Ah Kat your scan is coming up soon!! So we went into see an Ob yesterday. We actually think we'll go through the public system as we are close to a really good hospital with a well respected group midwifery practice (they only take a few and we got accepted!) and there's an over seeing Ob that works with them. We think this will help give us a natural birth. Going private with an Ob is so expensive. Like $7,000!!
Anyway we forgot we had booked an appointment to keep our options open.. So we saw him and got to see it on the ultrasound. Still hasn't sunk in. I'm getting the NTL blood test tomorrow so we'll find those results back in a week. And then he wants us to do a 13 week scan.. Not at the usual 12 week mark. So that's April 11th.
It's so hard not to be nosey and look at their pages. Your family sounds so dysfunctional!
Btw are you finding out the sex? Husband wants to know so we don't have to think of a boy and girl name lol!! . I'd like a surprise on the day but he says you'll be so tired after labour you won't really care either way. But I'm dying to know. So I think we'll find out but not tell people we know so there's a surprise. We will find that out 5 days after the blood test.
Yeah that's the problem although I'd been doing a pretty good job of staying away before that
I told DH that we should start saving for a lawyer for when my toxic mother dies, I don't want to contact my siblings myself when that happens plus I fear they may make trouble when my mother's "estate" (there'll probably be nothing left since she's selling anything of value to keep her house which is mortgaged to the hilt!) gets divided among us, they'll probably claim I've taken stuff or something. In Denmark it's equally divided among the children. The only thing(s) I'm planning on getting a hold of before she dies are the super expensive crystal glasses that were originally my father's anyway, my eldest brother would probably just sell his share because he'll want the money and it makes me sick to think of my other brother (the most toxic of them) and sister drinking of them if they don't choose to sell their share
Nope DH and I thought it would be fun to be team
all the way and let people have fun guessing
My FIL is already guessing
I think we'll just buy stuff in colors that go with both genders as we're not into the whole "boy colors" for boys and "girl colors" for girls, probably mostly yellows and greens. We can always buy more clothes after baby is here and we know the gender.
Kat - my scan is on the 6th too!! Sorry that you had to see that about your family. I've "unfollowed" a close family member on Facebook as they were constantly putting negative statuses up and they were making me very angry and stressed. I decided I didn't need that in my life (and it wouldn't be worth the argument if I actually deleted them!) So now my Facebook is a more happy place!
Hope everyone else is well!!
Funny coincidence
I had also unfollowed them but curiosity got the better of me yesterday. I honestly don't know why, especially after my toxic brother and his wife totally ignored my birthday greetings to them (but liked and/or commented everyone else's) which they've never done before since they usually can muster a polite "thank you". It's pretty obvious that they're
completely ostracising me now. In reality, I should probably just unfriend them (plus my sister) and block the whole bunch but fear that my cousin may get involved and try to guilt me about it (in which case I'd have to block her too as there'd be no point in discussing it with her since she's so entrenched with him). So trying to wait until I'm either super close to my due date or until after baby is born, I just don't need any hassle before that (so pretty much following my former therapist's advice)
So yeah, get why you wouldn't want to unfriend your toxic family member since it always leads to at least one or two that defend them and try to make you feel bad about it.
I don't know why you have to wait 3, I'd ask your RE about that as well because it does sound a bit long of a break.
I think I forgot to mention that my next scan is April 6th
DH will be coming
On a more personal note I did something stupid: I checked out my toxic siblings' FB pages today
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