lilly88
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Emma - so sorry you had a horrible Christmas, he sounds like an absolute arsehole. Has he been any better since (not that it would make up for how he's been)? Make sure you do try and eat - it'll make you feel loads better x x
RANT WARNING: DH's parents were down from yesterday afternoon and have just left and I didn't enjoy one single second of it. We met in Mothercare (they live about 300 miles North of us) as we were buying the pram for Lily yesterday as they were doing a sale (went with the Joie 3-in-1 travel system) and as soon as they got there they started getting involved in what teat flow we should get as if it weren't a choice of my own (it's my aim to breastfeed but also express to help me out in the night). Standing in Mothercare with his Dad going on like he's a f*cking expert on them with his mother pulling faces behind DH at anything I said. Then we went over to the pram which my parents have bought for us and they were talking as if they were buying it. Seeing his mother push my pram around the shop as if she will ever have Lily turned my stomach. Then she was looking at some awful clothes for her which she ended up buying and are hideous (maybe i'm biased as I literally hate this woman).
They then came to our house for dinner and even though I told his Dad not to give him any, he gave my dog some chocolate (I haven't told DH this) even though I told him it was poisonous to dogs!
Then today, DH suggested we go on holiday with them next year!!! To Wales to camp in a dome (an awesome idea if it were just the three of us), she was saying how she'd have the baby and do things with her without asking me. I really hate how people think they can lay claim to my child without asking me first. It's my daughter, I'll decide when I do and don't want to be away from her!
I realise none of the above actually warrants the rant but I haven't had a good history of relations with them from the start (for example his father spat in my face in the desert in Arizona a couple of years ago when we were doing Race Across America and his mother is just literally one of the worst human beings there are and the most selfish person in the world).
I'm sure my hormones are playing a massive part of all of this but I just wish families would keep their noses out. What's the harm in keeping things to ourselves and why do we feel we have to involve them in every decision we make? I don't particularly want his mother involved in which breast pump i'll buy, it's nothing to do with her and I don't in anyway value her opinion given that she keeps telling me that I shouldn't bother with breast feeding and it's bad for me as apparently the baby will just take all the good stuff away from me. Erm, women have been breastfeeding since neolithic times and our bodies adapt to provide for our babies. And even if that were the case, I want Lily to have all the good stuff she needs to help her grow?!
I am in such a foul mood (hence the long rambling post that probably doesn't make sense!), I feel so down lately, really alone but I can't really say for why. I think his parents are bothering me mainly because they just keep telling me what's going to happen with my baby but the rest must be hormones. Does anyone else feel like that?
Sorry for being so blue and pathetic! x x
RANT WARNING: DH's parents were down from yesterday afternoon and have just left and I didn't enjoy one single second of it. We met in Mothercare (they live about 300 miles North of us) as we were buying the pram for Lily yesterday as they were doing a sale (went with the Joie 3-in-1 travel system) and as soon as they got there they started getting involved in what teat flow we should get as if it weren't a choice of my own (it's my aim to breastfeed but also express to help me out in the night). Standing in Mothercare with his Dad going on like he's a f*cking expert on them with his mother pulling faces behind DH at anything I said. Then we went over to the pram which my parents have bought for us and they were talking as if they were buying it. Seeing his mother push my pram around the shop as if she will ever have Lily turned my stomach. Then she was looking at some awful clothes for her which she ended up buying and are hideous (maybe i'm biased as I literally hate this woman).
They then came to our house for dinner and even though I told his Dad not to give him any, he gave my dog some chocolate (I haven't told DH this) even though I told him it was poisonous to dogs!
Then today, DH suggested we go on holiday with them next year!!! To Wales to camp in a dome (an awesome idea if it were just the three of us), she was saying how she'd have the baby and do things with her without asking me. I really hate how people think they can lay claim to my child without asking me first. It's my daughter, I'll decide when I do and don't want to be away from her!
I realise none of the above actually warrants the rant but I haven't had a good history of relations with them from the start (for example his father spat in my face in the desert in Arizona a couple of years ago when we were doing Race Across America and his mother is just literally one of the worst human beings there are and the most selfish person in the world).
I'm sure my hormones are playing a massive part of all of this but I just wish families would keep their noses out. What's the harm in keeping things to ourselves and why do we feel we have to involve them in every decision we make? I don't particularly want his mother involved in which breast pump i'll buy, it's nothing to do with her and I don't in anyway value her opinion given that she keeps telling me that I shouldn't bother with breast feeding and it's bad for me as apparently the baby will just take all the good stuff away from me. Erm, women have been breastfeeding since neolithic times and our bodies adapt to provide for our babies. And even if that were the case, I want Lily to have all the good stuff she needs to help her grow?!
I am in such a foul mood (hence the long rambling post that probably doesn't make sense!), I feel so down lately, really alone but I can't really say for why. I think his parents are bothering me mainly because they just keep telling me what's going to happen with my baby but the rest must be hormones. Does anyone else feel like that?
Sorry for being so blue and pathetic! x x