Ladies - I do see women give advice in journals all the time. My advice was obviously bad timing. The girl and I resolved it there and it really did not need to be over analyzed here in my opinion. However, I understand why HA wanted to clarify it. After I wrote the comment (because I felt stupid and bad) here, the girl and I resolved it in her journal so the need to bring it up again here just felt a bit unnecessary but I know and understand why HA wanted to give another perspective.
I don't like drama at all! Life is too short. We are all dealing with life/death issues, hardly any of us on these threads are free from the challenges of infertility. Not one of us has it any better or worse (imho). We all have challenges/struggles. In addition, we all need to work, pay bills, go to our doctors appointments etc. I believe drama like this just take away from more important stuff. We all need support during these challenging times. I was wrong, and the girl let me know it right away and I learned real quickly and it was done. When someone says something I find inappropriate, I don't always feel the need to point it out in front of the whole crowd but maybe a private message, or just keep it to myself, or let it go, because in the end...does it really matter? I don't have to be "right" and have a lot to learn in life and about others etc. I am open to listening to others.
My DH had Hodgkins Lymphoma and so did a few other children in his community (his dad blames the disease on playing football??) but other kids got it too and they did not play football. It is in my personal opinion, it was something environmental. I used to do environmental inspections and I am not even going to go into the stuff I saw. People always blame their bodies on why they can't get pregnant but have a more difficult time (because others are getting pregnant) thinking it could be something environmental etc. Every body responds to toxins differently (everyone's bodies respond to drugs differently, food differently, etc.). Having an open mind to what could be the cause of not getting pregnant is very important to getting to the bottom of the issue.
Like I said, I did not feel hurt your comment, HA. I just really don't like drama and needed to focus on work and taking care of myself. I understand where you are coming from and I am sorry if I overstepped my boundaries.
However, I do know what my intentions were and how someone chooses to respond it is their choice. How we choose to respond to anything when we are in pain, suffering, hormonal is ultimately our choice. Fighting, yelling, divisive discussions don't solve anything usually from my experience, even though that is completely what we want to do a lot of the time when we are going through the challenges. I have a lot of compassion for everyone here. I have to live with my DH not being completely excited for our child. Not having the excitement a normal DH would have. Our situation is not any better/worse, it's just different. However, I refuse to be a victim of my circumstances. I will grieve, go through the pain, etc. but come out stronger, and find a way to solve the issue and come to a solution so I can move forward.
I do wish everyone here would get pregnant and I pray/meditate about it everyday!! Seriously. Maybe it helps, maybe not, but I know I am sending it out there for whatever it's worth. We will all be stronger for this, more open minded, compassionate, kind, loving, sensitive, and hopefully softer to one another and most importantly to OURSELVES! Have a good weekend. I have to do lots of cleaning. Sister and BIL are coming for a visit next weekend.
xoxo
is circling as we speak.... 
for everyone else, hope you're enjoying your weekend!
