Ttc #1 Positive thinking buddies, sticking together. (13 BFPs, 2 angels)

[NurseGinger]

yay!!!!! congrats!!

 

[Tink_]

Congratulations Pearly, that's awesome news! Wishing you a happy & healthy 9 months xxx

 

[Pearly86]

Thankyou so so much guys!! wish to see all of u in the BFP zone!!

 

[Mrs.TTC]

Yay Pearly!!!!! Congrats!! In so glad the progesterone worked! I'm going to make sure my doctor has checked mine. We've done lots of bloodwork, so I'm not sure what exactly has been done. Im so glad it was a simple fix for you two! Wishing you a very happy and healthy pregnancy

 

[Pearly86]

Thank u so so much dear and many many thanks to Starluck as for her roj the same thing was the reason and so happy I followed her as we both had lpd

Now guys really if u find any thing wrong in ir luteal phase her urself checked and do take progestrone or any hormone stuff AFter consulting doc only a simple fix can actually avoid long delays wishing I guys all the v best here and anytime anyone need to knw anything m here always thanks guys luv u all

 

[Tink_]

How is everyone doing?

I got a BFP last weekend, originally thought they were evaps then got a clear one and blood test was done Monday but I'd had some spotting on Sunday and it's very obvious now I'm miscarrying.

Feel so sad. I saw my GP today, she said to try and take comfort from the fact we did manage to conceive and after 19 months and although I see her point, it feels very difficult right now to feel comforted.

x

 

[laura2lyn4]

OMG Tink my heart is in pain for you right now I am so sorry that happened.. You will get your rainbow baby soon I just know it! Sending positive thoughts your way

 

[FutureBabyG]

Sorry to hear tink. i hope you find comfort soon in knowing you can get pregnant. Good luck to you.

 

[jumpingo]

oh tink, i am so sad to hear...it sucks. i am reeling right now too. some days are better than others. no judgement here if you want to scream and yell or just sit and cry all day. be kind to yourself and and know you are not alone.

 

[hanrh]

Oh tink and jumpingo I'm so sorry! There is nothing anyone can say to make this feel any better but if you ever want to talk please pm me. I've found the only way I'm getting through this is through talking to like minded women as I feel no one else understands.
My heart truly goes out to you both. xxx

 

[Tink_]

Thank you very much everyone for all your kind words, it really means so much to me.

Jumpingo, I'm so sorry to hear about your angel baby. I hadn't been around for a while so I'm very sorry for missing that. Sending you lots of gentle hugs. Please be gentle with yourself.

xxx

 

[Michellebelle]

Tink, so sorry to hear about this. I hope you, hanrh, and jumpingo all get your rainbow babies soon! Hugs And good thoughts to all of you.

 

[hanrh]

Thank you michellebelle. It makes me so sad to think other ladies are feeling the same pain as I am as it's just so awful.
I have been to a counselling session this week as have not been coping well. I'm hoping As I progress with the sessions i can give you all some positive feedback regarding the results.

Tink and jumpingo - how have your doctors been? Have they been supportive or given you answers to all of your questions? I really hope so!

Thinking of you both xxx

 

[Tink_]

Oh Hanrh, I'm also so sorry to hear about your loss too. *Gentle hugs*

Well done on seeking out the counselling; I think that's a really brave thing to do and to admit that things are not going very well right now. I hope you will find it helpful lovely.

My GP was a bit dismissive because it was such early days and I think for her she viewed it as a positive that I could conceive but I don't feel she was trying to be mean, just maybe not the right time to share that kind of thinking pattern.

x

 

[jumpingo]

Tink and jumpingo - how have your doctors been? Have they been supportive or given you answers to all of your questions? I really hope so!

Thinking of you both xxx

it's been hit and miss. the OB department here on base has be so incredibly disappointing and unhelpful since even before i got pregnant, so they came through as expected with their attempt at asking how i was doing while also being very medical/factual about scheduling a follow-up to "see if everything has resolved itself" and when i asked what exactly does that entail, she just repeated herself. all i could think was, yeah b*tch, you said that already, i'm asking you WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?! ugh. not looking forward to THAT appointment. they were pretty unwilling to see me for an early scan even though the private scan off base indicated that we should have a followup in a week. my husband had to go in and pretty much insist that they saw me. so, now that i indeed did miscarry, it's like a big huge "i told you so" to them. just so ridiculous. i'm not happy with the care at OB, so it sucks that i don't really have a choice of health care. since we're overseas, it's the military hospital for free, or pay a TON of money to go off base.

but! the nurse practitioner who saw me in Urgent Care when i started bleeding was wonderful. she gave me her cell phone number and said to text if we needed ANYTHING. the next day, when i miscarried for sure, i texted her and she was really helpful and nice. she told me then that she had a miscarriage before her son, too. i think it is easier to be supportive to patients going through something you've also experienced. i mean, anything in life is like that, though, you know?

i'm not sure counseling would do much for me just yet because i'm sure i would just go in and cry for the hour and then be like, "well, thanks for letting me cry in front of someone and feel worse about myself. i could do that at home and be much more comfortable and way less ashamed." but i think there might be a time when sifting through all my thoughts out loud might be helpful. it takes a strong person to know they need help and ASK for it. so, good on you hanrh. i hope it helps! right now, i just need something to sleep. i am thinking about going to see my primary care doc and see what she says. again, it's 100% covered by insurance, so doesn't hurt to ask right??

 

[hanrh]

Tink - in so sorry your gp hasn't been helpful. I also found my gp not at all helpful when ttc and afterward. Very cold and factual which isn't what I needed. The nurses at the hospital were amazing tho and kept me going through such an awful time. I hope you have lots of support from friends and family?!

Jumpingo - again in sorry you havent felt supported by medical professionals on your base. I'm glad your nurse has been supportive though. I agree, it's so hard for people to understand unless they have experienced something similar and even then everyone's experience is so personal! I think you should take any help offered in terms of sleeping. Nighttime is definitely difficult. I find myself waking up with flash backs!

A few things that have helped me, which may or may not be useful for you both ... I bought a beautiful ring after we lost our little boy. It has a small engraver forget me not flower on it and I wear it every day. It helps me feel close to him and feel like he isn't forgotten. I also hold onto it when I'm feeling sad or angry - might seem silly but it's helped

I've also bought a journal which I write in every so often when I'm feeling down. I address it to my baby, which helps me share my current feelings or experiences with him. Again might seem silly but it's working for me.

Hugs to you all xxx

 

[hanrh]

Oh and tink - sorry if this is insensitive and the wrong time to ask, but did you say you had been ttc for 19 months? Surely your gp should be helping out by now?! They are just so useless sometimes! Hugs xx

 

[Tink_]

It's not insensitive Hanrh Yep I had my coil out 19 months ago now and started trying right away.
I had been pregnant in the past but it resulted in miscarriage, which is partly which I'm so worried now because I thought before it was because of the abusive situation I was in (it was very messed up).

We are in the process of seeing a fertility specialist, well I had one appointment with him where he confirmed I am ovulating but his answer was basically to lose a bit of weight (along with a joke about me being a fatty...) and that everything looked good on my laparoscopy in 2012 which didn't give me much comfort because that's nearly 3 years ago now since a lot has happened since then!

I'm seeing the gynae/fertility Doctor again in the new year and I am hoping that he will refer me to another clinic as my hospital doesn't really deal with fertility, it's just like a gateway thing because I live in a small area.

 

[Loobs]

Sorry ladies, I've been missing again, been super busy which is a great distraction during the TWW.

So sorry to hear of your loss Tink I hope you get your answers soon.

How are you Hanrh? I've kinda lost where everyone is at the moment but can see on your chart that you're 11DPO.

Jump - I'm glad you got some support from the nurse at Urgent Care. As a nurse myself, I definitely find it easier to help patients if I have some personal experience of it.

AFM, I'm 7DPO today. Had sore boobs since 1DPO which is unusual for me. I was really irritable and cranky yesterday, got emotional at times. This usually happens a bit closer to AF but not as bad as yesterday. Now that I'm not so busy, this TWW is driving me insane!

x

 

[hanrh]

Tink I'm so sorry to hear about your past relationship. That is so insensitive of the doc you saw to say about your weight! It makes me angry to think they are using that as an excuse! I hope a new hospital which maybe specialises in fertilty will be more helpful. Has you oh had any testing?

Hi loobs. All your symptoms sounds great. Your chart also looks really good. I have my fx for a Xmas bfp for you!!! We need some good news around here!!!

Ff does show me as 11dpo but I'm not sure of I actually oed as haven't had an af after my dandc yet. I have. I sign of af and I am wishing for it to hurry up so that I can start ttc again!!! It has been 6 weeks now and I feel I'm in limbo.