TTC After Loss Buddy Wanted :-)

[taertman2516]

Hi everyone,

This is my first post after reading numerous threads and postings on B&B over the past year. My husband and I have have been TTC since last June and have had two miscarriages, one in October 2010 and one in May 2011. Both were missed miscarriages, so I had to have D&Cs for each one. I've gone through blood testing and testing of my uterus to look for abnormalities, but all tests have come back negative. I'm feeling pretty hopeless and sad most of the time, especially because I live in a small city and 90% of the women I know are pregnant and/or have kids already. The other 10% don't really don't want children at all, so I mostly feel by myself a lot of the time. Your words and discussions have helped me feel some hope, and I too feel like I need a buddy to help me through this a bit. I'm 31 and know the chances of conceiving after 35 get less positive, which makes me more concerned. I just did one of those ovulation predictor things today, which told me if I conceived this time around I would get have a baby in April 2012--when I will be 32.

I waited for a long time to get married, and that's when I started trying to get pregnant. Now I'm so worried I waited too long.

 

[Lily_Hope]

Thanks for the welcome Kate & Mirage!

I've never tracked my temp before as I think I'm pretty good at pinpointing when I'm ovulating cause I usually experience middle pain. I did try my first OPK this week. Today was my second day of testing and I got a positive on the OPK.

I found that the best way to get my body back on track after a miscarriage is to eat well, exercise a few times a week and most importantly take your vitamins (and also always be kind to yourself).

Good luck Brooke!!

 

[Lily_Hope]

Hi Taertman

I too only just joined this forum after reading posts on B&B over the past few months. I also recently went through testing for abnormalities and everything came back negative. We must just be unlucky

I also live in an area which is very family oriented which is lovely but sometimes makes it more difficult. A lot of my friends are pregnant at the moment too. I live overseas away from my family and friends too so I miss my support network.

Do you and your husband plan on TTC soon? Is you body back on track? Did you receive any advice from doctors re when you can start trying again?

 

[zephyr]

Hi Lily! Sorry for your loss. Glad you found this place, I'm new a couple of weeks ago and so far its been really great!

Brooke - Thats the worst part......the wait haha Good luck!!

Thanks Mirage well actually things have worsened, bleedings back to being heavy again, my doctor prescribed me provera, I have never taken this before, but I have 30 days worth and we are hoping I go back to normal again after that.

Anyways I have no idea what provera is (I'm doing my research now) or whther I will be out for a while yet or not, I think its gunna be a while before we can start trying So so frustrated. But I'm not sure......anyone here know?

 

[Lily_Hope]

Zephyr - I'm so sorry to hear that your situation has gotten worse. I'm pretty sure that Provera will help with the abnormal bleeding and also the uterus lining.

I totally understand the frustration of not being able to try - its the worst! I've just come off 3 months of it. Hoping that the next 30 days fly by for you and you get the all clear to start trying again.

Keep smiling...it can only get better xx

 

[zephyr]

Thanks. Ive read tht its either works for some n doesnt for others. Fingers crossed it works. I was so hoping we culd start trying again this week nevermind i guess if i didnt take it who knows when it wuld stop eh? Good luck to everyone else! Not guna stop me from posting here tho

 

[Brookegarrett]

Welcome to all the new ladies i am not the best at keeping up.. I hope u all get I am here with open ears to list to all u rants/concerns... I am 1-2 dpo so I'm in my dreaded tww I'm hopin to get good news

 

[kgriffin]

welcome taertman! I am sorry for your losses, but its great that the tests came back negative, maybe 3rd time will be your charm fx for you.

well girls, i have some positive news. i think. i kept waking up this morning so im not sure how accurate my temp actually was, but after i put it in, FF says i ovulated on friday!!! my bd was not good, only one on night of o, and once 3 days earlier, but i dont even care, i ovulated and thats whats important ! (atleast i think i ovulated) i hope FF doesnt take it away.

Brooke it sounds like you are i are only one day apart in our 2ww, im 3dpo (aparently) shall we symptom spot together?

 

[Brookegarrett]

DEFINATELY!!! i am already having sore boobs and dull cramps in my back.. idk if that has anything to do with it...im hoping it is gonna end in good news!!

 

[kgriffin]

my books never hurt, and they are hurting!! my back started to hurt saturday, but i o'd on friday, so i dont think thats a symptom lol, i felt a bit of nausea on saturday and also this morning, *could be in my head* and well, im always fatigued, so who knows, i stayed in bed all day yesterday though so i choose to take that as a sign lol. When will you test?

 

[Brookegarrett]

I'm gonna test on the 19-20...I'm hoping for good news I am afraid i won't b able yo hold out til then

 

[zephyr]

Ya know I always thought that the early symptoms were just in my head too, but after the last pregnancy I suspected I was pregnant right away cos of early symptoms so its always possible!

I had symptoms a few days after! and definately had lower back pain sensitive to smells (I could smell coffee in DH's sweat about a week after I ovulated gross lol) cramping and sore boobs before af was even due. Lower back pain early on was a huge one for me cos it wasnt the norm. I spewed bad on the day of implantation which then went away and I had wicked cravings after that for crackers hummus and cheese until I mc.

 

[kgriffin]

Brooke I will test around the 20th or so. i dont want to test too early, but damn, its hard to wait isnt it!

I would obviously rather wait until af is late, but thats pretty hard.

the smells were the tell tale for me, im having them again, but i dont think it ever went away since my mc to be honest. Its been lingering at the very least. my lower back has been bothering me too but im not sure if its from the gym or not. fx anyways right

 

[Brookegarrett]

I'm kinda queezy... N lower back pains but that's it..

 

[kgriffin]

FF says not to test until the 27th...ya right!

 

[taertman2516]

Hi Taertman

I too only just joined this forum after reading posts on B&B over the past few months. I also recently went through testing for abnormalities and everything came back negative. We must just be unlucky

I also live in an area which is very family oriented which is lovely but sometimes makes it more difficult. A lot of my friends are pregnant at the moment too. I live overseas away from my family and friends too so I miss my support network.

Do you and your husband plan on TTC soon? Is you body back on track? Did you receive any advice from doctors re when you can start trying again?

Hi Lily

Thanks for the response! We are TTC again. Our doctor showed us recent research that stated there was no reason to wait, and I've had one period since then, so I guess I'm back on track. However, last time I had one period, then no period for three months, so we will see what happens this time. I could probably find the research about TTC right after a D&C if you are interested . . . it was a study published in the British Medical Journal.

It's so nice to hear from other women who are experiencing similar things. I feel like sometimes I have no one to talk to. And I have a smartphone, which has facebook on it, and all of my FB friends are constantly posting about babies and children. Makes me sad and angry, when I should really be happy for them!

 

[taertman2516]

welcome taertman! I am sorry for your losses, but its great that the tests came back negative, maybe 3rd time will be your charm fx for you.

well girls, i have some positive news. i think. i kept waking up this morning so im not sure how accurate my temp actually was, but after i put it in, FF says i ovulated on friday!!! my bd was not good, only one on night of o, and once 3 days earlier, but i dont even care, i ovulated and thats whats important ! (atleast i think i ovulated) i hope FF doesnt take it away.

Brooke it sounds like you are i are only one day apart in our 2ww, im 3dpo (aparently) shall we symptom spot together?

Hi kgriffin,

I'm happy for you! I hope everything works out. I know how it feels to be so excited about ovulating again.

 

[mirage25]

Hi Taertman! I'm sorry 4 ur loss.Think positive! All of ur test were negative which is great!! So u will get ur BFP and everything will work out great! 31 ur still young with plenty of time, no worries I know it sucks going through this & its nowhere near fair but hold tight ur sleepless nights are coming! Best of luck 2 u!

 

[mirage25]

Still no af for me! Thursday will make it 5 weeks! And I think I missed my O day.. The day I bought some opks, I had a line, the next day nothing at all! So that means I didn't O when I thought I did, urg! I just wanna b normal again!

 

[Brookegarrett]

Aww I hope y'all get on track n get bfp.. I know it can get discouraging it hang in there n u will b on ur way in no time