Times when you've had to bite your tongue

[Noelle610]

She weaned me at 3 months on MINCE AND POTATOES and keeps telling me to give Isla a pie crust for teething and how I'm 'torturing' my daughter for wanting to wait till 6 months to wean

This made me laugh.... NOOO baby torture!!!

 

[Unexpected212]

Heres my rant. I can't stand when people judge me for my parenting choices. Sometimes I want to leave here because It makes me feel so bad about myself as a parent.

I think as long as a child is loved, well looked after and cared for the rest doesn't really matter.

I weaned at 4 months and hearing people can't 'stand' people like me really hurt.

I'm not trying to cause an argument or derail the thread. I get the purpose of it. I just cant believe some of it.

So I do wish to keep the peace I just didn't realize how much I probably get judged.

But then again this is a rant thread...so that was my rant!

 

[sbl]

Heres my rant. I can't stand when people judge me for my parenting choices. Sometimes I want to leave here because It makes me feel so bad about myself as a parent.

I think as long as a child is loved, well looked after and cared for the rest doesn't really matter.

I weaned at 4 months and hearing people can't 'stand' people like me actually made me cry. I wish I hadn't read this thread in all honesty. Everyone in my family was weaned at 4 months and not one of has an allergy or issues from it so I made my judgement based on what I know.

I'm not trying to cause an argument or derail the thread. I get the purpose of it. I just cant believe some of it.

As the op of this thread I can tell you I weaned at 4.5 months based on dietician's advice.
It doesn't bother what other people think of my parenting choices. I made them for my baby with her needs and wants in mind.
Try not to let things get to you. You made your choice and you were happy previous to reading this thread? Then as they say let it be water off a ducks back.

 

[Unexpected212]

Yeah your right. I do trust in my decisions and was happy before and I don't want to derail so i apologise. I fail at biting my tounge clearly!

 

[sbl]

Yeah your right. I do trust in my decisions and was happy before and I don't want to derail so i apologise. I fail at biting my tounge clearly!

Not at all. Here is for everyone to vent no need to apologise.

 

[babydust1990]

Well, I'm not very good at biting my tongue today...

 

[kmbabycrazy]

Oh and apparently because I don't say "no" to Quinn, she'll grow up to be disobedient and trouble.
No, I just like to explain things instead of just resorting to no. From 7 months she consistently understood "don't touch, hot, dangerous, put it down and stop"

And they wonder why their two year olds constantly scream "NO!!"

Don't say no to me

I 100% believe in explanations too. I catch myself saying "no" but then make sure I follow it up with a good reason. Kids aren't idiots, they deserve to be told why you're asking something of them.

If someone says no to me, my first instinct is to ask why. So yeah, kids deserve to know why... Plus hopefully it'll stop the whole "but whyyyy" thing!

Unfortunately it doesn't haha. I'm a big believer in explanations too, a child is not going to learn not to do something if you just say no because they have absolutely no idea what they're doing so don't touch that/don't play with that/that's dangerous etc are all part of teaching your child. But my son still went through the but why thing. But to be honest I kind of love it as it's just them learning to question things which is amazing development. My son now asks brilliant questions on a daily basis, and because of it has learnt so much at just 5. Like the other day he asked why boys have nipples, and why it's lighter longer in the day. And I think that all stems from the but why thing to be honest x

 

[RoxieHart]

A friend put a picture up saying 'on our way to blablas house ' they were in the car with her son on her lap in the back seat. He is 6 months. Urm CARSEAT.

Also there is an 18 year old who is 7 months preggo and smokes and gets high, I didn't bite my tounge there, I said something.

IDIOT.

Makes me so so mad.

 

[Dragonfly]

Only people I cant stand is ones that attack my parenting, I do not care about what any one else does as

A. It takes up energy I dont have
b. I am too old literally
c. I know what it feels like to have choices torn apart.
d. I dont care it dosnt effect me what someone else does with things like weaning a child early. Or how they feed. bla. whatever.

 

[lovelylaura]

The only thing that really gets on my nerves is when people post on fb that they 'love there children soooo much!!' Really? and the rest of us don't? or is it just to remind us that you have children or something? Well Done for loving you children?!

Ahh and that's one of the big reasons I deleted fb.

Similar to this it drives me insane when my married friends post on Facebook how much they love each other. Their in the same bloody house just look over and say it, or get off your backside walk to the room they're in and tell them yourself!

Yes! why do people do that? its so weird especially when the partner replies 2 seconds later if you love each other so much get off your laptops/phones and talk to each other!

 

[lovelylaura]

Another from me. When people cant figure out why there's babys cant do anything, well if you stop strapping them in bouncers and putting them in front of the tv at 10 months old maybe they would! makes me so mad play with your children and encourage them. And don't moan about me saying I push my girls too much no I don't I encourage them theres a difference.

 

[bookreader]

Yeh i bite my tongue when people get on at my style, bascially telling me my son will grow into a wimp who cant do anything for himself because i tend to him.
It annoys me because i know it wont but i dont always feel that i can say something back because if i do, i basically attack their parenting style, and to be honest i dont really give two hoots to how others raise their kids (so long as they are safe etc).

Just wish it was the same back.

 

[Sapphire83]

I'm a bit late to the party, lots of things that apply to me have already been mentioned by you sensitive lot.

What really rattles my cage are comments on how people feel "sorry" for LO as she will be raised trilingually. "Poor child will be all confused." etc. Well, actually, no- she won't be as she has been exposed to those languages from day one and will pick up on them in her own time.

 

[Emerald87]

I'm a bit late to the party, lots of things that apply to me have already been mentioned by you sensitive lot.

What really rattles my cage are comments on how people feel "sorry" for LO as she will be raised trilingually. "Poor child will be all confused." etc. Well, actually, no- she won't be as she has been exposed to those languages from day one and will pick up on them in her own time.

I have to bite my tongue when people call me sensitive

 

[Sapphire83]

I'm a bit late to the party, lots of things that apply to me have already been mentioned by you sensitive lot.

What really rattles my cage are comments on how people feel "sorry" for LO as she will be raised trilingually. "Poor child will be all confused." etc. Well, actually, no- she won't be as she has been exposed to those languages from day one and will pick up on them in her own time.

I have to bite my tongue when people call me sensitive

 

[robinator]

When sahm's can't be bothered to keep their house clean and claim it's because they'd rather be spending quality time with their child. I have that friend. Or if that person is on bnb, they post some sappy poem about it. My house is spotless, my baby has all the mommy time she could ever want; it is possible

 

[Wishing_well]

When sahm's can't be bothered to keep their house clean and claim it's because they'd rather be spending quality time with their child. I have that friend. Or if that person is on bnb, they post some sappy poem about it. My house is spotless, my baby has all the mommy time she could ever want; it is possible

Definitely.
My house is clean, tidy and my baby is happy! She even loves hanging the washing up...

 

[babydust1990]

When sahm's can't be bothered to keep their house clean and claim it's because they'd rather be spending quality time with their child. I have that friend. Or if that person is on bnb, they post some sappy poem about it. My house is spotless, my baby has all the mommy time she could ever want; it is possible

I intend to keep my house clean even when I go back work! I've never understood why people think cleaning is such hard work

 

[Emerald87]

When sahm's can't be bothered to keep their house clean and claim it's because they'd rather be spending quality time with their child. I have that friend. Or if that person is on bnb, they post some sappy poem about it. My house is spotless, my baby has all the mommy time she could ever want; it is possible

My house is a little messy not dirty but a bit disordered. My defense is that I have too much stuff in a small apartment. We're building a big place

 

[robinator]

When sahm's can't be bothered to keep their house clean and claim it's because they'd rather be spending quality time with their child. I have that friend. Or if that person is on bnb, they post some sappy poem about it. My house is spotless, my baby has all the mommy time she could ever want; it is possible

My house is a little messy not dirty but a bit disordered. My defense is that I have too much stuff in a small apartment. We're building a big place

All playdates have been at my house, or at a park/softplay. I still have not been invited to her house and she's been very straightforward that it is a disaster zone. Fine by me, but at least admit it's a mess because you don't feel like breaking out the vacuum lol