Thanks girls xx I do have a bit of a dilemma and don't know if any of you would mind giving me some advice...
So...while I have always desperately wanted to have a daughter someday (hence my GD when I had just one child - a son...), my older sister has got three sons - 10, 13 and 15. And as you can imagine, has had GD (I'm not sure if with the first one, but definitely 2 and 3). I think the extent of my GD stemmed from the reality of seeing that she had only boys, and cemented that I may only have boys...and when I had my first boy, my silly logic meant that I would only continue to have boys as well and never the daughter I had dreamed of.
Following the birth of our daughter, I haven't heard a single word from my sister. I immediately wondered if she was feeling down and jealous about the fact that I have a girl and she doesn't, but thought I would give her the benefit of the doubt - maybe she had been busy
Skip forward a few days and I see that she is interacting with mutual friends of ours on Facebook - obviously by this point I have announced that I have had the baby on my page, and that confirmed that she purposely had not said anything to me about the baby.
We are both very close with my mum, and I knew that mum would have spoken to her by this point so I asked my mum. Mum confirmed and said she has been very upset about it
I do sympathise, as much as I can anyway without having multiple children of the same sex - I just know with confidence that if I had had a boy for my second and never a girl that I would have been absolutely thrilled to have had a niece who I could buy pink for and dote on. I used to get jealous of friends, and even strangers, but a niece for me would have been great because it would be as close to a daughter as I'd get without actually having one.
Mum told me that my sister had confided in her that if her eldest son had been a girl she wouldn't have had any more children
That made me cry and showed me the extent of her desire for a girl...I have always wanted more than one child, so would always have had more after my son.
I feel such a mixture of emotions about it - it's now a week and still no word from her. I don't know if I should contact her, and if I do what I would say...
What do you reckon girls? How would you feel/react in the same situation as my sister or as myself?
And do you have any tips - I don't want to accidentally make her feel worse by anything I post on Facebook etc. Have refrained from using cutesy nicknames like "Princess" or anything. I don't want to rub salt in the wound...I am starting to feel awkward about the fact that she still hasn't said a word to me, though, admittedly.
xx