WTT for #1 thread

[nightdaze]

Welcome!!

Oh yeah, our LO will be both sets of parents' first grandchild too! DH and I are both first-borns.

Ours too. I am looking forward to seeing my dad cry for the first time ever!!! And my mom is going to be a blubbering mess for days!

Not sure about telling DH's parents. It will have to be over Skype as they live in London and we are in Canada. I don't know if they will be happy for us our not...they weren't thrilled when we moved to Canada and bought a house so I'm not sure what grandchildren will mean to them. I think it will be hard to tell them because if we don't get a positive reaction then DH will be crushed, but I know the excitement of my parents will make up for it!

 

[Pusscat]

EmilyCJ - I teach reception too! I've only got 18 this year, and no Jan intake, woo . We are in very similar positions! Xx

 

[theapple9]

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[nightdaze]

Ours too. I am looking forward to seeing my dad cry for the first time ever!!! And my mom is going to be a blubbering mess for days!

Not sure about telling DH's parents. It will have to be over Skype as they live in London and we are in Canada. I don't know if they will be happy for us our not...they weren't thrilled when we moved to Canada and bought a house so I'm not sure what grandchildren will mean to them. I think it will be hard to tell them because if we don't get a positive reaction then DH will be crushed, but I know the excitement of my parents will make up for it!

We unfortunately have the same problem. My family have been consistently supportive & encouraging in everything my OH & I do. My future in-laws are not so positive (about anything it seems!) & seem to refuse to see my OH as an adult. They have never said congratulations to us for our engagement & when we phoned to say we had finalised some of our wedding plans by booking a date, his mum asked why!

It doesn't bother me much though. His parents smoke & we feel very strongly about not exposing our children to any of that. Plus, after hearing the absolutely awful things that went on whilst my poor OH was growing up, they should feel lucky I'm thinking of including them at all!

Despite all this, my OH will similarly be devastated if he doesn't get a good reaction from them. I was showing him a YouTube clip of a couple telling the Grampa-to-be the good news. He got really upset that he is never going to have that with his dad Thankfully my dad will cry enough for everyone!

Wow, sounds all too familiar! DH's mom has a bit of a drinking problem (as does his dad but he doesn't get mean or violent - he just drinks a lot) and I would never want either of the looking after our LO. I don't see this ever happen seeing as they live in another country and visits will be minimal but I would still feel extremely uncomfortable with having my baby/toddler/child in a situation where he/she would see people getting drunk (obviously I can't protect them from this forever...but while they are still young...).

DH wants to tell his parents in person and I think we are planning a trip to London in April, hopefully we will have something to tell them then. However, if it does not go well I'm afraid the pregnancy hormones will get the best of me and I won't be able to stop myself from flying off the handle at them!!!

 

[EmilyCJ]

Pusscat - wow so jealous about no jan intake!! got to say i'm dreading it a little bit..up to 29 then so a bit of a shock to the system!!

how come this thread has moved up to the top now?? what does sticky mean!?

just been reading about you guys having some crappy in-laws. mine also infuriate it and since we've been deciding on ttc i've been thinking about them even more. my hubbys stepdad has been on the scene since oh was about 7 and always has been horrible. oh stayed there longer than he should have because he didnt want to leave his mum to deal with the brunt of it (esp after having an abusive violent alcoholic biological dad who put them both in hosp a few times). i get on with her really well, although she does frustrate me for not wanting to get out. but i've never got on with stepdad for obvious reasons. he used to treat oh like a slave whilst his two kids were spoilt rotten (and are nightmares now they've reached early teens!!!!). oh is the sweetest kindest lovliest person i've ever ever met and he hates confrontation and would just let the screaming/beatings go over his head but i couldnt stand someone treating the one i love like that. the last time he punched him hubby warned him that if he did it again he would hit him back (hubby was a big 6 foot 4 rugby playing guy by then rather than a scared little boy) and he hasnt done it since. miles away from the lovely grampas i had growing up!!!!! since we moved out oh tolerates stepdad but i find it rediculously hard...i cannot get over my grudge. i've made it quite clear i do not want him having anything more to do with my child than the occasional visit when i am there. and i think he is damn lucky to be getting that. my best friend has wonderful in-laws and they love each other to pieces and i'm so jealous how easy and supportive it all is!!! mine cant stand it that we have better jobs than them and earn more money, we have nicer cars and a better house. but instead of being pleased for us like parents should be they are jealous and bitter and mean. sorry this has turned into a bit of a rant...it just gets me going!!!!! everyone around here (even the people i work with) know his parents and dont know the situation so i feel i have nobody to talk to about it as oh would be upset of thought i was spreading. think i'd better just go to bed and stop thinking about it xxxx

 

[AngelofTroy]

Hi I'm AngelofTroy, or Helen IRL! I'm 24 and my fiance is 26, we've been together almost 2 years and lived together for most of that. We recently got engaged and haven't set a date yet.

We were WTT til we were married and had bought our own house. Then we saved up the house deposit but after a month of looking OH said he wants to move jobs first so he wouldn't have to commute as far, but as we rent a nice 3 bedroom house suitable for a family already he is happy to NTNP from the wedding onwards. Now we just have to set a date and plan the wedding lol!x

 

[mrsswaffer]

Congratulations, Helen!!

 

[theapple9]

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[jemsbabyblues]

Thank god for this thread

I know I'm a bit late to the party but I'm Jemma, engaged and WTT for number one

 

[EmilyCJ]

Hi AngelofTroy and Jemma! Welcome ladies . congratulations on wwt and engagements...very exciting time all around!!!! xxxx

 

[CupCakeFairy]

I see lots of posts about in-laws being the probem but its actually my own mum that's going to be the problem - and her mini-mums(my younger sisters)!

When I am pregnant I may finally be able to tell her where to go as she is not doing to my child what she did to me!! She has a real problem with the relationship I have with all my in-laws and makes everything so much more difficult than it needs to be! I have such a good relationship with DHs family because they all treat me like an adult and love me! I have never felt like an adult around my mom!

Alas... I am winding myself up... Its all a wait and see scenario...

There...depressive rant over!

Thank you ladies for all being so supportive, kind, understanding and generous with your time

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[theapple9]

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[EmilyCJ]

Cupcakefairy- i feel for you that must be hard . at least you are close to your in-laws so you know you've got them..could be a bit lonely otherwise. my hubby is much closer to my family than his own and i imagine that he feels similar to you. his family kick up a huge fuss whenever we have dinner with my family or do anything with them and oh prefers to fib about going over there just to avoid the drama . at least if you're pregnant when you tell her you can blame it on the hormones if it goes sour! yes theapple9 family politics SUCKS xxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[purplespecs]

Hey! I'm purplespecs, i'm 25 and i'm brand new to BnB today!

DH and I have been together for 5 and a half years and have been married for 4 months. We've always talked about having children right from the beginning (DH is from a huge Catholic family), and we put together a list of things we wanted to do before children came along... travel around Europe, buy a house, get married, sort out finances out etc... and I can happily say that we have now ticked all of those boxes and we are both very excited to start TTC in February 2012! I've made an appointment at the docs to get my implant removed at the end of this month so I can have a few months to get my cycle back. It all seems very real now!

I'm hoping to meet some lovely ladies (or gentlemen??) for advice and support!

 

[EmilyCJ]

Hey! I'm purplespecs, i'm 25 and i'm brand new to BnB today!

DH and I have been together for 5 and a half years and have been married for 4 months. We've always talked about having children right from the beginning (DH is from a huge Catholic family), and we put together a list of things we wanted to do before children came along... travel around Europe, buy a house, get married, sort out finances out etc... and I can happily say that we have now ticked all of those boxes and we are both very excited to start TTC in February 2012! I've made an appointment at the docs to get my implant removed at the end of this month so I can have a few months to get my cycle back. It all seems very real now!

I'm hoping to meet some lovely ladies (or gentlemen??) for advice and support!

Welcome purplespecs ! Congratulations its a very exciting time!! well done on getting your list ticked off first . i havent got long left in wwt any more happydance but there are lots of lovely ladies here who will be more than happy to give you all the advice & support you need. its been brilliant for me to be able to come on here and know i'm not alone however i'm feeling or whatever i'm going through, and i'm sure itl be the same for you too. it is VERY real!!!! love Emily

 

[mrsswaffer]

Yay! Welcome, purplespecs!!! How exciting!!!!

 

[Haylee.]

Hello to all you lovely ladies! I hope you don't mind the late introduction, but lately I too have only been swaying between my journal and subscribed threads and finally I have some time to browse and I found this thread, it's perfect as I'd like to get to know you all!

My name is Haylee, I am 21 and OH is 23. We have been together just under 4 years.. Marriage is definitely on the cards in the not too distant future ((yay)) but all in all we know we don't need marriage to prove our love.. I do have a beautiful diamond ring OH bought for valentines day this year and told me to wear it on my ring finger so it's just as sentimental for the time being...

Thankyou Bee for starting this thread, I just read the whole thread and feel like I know all of you lovelies already it's so nice to see I am not the only one going insane with broodiness! What causes such a strong yearning.. Even though it's not very nice wanting something sooo bad that you can't yet have, it is reassuring knowing that I am not the only one who feels this way, and BnB is great to express/vent feelings especially when it can get a bit too much for OH.. I haven't told OH about BnB but I think*** he has a fair idea what I'm doing...

We can't wait to have babies, and one things for sure my mum is begging for them haha and I think my soon to be mum-in-law will be thrilled. I am very lucky to have a great relationship with both OH's family and my family and give big to those who aren't so lucky.. in the end all that matters is you and OH are going to build your own beautiful loving family..

Can't wait to get to know you all better, we are all going through similar things and this is why BnB is great xxxx

 

[mrsswaffer]

Welcome, Haylee.! What a lovely introduction!!

 

[EmilyCJ]

Hi Haylee nice to meet you welcome!! xx

 

[Haylee.]

Thanx chickies, what a warm welcome! Xx