August loss thread - TTC our rainbows!

[Kandl123]

I'm the same kandl- a few people have asked me if we are trying again and I think it's so rude.
I'm not sure when I will tell people next time- the 12 week scan isn't really a 'safe' time for me as all my babies have been after that point, although I see why it is for a lot of people. I guess for me the whole pregnancy is a worry and then afterwards is no better. Maybe I'll just hide my bump for 40 weeks and... Surprise! Lol x

I think it's rude too, it's none of their business to ask such a personal question.
Because you lost all of your baby's later on, do they scan you more or keep check on you more? Like more midwife appointments ect x

 

[LoraLoo]

Yeah I'm under consultant led care, and i had growth issues with my last couple of babies so lots of scans but they don't start until 28 weeks.
I had a private scan booked last time for 16 weeks but we didn't quite make it. I'll be asking my consultant for one around that time seeing it's around them both losses happened (15 and 18 weeks)
We should have results in around 3 weeks so may have a better idea what went wrong, if anything. They never did any testing after Alfie and was told it was just bad luck but twice now seems too much of a coincidence to me.

 

[c beary83]

Sorry for the TMI but I've just felt a pop down below (I got this with my first gush in my mc). It just felt a bit wet so I thought yey ewcm as I've not really bled for the last couple of days and I usually get it a few days after my period stops.

I went to the bathroom and it was a big clot followed by bright red blood!!! Wtf.

Good job I had a panty liner on as I thought the bleeding had stopped.

So depressing

 

[Justme43]

Well - AF finally showed up today!! I am actually happy about it because now I feel like I am on the road to normalcy and one step closer to officially TTC.

Saw the Maternal Fetal Specialist today and that appointment went well. She wants me to add folic acid to my daily regime and she suggested I track my ovulation.

So ladies, it looks like things are moving along...

Also, I completed my 100 mile challenge and ended with over 130 miles this month. Starting again for October

to everyone.

 

[Justme43]

Sorry for the TMI but I've just felt a pop down below (I got this with my first gush in my mc). It just felt a bit wet so I thought yey ewcm as I've not really bled for the last couple of days and I usually get it a few days after my period stops.

I went to the bathroom and it was a big clot followed by bright red blood!!! Wtf.

Good job I had a panty liner on as I thought the bleeding had stopped.

So depressing

Aww honey I can imagine how you feel not knowing what is going on. Hopefully it was just the remaining of your cycle. How are you feeling?

 

[c beary83]

Aww thanks

I haven't bled for the last couple of days then this! I just wish it would hurry up and go finish!

Glad to hear your AF has arrived and you can get back to ttc!

 

[Mrsmac02]

Aw beary, that's rotten. Just when you think it's over, she pops back up again 😡

Seems to have happened to a few people so I'm fully expecting it too! Let's hope she doesn't hang around long and you can start TTC properly again xx

 

[bubbles82]

Ah sorry Beary. Hopefully it's nearly done now.

Glad AF is here for you just me, it's good when you actually want to see her and she shows her face to make you feel a bit more like you know what's going on.

Sorry not had chance to catch up with the earlier posts yet, just popped in as I felt a bit sad and this seems to be where I head at those times lately! I really should stop looking on Facebook, but logged on tonight and first post was from someone in a group I joined back when DD was born, of local mums who were all having babies at the same time. We've all kept in touch and meet up with the babies sometimes. Well up pops another pregnancy announcement from one of those mums, baby due in March again. Then the group went mad with everyone congratulating her, and then another one of the mums adding that she is also due in March with her second. I just can't seem to get away from it! I've logged off as they're all congratulating each other and discussing setting up another group for the March babies, and I can feel the conversation quickly heading to who's next or when I'm planning to have another.

 

[LoraLoo]

That's crap bubbles 😒 it's times like this that I'm grateful people knew I was pregnant because all the ppl in my facebook groups are really thoughtful and considerate about pregnancy stuff etc. must be really difficult for you, when you know, but nobody else does.
It may be helpful to unfollow them on facebook so that their status updates don't pop up on your news feed. I think I'm going to have to do this with a couple of people too. Xx

 

[bubbles82]

Yeah I should probably do that, mind you it's not their statuses it's an actual group we set up, which I don't want to block as its how we all keep in touch and ask questions about the toddlers, like I asked on there yesterday about the two year health checks. Also the never ending pregnancy announcements from other people on Facebook just seem to keep catching me by surprise, from people I'm not expecting them from, so it's too late to block them after the announcements. It mostly seems to be just the announcement with those expecting their second, then not much else said which is good, no constant updates, just constant announcements as there's a new one every day! At least it's nearly time for April announcements now so they hopefully won't seem as hurtful to me... Maybe?! I really want to have my rainbow on the way before my friend I was due with has her announcement, to make that one sting a little bit less.

Hope you're ok? I think you're amazing by the way for being mummy to all those babies and thinking about a holiday, the thought of just taking my one fills me with fear!

 

[LoraLoo]

Yeah I know what you mean- Theres going to come a point where they will start putting things in their status though so maybe worth thinking about. For me it doesn't seem to matter when baby is due, each announcement still stings. Had a friend tonight asking on her status if she could borrow someone's doppler as hers is broke. Just little things like that hurt.

Well- the kids are a handful but they keep each other occupied at least. Mainly by arguing and fighting, but still 😂 lol

Talking if fb if anyone wants to add me feel free, my names Lora leigh Allonby x

 

[bubbles82]

I kind of feel it would be too hypocritical of me to try ignore other people's good news just because things aren't working out how I would like for me right now, I had my time with my announcement and pregnancy updates with DD. I'm probably kidding myself that the announcements won't hurt as much after the March ones, as my due date was 1st May! Speaking of Facebook, did anyone see the viral post yesterday from a girl saying how TTC is none of anyone else's business etc? I thought it was brilliant, exactly what I wish I could say to everyone instead of hiding away trying to pretend I'm fine when people ask such personal questions. I've screen shot it if anyone wants to see I can try add it to the thread.

 

[LoraLoo]

I didn't see it.
I don't think it's about ignoring anyone's good news, it's about protecting yourself. I always congratulate people but I can't get into the baby chit chat small talk. It may be selfish, but then I guess selfish is what I have to be right now x

 

[bubbles82]

Right I'm going to try add the screen shots here, standby as it could go horribly wrong!

https://i1256.photobucket.com/albums/ii497/kcbubbles82/4C0FBB3B-6100-4489-BFB7-944100675122.png

https://i1256.photobucket.com/albums/ii497/kcbubbles82/4198AF0E-535C-4062-B4B1-E953176E278F.png

https://i1256.photobucket.com/albums/ii497/kcbubbles82/B54A19A9-5920-4B8A-8E70-2733AC586D69.png

 

[bubbles82]

Ooh while I was doing that I just found some more pics I saved for you ladies and meant to post on the thread earlier:

https://i1256.photobucket.com/albums/ii497/kcbubbles82/Mobile%20Uploads/48CB0407-8BA0-4EE4-9E7B-8C7F39E5D5D0.jpg

https://i1256.photobucket.com/albums/ii497/kcbubbles82/Mobile%20Uploads/40A28838-FF12-47D8-80A8-251D0242A14A.jpg

https://i1256.photobucket.com/albums/ii497/kcbubbles82/12A62B03-CDA0-4781-B3B9-71A3FF09EBF0.jpg

 

[LoraLoo]

That's abdolutely true isn't it? It's such a personal question, I would never ask anybody, let alone a stranger- I get people asking me all the time if I'm having more, I also get the 'have you not got a tele' and 'you've got your hands full' (not full enough!) comments which really grate on me.

Worse still I have been TOLD that I 'better not have any more' and once, by a stranger 'don't have any more love, you get no thanks for it!' 😳

The fact that I'm 32, married, with our own home, and are capable if making our own decisions, obviously counts for notning!

Sorry, got into a bit of a rant there 😂 I usually tell them now that we are planning on another 5 or 6!

 

[bubbles82]

Again I think you're amazing for having as many as you do and still wanting more, I wish I was so brave as I love babies! But I've always been quite sure I didn't want more than two, and even more sure since I had one. Me and DH are shift workers so it's so difficult juggling work and childcare, which will be doubly hard when we have kids at different stages of nursery/school etc. I will probably change my mind once number two is here and no longer a baby, but I don't think we could really fit any more in our house or afford to move either! Plus at this rate I'll probably reach the menopause or something before I have time to have lots of babies!

 

[LoraLoo]

We only ever planned on 3, lol! Poor hubby has to keep extending the house to fit them in 😂 we have 4 bedrooms but we've just had permission for a 5th bedroom passed which we will build next year. But then we really are out of space , so the next baby will definitely be our last and hubby will be getting the snip. Sad as it makes me, I know it's best to have the decision taken out of my hands.
Well I'm off to bed, abdolutely shattered. I hope tomorrow is a better day for everyone. One day closer to our rainbows 🌈 I keep reminding myself xx

 

[Kandl123]

I'm so sorry if I'm interrupting anything & been selfish. I will catch up with you all later... But I'm going to post a picture after this post, & I want your advice on what you think this person means by his last message.
Basically a few weeks back he went me a message saying "I'd like to shag you".. I didn't reply & deleted the message. He messaged me saying sorry & I said it's okay it's forgot about and he replies this...

(I'll post in another comment as I'm on my phone)

 

[Kandl123]

Here it is. Anyone know what he actually means here?
Sorry it took so long, had to sign in on safari & I forgot my password