2013 losses- rainbow baby making thread...

[EarthMama]

Can I join you ladies? I am just getting past a MMC, had a D&C last Thursday, but DF and I are anxious to try again and get our rainbow baby. My Doc said they usually advise to wait three cycles after a loss before trying again but I'm not sure we can wait that long. I'd really like to get my rainbow BFP before the end of the year!

Praying that you do, Minnie! I waited 2 cycles before TTC again and honestly I think only waiting 1 cycle would have been fine.

 

[LucyLake]

Huge hugs Minni, I remember you from the March monkeys team. this is a great group and I'm praying that your journey to your rainbow is easy.

 

[minni2906]

Thank you both! I have my post-op follow up next Thursday, and we will decide from there.

eta; btw Lucy, congrats on your rainbow twins!!! That is such wonderful news!!

 

[DD80]

Thank you both! I have my post-op follow up next Thursday, and we will decide from there.

eta; btw Lucy, congrats on your rainbow twins!!! That is such wonderful news!!

I'm sorry for your loss. I just wanted to add that my dr said we could try right away. I did not do a d&c, but took the pills, so it might be different. But, just wanted to chime in so you had all info!

 

[george83]

Can I join you ladies? I am just getting past a MMC, had a D&C last Thursday, but DF and I are anxious to try again and get our rainbow baby. My Doc said they usually advise to wait three cycles after a loss before trying again but I'm not sure we can wait that long. I'd really like to get my rainbow BFP before the end of the year!

Sorry for your loss, thinking of you lots x x

 

[EarthMama]

So...the stretchy feelings and cramping I was having has up and vanished...I had grown to appreciate the cramping and now it's gone and I'm worried!

I do remember with my son it came and went but I also remember I had A LOT of cramping with him and I'm just anxious now that I don't feel the cramping anymore. I actually hope it comes back!

On the flip side, I'm tired all the time (went to bed at 7pm last night and had a nap during the day), my nipples really hurt when my son nurses, and I'm super thirsty although for the most part food doesn't appeal. I am having more symptoms at this point then I had with my MC but still not as many as I had with my son, although I didn't really get slammed with symptoms with him until 6 weeks.

I'm really anxious, just trying to tell myself, "this pregnancy will not turn out like the last one."

 

[george83]

So...the stretchy feelings and cramping I was having has up and vanished...I had grown to appreciate the cramping and now it's gone and I'm worried!

I do remember with my son it came and went but I also remember I had A LOT of cramping with him and I'm just anxious now that I don't feel the cramping anymore. I actually hope it comes back!

On the flip side, I'm tired all the time (went to bed at 7pm last night and had a nap during the day), my nipples really hurt when my son nurses, and I'm super thirsty although for the most part food doesn't appeal. I am having more symptoms at this point then I had with my MC but still not as many as I had with my son, although I didn't really get slammed with symptoms with him until 6 weeks.

I'm really anxious, just trying to tell myself, "this pregnancy will not turn out like the last one."

At the start of this pregnancy I remember thinking the same about my cramps coming and going and panicking something was wrong but it's normal - from my naive understanding the cramping is baby growing which obviously goes in stages. I know I had no cramping after 6 weeks with my angel I also didn't feel tired with my angel which was the biggest clue I had something was wrong even now at 23 weeks with my rainbow I'm still falling asleep the minute I sit down. I'm sure you little one is growing perfectly

 

[EarthMama]

So...the stretchy feelings and cramping I was having has up and vanished...I had grown to appreciate the cramping and now it's gone and I'm worried!

I do remember with my son it came and went but I also remember I had A LOT of cramping with him and I'm just anxious now that I don't feel the cramping anymore. I actually hope it comes back!

On the flip side, I'm tired all the time (went to bed at 7pm last night and had a nap during the day), my nipples really hurt when my son nurses, and I'm super thirsty although for the most part food doesn't appeal. I am having more symptoms at this point then I had with my MC but still not as many as I had with my son, although I didn't really get slammed with symptoms with him until 6 weeks.

I'm really anxious, just trying to tell myself, "this pregnancy will not turn out like the last one."

At the start of this pregnancy I remember thinking the same about my cramps coming and going and panicking something was wrong but it's normal - from my naive understanding the cramping is baby growing which obviously goes in stages. I know I had no cramping after 6 weeks with my angel I also didn't feel tired with my angel which was the biggest clue I had something was wrong even now at 23 weeks with my rainbow I'm still falling asleep the minute I sit down. I'm sure you little one is growing perfectly

Thanks so much for the reassurance! This pregnancy DOES feel different for me then my previous one did, but of course I am just really on edge right now, I won't even have a scan for another 5 weeks. I am not exactly sure how far along I am right now but guessing between 4-5 weeks.

Lack of tiredness was one of my biggest clues too with my angel...this time around I just feel really droopy and sleepy...slept almost 12 hours last night, woke up and still feel like I could fall asleep again! Definitely didn't experience that with my angel baby.

For the most part I am staying busy and not allowing myself to THINK too much. But then sometimes the worry gets the best of me and I need reassurance. Thank you.

 

[george83]

I still worry now, if I don't feel the baby move for a while I'm convinced something's gone wrong. I also had loads of bleeding between 8-12 weeks and it was the worst time.

Try to relax and enjoy it but I think it's natural for us to worry now, the lasting effects of our angels

 

[chelsealynnb]

Could I join in? I had one loss in 2012 and 2 losses in 2013 I had two D&Cs this year so my doctor told me to wait 5-6 months to try again, and this month is month 5 so we are going to start! I am currently CD4. I am wishing for our rainbow baby!!!

 

[geri122]

I would like to join for support. I lost my baby at 13 wks

 

[TNT13]

Angel baby lost 4/23/13 at 10 1/2 weeks. Will TTC again Aug/Sept 2014.

 

[Nimyra]

I'm worrying like a crazy person...

Yesterday I suddenly had a lot of pain - sharp constant pain... freaked out, insisted nurse see me (even though no drs were available)... begged for ultrasound...

Ultrasound showed baby doing fine, but could clearly see an area of fluid (separate from baby's sac) and freaked out... Ultrasound tech wouldn't tell me much... can't tell if the fluid was in the uterus or outside (like in the cul de sac?)...

Waited all day today on pins and needles for nurse to call me with scan results... nurse said the ultrasound doc wrote practically nothing on the report... just that a 12 week fetus was seen and that there were signs of a complex cyst, possibly burst. No mention of fluid.

Um... okay... relieved, but feeling crazy, right?

Then today I was checking my cervix ('cause I'm like that...) and I'm hanging crazy low due to pregnancy-related uterine prolapse, and felt a funny bump, so I grabbed a hand mirror to take a peek. I'm hanging so low I can see my cervix just by parting my vaginal lips a bit... And I can clearly see the bump... its' dark red and looks like a blood blister. Maybe 1-2mm in size... tiny.

But then I start freaking out... is it an STI, cancer, polyp, cyst... or just what it looks like, a blood blister.

And will I even be able to get the answer? I feel like I can't call and bug my dr. about yet another thing (which is probably normal)... they are getting tired of me and my anxieties... but it's going to be about 2 weeks before I go in again and I don't want to be obsessing about this for 2 weeks.

Gah... I'm driving myself crazy.

 

[TNT13]

Nimyra- I don't think this is a good place for you to post this. It seems a little insensitive. Maybe your post is best suited for a pregnancy thread with women who are already pregnant and not having just suffered miscarriages

 

[Miniegg27]

TNT13 - the original girls on this thread have been on here for a while now so we are following each others journies from losing our precious lil ones to falling pregnant with our rainbows. I'm sorry if you feel offended but this is how it is on the thread. We support each other through everything.

 

[EarthMama]

I'm worrying like a crazy person...

Yesterday I suddenly had a lot of pain - sharp constant pain... freaked out, insisted nurse see me (even though no drs were available)... begged for ultrasound...

Ultrasound showed baby doing fine, but could clearly see an area of fluid (separate from baby's sac) and freaked out... Ultrasound tech wouldn't tell me much... can't tell if the fluid was in the uterus or outside (like in the cul de sac?)...

Waited all day today on pins and needles for nurse to call me with scan results... nurse said the ultrasound doc wrote practically nothing on the report... just that a 12 week fetus was seen and that there were signs of a complex cyst, possibly burst. No mention of fluid.

Um... okay... relieved, but feeling crazy, right?

Then today I was checking my cervix ('cause I'm like that...) and I'm hanging crazy low due to pregnancy-related uterine prolapse, and felt a funny bump, so I grabbed a hand mirror to take a peek. I'm hanging so low I can see my cervix just by parting my vaginal lips a bit... And I can clearly see the bump... its' dark red and looks like a blood blister. Maybe 1-2mm in size... tiny.

But then I start freaking out... is it an STI, cancer, polyp, cyst... or just what it looks like, a blood blister.

And will I even be able to get the answer? I feel like I can't call and bug my dr. about yet another thing (which is probably normal)... they are getting tired of me and my anxieties... but it's going to be about 2 weeks before I go in again and I don't want to be obsessing about this for 2 weeks.

Gah... I'm driving myself crazy.

I'm so sorry you are worrying, I am also worrying myself crazy day after day but for different reasons. I vented about it in the Pregnancy after Loss forum.

And it is downright annoying how vague doctor's can be. Don't they know we are already kinda crazy, no need to push us over the edge with a lack of information... /sigh/

I also have a VERY VERY low cervix due to my pelvic floor weakening in the 3 hours it took to push my son out. I've done kegals but it still just stays in the same spot. Pretty sure it's at least a partial prolapse. I was wondering how that would be effected in pregnancy. Has your doctor said anything about how as the pregnancy progresses the cervix will be effected, or if it is cause for concern? I'm worried mine will start to fall out..lol.

Anyway I do not have any advice as I'm a mess too. I think it's okay to call and ask your doctor about the spot on the cervix, but I bet it is probably a blood blister if that's what it looks like. Still it bears mentioning just for your own peace of mind! Don't feel bad about calling them up and even asking to be checked, I'm sure they won't mind, all in a days work for them. I've learned with many of these doctors too we have to be insistent to get the testing/treatment we need. The doctors on my island are extremely minimal and it's been frustrating, I feel you on that.

 

[LucyLake]

Nimyra- I don't think this is a good place for you to post this. It seems a little insensitive. Maybe your post is best suited for a pregnancy thread with women who are already pregnant and not having just suffered miscarriages

We understand what you're going through having been there ourselves. I'm very sorry for your loss. This thread was originally created by ladies who miscarried around Feb 2013. It's only natural that many of these ladies have now gotten a BFP as you will too in the coming months.

As you can see, Nimyra is going through a difficult time as well. Let's have compassion. Again, all of us understand what you've been through. This is the only way a lot of us have to still interact as a group.

 

[LucyLake]

Nimyra:

It sounds like your ovarian cyst popped hence the pain. That cyst supports the baby until the placenta takes over by creating progesterone. I had one on my right ovary that was 4.5 cm that helped the twins survive. I had very intense cramping from week 10-12 and have not had an in depth scan to measure, but feel it's probably subsiding like yours. All very normal at your stage and proof your body is doing what it should to let that placenta start doing it's magic. Your sac is also growing rapidly, hence cramping. Mine has been so intense at times, I've wanted to cry. Everything you said sounds very normal

About the cervix, I could feel mine also very loose and low around the time they diagnosed placenta previa at 11w3. Did she mention previa, is the placenta wrapped around your cervix? Until sure, wait to have sex

Have you had a quick pap lately for any reason like to check for bleeding/discharge? Signs of infection? After mine, for two days it felt like things were falling out. I'm embarrassed to admit I pushed it back up and it got better after week 11. It's terrifying though, isn't it? See if you can push any tissue up a bit very gently.

Secondly, if it is a prolapse of any kind, that is not going to end the pregnancy and will be closely followed. You can still deliver with no problem, but will likely want a c-section.

I was also very worried about this for a time.

About the reddishness, maybe a blood blister as EarthMama said

Definitely, you don't have to wait two weeks. I know exactly how you feel because I think my OB probably hates me by now, but YOU and your baby come first! Also, if this is really bad and they won't listen, the ER will do a very very detailed 45 minute ultrasound and measure cyst, etc. machine is higher tech. And if the ER doc doesn't doesn't offer much info, you can request medical records and it is almost always on there

Another question: were things a bit loose pre-pregnancy? I'm not a kegel kind of girl and have always been loose there. My mom had a complete uterine prolapse in her late 40's and hysterectomy. If that is your uterus, you would truly know and it sticks way out and is very bulbous...would encompass the entire vaginal opening.... My mom showed me and my sister out of desperation early on.

Huge hugs . Definitely call them today before the weekend and ask to have the lowered cervix looked at . Know too that the baby is trying to move up above your pelvic bone now so a lot of cramping and also even that looseness is likely normal.

 

[sedgeez]

As the woman who created this group, I made it for the ladies who miscarried around the same time as me. It wasn't just made for support of the loss, but the journey of ttc and also pregnancy.

If you are still in the stage of not being able to hear of pregnancy news, then maybe this group isn't for you. I understand your loss, but this group just isn't for miscarriage support. So there will be pregnancy talk and things here.

I'm having trouble at the moment, and have had multiple bereavements in the family since my miscarriage.

I'm not in a good place currently, which is why I'm not posting. Although I do pop in and check with people.

I'm thrilled of the news of the bfps in the group.

Anyone need me, send me a message.

Sending you all love and baby dust to those who need it.

 

[Nimyra]

Love you, Sedgeez! Holding you in my prayers.