Sticking Together Until We All Get BFP's!!!!

[MolGold]

Hey ladies

I haven't been posting a lot, I am following what you girls are upto.. I am glad we are Sticking together, as the title says..

Mary, my heart goes out to you and your family... I am so sad for your brother's condition so young! I hope he can pull out of it soon

Amy, I really want your couple's session to go well. I was aghast hearing of your childhood troubles.. I've seen it in my family too - an uncle of mine tried to molest my little sister I only knew much later.. I am happy you are being so +ve.. which goes to show you will work it out

Jess, I hope you feel better soon
Sunshine, wat a cute pair you make

Chelsea - sorry af got you

 

[AmySan]

Thank you Mol I really appreciate that It is a wonderful thread - it's like family. Hope you are well!

 

[chelsealynnb]

Ok so I went and saw the pelvic pain doctor today. She told me to continue taking the estrogen and then is phoning in a one month supply of bcp, followed by a month of active prevention before we can try again. She gave me bupivicaine injections (like triple what she normally does) and gave me 40 oxycodone without the Tylenol because they are stronger. She told me to keep the wounds slathered with neosporin and covered. I have to have a 3d ultrasound to make sure everything healed up.

Mary- I'm glad that your brother is doing better. Do they have any idea where he got the virus from or how long it will take to recover? It seems that if he has a really contagious virus, everyone he came into contact with should be under quarantine to make sure it doesn't spread. I'm still praying for you guys.

Amy - I'm so sorry you are having to deal with all of this. I really hope the psychology appointment goes well tonight. I really hope that everything works out! Are you guys going to try couples counseling at all? It's weird that your brother doesn't remember much!

Sunshine - I can't see a pic I'll try from a computer later

Chelsea - I'm sorry the witch caught ya. Are you still doing clomid this cycle?

Not doing Clomid this cycle. Going to also try to take a break from the OPKs this cycle as well. They stress me out so badly and I'm one of those "as soon as you stop trying so hard, you'll get knocked up". Going to NTNP this cycle. (Well, we're going to have sex during my fertile time if DH is in town from work but nothing else)

 

[Wishing1010]

I'm sorry to you ladies who are having such an awful month!!! I truly hope we see a brighter next couple of months. I'm still freaking spotting red...so over this AF.

Jess, I am glad they are helping you overcome some of your pain, I hate that you have had such an awful experience. I can't wait for you to start trying again!! When is your 3d US?

Amy, good luck with the counseling, I hope mike takes well to it and you all end up better than ever!

Chelsea, I'm sorry the witch came, I hope she disappears quickly for you!

Mary, I have been worried about your brother and you all day...I hate that you all have been going through this. I pray be heals up and is home soon!

Sunshine, you are so cute together!!!! Love it!!!! FX!

Mol, I hope you get a BFP soon!!!!!

I hope I didn't leave anyone out! I wish the best for you all!!!!

 

[aidensmommy1]

Jess feel better soon!f And Im glad they gave u the pain meds. Sometimes you just really need them! After my surgery I think it was about 2 1/2 months of healing but even if I only had the two side incisions like you, it still would have been at least a month to two months im sure to not be in pain anymore. I needed the ones without Tylenol as well because if your taking them.for a long period, its not good to have Tylenol on them so its really good they thought of that. Hopefully we all have a relaxing couple of months and time will fly by for u and you'll get ur sticky bean in no time after that! I have a really good feeling for you this year.
Also, they dont actually know if my brothers contagious yet..they're thinking hes probably not but they're doing a ton of things for precautions. Apparently hes not doing better as my sister described this a.m. Hes acting exactly the same as last night and he can't eat with a fork or spoon, he ate his lunch with his hands when we asked if he was going to eat. They said they'll know more about the cause and if its contagious and more about recovery in the next two days when results come in. They said not to expect a quick recovery and that for the first 3-7 days, as long as it doesn't get any worse, its normal for him to remain like this and then slowly get better. He will have to go to a rehabilitation center for speech, learning to eat, write, and working on his memory. This all just really feels like a nightmare. If the tests show its contagious, they're going to rush us all in for shots immediately but in the meantime they said they just want to take precautions and to just keep an eye on the kids and ourselves. The suits we wear in aren't just regular face masks either...their like goggles with a mask...almost like a whole face shield..idk how to describe it exactly. But anyways, he should be okay, it just may take some time. Thank u all again for the support. I def needed it. Hopefully we will get good news tomorrow or sat. And omg yes I know it is horrible that they could have prevented it from getting this bad but turned him away due to his past! There's too many ER docs these days who are like that and its not right . Hes in good hands with this new doc though. He seems very nice and like he knows what he's doing.

Anyways, to get off a sad subject, AF is gone besides I had one bit of spotting today and a few times yest but that's it. I'm not complaining about having a wacky period right now though. I'm NTNP any how so its ok for now. Oh I just remembered I need to go check the mail for my serrapeptase FX its here! If not it'll be by tomorrow.

Amy I hope everything goes good tonight with mike and the psychiatrist and I hope u get to see him. I know how hard it can be to be away from the one u love but you know what they say, distance makes the heart grow fonder, and I believe that's true when two people truly love each other. Maybe its just what u two needed and hopefully things just get better and better from here on out your in my thoughts. XXXX

Wishing, ur temp is exactly the same as it was this day last cycle. Maybe ull still have a nice cycle without trying with the clomid. Itd certainly be a nice surprise, that's for sure!

Mega, I hope u feel better!! Gosh everyone is sick or going through tough times! The stomach bug stinks too! I hate puking! I'd be happy to deal with it for pregnancy but in general, I hate it! I really hope u get better fast hun

Chelsea, im sorry AF got u hun . FX for ur bfp this cycle! Are you continuing the clomid this cycle?

 

[aidensmommy1]

Chelsea, I see u answered about clomid before I even asked lol. I didn't realize anyone else asked you. Good luck

AFM, I just ate the first thing in almost 48hrs. I feel alot better after eating! I hate that I lose my appetite when I'm stressed or have anxiety :-\. I NEED to gain weight! Nothing seemed appetizing though and then dh made me a bagel and it was delicious! My stomach feels much better now too. I'm going to bed early tonight..or try to anyways. Last night I could not sleep! But good night ladies! I hope everyone's nights going good

 

[Jrepp]

Kenna - I don't have a date for the ultrasound yet. I have to see the fertility specialist on May 5th and she will probably order it then. I don't quite know what the next steps are, aside from re-starting the estrogen pills and then picking up the bcps.

If you break it into days it isn't so bad. Essentially we have to wait 90 days before we can try again. It's already been 13 days, so I have 77 days to go. I have 10 estrogen pills left and then 21 days of birth control, so that would put it at 46 days remaining. I'll probably have a medically induced period from coming off the pill very shortly after that, and I have a pretty regular 32 day cycle, which would put me at 15 days before we can start trying. Pretty much I'll have one non-bcp cycle and them we can try again because I will have had 2 periods and ovulation will occur about 5 days after the 90 days is up.

 

[Wishing1010]

Kenna - I don't have a date for the ultrasound yet. I have to see the fertility specialist on May 5th and she will probably order it then. I don't quite know what the next steps are, aside from re-starting the estrogen pills and then picking up the bcps.

If you break it into days it isn't so bad. Essentially we have to wait 90 days before we can try again. It's already been 13 days, so I have 77 days to go. I have 10 estrogen pills left and then 21 days of birth control, so that would put it at 46 days remaining. I'll probably have a medically induced period from coming off the pill very shortly after that, and I have a pretty regular 32 day cycle, which would put me at 15 days before we can start trying. Pretty much I'll have one non-bcp cycle and them we can try again because I will have had 2 periods and ovulation will occur about 5 days after the 90 days is up.

Oh wow, it's not that bad when you look at days!!!!! I hope it flies by for you

 

[MolGold]

Thanks for your support wishing.. what have you been upto lately? I love your status 'Putting DH first'

Mary you are in all our prayers, hope your brother is well soon and your family's stress is soon relieved

Jess, yes you're right, day-wise it sounds less daunting and time will fly away before you know it

Chelsea, even I gave up OPKing this cycle as I never get a + it seems!! I feel much less stress relying on the BBT alone. I wonder if I should go in for clomid if I can't conceive at our 4th month trying... I have done all other tests and they are normal. Only thing is I am O'ing way past CD20

 

[aidensmommy1]

MolGold, have u ever tried vitex? It balances out ur hormones and can help u O earlier (or later if u O too early like me) But I also do think u sound like a good candidate for clomid instead, as well. I'd ask ur doctor about it. FX u get ur bfp either way! and I know what u mean, just temping this cycle is nice and alot less stressful! I'm not worried about opks and bding and everything..im just bding as we want and still temping so I dont fall behind over the next 3 months of NTNP

Thank u all again for ur many prayers for my brother!

I have an eye appt for my contacts at 2 today (yay!!! Finally!) and Dh and I are going to pick up my baby nephew right before that hes so friggen cute!! Dh keeps saying "this is going to be such a tease since we have to give him back" lol. And we're picking up Aiden :-D I miss him like crazy. Its April vaca and his dad has had him for 4 nights..i feel sick to my stomach when hes gone this long! And hopefully we will get good news on my brother tonight. Hopefully its a good Friday all around.

Do u girls have any wkend plans?

Amy, how did last night go?

 

[aidensmommy1]

Jess, that def sounds like alot less time when u break it down into days! That's a great way of thinking about it

 

[BabyPrayers21]

this afternoon. Broke down when my mom called me. She said I need to test in the morning and to wait a few more days.

I'm still upset.

 

[Jrepp]

Thanks for your support wishing.. what have you been upto lately? I love your status 'Putting DH first'

Mary you are in all our prayers, hope your brother is well soon and your family's stress is soon relieved

Jess, yes you're right, day-wise it sounds less daunting and time will fly away before you know it

Chelsea, even I gave up OPKing this cycle as I never get a + it seems!! I feel much less stress relying on the BBT alone. I wonder if I should go in for clomid if I can't conceive at our 4th month trying... I have done all other tests and they are normal. Only thing is I am O'ing way past CD20

How long is your cycle?

 

[AmySan]

Oh Mary, so so sorry Praying for your family!! That is just AWFUL!!! How scary

Last night went well, thank god. He went at the same time I had my appointment...we texted a little afterwards...he said he had a lot to process and think about. My psychologist was able to listen to him, but is doing it through my treatment and Mike said that he is fine with that. He set up a couples appt for us on Wednesday...

I offered to use my Monday appt for that as well, but he said he and my dr agreed I should have my own session first.

I asked him if we could get together this weekend, he said he needed to think about it.

So I may not be seeing him until Wednesday

Then I got scared and asked if he was planning on breaking up with me at that appointment, since he was saying things about my dr's priority being to keep me safe. Then he responded that there were conditions he had to decide on, and that I would have to have some too, and then see if we can agree. I of course said I would agree to whatever...

A little worried now the conditions will be more than just, not doing what I did...which is obvious...but like putting restraints on times we can see each other for a while, or waiting for x amount of months to TTC. I don't know. I'm a little bit scared. A lot scared. It scares me too that he doesn't say he misses me or wants to see me. I know it says a lot that he cares enought o do this therapy..but, this is the longest we have been apart. It's hard

I am on CD31 and supposedly 12ish DPO now...and no sign of AF. This is a long cycle for me. One of my longest ever. FF predicts AF on Sunday, I guess given my alteration to ovulation dates when I had that second positive test.

I am terrified to test at this point. Both because I will be so devastated if it says no..and I will know that is very likely correct...and not being able to try again...or, if it is positive, him not being happy. I would be ecstatic, but going through this now with him, it's like...ugh. I feel like if it is negative, in some ways he will be more inclined to not want to stay together...which i know probably isn't true...but I don't know. It's killing me

My boobs feel big and heavy and little twinges. But no real AF like cramps, or cramps at all...which i had when I was pregnant before...well now i'm feeling some cramping but can't tell if it is in my head or feels like af. Gah.

I'm scared. My heart hurts so much. And spending the weekend alone feels so sad And my darn back still hurts. Ugh.

Only kinda good thing - was leaving psychiatrist last night, i god rear ended. The damage is pretty minor, and i honestly don't care, since my car has so many miles on it...but it was a 17 year old kid in a truck, no damage to his vehicle...He was clearly scared, but stopped and did everything right. So considering that he was so young and under his parent's insurance (I tell my clients all of the time when their kids get in accidents - if it is minor - pay out of pocket, premiums will sky rocket and then it follows the kid for years) So I told him i work for an insurance company and that I didn't want his parent's premiums to go up...got his number and his mom's number. Driving away I was like eeh, he could have given me bad #'s...but i called him and he answered, which was good. Figured if the parents weren't cool, just write it off and call it good karma. Anyway, called her this morning, and told her who I was - poor thing, her son hadn't even told her lol...So she was like oh my gosh...I told her that I was in insurance and was willing to get an estimate and let her pay out of pocket - turned out, not only is she in insurance too, she works with my friend in my office, on commercial stuff. Anyway, lol, she was soo grateful and sweet, I got an estimate next door to work, they said about $600, but i could get it fixed for less somewhere else. Texted her that I would do that and we could just go with 400 or 500 - So she is going to bring me $500 in cash to the office on Thursday, lol. Chances are, i probably will not get it fixed, have to think about it...but, she was happy that her premiums and son aren't going to suffer, and I will have an extra $500.

Anyway! I can't wait for today to be over, feeling so anxious.

Love you all!!

 

[aidensmommy1]

Wow Amy, what a small world! (about the accident) and that's a very nice thing for u to do . I hope everything goes good with mike. I can def understand why you'd be scared . Hopefully your like me and are just thinking of the worst happening and hopefully it'll be alot better then expected. That always happens to me because I always think the worse from past experiences..i just cant help it! I'm praying for you and mike. And anytime u need to talk in the mean tome we are all here!! I just can't wait for this storm to blow over for us all!!


I have had the best way of having a stress free day even w my brother in the hospital. His baby that I have for the next 1-3 nights is sooo fricken cute! Like I can't even put it in words. I wish I didn't have to give him back lol! He smiles non stop like aiden did, like never cries...he just reminds me exactly of the way aiden acted but I just forgot how little and funny they really are lol I cannot wait! Dh is having ALOT of fun as well. This has been a good day because of him. Even through everything that's going on, this baby can still male everyone laugh. I'm grateful they picked/trusted me to watch him out of everyone. They have never both been away from him until today. As long as I can get this baby fix here and there, ill be golden! lol

 

[Jrepp]

Keep your head up Amy. Sometimes things just take time.

 

[Wishing1010]

Sorry I haven't been posting as much ladies, but I have definitely been keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.

Amy, I really hope these steps that you and Mike are taking will reunite you with an even better relationship. I know it's hard right now but don't give up!

Jess, when do you go back to work? Are you feeling any better?

Mary, any updates today on your brother?

Babyprayers, I hope you get your BFP very soon!!!!!! FX!

 

[aidensmommy1]

So far no updates on him but hes not getting worse so they say that's good. I should have a better update later about him. We are still waiting on those results. I guess they had to be sent out to a diff lab so that's probably delaying the spinal tap results a bit. We can now go in without masks and everything tho because IF he was ever even contagious, hes already been on meds for the 24hrs to make him not contagious and I know that makes him feel better because one of the few sentences he has put together back on the first night was "I dont know why they're making you guys wear all this shit!"(in a grumpy old man type voice lol). I think seeing us all suited up may have made him nervous inside..idk. They described it to us this way.... Say you were laying in a hospital bed in china and the majority of people spoke Chinese so you can hear them talk but can't understand them, most of the time, that's like how my brother is. He knows ppl r talking but he doesn't quite understand. So its like we're speaking a foreign language to him right now. He'll need rehabilitation for that most likely is what the docs are saying but cant say for sure until results. At this point we r hoping its what they think because other alternatives would be worse. I will let u know the results as soon as they're in. I can't wait for those results!!! I keep praying with the baby. Ive been talking to him like crazy lol.


So my serrapeptase enzyme came in! So I can start those today. Dh wants a baby way worse now. (as do I of course) Hopefully something gives at least in the next year. I didn't temp today so you know if u look at my chart...i just put the same temp as yest about. The baby had me up at 2 & 5 a.m so I was up early and couldn't temp before making him a bottle..he was rushing me lol. Oh well, at least O isn't extremely important for me this cycle. I still can't really eat myself but the baby has def helped keep me calm. I just wish we at least knew for sure what my brother has!!! Ugh. Hopefully today. Oh and the nurse actually said the words, not hinted but said "he wouldn't have been this bad if he was admitted on Monday when he first tried coming in". That makes me soooooo mad!

wishing, how have u been doing?! I miss our a.m chats lol but neither of us have been on as much the past few days. I hope u and dh are having a good weekend! We are suppose to get a storm tonight. Ick. I was hoping to cook out with the kids again. (I have my brothers son who is 6 as well..hes 6wks younger then Aiden). Oh well we will find something fun to do

baby dust ladies!!!

 

[Wishing1010]

Well, please keep us updated...this is so crazy that your family is going through this. One of those unexpected events that no one can even fathom.

We are in our swimsuits and on the way to go kayaking! I will check in with you ladies later

 

[Jrepp]

Sorry I haven't been posting as much ladies, but I have definitely been keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.

Amy, I really hope these steps that you and Mike are taking will reunite you with an even better relationship. I know it's hard right now but don't give up!

Jess, when do you go back to work? Are you feeling any better?

Mary, any updates today on your brother?

Babyprayers, I hope you get your BFP very soon!!!!!! FX!

How are you feeling?

I'm supposed to go back to work Monday, but he other teacher said if I needed to take a few more days to do so. They need me at 100% because they have had to do a lot of restraining lately and I can't do it. I might take her up on it just because I don't want to go back to work lol.