tallybee
DS '04, DD '06, DD '15
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ThanksI don't think OH's sperm is good enough for IUI from what seoj said but I've sent an email to a place up here that offers it and attached his results so hopefully should soon get a professional opinion. It's doing my head in not knowing where to go from here. OH actually suggested using donor sperm for AI and called his friggin friend and asked him if he would 'provide'. He lives hundreds of miles away but we have a visit planned to the childrens' grandfolks nearby, for easter - and OH has looked at my calendar and saw that it'd be the right time of month.............
He said yes apparently... but holy crap it's a lot to consider. OH had realised this but not the extent I don't think, I had to say to him 'come on we need to slow down and consider this... together....... I mean what if it turned out that OH couldn't take it me being pg by someone else's seed... crap, my head's in a spin.
Tally, I know you and OH are really wanting this baby, but think you really need to slow down and think this through, if you were to look at a donor would you really want it to be your OH's Best mate, I personally think this is opening a massive can of worms and could be awkward in the future to say the least? Is this guy single? Would he want a part in the babies life and even if he says no now whats to stop him breezing in at a later stage and pushing his maternal rights? Wanting a baby is one thing but a situation like this could put a massive strain on your relationship, I too have joked with DH about finding someone else to get me pregnant I have said that out of desperation at times and sometimes when I am hormonal just to get at him, but I don't know if AI from your OH's mate is the way forward, surely there have to be other alternatives. Thinking of you honey massive hugs, just make sure you think the whole thing through and don't rush into something that once done cannot be changed. xxxxxxxxxxxx
Thanks hon
This is basically what I said to OH when he told me he had asked the friend. He is married and already has kids, and from what OH was saying it'd be kept between us, the friend would be like an uncle (he already is to my 2), OH would be on the birth cert. etc.
He was completely serious but really hadn't considered all of the issues that the idea throws up. He thought it was just a case of him having to deal with the baby not being genetically his, and was going on about how my 2 kids I had before meeting him, obv. aren't genetically his but are his kids iyswim. As much as I long for a baby I had to point out some of the rake of other considerations - what you said about rushing into something that can't be changed is practically word for word what I said. He just hadn't considered what would happen if we found the decision to freak us out after the fact.
Urgh, I never thought it'd come to this
xx
I have no idea. But I'll bet that MRSRICH can help, she really rated temping for getting her 
