When IVF fails - please join for support

[Mrs G]

Hi ladies

Just wanted to stop by and wish you all luck. I know how sh*t the low times can be, but I do also believe you gain strength each time. Keeping everything crossed for you all.

Kath xx

 

[nobump]

Still bleeding but privat consult booked. Hope I will get some answers.

Just want bleeding to continue to spot but feels like full flow is around the corner again. Just in time for our weekend away.

How's everyone else?

Xxxx

 

[Mrs W 11]

Sorry to hear you are still bleeding lovely must be awful for you. Where is your wkend away? Hope you have a fabulous time!!

I'm doing ok, life is so stressful at the moment with trying to organise our relocation and issues with the house we want to buy, so I haven't been thinking as much about baby stuff or the impending ivf really. I guess that's a good thing, to take my mind off it all. I just want to get sorted! I am not good with everything being up in the air, I like feeling settled x

 

[beneathmywing]

Nobump -- Hope the bleeding has lessened or stopped.

AFM: Five days after my D&C, I went to the ER because I was in excruciating pain. Turns out I had swelling of my lining and that was the cause for the pain/increase in bleeding. I was also passing huge clots for two/three days. Finally barely spotting now and in little to no pain. I am almost close to feeling HUMAN again, physically. I still get my moments emotionally. Every time I get thrown down, and I really got thrown down this time, I am more eager to try again and hope I can soon. I have a follow-up with my doctor on Tuesday so hopefully I can get a timeline.

 

[nobump]

Mrs w moving house is stressful we moved when I was DR the first cycle. The distraction may be good for you.

BMW glad the ER were able to help. Will you be moving to a FET?

Afm we are in Nice for the weekend. Arrived yesterday went to Monaco today, will take train to cannes tomorrow. Fly back Tuesday. Good to get away. Spotted yesterday and today. But bleed overnight and had clots this morning. We did walk around yesterday evening so not sure if that was the trigger. No bleeding after BD. Nothing makes sense.

X

 

[beneathmywing]

Mrs w moving house is stressful we moved when I was DR the first cycle. The distraction may be good for you.

BMW glad the ER were able to help. Will you be moving to a FET?

Afm we are in Nice for the weekend. Arrived yesterday went to Monaco today, will take train to cannes tomorrow. Fly back Tuesday. Good to get away. Spotted yesterday and today. But bleed overnight and had clots this morning. We did walk around yesterday evening so not sure if that was the trigger. No bleeding after BD. Nothing makes sense.

X

Yes, I would like to the next af so we'll see.

I do notice i bleed more, pass more clots when Im standing a lot and walking around, so that might trigger it. Not fun

 

[Comfycushions]

Nobump, hope you had a lovely birthday and great weekend in nice.

BMW, sorry to hear about the trip to er. Hopefully that's all calmed down now. Good luck with getting ready for next transfer.

Mrsw, good luck with the house move hope it goes smoothly with the minimum of stress.

Afm still just muddling along. Trying to get my head round the idea of living childfree. Mainly concentrating on planning trips and holidays. Still going to counseling, think I'm finding it helpful.

Hope you're all doing ok. xx

 

[beneathmywing]

Nobump, hope you had a lovely birthday and great weekend in nice.

BMW, sorry to hear about the trip to er. Hopefully that's all calmed down now. Good luck with getting ready for next transfer.

Mrsw, good luck with the house move hope it goes smoothly with the minimum of stress.

Afm still just muddling along. Trying to get my head round the idea of living childfree. Mainly concentrating on planning trips and holidays. Still going to counseling, think I'm finding it helpful.

Hope you're all doing ok. xx

Im getting there physically, but emotionally im really struggling. The doctor genetically tested my "products of conception" as they call it.. And it was a chromosomally normal female embryo. What a blow to the chest. Ive cried for days. I need to now get blood clotting blood work done and autoimmune blood work done so looks like my fet may be a little delayed

 

[Comfycushions]

Bmw I'm so sorry, that's really tough. I hope the blood work gives you some answers and, more importantly, some solutions and doesn't delay you too much. Is there perhaps someone at your clinic you can talk to to help you with the emotional impact?

 

[beneathmywing]

Bmw I'm so sorry, that's really tough. I hope the blood work gives you some answers and, more importantly, some solutions and doesn't delay you too much. Is there perhaps someone at your clinic you can talk to to help you with the emotional impact?

I hope I do get answers and soon.

I might look into talking to someone. I am really havin a hard time and the tears dont stop falling

 

[Comfycushions]

I really hope you do talk to someone. This is just all too shitty and your friends/family (probably) just can't get the full magnitude. Talking to a counsellor has been a life saver for me.xx

 

[beneathmywing]

I really hope you do talk to someone. This is just all too shitty and your friends/family (probably) just can't get the full magnitude. Talking to a counsellor has been a life saver for me.xx

Do you see a regular counselor or a fertility one? I have looked up a few infertility counselors.

I have sisters who went through infertility who have been a huge support, but they didnt go through what I have so I dont think they really understand how I feel.

 

[Ilovetomatoes]

I'm usually in ninja mode. Right now, I just want to give BMW massive . I'm so sorry to hear your latest news. Fertility counseling sounds better than regular counseling.

Comfy and Mrs W to you ladies too.

Ok back to ninja mode.

 

[beneathmywing]

I'm usually in ninja mode. Right now, I just want to give BMW massive . I'm so sorry to hear your latest news. Fertility counseling sounds better than regular counseling.

Comfy and Mrs W to you ladies too.

Ok back to ninja mode.

 

[nobump]

CC weekend in Nice was fab. Nice food and wine. Birthday meal was lovely. Heading through to folks today but have picked up a throat infection from flying dam air con. Would recommend adding Nice to your list of places to visit if you haven't been.

BMW I am sorry to hear your update. My heart is beeaking for you. I agree counselling will help but would recommend an ivf counsellor as well. Xxx

 

[Comfycushions]

Hi tomato ninja:wave:

Bmw I'm seeing the infertility counsellor from my clinic. I think it's best to see someone who specialises in that field. Assisted reproduction is just a mystery to the wider population! I hope you're doing something nice today.

Nobump glad to hear you had a good time. I've never really considered nice but it is now on my list. Hope your throat heals soon.

Afm, I'm about to go to a pilates class. Reached a stage where I feel well enough to be out and about in public (sounds a bit dramatic I know but depression really does make everything so tricky) Hoping to build up my exercise, get back in shape and enjoy some endorphin action.

 

[Jaybo]

Hi ladies,

Sorry I've not been posting lately. I'm still lurking and checking in on everyone, but just been struggling a bit lately.

BMW I'm so so sorry you're going through all of this honey. Sending you tons of virtual hugs I hope you're hanging on in there. I agree, finding a good therapist will help. xxx

Comfy I know what you mean about not feeling up to going out, I think I've developed some sort of social anxiety too lately. I'm ok one to one but the idea of large groups just fills me with dread.

Nobump glad you had a good break! We've went to Bruges last weekend and it was just lovely.

So, we had our appointment with our new clinic a few weeks ago, and it went well I think. I really like the clinic & Dr (and the guys with top hats!!). He thinks we were just unlucky and shouldn't give up after just one go. I was slightly disappointed that he is not interested in any immune testing and is completely against dhea. I guess i was just hoping for some kind of miracle cure, or at least something new to try, but he just wants us to try more or less the same again. He did explain it all in great detail and I trust his opinion so I think we are going to try again in June/July. I'm feeling a mixture of terrified and just complete lack of hope that anything will be any different to last time. Really need to sort diet, exercise, drinking out. I've put on so much weight since Christmas, but no motivation to do anything about it!!

Lizzy how you doing hon? Hope you and DH are finding a way to talk through all of this. I have to say me and DH have just stoped communicating now. It can take such a toll on your relationship eh?

Hi MrsW hope things are a bit less stressful with the move. When are you next at the clinic?

Ninja tomato!! lol! Hi lovely hope you're doing ok too xx

 

[Mrs W 11]

Hi everyone

BMW sorry to hear how you are feeling lovely. Hopefully your tests come back normal and you can move on with the fet. Sometimes I guess normal embryos don't develop properly and no one ever really knows why? I'm praying your fet will bring your rainbow. I hope talking to someone really helps

Comfy that all sounds good. Slowly but by bit your confidence will gain until you do feel more comfortable. You are doing so well and doing all the right things. Really inspirational, we are all here cheering you on xx

No bump your trip sounds lovely, so glad you had a nice time! Hope you are feeling better now?

Hey ilt! Hope those mini tomatoes are doing ok!!

Mrsg, thanks for stopping by, really thoughtful of you and means so much. It helps to know that there can be a light at the end of the tunnel. Xx

Lizzie and aurora, how you doing lovely ladies?

Jaybo, is your new clinic Lister? And they didn't recommend dhea? Why not? That's weird unless I'm confused and you're using another clinic..... They have recommended dhea to me, I've been taking it for a month. I too am planning to do ivf again in June/July. Ill have been on dhea and cqo10 for 3 months by then so plan to start the pill on my June af. I'm doing long protocol this time compared the antagonist last time. What protocol are you doing?

Dates are all abit

Dates are all up in the air for us at the moment as we have bought a house!! Very exciting but we are relocating and looks like it might all be happening around June/July time so it's if we can make it all work with me being off work, moving, my lo not being at nursery etc.

 

[Jaybo]

Hi MrsW, congrats on your new house. So exciting. My diary is completely packed with work for June so I'm thinking we'll be starting in July. We can be cycle buddies again!

Yep I am at the lister too. I thought it was odd because I remember how keen they were that you took dhea for 3 months before cycling again, I'd already been taking it for around a month. I think different Drs just have different views. His was that there's just not the science or the research to back up it's use in fertility treatment. He did say if I wanted to try it he could refer us to another Dr at the clinic, but preferred me not to take it. I think I'll be on the long protocol too. They're retesting my amh and I'm going back for a scan in a couple of weeks so I guess we'll find out more then.

 

[beneathmywing]

Thanks, girls

I've felt the same way about going out. I went out for dinner with some friends last night and actually laughed! I haven't laughed in God knows how long. It felt so good.