Team Ding Dong... Bonking, Bumping, and Burping Along Together! ;-)

[pk2of8]

hello my lovelies!!!!!!

oh my word!!!!!! i'm gone for a few days and i miss all the action!!!! from scans and ding dongs to DRA-MA to some of the HOTTEST oh piccy's ever seen and everything in-between!!!

i'll have to post a pic of my *clears throat* "dh" just to join in a little of the fun but first......

i like to get the yucky stuff out of the way first girls, so lemme just say that i am very sorry to see what happened between some of us and the hurt feelings that resulted. i have to admit, some of the slang lingo differences between us in the UK and US leave me scratching my head at times...not really entirely sure what it means and guessing at the intent or implications. most of the time I figure it out, based on content and responses, but sometimes I don't, so I have to rely on how you girls respond as to whether or not it's polite or acceptable. In any case, I am sorry that the disagreement happened and that it appears that the only resolution was for amy to stop participating in the thread. I feel bad that I wasn't present to help mediate the situation. I certainly do not condone anyone being rude or crude, especially to the point of hurting others' feelings and making others feel bad, even if it was in jest. I think it's very very important that we all maintain honesty with each other about comments that are made to us/about us if we feel hurt or offended. one thing i would like to see us all do, in part to maintain the integrity and openness of the thread is to consider a procedure for how we respond to situations such as this. i suppose as the thread grew and the longer we are involved that conflicts are bound to arise on occasion. For your consideration girls, I propose that when we have taken offense at something that has been said on the thread, that it is okay to say so on the thread. MC, I think you handled the situation just fine by saying that your feelings were hurt and asking the comment not to be repeated. If the situation reoccurs, i think the next best step would be to pm the individual involved, in which case to keep potential worsening conflicts out of the main content of the thread. if the disagreement continues or worsens via pm, then i think we should all agree to involve a mediator. that being a personal choice of a mutually trusted ding dong or admin. My loves, this is all just a suggestion for future referencing, and you are all welcome to throw out feedback and assist in deciding how we should handle situations in the future...not that I expect there to be, but you never know, and this way we are all on the same page.

Now, for the next difficult topic...I understand we had a new poster who is likely not going to have a positive impact on our group, as a whole. Annie, (if you read this) I am sorry, but we will not tolerate the bringing down of this thread or talking nasty about others on the bnb site. When I started this thread with poppy and some of the other girls, we had felt that some of the previous threads we had posted on were not all that inclusive either, and we did mention as much. However, that does not give us (or you) the right to start in a judgmental tirade, throwing insults and cutting remarks meant to elevate yourself and bring others down, especially when the bottom line is it just demonstrates your own hypocrisy to do so. We have thus far maintained that our thread is open to all on this site who are at any stage of the ttc journey. This does not include individuals who wish to bash and demean anyone else in this process. We all have drama going on in our personal lives. There is no escaping it. However, we come on bnb to find support and empathy among others who are going through similar experiences. We all come on here and have a rant or 2 at times. And that's ok too, but we don't rant about each other or call names. I don't think the issue is that you posted a rant, so much as the spirit of your other statements has been to demean in a pejorative way. And we will not tolerate harassment.

That's all I have to say about those issues. ugh. I feel like i need a washing down to move on from all this negativity, so I'm going to start a new post at the very least to get back into the groove...

 

[phoebe]

Hi Mother Dumdum xxx I am ok thanks. Hows u? Thanks for ur bollocking earlier Forgot to say yesterday congratulations on ur peach xxx

 

[poppy666]

Im good hope your well too, just waiting for shepherds pie to finish then teatime nom nom x

 

[poppy666]

WOW!!! PK what a read, welcome back lovely

 

[phoebe]

Hi PK
Good to see u back lovely, have really missed u xxxxxxxx

 

[pk2of8]

aaaaaannnnyyyywayyyyyy!!!!!

girls i have missed you all SOOOOOOOO much!!!! thank you for thinking of me and asking about me! I had to read over 150 pages to catch up i think!!! no way i will remember everything that's been going on!!!!

i'm 10dpo today...i haven't tested. my temps are looking good, but i'm too afraid to i've been trying very very hard NOT to ss. we all know how that goes tho right now, i'm feeling sick to my stomach at the mo...first time i've felt that this 2ww. mostly, i've just been EXHAUSTED, and the last several days, feel like i can't get enough to eat!!!! also my allergies have been really acting up pretty bad for the last several days. all of which can be explained away tho i've started working full-time again...it was just a matter of time before i had a full-time assignment. i'm interpreting for a 17yo girl who just came back to school to finish out her senior year after several weeks off to have a baby. she's such a sweet girl, and i wish her the best in life. but it's a lot of work! i like it a lot tho! i liked it more when i was doing different stuff every day (subbing and doing different assignments), so maybe after this semester is finished, i'll tell my boss that i would prefer that rather than one regular assignment. we'll see.

dh and i are getting along MUCH better again. we are still ttc, although we haven't talked about it in-depth. dh just can't handle all the details with the opk's and timing and such. that's part of why i've been avoiding bnb some too sweeties. i'm trying to only be on when dh isn't around so he doesn't get worked up about it and that's been hard to do. however, he was with me last night and this morning as i was reading to catch up on the posts, and he very sweetly asked how "team ding dong" has been doing, so he's alright. i stupidly have been thinking for over a week that valentine's day is tuesday, when i just realized 2 days ago that it's actually monday so i will probably end up testing tomorrow morning and again on monday, but i'm just worried i'll get another bfn. dh keeps asking me what i want for V-day, but i just keep thinking "bfp bfp bfp" ehh. i guess it won't be long before we know.

anyway, coral yay!!!! it's a girl!!!!! so wonderful and i'm so happy for you luve!

lupe, sorry got ya hun...seems like you had a pretty stressful cycle tho, so maybe this time around will be different! and congrats on dexter sweetie! SO adorable!!!!

pooooooooooooooppppppppppppyyyyyyyyyy!!!!! i missed you too luv!!!! i know this will sound terrible, but i'm glad you got af hun!!! you'll probably be all back to normal now this cycle sweetie! personally, i'd do soy again, cd3-7, but that's just me. i know it's been helping me. I wish it had been more helpful for some of our other ding dongs.

babyd, so glad to hear your other tests were fine sweetie and looks like you got a good start going with your temps for this 2ww. fxxxx for you sweetie!

mommyv, i hope you ov soon sweetie!

sleeping congrats on the engagement sweetie!!! beautiful ring!!!

phoebs, keep your chin up luvvie! i'm sure everything is just fine with ding dong and you are going to be an amazing mum!!

tink!!!!!! you should defo take the wheelchair hun and don't worry about what others think! sometimes when we go to disney, we always try to get someone in a wheelchair, b/c it means you get to skip all the lines! i think you are busier than me, but it's no wonder you're exhausted anyway! aside from the pg, you have FOUR like me! that's enough to wear out anyone and it leaves me moaning half the time and i don't have any good excuses for it! haha

hopes! how you feeling sweetie?? sounds like you'll enjoy your pg much better with the new mw practice!

CG, i think we're due af the same day! the 16th you said right?? for both of us hun! and don't stress too much about your accounting test....there'll be plenty of others for you to bring it up!

lew and ladyb, glad to see you girls are doing well!

eesoja!!! so wonderful to see your posts hun! have missed ya bunches here!

MC, thank u for the pm the other day sweetie glad to see your ms is going away!

let's see....anybody i missed???? i can't think anymore, i think my brain is fried!! if i missed somebody i'm so sorry and i LOVE you all!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[pk2of8]

oh! phoebe luv, i meant to tell you...we did not find out the sex for my 4th. it was the most wonderful experience to have the anticipation and then find out "it's a girl!" (in my case) when she was born. but i did find out the sex with my first 3. either way sweetie, do what feels right, and you won't regret it, no matter the decision you make

 

[pk2of8]

damita! so sorry i missed you sweetie...i knew there was somebody! sorry you didn't pass your driver's test hun! you'll get it next time! and so glad to see you're not leaving us! we'd miss you sweetie

 

[pk2of8]

oh and PJ! good grief, i'll probably keep coming back with people i missed! sorry luv! hopefully, you'll be clear like poppy and onto a good "normal" cycle this go round sweetie

i forgot to mention about my chart...tink and pj and anybody else who likes to look at the charts.... ff wanted to put my ov date/crosshairs at cd19. it's b/c i had originally put a pos opk on cd18 i think, but looking back and comparing it to others and to my "real" positives it was neg, so i changed it in ff. however, when i did that, it left ov date the same but made the crosshairs dotted. i disagree. i feel i've charted long enough now (what 5 or 6 cycles now??) to know my patterns enough that there is no way i ov'd on cd19, looking at my temps. it was cd21. so i did a "user override" to change it and put my own coverline. what do you think??

 

[poppy666]

Thanks PK and no wasnt a terrible thing to say regarding af, im so happy its here finally its a bit painful, but very much welcomed . Ive thought long and hard about Soy and decided to try it again on CD3-7 for one mature egg oppose to more eggs with bad quality n run the risk if there is one of miscarrying again b/c of my age . Not expecting a miracle this cycle as im fully aware my cycles maybe a bit hit & miss for a few months or so.

Soooooo glad to hear you and your DH on an even key again and just taking one day at a time, be it away from here from time to time, as long as it helps you both to concieve that long awaited for then so be it you'll get your bfp this year i just know it

 

[pk2of8]

thank you popsy i know you'll get yours too luv i think the soy will work for you...and one mature egg would be good. i'm going to try the soy another 2-3 months if no bfp (cd3-7) and if still nothing then take a break from the soy for a while. this cycle i did cd2-6...it makes me wonder if the same thing happened to me as to you with delaying ov just a bit, BUT dh and i had that awful argument right at my usual ov time, so i think it was probably more that delayed my ov than anything. plus, like i've said before, on occassion i'll have a 32-35 day cycle. not entirely unusual for me anyway.

 

[pk2of8]

ok girls...this is my "dh" just to join in the fun, even if a bit late

 

[poppy666]

Ooooo he's scrummy too i like the dark haired guys and deffo baldies

 

[coral11680]

Hi ladies,

Phoebe congrats on the cantaloupe!

PK hi honey so nice to see you back. I just had a peek at your chart and going by temps alone it does look like you O'ed CD21, although that does seem late in your cycle for you doesnt it? Good luck for testing I really really hope you get your BFP for valentines wouldn't that just be fantastic! Also I agree with what you said about future conflicts on here and think Annie is not going to do this forum any good. She will only bring it down in my personal opinion. Sorry Annie.

China lots of to you too for testing.

Caz get hun

Tink I just realized that our lunch date for Monday is on Valentines day I expect a dozen Roses! What happened today in the end with your ex, did he get the kids? Dancemode I almost signed Ryan up for that. What does Harvey think of it?

Poppy how are cramps hun? did u get the preseed?

MC glad the is leaving thats great you are lucky, maybe you do have a boy cos mine is only just easing off totally now.

Babyd hopefully all those emotions are signs of a bfp on its way!! I'm a moody, emotional cow everyday since being preg

Hi to all other fellow ding dongers I hate listing the names cos i always forget one or two and feel terrible then x

 

[pk2of8]

i usually go for dark hair too poppy altho my dh will be a "baldy" at some point! but don't tell him i said so he's very sensitive about it

 

[coral11680]

pk just saw your post about taking soy early and the argument with DH that explains the late O sorry

Lovely hubby, you lucky girl, my hubby isnt as sexy as everyone elses

 

[pk2of8]

well i gotta run for a while girls. dh on the way home and we gotta go get the oil changed on the van. i'll try to be on again later tonight, altho i imagine my UK girlies will have already gone off to bed by then. love you all!

 

[poppy666]

Cya later PK, if not catch you tomorrow when im back from Durham

 

[lupinerainbow]

PK- You are so good at wording things! Welcome back hun! Thank you Cannot wait for you to test, your symptoms sound really good!
Pheobe- Lots of huggles for you, your are beautiful definitely not fat & you will get to see your lovely bubba soon!
Poppy- Sorry about AF hun! Only a day behind me this cycle
AFM- Also debating taking soy again for another cycle 3-7 can’t see it will hurt, normal cycles aren’t doing a lot.

xxxxx

 

[poppy666]

LR YES YES YES join meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee with Soy we can ss togethor