morning everyone,
how was everyones weekend?
I need some advice, non ttc related.
here it goes.. MIL is coming for a visit from the other side of the country. Dh has been wanting to use our vacation time/wedding anniversary to go home to Ontario, I don't want to go because my parents were here for 2 weeks in March and i had a good visit. Dh has not seen his mom (but his uncle and aunt were just here) since november. She misses him a lot and he misses her (obviously) she is young and they are very close. anyways.. here is my issue. She texted me on friday saying shes coming out to visit leaving that night, talk about notice right! Anyways, her boyfriend is a trucker/truck driver? (sorry, dont know the lingo) and he is drving out here right now, so she went with him on her vacation time. So she won't arrive until wednesday and probably will leave thursday or friday. Now, i wanted to keep this a suprise for DH because i know he will love seeing her. okay, so im arranging all of this and i text "See you wednesday" then it clicks.. we have a concert to go to on Wednedsay that we bought tickets for, months ago! These tickets were (80$ each) expensive, and i still wnt to go to the show, now, ive seen the band 3 times already but dh never has, and the concert was actually his idea. we dont get out much because we are paying off debt and dont really know anyone in the new province we moved to (BC). so... i told MIL about the concert and she didnt say much.. Should we just not go to the concert and take the loss to cash that we cant really afford, or go? I feel like we deserve to go, we work hard and deserve a break. on the other hand, if she is only here for 2 days, dh will probably want to spend the time with her, he works full time and so do i, so at night would be the only time we could really see his mom.
im feeling bad even thinking this, but...my parents would never just give us no notice and expect us to move around our plans for them, they fit into our schedules when they visit, we don't fit into theirs.. and dh's mom.. well, kind of expects us to change things for me. its been nearly a year since we have seen her, so i get it.. but... ugh. i dont know. What would you all do? do i ruin the surprise and have dh make the judgement call?
sorry for the long post.. i need opinions..
how was everyones weekend?
I need some advice, non ttc related.
here it goes.. MIL is coming for a visit from the other side of the country. Dh has been wanting to use our vacation time/wedding anniversary to go home to Ontario, I don't want to go because my parents were here for 2 weeks in March and i had a good visit. Dh has not seen his mom (but his uncle and aunt were just here) since november. She misses him a lot and he misses her (obviously) she is young and they are very close. anyways.. here is my issue. She texted me on friday saying shes coming out to visit leaving that night, talk about notice right! Anyways, her boyfriend is a trucker/truck driver? (sorry, dont know the lingo) and he is drving out here right now, so she went with him on her vacation time. So she won't arrive until wednesday and probably will leave thursday or friday. Now, i wanted to keep this a suprise for DH because i know he will love seeing her. okay, so im arranging all of this and i text "See you wednesday" then it clicks.. we have a concert to go to on Wednedsay that we bought tickets for, months ago! These tickets were (80$ each) expensive, and i still wnt to go to the show, now, ive seen the band 3 times already but dh never has, and the concert was actually his idea. we dont get out much because we are paying off debt and dont really know anyone in the new province we moved to (BC). so... i told MIL about the concert and she didnt say much.. Should we just not go to the concert and take the loss to cash that we cant really afford, or go? I feel like we deserve to go, we work hard and deserve a break. on the other hand, if she is only here for 2 days, dh will probably want to spend the time with her, he works full time and so do i, so at night would be the only time we could really see his mom.
im feeling bad even thinking this, but...my parents would never just give us no notice and expect us to move around our plans for them, they fit into our schedules when they visit, we don't fit into theirs.. and dh's mom.. well, kind of expects us to change things for me. its been nearly a year since we have seen her, so i get it.. but... ugh. i dont know. What would you all do? do i ruin the surprise and have dh make the judgement call?
sorry for the long post.. i need opinions..
