Team Ding Dong... Bonking, Bumping, and Burping Along Together! ;-)

[Tinkerbellxxx]

Well as soon as I got pregnant he was upstairs 'playing' he moved our wardrobes to across the centre of the room sort of partitioning it, and leaving a space to get through to the other side to the 'nursery' its actually full up of crap right now awaiting 'transformation'

What times good for you tomorrow? x

 

[mothercabbage]

oooo i found hot cross buns to toast this morning, washer is on! OH off to work,chloe getting ready to go out to play....but my little man is full of snot! poor thing,had a bad night so i guess ill be snoozing at dinner time with him...make sure you take some pics girls and hope you have a great day!....my OH wanted a boy at first but he has really changed his mind i think he has pink fever! he keeps pointing out cute pink outfits and saying "awww" hmmmm...so i guess whatever colour bump i got is A OK!! was worried about his reaction if it is a little bump...xx
meant to say also...PK what a way with words you have...i didnt understand most of them in that post you wrote! but i got the jist...if some one pisses me off,i be polite and tell them...then you block them! is that possible? because you made the thread can you "stop" some one posting here? i best be good then glad your fine anyway! i had major af style cramps a few days b4 bfp so i think you still in the game until the shows...IF she does! xxx

 

[mothercabbage]

damita!!! get hunting!!!! hope you find it xx

 

[Hopes314]

and i woke up at a lovely 5am and here i am. hm.

so question for you ladiess. my SIL just set a date for her wedding (they have issues theyve been sorting for ages and we never thought theyd actually get married, let alone dump it all on us NOW!?) anyway, yesterday she told us that she set the date for September 18th 2011... and she expects me to be her bridesmaid (she was my bridesmaid in my wedding last year). September 18th is 3 weeks after my due date and she has known that. I definitely intend to breastfeed. Is it even possible to be a bridesmaid in a longgg catholic wedding, and bring a 3 week old who is nursing? And shes talking about us going to try on and size dresses and stuff, obviously that is impossible for me right now right? How will I know what size I will be 3 weeks after giving birth? Also, she expects husband to be an usher so its not like he can take care of the 3 week old baby.

Suggestions?

 

[mothercabbage]

hopes you will have to express your feelings on this, your body shape and size wont be back to normal 3 weeks after having baby....its a lovely thought but i would say its not practical....just my opinion though....ask her if you can wear tracky bottoms hope you get it sorted apart from that how are you today? xx

 

[Tinkerbellxxx]

Quick post, gotta get ready.

MC sorry LO is bunged up and DH acting so sweet. Getting jealous here why can't my DH go all goey at the ickle bubba stuff

Hopes, I don't think its practical at all unless you have some help. New babies feed a lot, especially on the breast. Often 2 hourly or even less if you have a hungry baby. That settles down a lot, but not usually before 3 weeks. If you are going to be bridesmaid you will need to have someone there to take care of the baby unless your SIL doesn't mind you holding the baby when you need to or dashing out whenever it needs feeding/comforting/changing etc....this will be very frequently honey. As for your breasts, they are likely to be bigger than they are now, and you need a style of dress where you can 'access' them lol even if you end up giving baby a bottle on the day to ease the pressure, your breasts will still fill up and need some sort of release, on that sort of occasion I took a pump with me, and expressed in the loo after a few hours when they got uncomfortable and my mother gave the baby a bottle. I'm not saying you need some sort of breastfeeding dress, just something someone could help you undo quite easilly. I say because my bridesmaids had corset backs On that note, if you can avoid giving a bottle till about 6 weeks cause it can affect breastfeeding....I only say that cause its the advice they give you. Mine all had the odd bottle from day 1, but midwives didn't approve. Not trying to put you off honey, but I thought you would appreciate an honest insight to how you might find the day whilst breastfeeding. If I was you I would have my mum or somebody look after the baby for me during the ceremony and photos, giving them a bottle. You could then have the baby back for the rest of the day where it would be easier for you to pop out of the room and attend to the baby etc. Your body would be nowhere near back to normal i don't think hon, and i would guess you will need a bigger size and something that doesn't hug your tum which will still look a little pregnant x

 

[PJ32]

hi Ding dongers,

Hope you are all well this morning, I'm at work so just popping in to say hi, and lurk inbetween spreadsheets and bonus calculations yawn.

xxxxxxxxxx

 

[coral11680]

Tink anytime ok for me. 12/12.30? We can meet in the car park, I'll be the one with the dozen roses and a smile

 

[coral11680]

hopes I went to a wedding about 2 weeks after having Ryan, I wasn't a bridesmaid though. I wasn't breastfeeding and he stayed home with my Mum and MIL (my Mum was visiting at the time) I wore a corset type thing to suck in my flabby belly just so I felt comfortable (although it was a bit uncomfy) everyone said how good I looked they didnt know my flabby belly was sucked up inside! anyway I think this might be a big problem for you. This is your first baby and you could be a week or more overdue. What if you end up needing a c-section also. Is the date already set?

 

[Hopes314]

thanks coral, tink, mc- im having all those same sorts of concerns you guys are mentioning. was hoping since you guys are all experienced mommys you might say something like "oh i did that its no big deal" or something lol Because to me it seems like a REALLY big deal. And yes, the date of the wedding is, in her mind, set in stone. And yes, she chose the date AFTER knowing my due date and that i plan to nurse.

I feel like she is really not going to be sympathetic about the whole nursing inconvenience thing, she chose to formula feed from day 1 because it seemed yucky and inconvenient and unnecessary to her (baby is now 8 months old). So I doubt she will understand.

Shes also having a reception and music and all that after and seems to think we will be attending fully, but I feel like I will be so tired or sore or uncomfortable and baby will be so tired, how could I ever be there for all of that?

Anyway I'm stressing over it now even though its early, because I think if I decline the whole bridesmaid thing so early it won't be as big of a deal as if I were deciding at the last minute that I couldn't do it.

I feel oddly about her choosing such a crazy date for her wedding after knowing my due date and all

 

[caz & bob]

girls roast in the oven woopp starving we had twice yesterday wooopp think we will leave it ever other day no till o then 3 days in a row I'm going to do another opk in a bit just holding my wee in now hope it darker than yesterdays x x x

 

[coral11680]

Yeah seems strange using the date so close to your DD. It's really hard to say what you should do and of course its ultimately your decision. You could have baby a week or two early and feel great for the wedding and baby may be ok drinking pumped milk for a few hours while you do all the wedding stuff but thats a big if!! How important is it for you to be a bridesmaid? For me personally I would decline and just be a guest, but I'm not saying you should. Also there is no way she could be upset with you if you do decline as she has put you in a very difficult situation. What does your dh say?

 

[coral11680]

hi caz yummy roast. Good luck this cycle!

 

[Hopes314]

Yeah seems strange using the date so close to your DD. It's really hard to say what you should do and of course its ultimately your decision. You could have baby a week or two early and feel great for the wedding and baby may be ok drinking pumped milk for a few hours while you do all the wedding stuff but thats a big if!! How important is it for you to be a bridesmaid? For me personally I would decline and just be a guest, but I'm not saying you should. Also there is no way she could be upset with you if you do decline as she has put you in a very difficult situation. What does your dh say?

DH is so calm about everything, he acts like nothing is a "big deal" EVER. Part of our house could have exploded and he would just say "oh, I guess we will have to deal with that later today, no big deal" So of course when I told him hey this could be a problem, he kinda just said "we'll take care of it."

Personally I dont want to be "taking care of it" by telling her a week before her wedding that I suddenly can't be her bridesmaid! Also, none of my own side of relatives will be there because they dont know her or anything, so if anyone was watching the baby for me it would be my MIL or one of DH's grandparents or something, but its their own daughter/granddaughter's wedding, that seems pretty inappropriate of me to put that on them?

I think the best option would be to tell her that I can't be a bridesmaid because theres too many "ifs" in the mean time and I wouldn't want to say ok and then back out at last minute when things dont turn out perfectly (things NEVER turn out just right!). I'd much rather just be a spectator and take care of baby myself and sit near a door so I can sneak out if baby gets fussy, etc. As for the reception and all, we will just attend what we can I guess.

Will have to wait and think on the whole bottle feeding at like 3 weeks thing. Realistically we dont know if baby will be 6 weeks at that time, or 2 weeks, or somewhere in between, so I feel like that will make a big difference in my decision on that. I know my mom had big troubles because she gave me a pacifier and bottle in the first month of breastfeeding.

 

[mothercabbage]

hopes...ill tell ya she wants to steal your thunder!!! you with new baby...you gonna get lots of attention, maybe she jelous!!! maybe she knows you "wont" be able to be bridesmaid??....if i were you id say, no...but thats if I WERE YOU...how long do they let you go overdue there, here they can leave you until 42 weeks then arrange an induction, that can take days....if its the same there you might have a few days old baby, and an uncomfortable "fluff".stitches etc.....tell her sooner rather than later.....but like i said this is MY opinion, and prob just being daft and over catious....stupid cabbage

 

[Hopes314]

I also can't help but wonder if my SIL is making this difficult on purpose. Admittedly, she did attend my out of state beach wedding 5.5 months pregnant as a bridesmaid, however, my wedding was planned months before her surprise pregnancy came up, and we made it clear to her that she should not feel required to attend. But she acted like she was FORCED and like she was DIEING the whole time (on a beach in 70 degree breezy weather).

But, she really can be a catty person sometimes, and I truly hope that she did not decide on this date in part to "get even" yuck!

 

[PJ32]

hi hopes, agree with MC on this one, I went over 2 weeks with my DS hunny! would tell her sooner than later, sure she will understand.xx

 

[mothercabbage]

thanx PJ and :wave: hope you ok xxxx
caz:wave: dinner sounds yummy, what time do you want me round?

 

[Hopes314]

mc "steal my thunder" lol! i wouldn't put it past her. I think here is the same with the whole 42 week thing for most doctors, although I bet coral would know better since she had babies in the US already.

I am going to tell her I can't be in the wedding. She will probably act sympathetic to me about it, and then go tell her relatives I'm being wimpy about it. But that is ok with me

 

[mothercabbage]

good decision! maybe drop in for the free food and bar afterwards though!!