2013 losses- rainbow baby making thread...

[LucyLake]

If you are not comfortable with an amnio don't do it. It drives me crazy when dr's think they can force a patient into a procedure they are not comfortable with. What good would an amnio do? Would you terminate based on e results? Having been through loss I don't know that many of us here would. Nothing can be learned via amnio that can't be dealt with after baby is born. Just my opinion though.

I don't know what my deal is today. Yesterday I was kneeling down for too long andi passed out. It was a circulation issue. It has happened to me before, but only when I was pregnant. Today I noticed that my boobs are sore. What the chicken is that about? This evening I had heartburn...um...lame. Not cool to have pregnancy symptoms now. My miscarriage started exactly 1 month ago today. There is almost a zero percent chance that I could be pregnant. I am certain I am not. I only got a bfn six days ago. There is no chance these symptoms are pregnancy related. Just annoying and a painful reminder.

Hope everything is okay AwesomeSauce. I know that's happened to others following an MC. And like you, I had MORE symptoms at times long AFTER the pregnancy had ended. I miscarried Feb 28 and it wasn't until March 21 or so that my levels returned to 0. Big hugs and prayers that you're experiencing those first pregnancy days

I totally agree with your opinion about an amnio! I wouldn't abort either anyway and was planning to opt out of 14 week screenings with my MC baby

 

[LucyLake]

Is anyone else just feeling extremely down and out and overall pretty negative? This should be a very exciting time as my period is almost over and it's time to get started. But, I can't help but be pessimistic today....

It just seems like so few of us are getting a after the recent losses...

And if ladies are, they are having another loss. I've actually cried in recent days reading about recurrent miscarriages here with newly pregnant ladies.

It just seems like SO much work.

1) Recover physically from recent loss (still not fully recovered, short 25 day cycle now)
2) get husband onboard and in agreement
3) Pray that I took enough B-12, ate correctly, to get a
4) Pray that the BFP if I'm lucky to get one, sticks
5) Wait and wait and wait and wait for anything and everything to go wrong.

I think this may end up being the longest year of my life. It's been 60 days since the MC itself and it feels like a lifetime.

Anyone else having these feelings?

I took for granted how easy and amazing pregnancy was with my sweet 8 yr old son.

Lucy I totally agree, all this talk of being extra fertile after mc made me think we'd all fall pregnant just looking at our partners, I never thought it would be this difficult. I've found it so hard emotionally I still can't believe it's happened to me. Last week I thought I was coping and had accepted that it will happen one day and just to let it take its time but this week I've gone completely down hill again, my poor husband doesn't know what to do. I too was completely ignorant when I had my son, my husband put me through rubbish and still my pregnancy was easy and my son came bang on his due date - I want that again x x

I totally agree and this week is so hard. Misscalais' made me feel like there's light at the end of the tunnel! I just wish everyone here had their and we could move on a little more! I know exactly how you feel and hope this week goes better for you I definitely know it WILL happen one day for each of us!! Just want it to be sooner than later and not involve ANOTHER loss!!

 

[LucyLake]

Please remember that doctors are not supposed to force or bully you into anything. Use the broken record technique if a doctor keeps telling you that you *need* to have amnio done: " the answer is no. The answer is no. The answer is no. ". Or "I'll think about it." Then don't get back to them.

Lucy, I will be happy to give a piece of my mind to any doctor who believes he can "force" you to do something you don't want to do.

Another great line is "I need to talk this over with my attorney."

When in doubt offer to sign an "against medical advice" (AMA) form.


Okay, rant over...

I had a short cycle this month too, 26 days which gave me a 12 day luteal phase. I know that's a touch short, but I'm not too worried about it, bad cause my typical lp is just 13 days.

I'm feeling slightly more optimistic today, although I still had some bad moments today. So glad we can be here for one another.

This post made me laugh, thank you Nimyra I Love the attorney and against medical advice form advice!!

I know I said I can't stand the short luteal phase deal, but I have to keep reminding myself that I've always been a 26-27 day cycle kind of girl and got preggers with my son that way. I'm going to take Raggydoll's advice and get some supplements...and I'm still eating healthy but making sure to always get enough, and also taking my prenatal. Last step, get husband to stop his pack a day, he said he'll stop cold turkey all through the next 2 weeks.

My prayers and thoughts are always with you and I'm here I hope everything goes really well locally, it sounds SO much easier and I bet he'll be lovely and so easy to work with. Prayers for you to get a the EXACT same day along with me! Please God!!

 

[Peacenik]

Bfp girls!
13DPO, afternoon urine no hold. Exactly 2 months 1 day since my MC.

YAY! Congrats!!!

 

[LucyLake]

Lucylake, have you tried Agnus Castus? It's meant to lengthen your LP.

I had a short LP before I had my daughter. I got my BFP the first cycle I tried it.

Thank you Raggydoll. I'm going to head out and find it in a little bit! Blessings to you as you try for your as well

 

[Miniegg27]

Bfp girls!
13DPO, afternoon urine no hold. Exactly 2 months 1 day since my MC.

Congratulations!!!!!!

 

[mumofone25]

Bfp girls!
13DPO, afternoon urine no hold. Exactly 2 months 1 day since my MC.

congratulations xxxxxx

 

[LucyLake]

Lucylake, have you tried Agnus Castus? It's meant to lengthen your LP.

I had a short LP before I had my daughter. I got my BFP the first cycle I tried it.

Hi Raggydoll!!!

Quick question- did you use the angus castus all through the month until you got a BFP? All 9 months of pregnancy?

Just wondered.

I picked some up just now from Vitamin Cottage aka Natural Grocers- the Gaia Herbs Vitex Berry. The lady told me it's the best because it has a validated full spectrum profile at 0.6%--3 mg.

Thank you again

 

[Raggydoll]

Lucylake, have you tried Agnus Castus? It's meant to lengthen your LP.

I had a short LP before I had my daughter. I got my BFP the first cycle I tried it.

Hi Raggydoll!!!

Quick question- did you use the angus castus all through the month until you got a BFP? All 9 months of pregnancy?

Just wondered.

I picked some up just now from Vitamin Cottage aka Natural Grocers- the Gaia Herbs Vitex Berry. The lady told me it's the best because it has a validated full spectrum profile at 0.6%--3 mg.

Thank you again

I took them from cycle day 1 until ovulation. You can't take them when you're pregnant which is why it's best to stop at ovulation.

Hope it works for you.

 

[Kassseysmummy]

Hi ladies I'd like to join this group if thats ok, I had a m/c at 11 weeks on the 17th of april, I was about to be tested for an incompetant cervix, Which is my second loss in 6 months, last year in october I had a medical termination... Which doesnt explain what happened at all, at my 12 week scan we found out my son was extremely disfigured, his placenta and umbilical cord stopped growing at 5 weeks and my son was given a 0% chance of survival, at 15 weeks I was induced and gave birth to my gorgeous angel. I have a 3 year old daughter who is perfect and I so badly want to give her a sibling, that Ive decided to start ttc right away. Any tips on how to conceive quickly and things I can do to lower my chance of miscarriage?

 

[ladyluck84]

Congratulations! Just found out I too have a very short luteal phase so looking to start taking something natural. I had a missed miscarrage do u think it has something to do with it?

 

[mowat]

Congratulations Misscalais! How exciting. Hope you don't mind being an inspiration for the rest of us!

Went to the doctor to get the results from my post miscarriage ultrasound. She said everything looked fine, but mentioned the lining was only 4-5 mm. Is it normal for it to be that thin after miscarriage? She's also sending me for blood tests to make sure what they think is a cyst isn't retained products. Funny, when I asked to have blood tests to make sure my levels were dropping they said it was unnecessary---hmmm. They're also saying my uterus arcuate. Anyone else have this? I'm thinking they're mistaken and it's just the scar tissue from my previous dreadful miscarriage/d&c fiasco.

Sure wish I'd ovulate or AF would come! I am not a patient person. Can't even just try randomly try now since I'm on drugs for a UTI. Whine, whine, whine!

 

[AwesomeSauce]

Ff decided there might be an ovulation cover line for me. It is dotted and for several days ago. I haven't seen a chart like mine before, but even a dotted crosshair is more fun to look at than a plain boring no crosshair chart. I expect Af next week if I did ovulate on that day.

 

[DreaStar462]

Hi ladies!

so this is the group we spoke about making. just let me know when your TTC and ill add you to the list.

This group is for the ladies who lost a precious angel in 2013. feel free to join us


fingers crossed for the beautiful rainbows



Sedgeez - TTC March
LucyLake - TTC April/May
Jessshakespea - TTC March
Cloves - TTC April/May
Neverending -TTC April
Raggydoll - TTC March
Shouse -TTC March
Danni8394 -TTC April/May
George83 -TTC May
Greener Grass - TTC March
Chathamlady - TTC May
Kasey84 -TTC March
Nimyra - TTC April/May
Skywalker - TTC April/May
Tasha - TTC March
Misscalais - TTC March
Mah0113 - TTC March
Ece77 -TTC June
Cryssie - TTC May/June
DebbieDobs - TTC April
Tamina800 - TTC April
Robyn1990 - TTC April/May

Just had my d&c Friday and we plan to TTC right away so I guess April for me! Good luck and rainbow baby dust to all of us!

 

[LucyLake]

Lucylake, have you tried Agnus Castus? It's meant to lengthen your LP.

I had a short LP before I had my daughter. I got my BFP the first cycle I tried it.

Hi Raggydoll!!!

Quick question- did you use the angus castus all through the month until you got a BFP? All 9 months of pregnancy?

Just wondered.

I picked some up just now from Vitamin Cottage aka Natural Grocers- the Gaia Herbs Vitex Berry. The lady told me it's the best because it has a validated full spectrum profile at 0.6%--3 mg.

Thank you again

I took them from cycle day 1 until ovulation. You can't take them when you're pregnant which is why it's best to stop at ovulation.

Hope it works for you.

Thanks . I read the back and it said not to take them while pregnant. I wish I started sooner...but thank you so much Raggydoll. I'm going to take some more and stop Tuesday or Wed in case.

Welcome kasseysmummy

 

[LucyLake]

Congratulations! Just found out I too have a very short luteal phase so looking to start taking something natural. I had a missed miscarrage do u think it has something to do with it?

Unfortunately, I wouldn't doubt it, my doctor was very adamant with me that it's often the culprit though I thought in my case it was other major factors. The good news is there are fixes for it

 

[Misscalais]

Best news ever!! I woke up my husband with a woo-hoo cheer when I read this!

I also want to thank you so much Misscalais. From the beginning, you just had this post-MC determination that never quit. While I've been sitting here whining to anyone who will listen about short luteal phases, you just went for it and never looked back. As a result of your strength, my plans were firmed up after a talk before hubby left for work just now and we will start Tuesday at exactly 8 days past AF.

Love to you and prayers for an easy delivery.

Thanks so much Hun. Praying that you get your bfp very soon. I know how much its been a struggle. Xo

 

[Misscalais]

Thanks so much girls it means a lot!
I'm praying that each and everyone of you get your bfps really soon.
I only BD like 8 times this month and only once over my fertile period ( well I really have no idea when I ovulated ) I'm just guessing so I'm very surprised. My line this morning was lighter than last nights :-/ so I'm praying hard its not a chemical took two other tests and they were darker than this mornings but not by much, ill test again in 48 hrs and let you know how I go. Pray for us ladies that this one wants to stick around.
Lots and lots of

 

[karenh]

AustinGigi: I am so sorry for your loss. I hope everything goes well at the Dr and you are able to start trying again really soon.

Misscalais: Congrats! I pray that it sticks this time!

Kasserysmummy: So sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine how hard that must have been.

AFM I have my follicle check on Thursday and hopefully my IUI on Saturday. I am getting nervous to try again. I really hope this is finally it.

 

[Miniegg27]

How many weeks are you Misscalais?