Ttc #1

[nmpjcp2015]

I have been having symptoms. One thing that's the same as last month that I'd never experienced before is sore boobs. Especially underneath my arms and on the sides of them. It even hurts when people hug me. My back also hurts really bad, but that may be unrelated. No spotting (which would be promising because I never spot), but I have been pooping after EVERY SINGLE meal. It really sucks.

I won't be on for a couple of days because I'll be working out of the office, but I"ll try to get on the computer at home, and I'll definitely let you guys know if I get a BFP or if AF comes.

 

[sunshine2014]

Anything different is a good sign! Lol.

Can't wait to hear. 4 days until testing!!!!!!!

 

[babydust0302]

so I haven't been temping. every time I say I'm going to something happens that I forget lol. I need to make it a habit! I've been remembering my vitamins though.

sunshine - I was told that hot showers kill that's why I tell him no hot water. haha I feel bad, but it will pay off if he follows instructions for a week.

nmpjcp2015 - I can't wait to hear the results when you test!! Praying for you! :babydust:

I went to my nephew's 1st birthday party on Saturday and everyone kept asking me and my DH when we were having one. it was a bit annoying. We don't want to tell people we're trying because when we did, they started telling us we weren't ready or we were too young and all this other nonsense. I know they are just trying to help, but it really is none of their business. we just smiled and brushed it off lol. we're enjoying everyone else's babies until ours come. I'm so glad my DH is so supportive with all this. I think any other guy would have chopped my head off by now! Our husbands are the best for being so patient and awesome.

 

[sunshine2014]

Aww man that's so frustrating that people were asking. I know they were just being kind but it's hard when you are actually trying.

And I hear you on the supportive hubbies. Mine has been so patient with me. The TWW I was definitely the worst though. It was all "what ifs" and those drive him a little bonkers. He did very well though lol.

At least your TWW will be through the holidays so it will be fast and distracting!! So that's a huge bonus.

 

[babydust0302]

yes. thank God! My TWW starts either tomorrow or the day after and I will be super busy all week long. I'll have plenty of distractions. I can't wait to get my BFP! AF is due January 7th, so that's still close enough to be a late Christmas gift. Hopefully I've been keeping track of this thing the right way. I suck at it lol. I've had more clear CM than normal this week so I'm staying positive. BDing everyday except for Sunday which my husband happened to point that out to me yesterday haha. He reminded me that I said we were to BD everyday this week and I missed one because I fell asleep. He got a high five after that one for being on his toes with all this lol.

 

[sunshine2014]

Good!! Glad you made the most of the window. One day won't do anything, and maybe it's best that you gave him a day to regroup his goods haha. Lots of cm is good!! That's how I knew to dtd even when I thought I had already O'd. I had lots of cm so I made an executive decision to give it a go, and turns out that was the lucky one!!

So exciting!!

nmpjcp....can't wait to hear how it goes. Any symptoms?!

 

[babydust0302]

I'm actually very optimistic this time around. Even if I get bfn, I know we had fun this week lol. I usually don't have cm all of O week, but this time I had a bunch since day 1. I think the vitamins I'm taking are also putting me in a better mood. I haven't had the terrible back pains I usually get or the sore boobs. Maybe I was just in need of the vitamin source.

nmpjcp - still keeping my fingers crossed for you! Hoping you come back on with a

 

[sunshine2014]

That's great baby dust! So excited for you!! Keep up the positive thinking

Nmpjcp have you tested yet?? I know it's early lol,but still!!

 

[SydFreeman]

We've only told my parents and my brother/SIL. I'm too nervous this time around so will wait until much later.

So temping - are you consistently temping at 4:30am every day because that really is key. It won't be accurate if it's different every day. It has to be within 30 mins of your wake up time. They tell you how much to add/subtract if you sleep in one day etc. but that could be why you're not noticing a spike after O. So I bet that's why!!! There's hope but ya, if you can't do it the same time every day, I wouldn't bother because it won't be reliable.

What day are you on again?

Have tried to temp consistently at the same time every day but it changes as his schedule changes. I've read so many articles about temping, some say it's more important to temp after at least 3 hours of sleep, while others say it's best to temp at the same time. Last cycle was also varied times but the chart still showed an obvious change.

Today finally, day 31, FF tentatively pinpointed O!!! My chart in signature...

 

[SydFreeman]

nmpjcp2015-- You're almost to testing day!!!!! Can't wait to hear what happens for you!

 

[sunshine2014]

Merry Christmas ladies! Hope you all had a wonderful few days, and are still enjoying some relaxing time! We have our whole family here so I'm busy busy but wanted to check in to see if you tested, nmpjcp?

How did your week go ladies?

 

[SydFreeman]

nmpjcp-- Did you test? Did you get the desired results?! Excited to hear.

This week has been hard and I'm not sure where I actually am in my cycle. FF put a dotted line over the supposed O date, 7 days ago. That would put me at 7 DPO of a 17 day LP. Have felt really bloated/gassy/constipated, dizzy spells, and headaches. But that could also all be attributed to spending these 2 weeks at the in-laws' home. (a bit stressful, different schedule, different diet, etc.) Trying to relax and have fun, not stress and symptom spot.

The in-laws do not know that we've been trying for 7 months now. Yesterday my FIL said, "So...what are you two thinking about having kids? I'm gonna have to start pressuring you for a grandkid soon!" He was partly joking but mostly serious. I let my DH answer that one. Then to top it all off we Skyped with my fam last night and my sister and brother-in-law announced their pregnancy to everyone. She's 5 weeks along now. Bitter sweet.

Sorry for the uber long post. Kinda needed to vent a bit as my DH has been busy with his fam and we haven't had too much time to ourselves.

How is everyone else doing?? Hope you all had a great Christmas!!

 

[sunshine2014]

Syd, so sorry this cycle is frustrating. I can imagine the emotional roller coaster you're on. I hope the holidays are providing some sort of distraction for you.

Although the in laws. Whew. Mine come next week. I'm definitely dreading it. I know that awful and it's the holidays etc, but they are super draining and I don't want them I know anything yet. DH does though so we'll see.

Sorry to hear about your sister, I mean it's wonderful news for them! But I understand how painful that must have been to hear. Even though you are happy for her it hits close to home. It sounds like you and DH are a good team though And able to dodge the family q's.

 

[babydust0302]

Hi ladies! Merry Christmas to all of you. Haven't had much time to get to a computer this weekend. I've been swamped with all the holiday stuff. I felt like Santa jumping from house to house delivering presents lol. I'm on my TWW. Dreading it. I thought by staying busy I wouldn't think about it as much, but I can't stop thinking I didn't DTD enough. On the days that I really needed to, we would get home exhausted and go straight to sleep. Now that's killing me. Hopefully there's a that survived long enough!

Syd- I know that feeling all too well. When we started TTC, my cousin announced her pregnancy and I was happy, but still felt like crying because it wasn't me. Use the time to get ideas for when you have your BFP!

 

[sunshine2014]

Awww babydust I get that feeling... what days did you dtd, and when do you think you O'd?

I will say that I thought I O'd on the 10th (based on temps, cm, and my short cycle), so we dtd 9, 10 and 11. On day 12 we were visiting family so didn't get to, but on the 13th (when I thought it would be way too late) we managed to, and that's the one that worked!! So you never know. I was way off on my O calculations, like 3/4 days off...and I'm so happy we managed to dtd on day 13. So even if you think you missed it, or didn't do it enough...my fingers are crossed!

When does your TWW end?

nmpjcp...anything?

 

[nmpjcp2015]

OK, so I've been gone forever, but here's my update.

1. AF got me. And she got me good, hormones raging, sore breasts (REALLY SORE), moodiness crying, pain, it was THE WORST. But it's almost over now. I'm feeling a little discouraged, but I'm trying to stay calm and just pray about and be happy with the family that I have with my husband and stepdaughter for now. But let me tell you what, tears DID flow

2. I'm FINALLY getting an OPK, hopefully that will help us figure out my exact ovulation date.

3. Two more friends are pregnant after 1-2 cycles. Bah humbug.

4. I think I'm going to get a puppy to have something to care for and love because I think part of my problem is that I'm a little bored right now with being idle and it's driving my DH crazy.

5. I'm sorry I wasn't online. Christmas was at my house and everything was a big zoo. Syd and babydust fx'd for you in your TWW. Sunshine, so glad to see your little siggy and how baby sunshine is progressing.

 

[babydust0302]

nmpjcp - oh no! I'm so sorry I know how frustrating it is when everyone is getting BFPs around you without even trying. ugh! I feel for you. I'm in the same boat. but positive thoughts!!! we gotta keep trying. my DH and I want a puppy too. We're just waiting to move to get one. Maybe pets will keep us entertained for a while.

So I dtd 19, 20 and 21, and I think O happened on 23 or 24. not exactly sure since it was so hard to keep track with all the activities. we also dtd on 27 so let's see. TWW is killer praying for BFP. but I haven't seen any signs yet. No cm or anything so it's just the waiting game until next week.

 

[SydFreeman]

My DH talked with his dad the other day and told him that we are trying, and not (purposefully) dragging our feet. I then talked to my MIL about it too. It's really hard to have a serious convo with her though, so it was kind of brushed off. We have a good relationship with his parents, but I know what you mean about draining! Trying to make the best of our time with them, as we don't see them very often at all.

There were tears once we finally got alone after my sister's announcement. But DH is awesome. He would be enough even if God never blesses us with a baby.

Babydust0302-- Glad you were busy to distract you. Don't think too much about having DTD enough. I thought I was going to O around CD 17, so we DTD 16/17/18/19, then FF put O on CD 26, and we happened to DTD then, too! You never know what'll happen.

Sunshine2014-- your ticker says that the baby is moving now! Have you felt the tell tale flutter yet? My friends say it feels like bubbles the first time...?

Nmpjcp2015-- So sorry to hear AF came, and with such a fury. That's so hard. A puppy is a great idea! What kind would you get? Do you work or are you a homemaker? You're forgiven for not being online, hosting a holiday is a lot of work, esp when feeling lousy. Hang in there, you'll be in your TWW again before you know it!

 

[sunshine2014]

Oh nmpjcp that news hurts my heart. I really felt it was your month. But I think you're close. So don't lose hope! I think you have a great attitude though, and a puppy is always a great idea!!! hope the holiday hosting went well, we have my DH's family here right now. I'm exhausted lol

Syd - sounds like you dtd on great days! Fingers crossed. And I hear you on the serious talk bit, I think sometimes people feel uncomfortable with this topic and don't really know what to say. We are fairly lucky in that none of our family ever talked about kids or asked when we would be trying. We'll be married for 5 years coming up, but only trying the last year. But your DH sounds wonderful, and like he knows just how to handle it

Babydust I didn't have anything until 6 dpo. Then I started having lotiony cm. That was weird for me so every day I had it I got a little happier lol. So just watch for things your body doesn't normally have. Or don't symptom spot at all, that's probably better advice lol. :S

 

[sunshine2014]

Just had my scan. No baby.

I lost it but it was another missed mc. I'm a mess