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[nmpjcp2015]

Sunshine, I hope they figure it out soon to give you some peace of mind. Will you guys be waiting to TTC until you've figured everything out?

 

[sunshine2014]

Well they can't test me until after I've had a cycle. But I plan to keep trying after that time too. I may just take baby aspirin in case it's clotting. We'll see. Such a long road.

 

[nmpjcp2015]

I just found out that my step-sister had her second miscarriage. Positive thoughts and prayers for her and her husband. They are wonderful foster parents who've been trying for several years.

 

[nmpjcp2015]

Oh and sunshine. I wanted to be able to give you "educated" support. I looked up the procedure you're having.

Please know that I'll be "digitally" holding your hand. I'm also praying hard that your hubby can be there with you!

 

[sunshine2014]

Awwwwww that is so sweet. Thank you .

I'm also devastated for your sister. It's so heartbreaking. How far along was she? Not that that matters, a loss is a loss. I'm definitely thinking of her tonight for you.

 

[SydFreeman]

nmpjcp2015-- So sorry to hear of your sister, she must be devastated. Will definitely be praying for all involved.
Glad the visit to your Dr. went well. No cause for concern? Hopefully your next appointment is to confirm a BFP! Conception/life really is a miracle when you look at the odds of a sperm making it to the egg. God is so creative.
Congrats on the puppy!! Adorable.

babydust-- Huge bummer that AF came. She always seems to come out of nowhere, make a big mess, and ruin plans. We're on cycle 8 now, right there with you. Don't be discouraged!!

sunshine-- My heart breaks for you. I know how badly you wanted this and how long you had looked forward to it. Will be praying for you and your husband that this brings you closer than ever, and for your appointment Thursday. We're here for you too!

Afm-- waiting, waiting, waiting. I wasn't sure how it would be working again, but I really enjoy it. The hardest part will be having to get up uber early and be on a schedule after not having one for so long. Bittersweet. Also good because now all my income will go towards saving for a baby/any treatment we might need.

We have been learning to trust God more than ever before through this process. Realizing more and more every month the fact that I have NO control over anything related to conception. Frustrating, but ultimately freeing as I learn to surrender it to God and trust that He knows my heart, what I want, and also what's best for us right now. I'm sure that in a few years I'll understand why He didn't give us a baby in this time. That said, it's still a daily battle.

 

[sunshine2014]

Thanks Sydfor the kind words. Hope af doesn't show for you. What is your new job in?

 

[nmpjcp2015]

I think she was about 3 months along. She'd only told a handful of people. It's really sad especially for them.

Syd - did AF show this weekend? How is work?

Sunshine - how are you feeling? your procedure is tomorrow right?

babydust - do you is OPKs?

I just started using OPKs this month *picture included below* and I found my ovulation day ! The only problem is that if this is correct my luteal period is only 11-12 days. That seems really short. The progression looks great and I think it's really clear which day I ovulated, but I'm worried.

This picture is from the evening of CD 15 to the evening of CD 18 and I have a 27-28 day cycle. Do you guys know anything about this? Luteal periods I mean, I've been researching and it says that if it's after day 20 I should be worried, but idk.

On the bring side we dtd the 2 days before and the day of ovulation. Hopefully we suceeded this month.

If we didn't, I will definetely use these again next month because I ovulated 2-3 days after my app said I would.

 

[sunshine2014]

nmpjcp, that looks great!! Unfortunatley, I've never used them before so I'm not sure what to look for.

What do you mean by after day 20 you should be worried? I know that ovulation days may change, but your luteal phase should *normally always* be 14 days after ovulation. So in most women you should be able to count backwards from when you get your period - 14 days, and that *should* have been when you O'd. Now that being said, there are exceptions obviously. But when DH pulled out all his med books for me to calm me one day, that's what they said. It does happen when were a woman has a short luteal phases, but I guess that is what those OPK's will tell you.

What day are you now in the cycle then?

 

[nmpjcp2015]

If you ovulated on CD20 or after you should be worried, that is what I meant.

For me, this month I ovulated on CD16, and because I have a 27 day cycle, that means my luteal phase will only be 11 days this month. So I'm short 3 days from the normal 14 days.

I guess this would be true ONLY if my cycle comes when I predict it to come which is in 9 days on January 21. Occasionally, I have a 29 day cycle which would mean my luteal phase would be 13 days this month.

The other thing is that I've been having symptoms literally since the day of ovulation this month. Grumpy, tired, pangs in my ovaries on both sides, bobs starting to hurt on the sides. Maybe my progesterone level is low. Idk.

I'm on CD19.

 

[sunshine2014]

Hmmm, well I'm learning that we never do know what's going on with our bodies.

a 13 day LP isn't bad or anything to worry about, I think it's it's much shorter like 11-12 then it's difficult. Anywhere in the range of 27-29 I think would have close to a 14 day LP. So 13 is okay!

 

[nmpjcp2015]

We will see what happens. I'm going to count myself as 3DPO today. I will test on January 24 unless AF comes.

OAN - I got a new picture of my puppy. He's growing up!!

 

[sunshine2014]

Awwwwww....what a sweet little man!! So exciting. I cant' wait to get a puppy. DH and I are moving in June sometime to the states (yikes!!!! not that there's anything wrong with the states, just a big, scary move!) Anyways. I'd LOVE to get a puppy depending on the type of place we find there!

 

[nmpjcp2015]

I was born and live in the states now. It's ok here. It depends on where you live though. The U.S. is very large and diverse, so there really is not a typical lifestyle here because location dictates lifestyle so much.

I've lived in South America as well though. And it was a little more dangerous and a less advanced, but I loved it. Living life in another language was a big thrill and awesome experience for me.

Here's the new picture of Maldy...

 

[sunshine2014]

Oh he is SOOOOO sweet. So exciting!!!

 

[Caseyren]

Hi there! We are TTC our 1st and this is the 1st month trying. I'm so excited and also very nervous. I have been on BC for 12 years and just went off this past October. When on BC my cycles were a normal 28 days, but ever since stopping they are 38 days. Since I really never experienced OV (being on BC from age 14) I really don't know what my body is going to do or what to look for other than what I have read (or been told from my gyno). I've never really noticed any large amount of CM except when having sex. I have been using 4 different apps that all tell me I should OV on days 23-26 of my cycle. I started using OV tests around day 20 just in case and have been ever since, but I haven't gotten a smiley face yet . I do only test in the mornings around 7 am though. I just followed my apps and we BD days 22 and 24 even though I never saw a smiley.

For the past 2 days (4 days after we BD) I have been having a dull achey pain in my lower abdomin and its tender when I press on it. Every now and then the pain goes to my back. It also does a gurgle feeling. My public area also feels very heavy with pressure. I have feelings like this when my AF starts but that shouldn't be for another 14 days. So I'm thinking maybe ovulation pains? I'm just worried since I haven't seen a smiley yet. and its very frustrating having the thought in the back of my mind of not knowing when I OV and when to BD etc. and I'm also concerned that I haven't really noticed EWCM before.

I know this is our 1st month trying but I am an impatient person haha I know I need to relax. I decided not to tell anyone we're TTC so I thought I could find friends on here to talk to!

any and all advice is welcome because I need it!

 

[sunshine2014]

Well ladies I didn't update you but I was having second thoughts about my surgery tomorrow and my mc was starting to progress on it's own. So yesterday I called my OB to tell them I wanted to postpone the surgery and let my body try to handle it. I had to fight for it and get a little feisty but they agreed. It's been awful since last night but I still think I made the right choice. I've heard the recovery is quicker when you mc naturally. We will see. DH wanted to stay with me today at home but I'm in a lot of pain. So he set me up with my heating blanket, some pain reliever, took my temp and pulse, and made my tea. I will keep you posted, but wanted to let you know. I can't wait to try again! Also did you know we've been in this group for almost 3 months! Isn't that neat?


Hi Casey! Just read your story, I hope you are successful soon. Just a question about your O date. The apps said that you should O around 23-26? Are your cycles still 28? Because if so that would be too late. Your LP should be 14 days. With ovulation being 14 days before the first day of your period. Therefore 23 seems really late. Not everyone is 14, I was O'ing around day 12, but my cycles were shorter. So there was still 14 days between when I conceived and when af was due. I would try bd earlier. Maybe from 11 on, so you have a better chance. Every woman and cycle is different, but 23-26 seems very late to me. And your cycles would probably be a lot longer if this were the case.

 

[babydust0302]

good morning ladies! I feel like I haven't been on here in months and it's only been a few days. i hate being behind lol.

nmpjcp - i do use opk. i will be using them more this month since i didn't really use last cycle. i wanted to try and count on my own, but that obviously backfired on me. btw, your puppy is soooo cute!

sunshine - I fully support your decision to mc naturally. I would have done the same. it's better to let your body do its thing. sorry you're in so much pain. Hope you start feeling better soon and that they give you some positive news when they do your tests. if you move to the states we can all plan a play date trip when we have our little munchkins! what state were you planning on moving to?

I'm waiting to O at the end of next week. been having a sharp pain on right side of my pelvis. I'm a bit paranoid since I know the right side could mean appendicitis, but i'm trying to ignore it since it just comes and goes. I will probably check it out if the pain gets worse. trying not to stress so much about it.

I can't believe it's been 3 months! it feels like i started this post last week! haha. together til the end!!

 

[nmpjcp2015]

Casey,

Yeah, sunshine has a great point.

1. Welcome!

2. I wouldn't trust an app to tell me when I ovulated (I've already made that mistake). They are based on research and formulas for what the average person would need, not you personally. Since you're just starting I would start testing way earlier because you may have missed ovulation.

3. What you're describing does sound like ovulation pain OR just a change in progesterone AKA stupid PMS. I start having symptoms like that a almost immediately after ovulation.

4. I hope you're successful soon! You can hang out with us until (and after) you are if you'd like!

Sunshine, yay for 3 months! It's so exciting to have people to share this experience with all over the world. Also, I'm at work today, but I'll be checking in here frequently. You're very strong for doing this on your own.

Syd and babydust... how are you guys???

AFM - the level of fatigue I'm feeling right now is out of bounds. I've literally fallen asleep on my DH the last two nights. I can't help it. I just get so sleepy my eyes close. Hopefully that's a good sign and not AF tricking me. I'm usually always up for doing the deed, but I haven't been able to be bothered for the last two days even if I want to. I guess I'll have to wait and see...

 

[babydust0302]

nmpjcp - i hope that fatigue is a good sign!! the weather here in Miami has me drained. rain makes me sleepy. AF just left so I'm in a much better mood now and ready to start TTC again what day are you on?