my mom made comments about not having any grandkids yet -({|=) my husband and i would just look at each other and say, "hey, we're going as fast as we can..." with an implied sense that ttc was not a topic we wanted to talk about. and i explicitly said i wouldn't get pregnant any month that would put me at risk for missing my brother's wedding in september.

then i got pregnant, on the last month we were going to try for a little bit, but i didn't tell them. and then i miscarried. and they don't know anything! and now we're back in a "safe" zone for getting pregnant, and it's only a matter of time before the comments start again.

before, we had only been trying for about 5 months, so it was easy to brush off her comments. we weren't "struggling to get pregnant"...yet. but now, i'm not sure i will be able to even say anything. if i get defensive or overly "that is not up for discussion" about it, i have a feeling my mom will know something is up (and i don't want to tell her anything) but i'm at a place that i need those not to be okay comments. so it will be interesting if she says anything and how i will respond.

basically, all that to say i'm sorry your family are making inappropriate comments. um, hello!? never tell something they look tired!! not to mention if you ARE pregnant, it's only their business if you decide to tell them. i will flat out lie if my parents ask me if i'm pregnant before we are ready to tell them.

okay, stepping off my soap box now. sorry...it gets me riled up!

 

[meg_bellamy]

I will be testing in March! (Or end of Feb if I can't wait!) First cycle trying and I am so excited!

It's my first cycle trying too good luck!

Girls I know what you mean about people making comments, my MIL brings up babies alllllll the time. It really is no-one's business!

Lottie and jumpingo we will see, I say we will do all this BDing but sometimes I just like my sleep toooo much haha

 

[xLottiex]

Trying & jumpingo ~ I know how you feel. Our families are subtly asking/ hinting that they want a new baby in the family. My side of the fam have actually put bets on for 'when we will announce' that we're having a baby! So no pressure there then! It will be the first grandchild on my side.

As for my husbands family, they have been hinting for a grandchild since the wedding day (actually during my father-in-laws speech lol). Luckily my sister-in-law has a 1.5 yr old so he keeps them entertained and keeps the pressure off us a bit. My SIL just announced she was pregnant with her 2nd a few weeks ago, which put the pressure on us a little bit more to keep up with them!.. . Id always wanted to be pregnant at the same time as her when she had her 2nd. Unfortunately she misscarried last week which had put a downer on the whole situation. Its made me feel less desperate to conceive as I think I would feel guilty I'd be having a baby first. I dont know how to feel about alll that.

As for SMEP, its CD7 today so the BDing starts tomorrow wahoo! Its going to be 1 hell of a marathon as I dont expect to ovulate for 2 weeks! But hey-ho the things you gotta do right??!!

 

[tankel]

Comments for MIL's I've get those. No one knew were were trying until I was already 9 weeks along. But after the MC, my MIL thinks she is on duty to help me with all the TTC info. Things I heard from her just last night:
"When are you going to start tying again?"
"I looked it up and you can start in a month!"
"I bought my son some vitamins so his sperm is better quality. Make sure he takes them."
"Have you had sex at all since the MC?"
"Are you going to a doctor for advice on TTC?"

I told my DH that I am so sick of talking about my vagina and his with his mother. UGH!

 

[sunshine2014]

Omg tankel!!!!! I would be mortified hahaha. That is so uncomfortable.

We have told anyone about our plans to wait or TTC, except my parents. They want us to wait for the testing to be done because they don't want me to have to go through a third mc. But other than that, we are very lucky that no one puts pressure on us or asks about our plans lol. Thankfully.

 

[xLottiex]

Omg tankel hahaha! I would be embarrassed! TMI!

Sunshine ~ I want to tell my mum and dad we are trying as they had problems for 1 year before they conceived so I want to know more about it to see if it could happen to me too. All I know is that they tried for a year, had problems, went to the dr, got given "some medication" and she got pregnant the first month taking the meds. If I ask it will be totally obvious that we are trying. And I want to suprise them with a pregnancy rather than a problem TTC.... maybe if im still here this time next year I might ask

 

[jumpingo]

tankel, from my snarky-could-never-actually-say-but-totally-want-to self:


"When are you going to start tying again?"
We love practicing too much at the moment.


"I looked it up and you can start in a month!"
Oh, so it has nothing to do with how much I'm still bleeding or when my hcg levels go back to normal or when we are emotionally ready to try again...just a month from now. Got it. Thanks(butnothanks).


"I bought my son some vitamins so his sperm is better quality. Make sure he takes them."
Did you really just try to start a conversation about your son's sperm with me?! Oh, you did? Okay, just checking...<walk away>


"Have you had sex at all since the MC?"
Just did, thanks.


"Are you going to a doctor for advice on TTC?"
Pretty sure I know how babies are made, but if you're asking if I'm physically healed from the MC (note: also none of your business) then yes, my heart has broken into a million pieces but I'm A-OK for all the sexin'."

I told my DH that I am so sick of talking about my vagina and his with his mother. UGH!

SERIOUSLY. he needs to stand up for you on that one!!