TTC #1 AL Buddies 2016 Newcomers Welcome

[BronteForever]

KM - you are more then welcome to follow along and if you have any questions about IVF don't hesitate to ask or PM me. I was clueless at first. Though it looks like you are in the UK. I'm in a few IVF support groups on here with ladies from the UK (both NHS and private funded) and the process seems quite a bit different. Though it varies quite a bit in the states too based on your clinic. Best wishes. Hope you don't need it but it's nice we have it for those of us that can't conceive naturally.

Becca - a journal sounds like a great option for you and can be very therapeutic. It's been over 7 years from my loss and it took me a lot longer to heal afterwards since I didn't participate in groups like this or get my feelings out there. So being here is a great start. And seeing others pregnant was definetly hard at first. Hugs.

 

[kmpreston]

I hope I don't need it too but it's looking like that will be the path the NHS sends me down next

 

[mrs unicorn]

Welcome KM & becca. I always get excited when someone new joins, then I remember why we're all here. So sorry for your losses girls. I believe that TTC #1 after a loss is a unique (although sadly not rare) position to be in, so I understand your need to be surrounded by ladies like us. We get it. It's hard at times. I sound like a stuck record most cycles going through the same highs and lows but these ladies are there to pick me up and give me hope or hugs each time. I'd be a wreck without them. Hoping we can do the same for you both. X

Bronte - Yey for af! get that IVF party started girl! So excited for you. I can't imagine how you're feeling, all over the place? TTC again is going to be one roller coaster but we all love them right?! Whatever it's like we are here to hold your hand all the way through it You always seem to be the voice of reason in here, but very kind and understanding at the same time. I'll do my best to return that. Xxx

Aayla - epic temps btw! Have you poas yet?

AFM - 8 DPO and dying to test but I know there's no point. I think it's because I had a wierd episode yesterday morning. Was cleaning out the catlitter and massively dry heaved several times. That's never happened before, infact I can't remember the last time I dry heaved, must be a very very long time ago. But then I was only 7 DPO and I know that is just too early for anything. Just need to accept I must have been a touch 'sensitive' yesterday! just my body messing with my head!

 

[Aayla]

Oh yeah. i tested this morning, 5dpo. I have another thread that loves the test porn. and I couldn't help myself. I will test every day now. Because..why the heck not. Yeah, I was surprised my my temp spike this morning. Hope it stays high.

Mrs U, make to wear a mask when doing the litter or better yet...this is now a job for DH. Kitty poop can have a disease that can be airborn and it causes birth defects. It's like pulling teeth to get my hubby to do it. We have 4 kitties so it needs to be changed often. I'm going to have to change to one with a hood so it isn't so air born as it sits in our bathroom (we live in a small apt and so that is the only place for it to go).

 

[mrs unicorn]

Wow 4 cats! You must have your hands full! Although I know they calm down once adults. DH does empty it but sometimes our little fluff ball likes to wait for him to leave for work, then do it! I work from home so I'm not leaving it there all day! He's only 16 weeks at the moment but I'm hoping soon, maybe in a couple of months, he'll go outside. I might get a mask or something (haha! Sounds totally overkill doesn't it)

Is your thread in the testing section? Would quite like to follow it!

 

[Aayla]

No but I should make one. Everyone loves to follow test porn. lol

 

[Aayla]

ok..I made a testing thread in the pregnancy test section.

 

[beemeck]

Mrs. u - my experience with nausea was at 7dpo this cycle .... Keeping my fingers crossed for you and everyone else !

Bronte - honestly SO excited for ivf for you !!! Eeeeeeek!!!

 

[BronteForever]

Thank you all for the well wishes. It means alot.

mrs u - you and this group has already been a huge support for me. I'm not entirely sure how I will make it through without you ladies. I love my husband dearly, but he's not the best when under stress, especially anything medical related. When stuff is out of his control and he doesn't know how to fix it, he kind of loses it. He joined a Reddit IVF group and it's mostly just a bunch of women and him, but I told him it might be helpful if he posts in there to get some support, since it's going to be hard on us both and when that happens it's harder for each of us to support one another. So you all are going to be needed more than you can possibly know, just by being there. So thank you so much!!

And the only reason I probably sound remotely like a voice of reason is because I haven't really felt like I've been TTC. Now that I'm officially joining you all, I'll be a mess as well I need to stock up on my pregnancy tests!

Really hoping the notice of smells is a positive sign and this is your cycle!! Good luck.

Aayla - good luck. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

 

[beccabonny]

Aayla - I think you're right! I've been relying on just "Clue" and I notice some of you use multiple apps along with the tracking, so I'll jump on the bandwagon and see what happens. I really appreciate your kind words and won't hesitate to ask anything that comes to mind! I've already learned so much! I'll be stalking your journal shortly


Starlight, thanks for the welcome! I appreciate it. Maybe we'll end up getting our BFPs together! It's so nice to not have that feeling of isolation anymore.

Bronte - I look forward to reading your journal! I'm slowly but surely reading everyone's journey who is posting and I'm just right there with ya'll every step from the first post. I'm kicking myself for not finding this group sooner! I've been telling my SO I feel so alone for so long, and it's not his fault he doesn't understand. Hugs back!

Mrs U - Thanks for the welcome! You ladies are so kind and inclusive, and I hope I can also make people feel the same as a member of the group. I think we are all in the unique position of being able to understand those highs and lows every single cycle and even though they might be the same, they feel new every time. I have such a feeling of hope being here now, just being able to write about it and read about everyone. Exciting about the smell sensitivity!! That was one of my first symptoms last year!!

On the subject of cat boxes, Aayla's right about using the mask and gloves as well if you're cleaning it out. When I'm pg again I will continue to clean my cat box (only the one kitty) myself as my SO can't do it (long story). Before the MC, my obgyn told me two things. First, since I have a history of working with animals, there's a chance I have had the disease in the past and thus can't catch an active case of it again, which would mean no risk of birth defects. I had bloodwork orders to test for it when the MC happened and didn't follow through. Second, toxoplasmosis does not become infective until 1-5 days after shed by the cat, so if the litter box is cleaned once or twice a day, you have minimal risk again. You can also catch this from gardening without gloves or dirty fruits and veggies.

 

[BronteForever]

becca - do what you feel comfortable with in terms of tracking and don't be afraid to change it up. I tried temping and found it didn't work for me. Some people think it's reassuring and helps them control at least one aspect of this process. It stressed me out trying to figure out when I needed to wake up each day to get the temps correct and then I became ultra focused on TTC, which made things much worse for me. You have to try what works for you. I just track my cycles and symptoms on "My Days" since it's a super easy free app. I've also done Fertility Friend, which most people use, but since I didn't temp much I decided to go for the easier one. Glow is supposedly nice as well. Just try it out. And do what you can do. Everyone is different.

So glad you found this place then; it definitely helps to not feel alone. Excited to follow along on your journey!

Also, I totally just started my IVF journal, since I felt like I needed to get some stuff down before doing IVF, mostly for myself. But that's where I'll update alot of stuff, so I don't overwhelm all my threads. Anyone is welcome to follow along.

 

[lesondemavie]

Becca - So glad you came on over here to our little group xxx. Tracking could be a big help. If I just went off of my cycle length, I would have totally missed O. Unfortunately, that's just a small part of the battle but an important one. I whole-heartedly support the journal idea. I've really found it to be a great outlet for my emotions as I both grieve and navigate ttcal. Hope this group and a journal do the same for you

MrsU fingers crossed!

Oh and if anyone wants to be added to the wall of inspiration on the first page just let me know

 

[mrs unicorn]

Bronte - totally following your journal!

Les - hope you're feeling good about this cycle sweetie.

Becca - ditto what the girls say. Get charting for a bit, bbt and opks then you'll quickly learn when you ovulate. If you're fairly regular then you have the option to stop if you fancy it. I stopped charting and got my bfp, went back to it after the MMC just to make sure all has gone back to normal and now I'm slowly stopping it. I'm fairly regular cd12-14 but mostly cd13 so I've stopped temping now and I'll probably not do opks next cycle either.

Aayla - good luck with the testing. I broke and did an IC, nothing yet but it's only 9 DPO. Not feeling overly positive though.

Bee - hope you're doing well Hun. I'm always checking in on your journal, not long till your scan now! Xx

 

[Aayla]

Does any one know the sensitivity of the wondfos? I keep seeing conflicting reports. Some it detects bfps under 10 Miu and other sources say it won't detect until 25 Miu.

 

[mrs unicorn]

I don't know Aayla. I use one step ICs and they are supposed to be 10miu but I'm sceptical because they are so cheap.

 

[lesondemavie]

Wondfos are sensitive so I'd guess 10 mlu and I've seen a lot of false positives on them.

Btw MrsU I think you're right about my breakouts...definitely hormonal. My face is totally clear now, but I bet I'll break out again in the tww. I think my cycles were just so short before that it felt like it never stopped.

 

[beemeck]

aayla I would guess 10miu also. I used wondfos and my 11dpo line was DARK.

 

[raine87]

Started AF last night.......4 days early. I guess I would rather it be 4 days early than 4 days late and get my hopes up.

 

[lesondemavie]

Sorry raine xxx. Not far behind me. Here's hoping for sunnier days ahead

 

[BronteForever]

So sorry Raine. It probably is more relaxing starting earlier rather than later, so you don't get your hopes up. 4 days early is a bit of a jump though. Have you gotten those in the past?