2013 losses- rainbow baby making thread...

[GalvanBaby]

LucyLake, tell me about it!!

I will be 35 in August and I so hope I am pregnant by then so I can avoid the amnio. I really don't like the idea of a needle going into my stomach. Especially one that big. LOL I am not sure if they do those here or not. My RE hasn't said anything about amnios, but who knows.

 

[LucyLake]

GalvanBaby, unfortunately my doctor said "ohhhh you're SO lucky, I would have forced you to have an amnio if it was November!" So I'm not optimistic although for a number of reasons, we'll be changing doctors for this next baby if we're lucky enough to have one. The last thing I want is to enter the very room where there was a silent monitor and my sweet little boy lay lifeless on the screen. Though they put a condom on the wand, it frightens me to imagine that same instrument being used to see if there's a new heartbeat at my scans. I just don't have the strength.

Also, the Technician couldn't tell me anything and I waited SO long to be able to see my doctor and confirm my worst fears, though of course I knew on my no heartbeat scan Feb 13. She didn't want to be sued if the doctor disagreed and my scan was at 10:30 am, Appointment with Doctor at 2:30 that day. I BEGGED and got in with my doctor VERY briefly around 11-11:30.

I hope everything goes well for you and you can also avoid an amnio. My deal is, this is already high risk, why would I want to PRAY a needle doesn't hurt the baby on top of everything else!?

 

[EarthMama]

Is anyone else just feeling extremely down and out and overall pretty negative? This should be a very exciting time as my period is almost over and it's time to get started. But, I can't help but be pessimistic today....

It just seems like so few of us are getting a after the recent losses...

And if ladies are, they are having another loss. I've actually cried in recent days reading about recurrent miscarriages here with newly pregnant ladies.

It just seems like SO much work.

1) Recover physically from recent loss (still not fully recovered, short 25 day cycle now)
2) get husband onboard and in agreement
3) Pray that I took enough B-12, ate correctly, to get a
4) Pray that the BFP if I'm lucky to get one, sticks
5) Wait and wait and wait and wait for anything and everything to go wrong.

I think this may end up being the longest year of my life. It's been 60 days since the MC itself and it feels like a lifetime.

Anyone else having these feelings?

I took for granted how easy and amazing pregnancy was with my sweet 8 yr old son.

I have had similar feelings. The emotional toll of pregnancy is just so intense and the anxiety is too. I hope so much the MC doesn't happen to me again. I am praying every day that we get another healthy baby. Hubby and I are DTD frequently now because it's my fertile time. I just hope we can catch a strong egg.

 

[Nimyra]

Please remember that doctors are not supposed to force or bully you into anything. Use the broken record technique if a doctor keeps telling you that you *need* to have amnio done: " the answer is no. The answer is no. The answer is no. ". Or "I'll think about it." Then don't get back to them.

Lucy, I will be happy to give a piece of my mind to any doctor who believes he can "force" you to do something you don't want to do.

Another great line is "I need to talk this over with my attorney."

When in doubt offer to sign an "against medical advice" (AMA) form.


Okay, rant over...

I had a short cycle this month too, 26 days which gave me a 12 day luteal phase. I know that's a touch short, but I'm not too worried about it, bad cause my typical lp is just 13 days.

I'm feeling slightly more optimistic today, although I still had some bad moments today. So glad we can be here for one another.

 

[AwesomeSauce]

If you are not comfortable with an amnio don't do it. It drives me crazy when dr's think they can force a patient into a procedure they are not comfortable with. What good would an amnio do? Would you terminate based on e results? Having been through loss I don't know that many of us here would. Nothing can be learned via amnio that can't be dealt with after baby is born. Just my opinion though.

I don't know what my deal is today. Yesterday I was kneeling down for too long andi passed out. It was a circulation issue. It has happened to me before, but only when I was pregnant. Today I noticed that my boobs are sore. What the chicken is that about? This evening I had heartburn...um...lame. Not cool to have pregnancy symptoms now. My miscarriage started exactly 1 month ago today. There is almost a zero percent chance that I could be pregnant. I am certain I am not. I only got a bfn six days ago. There is no chance these symptoms are pregnancy related. Just annoying and a painful reminder.

 

[george83]

Is anyone else just feeling extremely down and out and overall pretty negative? This should be a very exciting time as my period is almost over and it's time to get started. But, I can't help but be pessimistic today....

It just seems like so few of us are getting a after the recent losses...

And if ladies are, they are having another loss. I've actually cried in recent days reading about recurrent miscarriages here with newly pregnant ladies.

It just seems like SO much work.

1) Recover physically from recent loss (still not fully recovered, short 25 day cycle now)
2) get husband onboard and in agreement
3) Pray that I took enough B-12, ate correctly, to get a
4) Pray that the BFP if I'm lucky to get one, sticks
5) Wait and wait and wait and wait for anything and everything to go wrong.

I think this may end up being the longest year of my life. It's been 60 days since the MC itself and it feels like a lifetime.

Anyone else having these feelings?

I took for granted how easy and amazing pregnancy was with my sweet 8 yr old son.

Lucy I totally agree, all this talk of being extra fertile after mc made me think we'd all fall pregnant just looking at our partners, I never thought it would be this difficult. I've found it so hard emotionally I still can't believe it's happened to me. Last week I thought I was coping and had accepted that it will happen one day and just to let it take its time but this week I've gone completely down hill again, my poor husband doesn't know what to do. I too was completely ignorant when I had my son, my husband put me through rubbish and still my pregnancy was easy and my son came bang on his due date - I want that again x x

 

[george83]

Lost my little bean this morning. 4 weeks 4 days. I feel so incredibly sad, but determined to try again. Hopefully, I'll get to see my bean one day.

Going to the Dr. on Monday for a checkup and then we'll see what the verdict is on when we can try again. I'm 34 so I'm anxious to keep at it.

Thank you so much for this site. Y'all are truly a blessing here.

So sorry for your loss sweetie we're all here for you

 

[george83]

If you are not comfortable with an amnio don't do it. It drives me crazy when dr's think they can force a patient into a procedure they are not comfortable with. What good would an amnio do? Would you terminate based on e results? Having been through loss I don't know that many of us here would. Nothing can be learned via amnio that can't be dealt with after baby is born. Just my opinion though.

I don't know what my deal is today. Yesterday I was kneeling down for too long andi passed out. It was a circulation issue. It has happened to me before, but only when I was pregnant. Today I noticed that my boobs are sore. What the chicken is that about? This evening I had heartburn...um...lame. Not cool to have pregnancy symptoms now. My miscarriage started exactly 1 month ago today. There is almost a zero percent chance that I could be pregnant. I am certain I am not. I only got a bfn six days ago. There is no chance these symptoms are pregnancy related. Just annoying and a painful reminder.

Are you sure you can't be pregnant? I've heard lots of women say that and then get positive tests!! Unfortunately I've noticed that our bodies like to drag out or post mc torture and make pms even more like pregnancy symptoms after mc

 

[AwesomeSauce]

I don't think it is possible. I don't think I ovulated.
Temps are all over the place, opk never turned positive, only bd once and that was just a couple of days after I got a bfn. Odds are VERY slim. My temp chart looks like a heart monitor. No biphasic trend and no crosshairs.

 

[george83]

I don't think it is possible. I don't think I ovulated.
Temps are all over the place, opk never turned positive, only bd once and that was just a couple of days after I got a bfn. Odds are VERY slim. My temp chart looks like a heart monitor. No biphasic trend and no crosshairs.

I'm sorry to hear that I hope things level themselves out for you soon x x

 

[Misscalais]

Bfp girls!
13DPO, afternoon urine no hold. Exactly 2 months 1 day since my MC.

 

[LucyLake]

Bfp girls!
13DPO, afternoon urine no hold. Exactly 2 months 1 day since my MC.

Best news ever!! I woke up my husband with a woo-hoo cheer when I read this!

I also want to thank you so much Misscalais. From the beginning, you just had this post-MC determination that never quit. While I've been sitting here whining to anyone who will listen about short luteal phases, you just went for it and never looked back. As a result of your strength, my plans were firmed up after a talk before hubby left for work just now and we will start Tuesday at exactly 8 days past AF.

Love to you and prayers for an easy delivery.

 

[AwesomeSauce]

Bfp girls!
13DPO, afternoon urine no hold. Exactly 2 months 1 day since my MC.

YYYYYAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYY!!!!

Excellent, wonderful, fabulous news!!
Come on baby! STICK! Mamma deserves it!

 

[GalvanBaby]

That is great news!! Congratulations!!

 

[george83]

Congratulations h&h 9 months!!! This is just what this thread needed to hear today - thank you!!!

 

[Raggydoll]

Bfp girls!
13DPO, afternoon urine no hold. Exactly 2 months 1 day since my MC.

Congratulations. Hope you have a happy & healthy pregnancy.

 

[Raggydoll]

Lucylake, have you tried Agnus Castus? It's meant to lengthen your LP.

I had a short LP before I had my daughter. I got my BFP the first cycle I tried it.

 

[GalvanBaby]

Where can you buy that Raggydoll? I have a LP defect. I am on pregesterone during LP, but I wonder if that can also help me?

 

[Raggydoll]

It's a natural supplement so probably most health stores. I'm in the UK. Holland and Barrett sell them.

 

[LucyLake]

Is anyone else just feeling extremely down and out and overall pretty negative? This should be a very exciting time as my period is almost over and it's time to get started. But, I can't help but be pessimistic today....

It just seems like so few of us are getting a after the recent losses...

And if ladies are, they are having another loss. I've actually cried in recent days reading about recurrent miscarriages here with newly pregnant ladies.

It just seems like SO much work.

1) Recover physically from recent loss (still not fully recovered, short 25 day cycle now)
2) get husband onboard and in agreement
3) Pray that I took enough B-12, ate correctly, to get a
4) Pray that the BFP if I'm lucky to get one, sticks
5) Wait and wait and wait and wait for anything and everything to go wrong.

I think this may end up being the longest year of my life. It's been 60 days since the MC itself and it feels like a lifetime.

Anyone else having these feelings?

I took for granted how easy and amazing pregnancy was with my sweet 8 yr old son.

I have had similar feelings. The emotional toll of pregnancy is just so intense and the anxiety is too. I hope so much the MC doesn't happen to me again. I am praying every day that we get another healthy baby. Hubby and I are DTD frequently now because it's my fertile time. I just hope we can catch a strong egg.

Glad to hear you're DTD'ing frequently EarthMama and prayers that this is your month! I'm hoping to be literally right behind you with a Jan 28 due date. Please God!!