The new Gender Specific Hopefuls thread (2014)

Discussion in 'Gender Disappointment' started by motherofboys, Jun 5, 2014.

  1. cckarting

    cckarting Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Aug 2, 2011
    Messages:
    3,896
    Likes Received:
    0
    So sorry Katherine :hugs: I can only tell you from experience that it will get better. Once i held ds 3 in my arms it was an instant bond between us and loved him soo much I didn't even care he wasn't a girl, because he was my perfect little boy. My sons loved him soo much and are his best friends. Just watching ds2 be so protective and loving to him melts my heart. I have a feeling this baby is a boy also and I know that all three boys will love him so much that again it won't matter. I hope thats the way it happens for you and are just soo in love with how much your boys love each other it doesn't matter he wasn't your little girl.
     
  2. motherofboys

    motherofboys Mum of 5 boys

    Joined:
    Apr 10, 2012
    Messages:
    11,648
    Likes Received:
    618
    Oh Hun, hugs. You have to give yourself time to adjust. You had this dream in your mind and heart and have just been told it won't happen. Try to separate your feelings, you are not sad for what will be, and for your healthy boy, but sad for what won't be, and that little girl.
    I knew by the time I got to my scan that is be told boy for a 4th time, I was resigned to my fate. And it took a few days to really sink in and I did cry.
     
  3. katherinegrey

    katherinegrey Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jun 7, 2011
    Messages:
    6,928
    Likes Received:
    0
    Thank you all so much, I know I will love this baby as much as I love my son, regardless of gender, but it's just hard right now.

    I also seem to have gone straight into denial :dohh: As cord was between baby's legs, I keep wondering if she could have got it wrong. Clutching at straws I know, if she says she saw a willy, I'm sure she did. I hate myself for even hoping she was wrong. I wish I'd just accept it and move on. I know when I get to my 20 week scan they're just going to confirm it's a boy and I'm worried I'll get upset all over again.

    Why can't I just be happy for the blessing I've been given?? :(
     
  4. Mafi419

    Mafi419 Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Feb 8, 2014
    Messages:
    331
    Likes Received:
    0
    So sorry Katherine...how far long are you?

    There's nothing wrong with feeling blue about it, but I know what you mean. I'm also feeling guilty about not wanting a little boy (and probably be carrying one).
     
  5. katherinegrey

    katherinegrey Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jun 7, 2011
    Messages:
    6,928
    Likes Received:
    0
    I'm 16 weeks today, so at least I have plenty of time to come around and get used to it.
     
  6. 30mummyof1

    30mummyof1 Mummy of 3

    Joined:
    Dec 20, 2010
    Messages:
    14,166
    Likes Received:
    508
    so sorry you didn't hear girl katherine, you will love your new little boy and like others have said watching brothers play together is so sweet, melts my heart. :hugs:
     
  7. Platinumvague

    Platinumvague Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Sep 10, 2011
    Messages:
    1,202
    Likes Received:
    0
  8. Eleanor ace

    Eleanor ace Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Aug 29, 2010
    Messages:
    15,170
    Likes Received:
    29
    Big :hugs: Katherine.
     
  9. motherofboys

    motherofboys Mum of 5 boys

    Joined:
    Apr 10, 2012
    Messages:
    11,648
    Likes Received:
    618
    Big Katherine, I still felt a little hope that it would be wrong when I went for my 20 week scan. And I have seen it happen.

    There are so many other factors that come into play that it's hard to get a clear idea of how likely it is to get a different gender at any point. You just don't know if the people in those stats did anything differently, not necessarily to sway but something's life steps in and changes your situation and you don't even realise.
     
  10. cckarting

    cckarting Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Aug 2, 2011
    Messages:
    3,896
    Likes Received:
    0
    Platinum I must have read it wrong I thought it said the more girls you get the higher chance for a boy?
     
  11. Platinumvague

    Platinumvague Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Sep 10, 2011
    Messages:
    1,202
    Likes Received:
    0
    Idk.It seems conflicting.I thought I read both on the same page.
     
  12. karlilay

    karlilay Mum of 2 :)

    Joined:
    Feb 4, 2011
    Messages:
    6,862
    Likes Received:
    0
    Hi.... I'm back :) Ish. I used to float around this section, but went off TTC for a while. Now I'm unsure of weather to TTC or not but I'm so so broody.


    While I LOVE my boy, my goodness, I suffered really badly with Gender Disappointment when i found out he was a boy. I really desperately want another girl. I wouldn't be distraught if I had another boy, I am not going into the great unknown this time, but Itwould just complete our family to have Another little girly.
     
  13. katherinegrey

    katherinegrey Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Jun 7, 2011
    Messages:
    6,928
    Likes Received:
    0
    I'm really not coping very well today to be honest. I just want to cry. I'm trying to be happy, but I can't help the fact I'm not. I'm heartbroken. I know how selfish that sounds. It's not even that I worry I won't love this baby, I know I'll adore him, but I genuinely feel I'm grieving for the child I'm not having, and never will be having.
     
  14. Platinumvague

    Platinumvague Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Sep 10, 2011
    Messages:
    1,202
    Likes Received:
    0
    We were a little disapointed when our second dd was born.I had to keep reminding myself that it could be a lot worse.She is perfect and healthy.I did feel like I was being selfish too.Now that she is here the disapointment has gone away.Its tough but you get through it and once you are over it you feel silly for ever feeling that way :flower:
     
  15. DolceBella

    DolceBella Mum of 2 Gingers!!

    Joined:
    Sep 8, 2008
    Messages:
    5,306
    Likes Received:
    0
    I'd like to add my name to the list if I can. I'm 11 weeks PG, with a scan coming up in 9 days. Might be too early to see gender though. I have two DD, which I'm thrilled about because I wanted my first to have a sister. This time, I'm really hoping for a boy. DH would love it too!
     
  16. cckarting

    cckarting Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Aug 2, 2011
    Messages:
    3,896
    Likes Received:
    0
    Welcome dolce!
     
  17. Platinumvague

    Platinumvague Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Sep 10, 2011
    Messages:
    1,202
    Likes Received:
    0
    Yay someone else wanting a boy :haha:
     
  18. DolceBella

    DolceBella Mum of 2 Gingers!!

    Joined:
    Sep 8, 2008
    Messages:
    5,306
    Likes Received:
    0
    Yes, I think it's high time for a boy in this house. Although, I have no idea what to do with that penis thing! I can barely navigate DHs!:haha:
     
  19. Platinumvague

    Platinumvague Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Sep 10, 2011
    Messages:
    1,202
    Likes Received:
    0
    Haha,we know for sure if we ever have a boy he will not be circumsised.Im hoping the blue socks I put under the mattress gave off some boy vibes.
     
  20. DolceBella

    DolceBella Mum of 2 Gingers!!

    Joined:
    Sep 8, 2008
    Messages:
    5,306
    Likes Received:
    0
    Fingers crossed for you!
     

Share This Page

  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.
    Dismiss Notice