TTC After Loss Buddy Wanted :-)

[kgriffin]

Brooke - your ticker says you're still like a week away from o so that is why your opks are negative still right? Keep your head up and keep using your opks, atleast for a week, then ntnp if you want!

Future - i drove all over the vancouver area today for meetings, so i was outside sort of enjoying the weather lol, i ate my lunch outside, that must count for something!!

 

[mirage25]

Hello & welcome 2 the new ladies! Sorry 4 your losses. I pray we all get those bfp soon & have a h & h 40 weeks!

2day is my official O day! That damn test line is finally darker than the control line! Yay! Meijer & the dh have been bd'ing twice a day since friday! Lol...i'm all bd out but we're gonna go at it 1 more time 2day! Then the tww begins!

 

[DaisyBee]

Mirage..... 2ce a day! More energy than me and dh LOL. FX for you!

Welcome new girls!

Brooke....are your opk's usually positive this early? How long are your cycles? You just finished af right? I wouldnt think you would O til next week.

Future..... So sorry about the negative test...but agree maybe just too early for your test to be positive. I seem like I implant earlier than some. FX hugs.....thinking positive thoughts for you!

My test was still faint this morning. It showed up right away but still not dark enough to make me not nervous. I hope they start getting darker.

I'm in a predicament with my brother. He is getting married oct 1st and I am a bridesmaid. They want to order bridesmaid dresses this weekend. So I had to tell them I'm pregnant although I didn't want to....feel like I'm almost jinxing it. Well the dresses they want are all very waisted. No empire lines. How do you explain to a bride and your brother that I am going to have issues fitting well into one of those dresses? So it makes me almost feel bad that we are pregnant(maybe?) I haven't even really felt like we are pregnant with these light tests and yet have to order a dress based on that fact? I'd be 13 +weeks. Ughh not what I wanted to deal with tonight!

 

[Mon_n_john]

Daisy, it sounds like you need a blood test to confirm before you buy an expensive dress.

 

[kgriffin]

Agreed, those things cost a fortune
there was a pregnant bridesmaid in my brothers wedding and it was super cute with a 3 month bump, it was small and beautiful really, they had to alter her dress but it was no big deal, def. worth getting your bloof d work done.

 

[Brookegarrett]

Idk. Cycle has been wack lately.. I had a 12 day cycle then a 25 day cycle.. I start using opks from cd 1.. Since my cycles r all over the place I nvr know... I just don't wanna miss it.. Good luck nia hope u catch tha egg.. Daisy I'd def get blood work done.. Future it's so hot here in tx we go out in the am n around 7-8 at night.

 

[DaisyBee]

Think maybe the 12 day cycle was a fluke? I wouldn't think you would have o'd then.

My lines are getting darker! I would say it's my bfp now LOL it's not faint anymore. Do you still think I should get blood work? The thing too when I miscarried my levels were fine at first. They even doubled. Then between then and 6 weeks something happened and they either stopped going up or came crashing down. Dh and I kind of said we would rather not do early bloodwork this time. It's obviously doesn't help predict if the bean is ok or not. I'll try to get a pic of my test posted sometmime later.

Am going to call Someone to see if altering it will be possible and call the company and talk to them about specifics about the dress.

How is everyone else doing?

 

[Mon_n_john]

That's so great Daisy! Congrats!!! Well, if it were me I would definately go have blood work done but then I again I am under the care of a specialist and have a history of several mcs so I need to be monitored closely. You need to do what is right for you.

 

[futurephotos]

Good morning.

Daisy - at least the wedding is somewhat close to now- your bump won't be as big so a dress wouldn't need as much alteration. There would be a big difference if the wedding was 7 months from now!

The thing that is interesting for me is that if I get pregnant next month or the few following I'd be due right in the middle of the peak wedding season. I'm a photographer and photograph weddings (amongst the usual family portraits at my studio)- I just booked a wedding in the beginning of May -so the 2012 ones are starting to come in. I worry that I'll have more booked before finding out what my EDD will be and will need to cancel on people or find other people to cover for me if they're close to delivery time
Most of my life is so scheduled and planned out that the unknowns and unexpected parts of pregnancy will really throw me for a loop.

Anyways - no worries yet, my test this morning was still negative. This time I used a FRER. So - I'm thinking maybe because of the MC last mo. I didn't O this month, or that our timing was off since I didn't have a period to base my calculations from. I hope AF will come soon so we can start on a fresh cycle again.

 

[TxMom2Be]

Let me take a minute (or a few sentences) to introduce myself - My name is Ashley and I had my first mc ealier this week. Since then I've done LOTS of reading and I've found this forum to be very uplifting! My OB said that I can expect my next AF in 3ish weeks, so it sounds like I'm a little behind most of you, but DH and I are eager to start ttc, again! (I conceived the first time immediately after getting off the pill, hopefully it happens as fast this time around too!)

How long did you ladies wait to start ttc after your mc?

How long did it take you to get your first visit from AF post-mc?

BEST of LUCK to all of you TTC!

 

[DaisyBee]

Future ....sorry the test was negative! hopefully next month will be your month! It makes sense what you are saying about the unplanned part of pregnancy. That you'll have to work around it with your job. I find it a little ironic that people are booking you already for next may and my brother and his fiancé just ordered their invitations yesterday and no dresses yet. Although I guess they have a caterer and photographer! They moved from Arizona to Iowa recently and she was finishing her masters so wedding got put on the back burner. I am a planner and my brother is a procrastinator! LOL

Dh and I aren't seeing a sepecialist yet and the ob's I saw didn't run any tests and weren't ok with putting me on progesterone. They really aren't going to be helpful or refer me unless I have a 3rd miscarriage. (knock on wood!!!!) since my beta's doubled anyway last tieand I then felt like everything must be ok and then miscarriage anyway. Dh would like to try to make this more of a normal pregnancy. No early scans( which that I dont aree with)! no blood work,etc and go in at 8 weeks at normal time. I get his point.... This early part is so stressful anyway and really there is nothing that they would do to intervene anyway. Later pregnancy is stressful enough for us anyway!

Welcome ashley.... I'm so sorry for your loss. First miscarriage I got af after 4 weeks, 2nd was after 5. My dr said typical is 4-6 weeks. We waited from dec til march to try, and from end of April to July to try but the dr said we were ok to try after 1 af.

 

[Brookegarrett]

Welcome Ashley i am living in texas as well..I have been TTC since April... had a mc in May...I hope u have tons of luck with tryin to get a sticky bean...As for me..my OPKs are gettin slightly darker..so im gonna continue to use them....

 

[Brookegarrett]

Here is a pic of my OPKs..yes i am a an addict..my husband tells me all the time...How long do you think i am from O?

 

[kgriffin]

hey ash,

my af came right on schedule after my early mc, and we started ttc again after my first af, but i became ermm...obsessive about ttc, so im trying not to be like that now,. i no longer temp or take any opks or whatever, so i suppose more of a ntnp approach.
im sorry to hear of your loss , but youve come to the right place for support.

 

[kgriffin]

wow brooke, thats a lot of tests~! looks like you will o in about 48 hours or so

 

[Brookegarrett]

so continue to test? im still temping but my temps are ALL over the place.. they look like an EKG strip..its horrible idk whats wrong with this crazy body

 

[DaisyBee]

My tests would get much darker than that - a day or 2 of almost as dark as the control - then 1-2 days of being darker than the control. (this month was 1 day darker, with megan it was 2 days darker). Do you get them that dark or just as dark as the control line or not quite?

Was going to put up my tests from the past 3 days but had second thoughts. I dont want to hurt anyones feelings so may put them up in the hpt galary and if you want to see you can go in there to see but they wont be right in your face here.

 

[Brookegarrett]

Ive nvr used these before...with my other brands they got dark as or darker...but idk with these tests.. i just started testin at CD2 to make sure.

 

[DaisyBee]

Did they come with directions? Mine did and said as dark or darker than the control line. Are you bding now anyway or no?

 

[Mon_n_john]

Brooke, I use the exact same tests. I can post a pic if you want so that you can see what a positive would look like. Does anybody know how to post a pic here? It seems it is asking for a link to a pic on the web but I have it on my computer, not the web.