January 2020 Garnets!!!

[red_head]

Ah that’s lovely xx

 

[beccabear86]

JD - you've been through so much, my heart really goes out to you. It sounds like your MIL is obviously pretty heartbroken too. Hugs for all of you.

Sophie - such a beautiful scan pic! So happy for you (and can't wait for mine next week!)

AFM - I had a pretty self-pitying kinda day yesterday. It was city-wide garage sale day in my neck of the woods, and my family had a TON of stuff to get rid of, so I was outside from literally 7AM until 3:30PM, getting sunburnt and feeling miserable because DH left me out there all by my lonesome for most of the day. I feel really mature saying that out loud... haha.

I've also switched into my old maternity bras because my poor BBs just needed a BREAK from the nicer push-ups that I usually wear... it feels glorious!

And last but not least - this morning, I got myself kinda nervous thinking I was having cramps. (Oh God, please no, not that!!) But... then I realized it was just the waistline from my pants compressing something that would just rather not be compressed. So... not in maternity clothes yet, but I have moved to my high-waisted pants (aka mom jeans). I will not yield!!

 

[ashley2pink]

Glad to see your scan went well Sophie

I haven’t told anyone about this pregnancy besides DH. I like to wait until 2nd tri before announcing. I wonder what my kids think with me laying around so much lately. So far they haven’t said anything. I’m just so nauseous and my OB put me on diclegis for the nausea which is helping some but leaves me drowsy.
I don’t know how my family will take to me being pregnant. I know my kids will be ecstatic. But my sisters have already expressed in the past that I shouldn’t have anymore. Like it’s their say? My Mom died 6 yrs ago but she would have loved another grandchild. My 7 yr old is the youngest grandchild from my family’s side so this will be fun. I’m sure my sisters will come around. My older sister said I can finally go on more vacations and it’s much easier with the kids growing up so why have another baby and start all over? My younger sister said I’m no fun when I’m pregnant because I get so sick and can’t go anywhere or hang out. She did say afterwards that she was sorry she said that though. Both said this back in summer of 2017 when I mentioned possibly wanting another.

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

Ashley, my mom said something similar about starting over.
She herself had a 5yr gap between my brother and I..so that was like starting over. It just wasnt an 11yr gap. Pfft on her.

 

[goingforit]

Sophie; awwww your scan picture is lovely you must be so relieved. I have mine on Wednesday and I'm excited/nervous. Sometimes I don't even feel pregnant. When is yours Beccabear?

I always find it fascinating how everyone thinks it's okay to have an opinion on this area of life. Each to their own.

Our parents on both sides know now. My parents knew whilst going through IVF and then my hubby wanted to tell his as mine knew. Lol. 6wk 5 days today so a long way to go still.

I'm full of cold and feeling sorry for myself. At least the sunis shining today!!

 

[Sophie1234]

Im sorry to hear lots of families being unsupportive. I'm sure once things progress they will be a lot more supportive. We told my immediate family yday and my brothers asked how many kids I want. No congrats etc acting like I'm on my 7th (which even if I was was nothing to do with anyone else lol). I've only got 2 children. I've been asked why I wanted another when I have 1 boy and 1 girl. I think once you have one of each, people becoming less supportive but maybe that's just people I know. X

 

[beccabear86]

Sophie; awwww your scan picture is lovely you must be so relieved. I have mine on Wednesday and I'm excited/nervous. Sometimes I don't even feel pregnant. When is yours Beccabear?

Mine is on Wednesday as well! I am so excited that it's actually a little embarrassing. Can't wait to see more early scan pics from you next week!

Sophie - I don't think it's just people you know. I am expecting my 3rd (our sixth), but still when my sister announced her third pregnancy last year, I was excited for her but still kinda "OK, yay, you're pregnant again..." I think it may just come down to the fact that, unless it's our first, we can pretty much count on no one else being as excited about it as we are. Just my opinion though, who really knows?

 

[Literati_Love]

Sophie - I totally agree. People can only understand “trying for one more” if you don’t have the other gender yet. Which is really stupid. I have no idea why people are so much less excited after the first pregnancy, as if only one child in a family can have value or something. It makes no sense and makes me really dislike people, but at least we as parents love and treasure all of our kids equally, and that is all that matters. Besides, I think people will be excited once our babies arrive anyway.

Congrats on the great scan! Will they adjust your due date then? I am also 6+3, although you might have posted that yesterday so I might be a day behind you.

Becca - yay for your scan next week! Totally agreed about people not caring after the first (see my comments to sophie)! Oh well. At least we are all excited!

 

[co_fostermom]

It looks like I'll be the last person out of the group to get my first scan. I was originally thinking it would be this upcoming Monday and then I realized that I'm a week early so I'll be nearly 9 weeks before I see my LO. It's not helping my anxiety much but I felt very pregnant yesterday even though I don't feel pregnant today.

Also my emotions are all over the place. Wednesday was my wedding anniversary and we had decided to do a low key night. DH thought that meant that we weren't doing anything and decided to go to the gym after work. He has to go to bed at 7pm if he's gonna get a decent night's sleep (he wakes up at 3am) so going to the gym means we get maybe two hours together at best. Low key to me meant a nice dinner at home and some quality time. Anyway, when I was wondering where he was at and used Find my Friends I found out and burst into tears. Like downright balling. Yesterday the meal plan food we ordered came and it was the completely wrong order and I blew up I was so angry lol. DH was trying to help the situation by offering to go to the store to find me things that'll work as substitutes for the next few weeks and also things that I can stomach right now. We eventually did but apparently my initial response was not so pleasant lol.

Oh pregnancy. Such a fascinating journey.

And screw all the people with their negative opinions about the choices we make for ourselves, our bodies and our families. What's it to them anyway, really?

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

Im very nauseous today. The kind where you want to throw up for relief.

My scan is next week too.

 

[Fit_Mama2Be]

My scan is next Wednesday too, seems like a lot of people have scans that day! I'm sure I will be dying of nerves.

Wow so many rude reactions from people. I told 3 of my friends who I know will be supportive and no one else. DH told only his boss because they are close.

If it works out I think people will be pretty shocked as they assume we're one and done.

 

[red_head]

Just had our first scan - all went well, right on for dates apparently (6+2) and a perfect little heartbeat, although she didn’t say how fast. Get another in 2 weeks because of our history xx

 

[Literati_Love]

Red head - congrats on the good scan! Happy for you.

Co foster - I don’t think you’ll be the last one to get your first scan. Again, I don’t even have one booked, and I won’t get the requisition to book one until June 19th, so it could be a full week after that depending on when I get in. That is nice that yours is coming up soon. 9 weeks is a good time for a scan because you can see so much more.

Sorry your emotions have been all over the place. I would have reacted the exact same to both the anniversary situation and the meal plan one. It sounds like your dh was pretty patient with you about the meal stuff, so that’s good. I can’t believe he thought a low key evening meant he could go to the gym! Sometimes men are not very considerate. I also wish they would just ASK what our expectations are rather than just assuming and being wrong. Hugs!

Fit mama - yay for a scan next Monday. Glad your friends are supportive.

OnERTH - so sorry you’re feeling so nauseous today. That’s so hard!

Afm - even though my sickness and fatigue are still relatively mild, I’m definitely at the point of feeling like crap and not enjoying this much at all. Hurry up, second trimester!

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

I should say, I assume I'll have a scan. He may not do one.

 

[Literati_Love]

OnErth - I hope he does!

 

[Sophie1234]

Sophie - I totally agree. People can only understand “trying for one more” if you don’t have the other gender yet. Which is really stupid. I have no idea why people are so much less excited after the first pregnancy, as if only one child in a family can have value or something. It makes no sense and makes me really dislike people, but at least we as parents love and treasure all of our kids equally, and that is all that matters. Besides, I think people will be excited once our babies arrive anyway.

Congrats on the great scan! Will they adjust your due date then? I am also 6+3, although you might have posted that yesterday so I might be a day behind you.

Becca - yay for your scan next week! Totally agreed about people not caring after the first (see my comments to sophie)! Oh well. At least we are all excited!

Thank you. I'm not sure about adjusting the due date yet as at such a early stage they can catch up and start to measure ahead. I have another scan next Thursday (always seem to be on Thursdays ) so we shall see if they keep me at that or not. Baby was 6.5mm which is double what my son was at that stage so I'm not too sure if that will push things forward a few days or so. I think the NHS give the official due date at the 12 week (dating scan). I have my dating scan on 11th July. Its so cool that we are due so close together. Your the closest yet to being a due date buddy lol. Xx

Good luck to everyone who has scans next week! Xx

Just out of curiosity, where is everyone from? I'm from Nottingham, England. X

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

Cincinnati, Ohio, USA.

 

[robo123]

Hey ladies can I cautiously join, due date is Jan 22nd I think!!! This is baby number 2. Had a scan at what I should have shown 6+6 but was measured 6+2 abdominal scan not internal,baby measured 5.9mm I don't have many symptoms at all. Waves of nausea here and there x

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

Hi robo!

 

[MommyPrice]

I'm from New Castle, Virginia (near Roanoke and Blacksburg)!

Sorry for not posting - I read everyday what you all are up to, but since my surgery I'm not feeling optimistic about the pregnancy, and am scared to make friendships to just end up having to leave. Sorry if that seems selfish . I had an appointment last week at 6w6d for post-op and I begged them for an ultrasound. This isn't my regular OB, and they said they had a little mobile ultrasound, but it was really old and not really reliable for early scans. They had to bring in 3 doctors separately, as they couldn't find the heart beat. Finally, the last doctor thought she found it, but couldn't be sure. I have an appointment on Monday when I'll be 7w6d with my normal OB (with the good ultrasound machine). I'll be sure to update then, and hopefully feel more comfortable to be more active in the group

Anyone doing the Sneak Peek gender test? I'm in a bunch of groups on Facebook, and loads are doing it (with accurate results). You can do it as early as 9 weeks, and if you're hesitant to do it at home yourself, in case you cross contaminate, you can go to their clinics and do it.