Sorry just realised I've made a mammoth post again, please don't feel you have to read, I think it just helps to offload it all, I think for all I thought I'd dealt with it all there's so much going on its all coming back! Sorry!
Thanks again everyone, its so nice to not be judged negatively!
Its certainly not a decision we made lightly. Daniel had be warned about his violent behaviour on more than one occassion. Finally it all came to a head one night when he came home drunk and started trying to fight with Rob in the front garden (I'm sure you've all gathered Rob isn't like that) Rob wouldn't fight back, ended up waking the boys up and half the neighbours (nice quiet neighbourhood on outskirts of Sheffield). The next day we warned him one more violent incident and he would have to move out. A week or two later he was meant to be staying at my mums, he never turned up and she was so worried. When he finally turned up I had a go at him for worrying my mother, this time he tried to hit Rob, when Rob wouldn't retaliate, he started throwing more punches at him shouting 'come on hit me, I want to get you sacked'. I tried to calm him down and he had me pinned up against the wall with his arm ready to punch me, I must admit I got angry and said 'go on then cos I'll be the last person you hit!' The boys witnessed this Harry was just sat in the conservatory crying! George who was just 5 was stomping round saying Daniels made Easter a bad easter!
He was due to go in the Navy a month later so we said he could stay till he went in the Navy but couldn't come back home to live (he had already been warned that we wouldn't put up with anymore violence)! Anyway the Navy only kept him for a few weeks. When the boys heard he was being sent back, George started wetting the bed and Harry wouldn't come out of his room. When I told my sister all this her words were 'what you moaning about he didn't hit you and the boys are just being manipulative as they don't want to share you with him anymore!' He went to live with my mum (he was 17) until we paid for him to go and volunteer in Poland, which was what he wanted to do, they only put up with him for a few weeks before they sent him back because they couldn't cope with him.
My mum now tells everyone and him, that he had to come out of the Navy because he had hayfever and that I made him go to Poland which is why it didn't work out!!! I think she's told Daniel this that much he actually believes it.
He came back from Poland just before Christmas, one of the teachers I used to work with (Harry's teacher) overheard a conversation I was having with Daniel on my mobile whilst I was at work, he was asking me to transfer some money to his account for the taxi back to the airport. Harry's teacher (and also good friend) said I hope you don't think I'm sticking my nose in, but you're not having Daniel back home are you? when I said no she said that she was glad as she saw the effect he had on Harry and how different he had been since he no longer lived with us. He appeared much happier and wasn't as quiet and reserved! Of course according to my family I'm making all this up!
We still carried on seeing him, paying for him etc until he threatened my mum with a knife and called me a f*****g slag (mentioned that in earlier posts). Even when he lived with my mum he would turn up on our doorstep drunk causing trouble. I must admit it was a relief when we moved here!
I recieved a txt off him about half an hour ago saying he is at Anthonys house (the groom to be) as his Brother has been a prick! long sotry, havent been to bed yet, will explain when he gets home
