Late July Testers! Let's wait together!

[Katy78]

Weebles, I'm in no hurry to test. I'll be testing on Saturday when AF is due. My luteal phase is only 12 days so I don't want to test earlier than that.
TMI: after a morning DTD session today, I found some old blood on my panties. I've never had implantation bleeding. It could be, right? I'm 10dpo.

 

[BelleNuit]

AF showed in the middle of the night. Cramps kept me up for an hour. I'm tired and grumpy today.

Going to go to the doc now as I'm on to cycle 10, which is getting scary

 

[Weebles]

Those are a lot of lifestyle changes Belle. I'm sorry you're out but I'm glad you're taking the next step in this crazy ttc process.

Katy, FX that it's implantation!

I got my crosshairs today! They're dotted because I stopped recording cm I think, I'm not really sure. I still wonder if I have a slow rise and it takes my body an external day or so to respond to progesterone. 3dpo! I think I'll test on 10 and 12 dpo.

 

[Ask4joy]

So sorry, Belle. It's good to make the dr.'s appt, even if everything is "normal"...good to get some peace of mind and think about next steps. Can DH make an appt. too? I really don't like this TTC business. I always imagined it would be fun and magical but it's really not. Maybe for those who get pregnant the first month trying.

Had a big temp spike today at 7dpo but not going to think that means anything. I think I read somewhere that 7dpo is when progesterone is at its highest.

 

[BelleNuit]

Weebles, that chart doesn't look like a slow rise to me!! Yay for your crosshairs!!!

Ask your chart is definitely looking good!!

I'm not sure what to do with DH, if I should drag him to the doctor with me or not

 

[Weebles]

I went by myself and my OBGYN just asked for my hubby's full name and date of birth. Then he gave me the order for the sperm analysis with the collection cup and instructions to take home. It's sitting on my kitchen counter waiting for my next cycle which I hope doesn't happen.

 

[WishnandHopn]

I guess some guys are not keen getting a semen analysis, like it's somehow questioning their manhood! They're lucky that all they have to do is have an orgasm in a cup. If only investigating female fertility was so simple!

My DH just went to a walk-in clinic, told the doc we'd been trying for 6 months and not pregnant and the doc gave him the order for the SA, no questions asked.

 

[krissie328]

My ob/gyn also just sent an order for dh to the appropriate clinic. He went did his business and that was all.

 

[BelleNuit]

Okay, so it sounds like its personal preference on whether the men go. Thanks everyone!!

DH said he'd be willing to go with me if I want him to.

 

[MrsBeany85]

Belle I'm sorry about af. Well done though for taking that next step.

Ask, good luck!

Sorry if I've missed anything, had an intense couple of days so not had much time to catch up with everyone's progress on here

 

[Aphy]

Right,so AF just showed. Need your ladies opinion: (sorry if I sound stupid in asking this)
TMI - went to toilet and have bright red blood on toilet paper but not sure yet if it's full blown AF or spotting. Hoping its AF so I can get the new cycle started and start using the Clomid. My question is if it is AF,does today then count as the first day even though it's 21:00 at night or should I only start counting from tomorrow? Need to know so I start Clomid on the right day of cycle. I've always counted it as my first day previously but not sure if that's right?

 

[WishnandHopn]

Ah Aphy sorry the witch got you...I think you would count tomorrow as cycle day 1 since it started in the evening. Good luck with clomid!

 

[BelleNuit]

Went to the doc with DH in tow. Got a req for CD 3 & 21 blood tests, and an SA for DH.

But the doc already put in a referral to the this private fertility clinic that just opened where I live. She put in the referral before asking us. I'm not sure how I feel about that as I would still like to try for a year before getting intensive fertility treatment. But on the other hand, the wait for the public clinic in town is up to 18 months, so I'm betting there will be a bunch of referrals to the new private clinic which might create a bit of a back log. So it might be a few months wait regardless. If we are still trying by the time our one year wait rolls around, I might be happy to have a referral well in place already.

Not sure what we would do if our names came up on the list before the one year mark though. I exaggerated to the doc and told her we had been trying for a year already.

I really just wanted to have some testing done for some peace of mind.... I don't think I'm ready for everything else that comes with it!

 

[MrsBeany85]

That's all happened really quickly Belle so I can imagine it's a lot to get your head around. Like you say though, the waits could be quite long so it might not be a bad thing to have got that referral in (you may not need it though). I'd say it's easier to cancel or delay an appointment than it is to try and get one at short notice. I'm no expert but I imagine you wouldn't have to start any treatment or anything if you weren't ready, even if you went to a couple of appointments

 

[BelleNuit]

You're probably right Beany. I guess I wasn't quite expecting a response like that so quickly. I thought we'd get testing done and then would have time to decide if we wanted to pursue a fertility clinic. I wasn't expecting her to put through the referral without asking us.

 

[MrsBeany85]

I'm quite surprised she did that without checking with you first. I'm sure her intentions were good, but that's a pretty big step to take emotionally and psychologically without discussing it with you first

 

[Weebles]

Belle, I can sort of relate. When I went in for my appointment I was feeling okay emotionally about it. It was just getting fertility help. But then someone called it my infertility appointment and that sort of made me feel pannicky. I wasn't ready to hear it called that, kind of like how you're not ready to think about a fertility clinic either. He started talking about iui and Ivf too! I think it's a positive thing though, to have the referal in case you need it. You don't have to make an appointment until you're ready and I think waiting at least until the lab work comes back is perfectly reasonable. She's put your foot in the door, that's all, and you don't have to go in until you want to.

Aphy, I read something like if it starts after 5:00pm you count AF as starting the next day. You have time to call and ask for sure though because if I remember right you take it a few days into your cycle. GL!

 

[BelleNuit]

Thanks Beany and Weebles! I really appreciate your level headedness in all of this. I don't have to do anything that I don't want to do. I think it will be good to get that testing done too. They want an ultrasound done as well to rule out pcos, which I'm happy about. My maternal grandmother had pcos and my mother had giant benign cysts on her ovaries. So it will be good to put that worry to rest at least.

I think this doc was very motivated because she was an infertility patient herself and ultimately went the route of surrogacy. This was her last week before going away on maternity leave and the male docs in her office don't deal with fertility cases very well. I think she just wanted to get everything lined up for me just in case.

 

[BelleNuit]

Aphy, I also heard 5:00PM is the magic time. But might be a good idea to call the clinic and check!

Weebles, i can sympathize with not reacting well to hearing "infertility appointment" I much prefer the term sub-fertility

 

[Katy78]

Belle and Aphy, I'm sorry the witch got you. Fingers crossed for this month!

AFM, I'm starting to think I might be pregnant. I't highly unlikely - I'm 38 years old and have high FSH and this is only our first try. But I can't help it. Possible IB on 10dpo, also, my boobs started tingling/aching on that same day (yesterday) and I have a strange sensation in my tummy (something like eating a pill on an empty stomach if you know what I mean). I remembered that my boobs started aching at the same time with ds1... I'll be crushed if I'm wrong but for now I'm pretty sure I'm in fact pregnant again. I'm at work right now and I can't concentrate on working... Good thing it's Friday. Going to see a movie this afternoon with my OH and looking forward to that. I don't want to test yet. I tested on 14dpo with my first, that's 2 days late for AF.
This would be my birthday baby - conceived on my birthday. So you know what I wished for .