Stopping BCP to TTC***Updates & Progress/Noted Changes Since Stopping BCP***24BFPs***

[Mrskillala]

Hi guys! I started taking my BCP in June of this year and I stopped them a few days after I got married which was the end of August. We've been TTC since then and it hasn't worked. I think the BCP should be out of my system by now? Last month my period didn't start on the anticipated date so I took a test an got a BFN so I was confused and sad and moved on. We have sex every day or night rather unless we are sick which has only been a few days last month when we both had the stomach flu. Today I'm 3DPO (according to an app I've been using since we got married to track my period) and everytime my DH touches my nipples (sorry for that) they're sore and it hurts bad!! And yesterday I felt sick all day and nasueated and today my nipples still hurt and I've been having horrible cramps and I'm not sure what to think since it's not time for AF until next weekend. What else should I look for?

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Hi mrs killala....I stopped BCP last month myself. Im in the "is it out of my system and am I back on track" phase myself.

These ladies are awesome and can help! They answer all my newbie questions!!

 

[twinkie2]

mrsK- you weren't on it very long so I wouldn't think it would take long to get it out of your system. Are you temping or tracking cm or cp to help pinpoint ovulation?

 

[Mrskillala]

I haven't been honestly no just because my husband and I just moved into our apartment and are getting ghings settled and relaxing. I just started noticing some of it today and I use an app to track my periods since last month it didn't come at the right time and I thought I was gonna get a BFP but I gt a BFN instead and got my period the same day I had the stomach flu. So I put tht in my app and it anticipated my ovulation date to be the 3rd.

 

[MrsHudson]

Hi Mrskillala!

Sorry to hear the news Charlie

MsElizabeth, you are starting to scare me. I got spotting on Saturday, what appeared to be a light AF on Sunday and now nothing. Are we related lol? I do need to go to the restroom and check on things very soon. Seems my Chinese herbs actually worked though because that was definitely AF. I can FINALLY start charting without the "enter your last period" warning lol. Except... I forgot to temp this morning

Sorry I've been MIA. Started packing up our house and put an offer another one Friday. Should know the results tomorrow. Wish us luck.

 

[MrsHudson]

Oh and I got another drop when I went to the restroom..... I'm also so nauseous I can't eat. I hate being a woman sometimes.

 

[patienceiav]

Welcome MrsK! One thing i've learned over the months is it's so personal to what counts as BFP symptoms. One thing that will make it easier is using Fertility Friend app as it crosschecks your info against hundreds of thousands of other charts and based on your info gives you the best possible pinpoint for your cycle, plus the more info you add in the more it can help your estimated ov days etc. Definitely start tracking if you're going to be checking if you're late, because ovulation can be so different from person to person, i can have it from cd15 to cd23 depending what my body feels like so it's difficult to say you're late without knowing when you ovulated hope that's a good start for you !

Still barely spotting here, a little AF cramps but boobs are still in agony, soon as they stop hurting i know it's all over ! MY TURN FOR A QUESTION with this mornings temp FF gave me dotted crosshairs, why could that be ? Because my temp is too high for the end of my cycle and it thinks i may have ovulated on a different date ? i've been sofa bound all day, keep trying to sit at the PC and only managing 15mins before my head feels like a fluffy lead weight and i end up in the sofa with my laptop again napped for 3hours today, it was goood !

For ladies with short AF, if it bothers you i've read that pomegranate juice can help thicken your lining if you drink it up until Ov, that's hard to confirm if you're not having your lining measured though ! Supposedly estrogen is the issue so more dairy is meant to help

 

[Mrskillala]

Hi! And thank you!! I'm trying to keep track of everything. Part of me wants to just ignore it and say hey if I'm gonna get a BFp then I will. No need to chart anything. Then the other part wants to chart everything and know exactly when... Hahaha

 

[Charmed86]

Aw, thanks for the advice, Patience! Will look into that! 2.5day AF just isn't normal for me.. Happened twice now though.

I am feeling really emotional tonight, in fact, have been all day. I was so stressy before going out on my bike for work that I ate everything in sight, then got home & ate. I still don't feel well, been going on for over 2 wks now. I feel like crying tonight but no idea why Not looking forward to going out on my bike again tomorrow. I really worry that the stress will negatively impact TTC. OH has said that if we don't conceive after a few months of perfectly timed BDing then maybe I should stop my job to see if it is the stress. I am on board with this, although dreading letting my customers down Mostly I just want to stop going out on my bike! I've applied for a job this evening, I probably wont get it, but it's nice to think of getting a steady job that doesn't make me feel like I'm risking my life every day to go out on a bike!

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Evening....so I was cleaning and found my paperwork from few when I had my hystereoscopy and d&c....on it is measurements of my ovaries and endometrial....I'm scared to google them to see if they are normal. Like one ovary has twice as much cc as the other. The novice in me takes that as its half empty. Sigh.

I'm getting ahead of myself. But I must say...sorry tmi....after bd today, went to the bathroom.....hate those poor little guys going bye bye. If it was later in my cycle....I'd be feet up in the air!!

 

[patienceiav]

Charmed, sounds rough wish I could help you out, but when I'm stressed at work I live off herbal tea, I find it so relaxing to cuddle a warm mug of it! Hope you feel better soon

Elizabeth, that's great it has that info! Bear in mind lining can change from month to month, I've had mine measured twice, once was 5mm and the other 8mm, I think it's worth checking for your peace of mind

Afm sigh, the one thing about having a short lp is that when you're late you're not - really- late :/ anyhoo af due today, nothing noticeable on frer, still sore boobs and abdomen with a little vibrating, not quite af aches but sometimes it is. I guess it's on its way soon, either that or I've managed to lengthen a cycle where I'm not pregnant, how frustrating!

 

[Ms Elizabeth]

Patience..good to hear it changes!! Felt like it was saying I was almost on empty....and I hadn't started to try yet!! Im way too early in the trying phase to worry....but I know being 36 didn't help. I would hope the dr would have said something. Lol

 

[Turtle0630]

Charlie, again. I'm so sorry that you won't be able to fly out to see her before she passes. But like Twinkie said, she'll hear you say your final goodbyes when you go after it's happened. And I'm sure she understands why you can't be there now. I'm so sorry you're going through this! I do understand how it is, my grandma keeps getting worse and worse...yesterday the decision was made to put on her palliative care. So we'll no longer be trying to treat her and rather will be just trying to keep her comfortable until the time comes. We're honestly hoping it will be very soon so she won't have to be released back to that terrible nursing home...and so she can finally be out of pain. So I understand right where you are, with the waiting on edge for any news and just wanting them to be pain-free again, while also feeling so heartbroken inside. Vent away hon, we're here for you!!!

Patience, how are you doing over there from your concussion? I hope you're feeling ok! Your temps are still looking really good, do they normally stay up this long and just plummet right before AF? I still have my FX for you!!! As for why FF changed your crosshairs to dotted, I have no idea? That's really weird?

MrsK, welcome! Happy to have you here with us! I hope your AF can start soon for you, so you can get on to your next cycle of trying! It's such an exciting, yet frustrating time! Don't hesitate to ask us whatever questions you need to and we'll do our best to answer them...and don't hesitate to vent either when needed.

MrsH, good luck on the house offer! Have you heard anything back yet? How exciting! I have everything crossed for you that you get it!

Charmed, so sorry about your job and the stress that it's causing you. If you don't mind me asking, what do you do exactly that requires you being on a bike all day? That's impressive, and I can understand how it would be causing both physical pain and a lot of stress! I really hope you can figure out something else soon, so you don't have to keep putting yourself through this!

Afm, I had what I thought was the start of AF yesterday, but just turned out to be heavy spotting (which stopped by later that afternoon). I was really confused as to why AF was starting yesterday when my temp was still well above my cover line (temp was 97.70 and cover line is I think 97.47), and now I at least feel better about that, since it turned out not to be AF after all! I still think it's just pre-AF spotting, as that always happens to me and then stops at least a few days before she arrives. But I'm now happy about 2 things: 1. My temps weren't all wacky with AF starting after all and 2. This will be at the very least lengthening my lp some. I was going to test this morning based on what my temps did (just in case, although I REALLY think this is pre-AF spotting) but my temp was pretty much the same as yesterday (97.72). So I don't think AF will be arriving today since it hasn't dropped near the cover line yet, but again, yay for longer LP! I'll see what they do tomorrow in deciding if I should test or not then. I know it's silly since I'm sure I won't be getting my bfp this cycle, but I still have some hope and still have everything crossed that I do!

 

[MrsHudson]

Charmed - Sorry your so stressed. DH and I thought of that if things don't work out for us in six months. I work in the financial industry and though I love my boss like a dad (I've worked here since I was 17, so we've gotten close) he can be crazy sometimes. Generally though, stress doesn't impact your fertility too much. It's more the not wanting to DTD because of it.

Turtle - Last night the realtor said we were in third place consideration. Two people offered more than we did, but we offered "as is" and the sellers really liked that. It's a fairly new house, so I don't think anything bad will turn up in the inspections. I texted her this morning and no word yet. I'm dying to know!!!! I want this to work out so bad. It's a perfect house for a LO to run around and play in.
Good luck to you!

AFM - AF came back with a vengeance last night when I went to the restroom. It was so gross but I feel a bit better about it, and can REALLY count it as a true AF. I'm still really crampy and my temp this morning was 98.6! It's almost always 97.9 so it was very strange. Woke up at the usual time too.

 

[patienceiav]

Turtle your temps still aren't bad but I often get af at above the coverline temps which then sink properly soon as af hits. Have you tested at all?

I'm doing ok thanks for asking been able to sit without propping my neck up on the pillows at least, not sure I'm ready for work because I'm still a bit foggy. Ttc wise my temps are surprisingly high and my boobs are huge and agonisingly sore! But bfn on the frer today the progesterone cream is meant to extend my cycle but never has before! Been spotting just the tiniest bit of old blood yesterday and today, I doubt I'm pregnant but not stopping the cream till I know for sure! Though I think a bfn at 12dpo says it all, 15% of tests are false negative at this dpo

 

[Turtle0630]

MrsH, sorry that you didn't get your offer accepted right away, but that's great that you might have a leg up with the "as is"! Good luck, I really hope you get it! The waiting game sucks, doesn't it?

Patience, I was testing over the weekend but haven't tested since...the last time I tested was Sunday which was 11dpo. I had planned to wait until today, but then my temp yesterday went down a little (and I thought AF started), then it was the same today so I didn't bother. We'll see what they do tomorrow morning and that will help me decide. Don't give up hope yet, it could still happen! I know you normally feel a certain way when you've been pregnant, and I know that your temps could well be up because of the cream. But that doesn't mean it couldn't be pregnancy related instead or that you're just getting a late bfp! FX for you!

Cdex, how are you doing over there? And Danna?

 

[MrsHudson]

Patience, don't give up yet!

Turtle, we didn't get it . This whole process is extremely frustrating. I'm ready for it to be over. Then I only need to focus on making a baby lol.

 

[patienceiav]

I know every pregnancy is different especially since I've only had chemicals so far I can't really compare! Will be the defining temp in 6 hours time when I wake up, tomorrow is officially one day late! Sigh.

There's no harm in testing again soon maybe if tomorrow's temp stays the same for you also?

 

[cdex67]

MrsH, sorry that you didn't get your offer accepted right away, but that's great that you might have a leg up with the "as is"! Good luck, I really hope you get it! The waiting game sucks, doesn't it?

Patience, I was testing over the weekend but haven't tested since...the last time I tested was Sunday which was 11dpo. I had planned to wait until today, but then my temp yesterday went down a little (and I thought AF started), then it was the same today so I didn't bother. We'll see what they do tomorrow morning and that will help me decide. Don't give up hope yet, it could still happen! I know you normally feel a certain way when you've been pregnant, and I know that your temps could well be up because of the cream. But that doesn't mean it couldn't be pregnancy related instead or that you're just getting a late bfp! FX for you!

Cdex, how are you doing over there? And Danna?

I'm good! Almost bought opks today but just didnt...I think I'm CD12, I haven't been really keeping track. Temp went up a little yesterday but back down today. Really just hoping to ov earlier this cycle!

 

[cdex67]

CD13, not 12 apparently