August loss thread - TTC our rainbows!

[joo]

Ahh lovely Pip congratulations!!

Glad everything was well Mrsmac! So you'll get your dating scan still in a couple of weeks?

I have my anatomy scan tomorrow morning, I've got butterflies! Xx

 

[pipsbabybean]

Thanks joo
Mrsmax - that pic cute shame it's not clearer for u guys tho
Aayla - yh I always have to no, I like to be organised, although we usually keep it quiet from the world our little secret

 

[danser55]

Umm. Am I the last one left? No pressure eh?

Still over here with my empty uterus!

Me too still with an empty ute. embryo transfer will probably happen mid to early March. Don't feel bad Aayla!

 

[Aayla]

So hubby picked up a few pills of viagra. While we have been doing better with performance he still gets a little gun shy. It's our emergency stash. They are expensive so it isn't to be a daily thing. Plus he doesn't normally have an issue. Only during O week. Lol.

Tmi: My cm is watery today and I have so much I have to wear a pad. So O is soon. it's funny how I thought I wouldn't be able to tell because we do it every day but it is a different feeling. Thought I may have detected ewcm but I was in a public bathroom and couldn't check for sure. Hoping my opk goes positive today. I have a few hours before I test.

 

[LoraLoo]

Wow Joo that came round fast 😳 good luck. Are you finding out the flavour?

Good luck aayla sounds like it'll be any day!

Lovely line pip!

 

[Mrsmac02]

Ahh lovely Pip congratulations!!

Glad everything was well Mrsmac! So you'll get your dating scan still in a couple of weeks?

I have my anatomy scan tomorrow morning, I've got butterflies! Xx

Yeah, 12w scan on 5th Feb. So I'll relax until a few days before that then I'll start worrying again no doubt!

Good luck with the anatomy scan! Are you going to find out what you're having? We did with B but didn't tell anyone 😉

Don't forget to post a pic! X

Aayla, that sounds really promising! Hope you catch that eggy! And to you, Bubbles and Danser - I feel like 2016 is the year for all of us! X

 

[joo]

That's not long to wait Mrsmac, can't believe we're at the end of January already!

When do you get your scan Lora? You'll get seen earlier won't you? I think it's gone fast because those few weeks over Christmas and new year broke it up for us, just didn't have time to think about it.

We will ask to find out gender. Mrsmac that's exactly what we did with DD

Hope everyone is doing ok. This year is shaping up to be luckier for this group than last year by the looks of it xx

 

[kakae]

Gosh lots of exciting news to catch up on! Congrats to everyone who has wonderful news To all who are waiting still.... I'm here too waiting (very impatiently!)

 

[LoraLoo]

That's not long to wait Mrsmac, can't believe we're at the end of January already!

When do you get your scan Lora? You'll get seen earlier won't you? I think it's gone fast because those few weeks over Christmas and new year broke it up for us, just didn't have time to think about it.

We will ask to find out gender. Mrsmac that's exactly what we did with DD

Hope everyone is doing ok. This year is shaping up to be luckier for this group than last year by the looks of it xx

Monday. I'm really scared 😣

 

[Sweety21]

Good luck Aayla, danser, kakae and bubbles. Hope you all catch that eggy soon. I agree with joo that this 2016year does looks lucky to this group.

Lora, huh exciting. keep us updated. Lora you and me must be due somewhere near? your bfp was jan right?

Mrsmac, even though wait is very short it does feels like ages for scan. doesn't it?

We are gonna find gender too. It's difficult to wait whole nine months to find out. I am very impatient gal!

 

[LoraLoo]

Good luck Aayla, danser, kakae and bubbles. Hope you all catch that eggy soon. I agree with joo that this 2016year does looks lucky to this group.

Lora, huh exciting. keep us updated. Lora you and me must be due somewhere near? your bfp was jan right?

Mrsmac, even though wait is very short it does feels like ages for scan. doesn't it?

We are gonna find gender too. It's difficult to wait whole nine months to find out. I am very impatient gal!

I think I'm due around 20th sept x

 

[Mrsmac02]

Sure does! I feel a tad bit more relaxed after yesterday's scan but the worry will never leave I don't think. The first thing the midwife talked about at my booking appointment was mid trim losses and late losses. I don't think you are ever ever out of the water if you know what I mean? I want to get excited but it's hard to relax x

 

[LoraLoo]

Sure does! I feel a tad bit more relaxed after yesterday's scan but the worry will never leave I don't think. The first thing the midwife talked about at my booking appointment was mid trim losses and late losses. I don't think you are ever ever out of the water if you know what I mean? I want to get excited but it's hard to relax x

I'm actually surprised to hear this. After having 2 late pregnancy losses (15 weeks and 18 weeks) I think it's important that it's being spoken about, but have never actually come across a health professional randomly bring it up like that.

Many people refer to 12 weeks as the 'safe zone' etc and tbh it gets on my nerves a bit (not directed at anyone in here!)

But The risks definitely go down with each passing week and those scans are definitely a big reassurance.

It's a shame none of us can really enjoy pregnancy these days.

Since losing Eve, I became friends with other bereaved parents. I almost feel like I know too much about things that can go wrong.

I think we all have to just take it a day at a time and think that statistically we will all give birth to a healthy baby at the end of it. Xx

 

[Mrsmac02]

Ps DS completely freaked me out last night. He said mummy's got a baby in her tummy, out of absolutely nowhere when we were getting ready for bed.

We have absolutely not said a word in front of him, intentionally, because we still don't know how this is going to work out and didn't want to confuse him. And the only other person who knows is my mum, who has definitely not said anything - she's only able to see him once a week when we are there! She's definitely not said anything x

 

[Aayla]

I'm sort of glad I am not alone but sad at the same time. I am so happy for everyone. This is so exciting.

For those keeping gender a secret from everyone I do hope you tell us!

I know we will find out. No one wants us to because we know everything to do with ttc and nothing is a surprise but there is no way I will be able to not know. The nurses here love it when no one knows. It is rare nowadays. But ever since I saw a gender reveal party on TV I have come up with various ways to announce that.

Opk was negative today but I am a bit crampy today. I'm not too worried about the opk. I have no doubt I am going to ovulate. It has really helped with my poas addiction. Lol.

 

[Aayla]

They say kids have a sixth sense about this. It isn't unheard of for a toddler/small child to know before the mom.

Unfortunately there are no guarantees with pregnancy. My cousin lost one of her twins at 38 weeks. She was waiting for them to come on their own. One day in the morning they were kicking and that same day she went for her appt to get them checked and one of her girls was gone and the other had to be delivered right then or they would have lost her too. The cord stopped giving them oxygen. So sad. So never a guarantee. And I think once we experience any sort of loss at any gestation (or after birth) the rose coloured glasses are off. And nothing will stop the worry. We just have to do our best to not let it take over and revel in every moment we get.

 

[LoraLoo]

Ps DS completely freaked me out last night. He said mummy's got a baby in her tummy, out of absolutely nowhere when we were getting ready for bed.

We have absolutely not said a word in front of him, intentionally, because we still don't know how this is going to work out and didn't want to confuse him. And the only other person who knows is my mum, who has definitely not said anything - she's only able to see him once a week when we are there! She's definitely not said anything x

Omg amy ad william were in the living room the other talking about 'mummy's new baby in her tummy' 😳 we've not mentioned it either. It's like they have some sort of sixth sense. Hubby and I were in kitchen and just stared at each other accusingly lol, but neither of is have mentioned it.

 

[LoraLoo]

They say kids have a sixth sense about this. It isn't unheard of for a toddler/small child to know before the mom.

Unfortunately there are no guarantees with pregnancy. My cousin lost one of her twins at 38 weeks. She was waiting for them to come on their own. One day in the morning they were kicking and that same day she went for her appt to get them checked and one of her girls was gone and the other had to be delivered right then or they would have lost her too. The cord stopped giving them oxygen. So sad. So never a guarantee. And I think once we experience any sort of loss at any gestation (or after birth) the rose coloured glasses are off. And nothing will stop the worry. We just have to do our best to not let it take over and revel in every moment we get.

I'm sorry to hear about your cousins little one, how sad. I think it's very difficult when a mum loses a twin- they get lots of comments such as 'least you still have one' etc- there really is no 'at least' when you lose a child x

 

[Kandl123]

Hello everyone... Not been on for a few weeks just bobbin in to say hello and how you all are really.. I've had a little look through previous posts and congratulations Lora, pip and sweety.. Hope everything goes well for you all

I was looking for a little advice too please.. Lora you might be able to answer this for me, when you lost your 2nd tri babies, did you have any signs/symptoms or anything? I can't help but feel parinoid these past couple of days that something isn't right, and I don't know why

 

[Mrsmac02]

I'm actually surprised to hear this. After having 2 late pregnancy losses (15 weeks and 18 weeks) I think it's important that it's being spoken about, but have never actually come across a health professional randomly bring it up like that.

Many people refer to 12 weeks as the 'safe zone' etc and tbh it gets on my nerves a bit (not directed at anyone in here!)

But The risks definitely go down with each passing week and those scans are definitely a big reassurance.

It's a shame none of us can really enjoy pregnancy these days.

Since losing Eve, I became friends with other bereaved parents. I almost feel like I know too much about things that can go wrong.

I think we all have to just take it a day at a time and think that statistically we will all give birth to a healthy baby at the end of it. Xx

I was quite surprised too. But I did appreciate her honesty and the chance to discuss statistics etc. I think she looked at my history and the fact that I've got a loyalty card for EPU and was, in a round about cock-eyed way, trying to give me the context to reassure me!

She was actually really lovely, I feel really lucky to be cared for by the midwives here, they all so awesome - pretty straight down the line and can be blunt, but they're incredibly empathetic.

I love this forum so much, the support I get from you girls and others Ive 'met' is amazing but you're right, you are kind of more aware because we'll all sharing and supporting each other at some pretty tough, tragic times as well as the good times.

Trying to remain positive because as you say, statistically the odds are in our favour xx