Les - yay for making it further along in the house buying process. Do you have a moving date yet? Good luck this month. Moving is always stressful, but it sounds like you are committed to getting some good BDing in there, so I know you all will make it work.
mrs u - I don't mind questions at all. I've learned so much already in this process. They will implant between 1-2. The doctor will make a recommendation, but it's up to us. Implanting two embryos does increase the changes at least one of them will stick, but it's not too significant. It's just most likely to give you twins more than anything. We will base the decision on how many eggs fertilize and how many come back normal from the testing. Yes, absolutely you can freeze embryos and they have made so many advances in IVF that the success rates for frozen transfers are almost higher than fresh ones now (mostly because your body isn't all messed up from being ultra stimulated with meds in order to retrieve eggs). We get up to a year of storage for our embryos with our package, but then you pay a yearly storage fee after that. So you can have multiple children with just having to do one retrieval (if we are lucky). We don't want to think about the possibility of having left over "frosties" but we will cross that bridge if it comes.
There is a huge ethical dilemma with doing IVF in general and what to do with embryos when they are left and I'm not sure what we will do. I hope we don't have to make that decision. And I've already got asked several times "why don't you just adopt" because people don't see the logic of doing IVF. Not that many people in our life even know, so I'm surprised we have even been asked that yet. And I just tell them it was not an overnight decision. We have been struggling with infertility for 7 years and it's been somewhat in our minds the entire time. I actually didn't think I would do it and just go towards adoption. But once that decision had to be made my mind switched completely and since I don't have many years left to conceive at all, I wanted to try it because I knew I'd regret it if I didn't. We always have adoption as our backup plan and are fine with that, but I think it will help alleviate our "what if" questions, which I think are made worse by the fact we have lost a pregnancy in the past. I've heard you have to mourn the loss of any potential children before moving onto adoption and we weren't ready to do that yet without trying IVF.
It's such a personal choice and my blood boils when I read a lot of these arguments against IVF online or in negative comments on blogs. They are almost always from people who know nothing about the process or had to make the decision. I usually just tone them out, but it's annoying that people even have to do that.