The new Gender Specific Hopefuls thread (2014)

[motherofboys]

His eldest is 4 and a half, so there probably will come a time when she gets more into girly things. And although they made some jokes I know they did really want a boy and had convinced themselves they were getting a boy. And 2 is their limit.

 

[pinkribbon]

How does your oh feel if it's another boy? Is he dead set on 3? Dh always said he wanted 3 I wanted 4, I don't like odd numbers lol! But decided 3 was probably best but he changed his mind and wanted 4. Now we have surprise #4 on the way! He says he doesn't care if he had 10 boys.

The eldest 2 aren't biologically his but he wanted a girl just as much as me so we're both a bit gutted. Would probably go for a 4th but we just couldn't afford it.

 

[cckarting]

Maybe things would change in the future and a fourth May be possible? I hope you get your girl this time anyways. Fx for you!

 

[pinkribbon]

Well I'm only 23 so I suppose we have time yet to change our circumstances etc but I'd be surprised.

 

[_jellybean_]

I'm sorry Pinkribbon

 

[pinkribbon]

for some reason I'm really pissed off at the sonographer for giving me that image. Tempted to bring it up at my next scan

 

[nickyb]

But in a way it's a good thing cos it's made u think its a boy so now u can only be pleasantly surprised

 

[pinkribbon]

I know it's a boy now, there's no doubt after everyone's responses... Just gotta learn to live with no daughters I suppose.

 

[nickyb]

Your only young who knows how the situation will change in a few years ? You may go to have 1 or even 2 never say never

 

[pinkribbon]

I didn't even think we'd have a 3rd one... OH has said he would have another one if I wanted to to make it even out to 4 but we'd need to buy a bigger house, a big car etc so we'd have to be financially better off.

Would rather stick with 3 than struggle with 4 if you know what I mean and I'd have to be ready for any outcome.

 

[motherofboys]

The thing I've had to ask myself when it's come to having more is "would I be ok if the next was a boy too?" It's not fair to have another, stretch things much further than you can afford to, just to get a girl. Sensibly there has to be a limit. The answer I've come back with is yes. Yes I'd be ok with another boy. We planned a 5th before we even knew we'd be in the position of 4 boys. Even if we had 2 girls and 2 boys, we planned a 5th (and a 6th but I'm not sure how likely that is financially now, we didn't plan for dh to have to change work due to injuries and illness)

 

[pinkribbon]

We talked about 4 before we even got pregnant with this one but financially I know it's just not feasible. I'm not sure I'd want to. I'm ready to just enjoy what I've got at some point

I think because biologically the first 2 aren't OH's he's more open to another.

 

[cckarting]

Hope you're feeling a little bit better pink, when is your next scan?

 

[pinkribbon]

24th of this month, we've decided we are going to stay team yellow though.

These are the comments I'm constantly getting. I was so pissed off last night but I see the 'funny' side today.

 

[motherofboys]

Hugs, people make such stupid comments and don't even consider how you might be feeling or the feelings that their comments could provoke.

 

[pinkribbon]

I've had more comments about getting a girl than I have congratulations, that's the sad thing.

I'm actually really coming round to a son though, the fact they're being like this over a girl makes me defensive over it being a boy because in my heart of hearts I know it is.

 

[katherinegrey]

This is why I refused to announce my pregnancy until I already knew gender. I knew I'd have the 'this one must be a girl!' comments. It was bad enough off close family. There's a girl I know who's team yellow with her second, her first is a girl, and every comment I see about her pregnancy is how this one must be a boy, every scan pic she puts up people insist it's a boy, from the way she's carrying they insist it's a boy, I've seen people referring to her baby as 'he' even. I would have hated that when I had a preference anyway, it would have made it much worse for me.

 

[cckarting]

I haven't told anyone but my mom, sisters, and 2 of my very close friends. They have said something about hoping for pink, I just tell them I'm pretty sure it's another boy, so don't get their hopes up. I'm not even picking out a girls name!

 

[30mummyof1]

Sorry you're struggling pink. Hugs over comments, i only have 2 and people say oh i can see you with all boys.. Like a 5 aside football team. Grr makes me mad!

 

[cckarting]

I'm not holding out much hope of a dd. I have 2brothers and 2 sisters and out of our kids between the 5 of us there are 11 boys and 2 girls!